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Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 11:40pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Daboomb: You no lie my brother chai! Good ol days when dignity mattered phew! |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 11:41pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
curvilicious: My wife, my love is the "real deal". She treats me well, takes very good care of our homes, respects me like a king (massage my male ego wella-wella ![]() What more can l ask for, that l wont 'reciprocate the feeling'? ![]() ![]() If a woman treats you like that, tell me, would you not go to the end of the world for her, even if she did not ask you to? Do-me, l do-you, God nor vex; Marriage is all about Respect, Responsibility and Reciprocity. Love would naturally follow, if you have those 3R's 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Befii: 11:42pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Are you not looking attractive any longer, cause the cost of makeup is very high nowadays? Or you don't ride well on bed any longer? Y It either any of the above reasons. For the fact that you've married him already, I would advise you seek God's intervention. Am sorry for the bitter experience. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 11:42pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
400billionman: Ok sir |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 11:44pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Issorite keep feeding your husband 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by byemx06(m): 11:44pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
stanliwise:hmmmm, make I know judge ooooo thanks bro 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 11:45pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88: I really dont need to! Ofcourse, you dont know what you are mssing because you have "No Clue" how it is suppose to be, in the first place! ![]() ![]() It is called BLISSFUL IGNORANCE. ![]() ![]() ![]() Please keep enjoying what you have. ![]() ![]() BTW: Someone postulated that "What do you expect, Mothers who have no proper home training for the purpose of motherhood, cannot be expected to produce children who become wives that have Home training and can impact such into their own daughters as well". Its a "vicious cycle" and the result is what we are witnessing in todays marriage. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by coputa(m): 11:46pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Daboomb:You've just written a wonderful piece,but laced with bumps with mines. A man might have a fantastic paying job/business and out of sheer ignorance or inexperience advice the wife to stay at home and take good care of the children,without any plan for support,if something should happens to the man or his business.. This action has brought down and tore most marriages to shreds. I know big time entrepreneurs who still run totheir wife(hardworking housewife) for financial support.One of them told ne that his wife is his last Banker. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Eze2000(m): 11:46pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
favouredAda: Fortunately, I have seen yore exact problem before. The problem is your looks. simply put, you now behave as mama Bolade instead of the fine babe he courted and married. I bet you can't say I,m wrong. Lesson number 1 .... a man is turned on or off by what he see! NEVER FORHET THAT! |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Originalsly: 11:47pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Hmmm......husband doesn't gist with you..... he never took you out since married..... you are in your early thirties...but married for 2 years. I strongly believe this man was trapped into marriage..... there is nothing you wrote that even hint that the man was ever interested in you being his friend let alone his wife. If you let us know about how this marriage came to be...maybe we can advise you better. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by jaxxy(m): 11:48pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Caprigal: Nobody is exactly blaming the woman actually. They are just asking her to look back at the possible root of the problem cos a man won't act dat way normally unless he either never loved his wife or smtn went wrong along the way or he just a demon... We need to ask questions b4 lashing out on the man. Same Thing wud apply if a woman started misbehaving for no reason at home. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Nobody: 11:49pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Lady let me tell you something. 1.Change the way you dress, start dressing like a 'single', not loose dressing ooo, but dress as though you're still a young lady, the kind of beautiful lady he would definitely have fallen in love with in the first place.....There's a VERY VERY HIGH RISK you've become physically unattractive to Him....... You said He tells you to walk in front, He's getting ashamed of being seen with you. 2. Don't act like you're vulnerable near Him,act composed AS THOUGH YOU DONT RECOGNIZE HIS PRESENCE BUT THOUGH RESPECT HIM when He addresses you. CONGRATS YOU GOT YOUR HUBBY BACK ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Adefemiaderoju1: 11:50pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
I'm confuse and don't know what to say regarding this, find some elder to speak to him there's obviously something in his mind that's making him to act in that manner |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Nobody: 11:50pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Caprigal: Who gave you the authority to call another person's husband heartless? Do you think that because the op shares her experience, she now wants us to disrespect her husband? 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Lestyn99(m): 11:50pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
But why do you have to come here and share whatever issues you have in your marriage? I pity this generation. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by coputa(m): 11:52pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88:That's great. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by sleek82(m): 11:54pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Caprigal:this response is one of the reasons i detest people bringing family matters to nairaland.....because people just give advices without applying logic to it and would just generalise! Because this lady is the first to run here for advice doesn't NECESSARILY make her innocent. Why not let her answer the obvious questions first or let's hear from the husband before we jump into conclusions? In the absence of the other side of the story, why not ask this lady what really happened? Did the husband just wake up to this attitude or there has been some flashes of such attitudes before wedding but she chose to go on thinking she would change him?....what if she doesn't bring anything to the table but still nags at the little the man brings? What if this man was forced to marry her by being pregnant for him or something similar? There are a billion and one questions we can ask her before passing blames or jumping into conclusions abeg! 2 years is just too early to start having such problems in a home! Divorce might not be the problem to this lady's problem....she might be the solution to her own problems!!! I am not in any way supporting this man but sometimes the solutions to our problems lie within us but we still run outside looking for help! I have tried to put myself in this man's shoes and i can't think of a reason i won't be proud of the woman i married....well that's me sha!! 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Mariangeles(f): 11:56pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
peacettw:We are twin souls... |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:56pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
curvilicious:Your mentality is truly sickening,your problem is just pride or ego because you are a man you feel you can't be taken care of.I am not saying men should be lazy or not provide some men may loose their job and the responsibility may fall on the woman and they didn't plan for that.There is nothing wrong if a woman is the breadwinner some marriages are like this and they are still going strong and don't try and use gender here of man this man that.And also I am not marrying my husband because I expect him to care for me financially I can do that myself.Maybe that is your line of thought but it is definitely not mine or the thoughts of other people.And with the economic situation in this country two heads are always better than one.And believe me in this century world your line of thought is really rare,you provide if you are capable and willing to and not because you are a man.To you that kind of person is not a man fine but if he has what I want in a husband and is not financially strong to me he is a man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Mariangeles(f): 11:59pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
selfmade22:Someone is irritated, you're saying "tell your hubby you love him"... What do you people take Women for? 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by emmyluizzz: 12:00am On Dec 26, 2017 |
curvilicious:e be like say u no dey ready to drink Abeg other customers dey wait for me
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Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Macgreat(m): 12:00am On Dec 26, 2017 |
curvilicious: Read that verse again in context it was not referring to men. God created a help mate not a parasite. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Diademk07: 12:02am On Dec 26, 2017 |
Caprigal: Lol. It's not about being financially independent. That's how Ibo generally behaves. Funny enough, he could be the reason the wife never had a job. Some Ibo men, especially those with village mentality always love treating their wives as second class citizens while treating their bro and their wives far better than their wives. They believe in suppressing and oppressing the wife in order to gain some form of control over her. Can you imagine the one at our house was expecting his wife to wash his younger brother's cloth and almost beat her when she refused until we intervened? There was even a time one of his brothers and his wife came to the apartment to beat the wife while the husband was on the sideline supporting them. He's often more at home with his brother's wife than his own wife! Funny enough his wife sound more like a literate than himself, his bro and their wives. I don't even know why she married him in the first place and the said man never allowed her to seek for any occupation. Archaic folks! |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 12:02am On Dec 26, 2017 |
emmyluizzz: Ok take moni
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Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Macgreat(m): 12:05am On Dec 26, 2017 |
Daboomb: If your grand Parents lived in the Village and never went to the farm then your know something was terribly wrong with her. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by sleek82(m): 12:06am On Dec 26, 2017 |
peacettw:this definitely sounds like a matured mind! Sometimes there is no problem anywhere, we create those problems ourselves and we still run around looking for solutions that lie within us already! |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Macgreat(m): 12:07am On Dec 26, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88: My brother , time has not changed. They are making it look like that. Most grand mother joined their husbands in the farm, harvest and keep the family. How is that different from a woman having a good job? 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 12:09am On Dec 26, 2017 |
Balkan: Jayzus Christ! How do things get to this stage and nobody can take corrective action? I can imagine what you are going through...l mean, even l, a ,man, cannot fart in front to my wife or even my children, it will be so embarrassing but we all fart and know to excuse yourself to some place where you can do it discreetly! Common courtesy demands that you don tleave the En Suit Toilet door open and allow the smell of defecation to return back into the bedroom! Infact, you must open the windows and use deodorant immediately any of use use our common En Suit bath/toilet, so as to keep it clean for your spouse! And I will find it very disrespectful if even my eldest son uses my Jug to drink! Everyone in the house will tell you , "That is Dad's Jug, drop it down". No stories We all have our plates and personal things that we all respect and wont use that of others.... and there are more than enough of such stuffs anyway so, there isno need to use what others are "used to suing". It is an unpsoken rule that we all observe. I cant imagine my wife using my own plate to serve a visitor. The kind "red eye" l will throw in her direction sef, she will know that a line has been crossed. As to the walking unclad within the house, if it is just two of you in that house and there is "extreme privacy" ....l wouldn't mind if l were you but then, when you dislike a woman to the point two of youare right now, the things that are supposed to trip you, will be so annoying to you! She is just not appealing to you anymore. When we really dont have anything to do on a weekend, me and my wife can be inside our "honeymoon space" (as we call our Master bedroom) from the previous night till 4pm in the evening! naked all through! Sleep, sex, wakeup, drink sole liquids, sleep, sex, talk, e.t.c, just the two of us (children know not to knock more than once, if not opened, then they use the intercom to say whatever they want and then bleep-off). Husband and Wife must have their private and quiet times always, to BOND further. But when "love dont live hear-anymore, it is another story! If your wife asks for what SHE KNOWS both of you cant afford, then tell her to increase her work and income so she can afford it herself. You should not steal just to satisfy the avarice of your spouse or kill yourself while trying to. That is not love. Love shhould be understanding and protective of the other spouse and not push them too hard. As itis now, what do oyu think can be done to re-awaken this love that died or did you not love her at some times in the past? Does she do all these things back then? marriage is a very serious matter than can make or mar both of you so it has to be handled with some determination and effort. For eample, when you talk to her about farting in your presence, what is her response? Is it that she finds nothing wrong in that behaviour (probably due to fualty upbringing, some homes dont see it as anything wrong) Have you tried to educate her on the need for respecting others, even your spouse, to keep certain things private and not cause odiferous odour to return back into the Master Bedroom? Whats her reaction? Can she change? can other women talk to her? What about her parents, when things are really getting out of hand, can they be of help or is it a case of "bad in-laws worse than a bad wife""? I dont like couples to break over matters that can be resolved, it really brings me down. Both of you are at an age when you should begin to really enjoy each others company 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by 400billionman: 12:10am On Dec 26, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88: She is a lady.. A hungry lazy one. She is begging on the thread already. Freebuzz girls. Their stock in trade is to insult men forgetting that MONEY HAS NO GENDER. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Mariangeles(f): 12:11am On Dec 26, 2017 |
JustCryptos:How will learning a new language help?...oh, or maybe she should learn Spanish so when she's angry with him, she can call him names like "perro" and feel therapeutic, maybe that will help her sanity...LOL 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 12:11am On Dec 26, 2017 |
Daboomb:That is your problem sir and I am sincerely grateful to God that I don't have problems like this one.So in other words it is only the mother that trains the children no wonder a lot of children are closer to their mothers.Well as for me my parents taught me everything I know and I am very close to my dad it is not blissful ignorance.My mom is a strong confident and determined woman who not only has a job but owns a business as well.Which one is supposed to be in the "first place" man made laws are always subject to change.Which one be vicious cycle you always seem to look at the negative and I do not go with that line of mothers training daughters alone I believe it is parents training children.Me I have a lot of clues,I don't need to agree with you to prove that I have clues. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 12:12am On Dec 26, 2017 |
Macgreat: A help mete not a full time provider ![]() |
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