I'm a serving Corp Member, usually I don't do relationship but I think it's the time of my life that I need to start one.

I met this lady at my PPA, she's also a Corp Member, she's jovial and fun to be with. She's nice too so I decided to go on a date with her, she had a wonderful time and same goes to me. I tried to kiss her on my first date with her she repelled but didn't try again shaa... we held hands, talked and smile together.

But after the date I asked her to be my girlfriend, she then told me that there is a guy but nothing is certain and she then said she will sleep on it.

She called me after the date to thank me, called me the second day too. This happened a week before Xmas, ever since then anytime I call, she won't pick, she only picks once a while. She don't reply my messages too on WhatsApp and anytime she even picks she always having a reason like she's sleeping, she had an hectic day.

please guys, do you think she's the type that will just waste my time or it's part of the chase game because I haven't done anything like this before?

Lol....
U never dated before.
Are u a virgin?
If u are(but l doubt),why not prayerfully think and plan for marriage rather than dating...
The guy below,give ur advice and walk away.lf l catch u...u will cry one corner cry for that idle word

DELETE HER!


Give yourself some value and you will never need a rule in relationship issues!

Don't listen to the guy above! He's one of those scarf tying spirikokos

Make marriage your aim, and you will end up scammed! He's obviously the type that ask village people to pick a wife for him

Marriage should never be a goal. It should be a consequence!

Ebios:
Lol....
U never dated before.
Are u a virgin?
If u are(but l doubt),why not prayerfully think of marriage than dating

Am not a virgin, I recently did that with a lady shaa, we are more of Friends With Benefits, I have ended it.

I wanted to date this lady so I can start something real, like maybe when I'm okay I'll marry her. Don't wanna date for fun, I think I have reached a stage I shouldn't be messing around but don't know if she want me to chase or she's just trying to be polite. I'm a novice in this relationship ish

Don't call her for like 5 days and two things happen. either she call and say you forgot her ( then know she is playing hard to get) or she didn't call . If the latter happens, bro move on

ikp120:
DELETE HER!


Give yourself some value and you will never need a rule in relationship issues!

Don't listen to the guy above! He's one of those scarf tying spirikokos

Kip quite dere......... awon Relationship adviser.

dollyjoy:
Kip quite dere......... awon Relationship adviser.

You see, she's in love with me already, but I don't have plans to marry her.

Don't worry Joy, I will think about your marriage proposal over a nice pussy tonight

ikp120:
DELETE HER!


Give yourself some value and you will never need a rule in relationship issues!

Don't listen to the guy above! He's one of those scarf tying spirikokos

Make marriage your aim, and you will end up scammed! He's obviously the type that ask village people to pick a wife for him

Marriage should never be a goal. It should be a consequence!

Thanks, I think I understand what you mean. Like probably she doesn't know what she wants, she needs approval from somewhere else.

ikp120:


You see, she's in love with me already, but I don't have plans to marry her.

Don't worry Joy, I will think about your marriage proposal over a nice pussy tonight

OK.

I think she is not getting what she expected from u, dats why she is drawing back.
call her, sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her. And if she continues, pls move on

Dzeimzb:
Don't call her for like 5 days and two things happen. either she call and say you forgot her ( then know she is playing hard to get) or she didn't call . If the latter happens, bro move on

Thanks a lot bro... I'll do this, I won't reach out to her on both Whatsapp and on calls. When we see next year at our PPA, if by then she didn't reach out to me. I'll move on as you said and act like nothing ever happened between us.

dollyjoy:
Kip quite dere......... awon Relationship adviser.

Woow, baby ur not bad o....
Can l.....

Op u c y e dey good 2 quick get experience. What u gatto do firstly is 2 quit contact with dat gal. If she calls, u can pick, but u dnt initiate contact again. In d future, never show neediness 2 any gal. Bro I wnt lie 2 u, it might take long 4 u 2 get a gal considering u r not experienced while most gals u r going affer r. N one thing dats sure is dat gals can sense inexperience n neediness 4rm miles, except u r skilled at hiding it. Just try 2 meet more gals n expand ur female contact list.

4reala:
I think she is not getting what she expected from u, dats why she is drawing back.
call her, sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her. And if she continues, pls move on

hmm... what are the things do you think she should be expecting? Hint me with an example!

IAmFreeman:
hmm... what are the things do you think she should be expecting? Hint me with an example!

I am not a woman. There a lots of things women look for in their desired mind, it takes discussion to find out

coolestofall:
Op u c y e dey good 2 quick get experience. What u gatto do firstly is 2 quit contact with dat gal. If she calls, u can pick, but u dnt initiate contact again. In d future, never show neediness 2 any gal. Bro I wnt lie 2 u, it might take long 4 u 2 get a gal considering u r not experienced while most gals u r going affer r. N one thing dats sure is dat gals can sense inexperience n neediness 4rm miles, except u r skilled at hiding it. Just try 2 meet more gals n expand ur female contact list.

You are very right, experienced I wished I had gained during my undergraduate years but in school I always form holiest then, it's now a big problem which I'm working on.

I think the reason she contacted me the second day was because she thought I was showing disinterest in her which makes her chase me but after then I have been acting needy, and calling her. I try not to but she might have perceived something like that from afar.

Work on how you present yourself for your next group date!

I don't dabble into emotion tied relationship with girls who can't offer beyond ecstasy.

4reala:
I am not a woman. There a lots of things women look for in their desired mind, it takes discussion to find out

If there will be any chance for another rapport, I'll try and make that discussion but I'm thinking of giving her space and not making any form of communication with her to see if she will initiates. if she doesn't I will move on but won't repeat the same mistake again in the future.

IAmFreeman:
You are very right, experienced I wished I had gained during my undergraduate years but in school I always form holiest then, it's now a big problem which I'm working on.

I think the reason she contacted me the second day was because she thought I was showing disinterest in her which makes her chase me but after then I have been acting needy, and calling her. I try not to but she might have perceived something like that from afar.

Just b oatient man, n put urself out there more. Ur chance will come.

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Work on how you present yourself for your next group date!

I don't dabble into emotion tied relationship with girls who can't offer beyond ecstasy.

Thanks, I'll work on that, I think the way one present oneself in the first few days after a date really matters a lot.

I probably did put emotions into it too early.

coolestofall:

Just b oatient man, n put urself out there more. Ur chance will come.

Amen, it will by God's grace. I'll put myself out there, thanks for the piece.

IAmFreeman:
If there will be any chance for another rapport, I'll try and make that discussion but I'm thinking of giving her space and not making any form of communication with her to see if she will initiates. if she doesn't I will move on but won't repeat the same mistake again in the future.

are u far from her? cos discussion will give u a clear mind to move on and not think about her again.

4reala:
are u far from her? cos discussion will give u a clear mind to move on and not think about her again.

We live in the same city and we see like 2-3 times in a week, we are in the same PPA but because of the new year/ Xmas break we haven't seen since after the date.

I was thinking if I see another lady I'm showing interest in, maybe it will fade or is it harder than I thought?

IAmFreeman:
I'm a serving Corp Member, usually I don't do relationship but I think it's the time of my life that I need to start one.

I met this lady at my PPA, she's also a Corp Member, she's jovial and fun to be with. She's nice too so I decided to go on a date with her, she had a wonderful time and same goes to me. I tried to kiss her on my first date with her she repelled but didn't try again shaa... we held hands, talked and smile together.

But after the date I asked her to be my girlfriend, she then told me that there is a guy but nothing is certain and she then said she will sleep on it.

She called me after the date to thank me, called me the second day too. This happened a week before Xmas, ever since then anytime I call, she won't pick, she only picks once a while. She don't reply my messages too on WhatsApp and anytime she even picks she always having a reason like she's sleeping, she had an hectic day.

please guys, do you think she's the type that will just waste my time or it's part of the chase game because I haven't done anything like this before?

She probably was with her main bf those times you called. She told you about him

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
She probably was with her main bf those times you called. She told you about him

It's better I do myself the favor and start moving on. But hope she won't hate me for not showing interest again when I get myself hooked with someone else. Because someone was like she might just be playing that hard to get games with me.

IAmFreeman:
...I wished I had gained during my undergraduate years but in school I always form holiest then, it's now a big problem,,,

Cheee!
So u are now regreting for being holy...?
Guy,l dont need a prophet to convince me that u av backslided.
Leave all the solutions offeref so far and take this...SINCERELY ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS,FAST TO GAIN BACK UR SPIRITUALITY AND GOD WILL GIVE U A GODLY WIFE.
U don't see a big river by ur side and ask for saliva to wash ur face,NEVER!

IAmFreeman:
Thanks, I'll work on that, I think the way one present oneself in the first few days after a date really matters a lot.

I probably did put emotions into it too early.

Learn to breath and try being a bit more stoic,it first broading then norrow your perseption toward what you truely need n not what you want,leave pety emotions for the weaker beings.

Ebios:

Cheee!
So u are now regreting for being holy...?
Guy,l dont need a prophet to convince me that u av backslided.
Leave all the solutions offeref so far and take this...SINCERELY ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS,FAST TO GAIN BACK UR SPIRITUALITY AND GOD WILL GIVE U A GODLY WIFE.
U don't see a big river by ur side and ask for saliva to wash ur face,NEVER!

Lol... I think I have lost my faith. I really need to rededicate my life to God before this year runs out and start over with a clean slate.

IAmFreeman:
We live in the same city and we see like 2-3 times in a week, we are in the same PPA but because of the new year/ Xmas break we haven't seen since after the date.

I was thinking if I see another lady I'm showing interest in, maybe it will fade or is it harder than I thought?

If u start wit someone else, and after the christmas break u now meet with her nko?

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Learn to breath and try being a bit more stoic,it first broading then norrow your perseption toward what you truely need n not what you want,leave pety emotions for the weaker beings.

Stoic is one of other strong virtues I really need to have. I'll add that to my year resolution for this coming year.

4reala:
If u start wit someone else, and after the christmas break u now meet with her nko?

That's why I want to be sure because once I get hooked with someone else romantically, I'll feel nothing for her again which might hurt her if she was only doing this to get more of my attention.

IAmFreeman:
Lol... I think I have lost my faith. I really need to rededicate my life to God before this year runs out and start over with a clean slate.

Guy,it is not a joking matter...End moment for this year is just tomorrow.Do it.The earlier the better.Who knows if it is because God desperately wants u back that is why He touched u to open this thread.
Pls,don't because of 5-minute pleasure ruin ur future/soul.May God be with u as u quickly go back to Him.Amen.