I have heard so many men say, " I can't touch a woman!". I have also heard women say, " I can't marry a wife beater o, only irresponsible men beat their wives"

Now, this post is not meant to change your opinion for or against beating a lady but let's face the reality.

What would you do if you were in the shoes of "wife beaters"? ". What if you have explored all the options that the only one left is to give her a smack on her back to bring her back to her senses?.

I will paint a scenario from life experience.

1. You come home from work, hoping to receive a beautiful hug from your beautiful wife but was disappointed as she wasn't in sight. You grab your suitcase and wander upstairs in search of her. You swing the door open and you discover your gate keeper fulfilling your marital responsibility. You can hear her moan and see her bite her lips in sweetness of the rythm.

2. You are in a slight argument with your wife. She accuses you of infidelity and demands she goes through your call logs. Before you could say jack, she grabs the phone (iphone 8 ) from you and smashes it into pieces.

3. She gives you a hot slap during a heated argument. She grabs your shirt, tears it into pieces.

4. You are late for work and everyone knows how strict your boss is. Your wife hides your shoes and the car keys and demands you give her money to pay for her brother's tuition before she can release the items to you.

What will you do? Call mother Inlaw for an emergency meeting? Call the police? Or wait till she makes good of her promise of smashing your windscreen?

I will stop here

I painted a picture of a bad wife. Will you beat a bad wife?

Lalasticlala, seun, mynd44 ishilov

It is comments like this that is already swelling their heads out of proportion, hence several cases of ladies stabbing and molesting their husbands/bfs to death.

Apart from my mum, I haven't seen a lady that will raise her hands on me and expect me to clap for her in the name of a "lady".

Non has ever attempted and I don't think it will ever happen.

Even nairaland here, a lady will quote and insult you, when you respond, goats will start calling you a bully, wtf.

Me don't care what the world thinks, if she jabo....i play the samba

Sue her for assault, vandalism or anything else. And then divorce her ass.

Correct me if I'm wrong, I read somewhere that 8 in every ten women get cheated on in marriage. Only 3 file for divorce. 4 try to become a better woman or confront the side piece. And 1 reacts violently to the man (Physically by hitting him or emotionally by cheating on him back). But the opposite is the case for the man.
3 in ten men get cheated on. And 7 out of ten times, they react violently against the woman.
Why?

How many times have insecurity and jealous led men to the offices of their wives to confront their bosses on suspected affairs? How many times have guys denied women of very big contract because of imaginary affairs? How many men have broken more expensive phones because men are all do and women over think? Sue for damages and make her pay for it..
Will hitting her bring back your phone?

Number three doesn't even count..
It is stupid when you think a man is allowed to beat his wife until she's unconscious and she's expected to file for a divorce but when reverse is the case he should show her who is 'boss' if she hit you file for assault. Let her cool in jail. Don't take law into your hands. It is abuse if she does that.

Why will you have an argument with your wife until that extent? If your differences Is irreconcilable and then you see being with her as a threat to your health or well being, file for a freaking divorce. So if you beat her she will not nag you tomorrow? Go and ask wife beaters.

You can never be happy with a woman you're beating. I will repeat, there is no excuse for hitting a woman except in defence of life. And if the threat can be neutralized without violence and you result to that, she can sue your stupid ass for that.

Abuse is wrong. Either on your spouse, your kid, your help, your neighbor or anyone.

Well in as much as its not good to hit any woman but some of them still need some slap once in a while to restore their brain to factory settings.

Dont quote me am not feeling fine

Senseless posts

If any woman misbehave like that, na better beating go follow, next na sendforth go follow.

Separation and divorce exist for a reason. No matter how bad a woman is I implore guys to resist the urge to batter her. Women can be annoying as hell but keep your head and leave the environment when things are getting out of control.

If you hit her and she dies nobody will ask what she did. You're already a murderer. For your own safety, do not lay a finger on anybody. Divorce is always better. Throw the bîtch out of your home if you have to, but no hitting.

Belafonte:
Separation and divorce exist for a reason. No matter how bad a woman is I implore guys to resist the urge to batter her. Women can be annoying as hell but keep your head and leave the environment when things are getting out of control.

If you hit her and she dies nobody will ask what she did. You're already a murderer. For your own safety, do not lay a finger on anybody. Divorce is always better. Throw the bîtch out of your home if you have to, but no hitting.

Following your argument, nobody on this earth should be beaten because it may result to death.

I am yet to see a cogent reason why women should not be beaten.

This is a very complex issue. In reality, violence on anyone is wrong- its not a gender thing. To every general rule, there is at least one exception, and this is no different. Let's not forget that the Female gender is no longer considered as the 'weaker' sex. Feminism and gender equality have told us that women and men are equal and should be treated equally- that has its consequences because in reality, women are more prone to resort to violence in the event of an altercation. All husbands and boyfriends have taken hits and slaps now and then, or experience some heavy dose of passive-aggressiveness. In such a situation, the truth is that its a matter of discretion and better judgment. If you choose not to hit back, you will need to protect yourself, and to teach the aggressor not to repeat the act... that's where the fine line is.

Addendum:
Women in societies with strong Patriarchy cultures often resort to passive-aggressive ways to express their anger. They use verbal abuse coupled with emotional denial and derogation to cut men to size. Most men don't know how to respond to non-overt aggression and then some guys respond by physical aggression and it becomes an issue. We men need emotional maturity.

Angelawhite:


Following your argument, nobody on this earth should be beaten because it may result to death.

I am yet to see a cogent reason why women should not be beaten.

I'm finding it hard to believe you're a woman.

Angelawhite:


Following your argument, nobody on this earth should be beaten because it may result to death.

I am yet to see a cogent reason why women should not be beaten.

Well, death is quite the most extreme situation here but it is a possibility. How would someone control himself when beating the woman starts? Most first time wife beaters do so after a lot of anger and frustration has been stored up. Interestingly, the law proffers the solution of spanking her with a rod not bigger than the thumb. Thus, of course, begs the question of if the modern man woukd actually have a cane for a wife like he would a child.

In my experience, it's easier to just leave the situation and/or the relationship if one is pushed to being violent. You shouldn't be with someone who annoys you to the point where you constantly want to bash their skull in.

Angelawhite:


Following your argument, nobody on this earth should be beaten because it may result to death.

I am yet to see a cogent reason why women should not be beaten.

Dinachi is that you ?
Woman indeed

IamLaura:

I'm finding it hard to believe you're a woman.

I'm not saying they should be beaten. But if you tell me they should be exempted from physical aggression simply because they are women, then you're getting me to believe only women enjoy exclusive "untouchability"

Well An abuse is an abuse, whether its physical, Emotional or Verbal.
I can tell you categorically that a man verbally and emotionally abused by his woman or wife is just as hurtful as a wife physically abused by her husband.
Some ladies are hypocritical, y'all wouldnt want your husband to beat you, but the way you insult him is enough to make him consider suicide.

HYPOCRITES

@OP,

Please based on the above cited instance, kindly advice us where your own sister is culpable if you would suggest the iron fist on her

Waiting Patiently for your perfect answer

Then I will wake from the nightmare. . . I cannot marry such a woman cos I must have prayed about my marriage and she would have also shown me slight traces of such behaviours while dating and I would have abrubtly ended the relationship there. . . My home can't become a living hell o. . .

BUT

If I were to experience these; I'd probably smack the living daylights into her face in the heat of the moment or just go permanently quiet for days after the incidence. . . Afterwards, I'll pray for her but I hope I never meet such a lady in the first place. . .

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Op is a guy! Let's not mistake him for a female.

I wonder why a guy will end with a lady that exhibits all those attributes. He must have been so blind not to see the signs during courtship.

Nothing justifies a man beating his wife! If her attitudes become unbearable, file for divorce.

Any man that tries beating any of my sisters for whatever reason should be ready to face me o. Honestly, i will so beat him that even if he survives he must have a permanent scar to always remind him of his fucck up. I forewarned my two in-laws about that when they came to marry my sisters. No stories! If you are tired of the marriage, bring her back to us. Simple!

Jman06:
Op is a guy! Let's not mistake him for a female.

I wonder why a guy will end with a lady that exhibits all those attributes. He must have been so blind not to see the signs during courtship.

Nothing justifies a man beating his wife! If her attitudes become unbearable, file for divorce.

Any man that tries beating any of my sisters for whatever reason should be ready to face me o. Honestly, i will so beat him that even if he survives he must have a permanent scar to always remind him of his fucck up. I forewarned my two in-laws about that when they came to marry my sisters. No stories! If you are tired of the marriage, bring her back to us. Simple!

I wish u were my brother. Lol

I actually think the question is unnecessary. Why should it even be a subject of debate? Very funny...

Sugar97:


I wish u were my brother. Lol

I actually think the question is unnecessary. Why should it even be a subject of debate? Very funny...

I wish you were my sister that doesn't give her husband a reason to raise a fist on her

Angelawhite:


I wish you were my sister that doesn't give her husband a reason to raise a fist on her

Seriously? A wife is a life partner for crying out loud! Why should any man contemplate raising his fist on her? There are ways to deal with a spouse biko, beating should never be an option

Sugar97:


Seriously? A wife is a life partner for crying out loud! Why should any man contemplate raising his fist on her? There are ways to deal with a spouse biko, beating should never be an option

Some beatings are reflexive. It might be as a result of outburst of accumulated anger.

If you're saying women should not be beaten because they are wives, what happens to the woman who verbally and emotionally tortures her husband? What happens to the woman who physically abuses her husband? Are there sacred cows when it comes to physical confrontations? Are men not partners? So when these men who have been abused by their wives retaliate it becomes an abomination?

Feminists preach gender equality and they forget the true meaning of equality applies to both gender

Sugar97:


Seriously? A wife is a life partner for crying out loud! Why should any man contemplate raising his fist on her? There are ways to deal with a spouse biko, beating should never be an option

I love ur profile pic. Simply pretty

Angelawhite:


Some beatings are reflexive. It might be as a result of outburst of accumulated anger.

If you're saying women should not be beaten because they are wives, what happens to the woman who verbally and emotionally tortures her husband? What happens to the woman who physically abuses her husband? Are there sacred cows when it comes to physical confrontations? Are men not partners? So when these men who have been abused by their wives retaliate it becomes an abomination?

Baby, answers to all these are in my post...
There is no excuse for abuse. Don't delude yourself.

Angelawhite:


Some beatings are reflexive. It might be as a result of outburst of accumulated anger.

If you're saying women should not be beaten because they are wives, what happens to the woman who verbally and emotionally tortures her husband? What happens to the woman who physically abuses her husband? Are there sacred cows when it comes to physical confrontations? Are men not partners? So when these men who have been abused by their wives retaliate it becomes an abomination?

Feminists preach gender equality and they forget the true meaning of equality applies to both gender

Pls don't bring feminism into this. I haven't said anything remotely feminist in my previous comments. I deliberately used the word "spouse" so that it applies either way.

I am not encouraging or defending any group. Abuse, whether physical or emotional should never be contemplated by anyone to their spouse. That's all I'm saying

RadicallyBlunt:

I love ur profile pic. Simply pretty

Thanks

Your wife is not psychologically stable op.

Abusive people don't need a reason btw. Their demons do not rest before they see a bloody face.

Sugar97:


Thanks

You're welcome dear. Where in Lagos are you based?

Hmm

Nice topics but different solutions to me.

Guys reading this post should observe females folks response to the question,they always tend to defend evil bad attitudes that towards the males folks by women.

U hear some nonsense by under no conditions should a man beat his wife

Or

Women are a weeker sex so they shouldn't be abuse physically but support women that abused men verbally.

Or

When your woman provoke you in your house the best thing to do is to not abuse physically but leave your house and go and chill somewhere else. Please for how long should U becomes the errand man in your house why she become the Madam.

Or

When she insult U why don't U insult her back, common common are you a fool. How do U expect her\family\society\colleagues\your staff\junior etc including yourself to respect U.

Or

When she heat U first,U shouldn't heat her back......please why shouldn't l heat her back ( though use your head ohhhh ) or discipline her. Are you a Sissy, fool,program robot, U enjoyed been heat etc..


Men use your head and don't let people ( especially lazy females that don't respect themselves ).

My humble advice

RadicallyBlunt:

You're welcome dear. Where in Lagos are you based?

Errrrmm...can't say it here. lets not derail the thread

Sugar97:


Errrrmm...can't say it here. lets not derail the thread

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