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Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 6:18am On Jan 01, 2018 |
Time2Smile: Happy New Year! Thank you for wrote to me. 1st, I really wanna loving each other and make good relationship. 2nd,I wanna know about truth. 3rd, I just wanna know about Nigeria and Nigerian culture. I think our relationship is not so bad. I just have discontent(dissatisfaction?) how he treat me. That's why if I can more understand him is we can get more good relationship. I don't know about his truth. I'm still trust him. But also doubting his lots of things. So if I can't see his truth on my eyes,I can't move to next step. I mean divorce or continue to marriage. About Nigeria and Nigerians, I just know all of things are from only my husband and only his side talk. That's why I was almost hate Nigerians b/4. And I said very bad(dirty?) words to him about Nigerians. (I am very very sorry for all of Nigerians.) I know that every country have good person and bad person. But I was so mad when I had quarrel with him then I remind what he treated me. So my feel like every Nigerian husband are have no responsibility and treat their wife like slave even Nigerian wife are can't say anything and just acting like a slave @ that time.(sorry!) In fact, I know that is not truth. Sorry I can't explain very well. I wanna say my feel like Nigerians are like my enemy when I had quarrel with him. Feel like every Nigerians are same like him @ that time. But I know that is not truth. My imagine about Nigerians are just him. I read and checked many things about Nigeria and Nigerians on website. Many things are different b/w my husband. I have no way to hear real Nigerians w/o him. And I didn't wanna misunderstanding him. But I found out his lie @ this time. I was so shocked. And so confusing now. I'm asking myself why he told a lie. I couldn't sleep well and couldn't eat well since when I found out it. But I have to keep smile and doing like cheerful front of my child,my mom,(my dad was past away when I was 4y/o.) whoever knows me. I still asking myself. And remind our past almost 15years. What is truth What is real Who is I fell in love. Maybe I don't wanna believe what my husband is liar and my husband is bad person. Maybe I don't wanna accept about I'm married with bad guy. Anyway, If learn about different culture, exchange language etc, not bad things for me. I like to do. My husband is Nigerian. So I just wanna know and learn his culture in this time. 1 Like |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Time2Smile(m): 6:42am On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull:So, you want to know the truth. How do you think you can know the truth.? You mentioned that you want to see the truth in your own eyes. He will not bring you to Nigeria and I don't think it is good for you to come to Nigeria for now. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 7:20am On Jan 01, 2018 |
Time2Smile: Find out truth is difficult. But better than not do anything. I know I'm doing like drown inside water. If he is married in Nigeria, that is his culture right? If that is truth,I really don't like it and so shock. I don't wanna share him with somebody. I wanna be his especially woman and I want him to love me. But I wanna hear reason from him. Is anybody can trust what is don't see own eyes and don't hear own ear from w/o that person? My husband and our marriage are not TV show. Not gossip on the magazine. I like to hear many peoples advice and I'm so much thankful for them. I will ask him my doubt when he'll be back behind their advice. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by nkwuocha: 7:51am On Jan 01, 2018 |
Dear peacefull, I'm sorry you have to go through this from a fellow tribes man.I'm Igbo, and naturally igbos take care of their wives. Of a truth, your husband is married to another woman probably with kids here in Nigeria. Since he is a Catholic, one of the marriages is void,the catholic CHURCH DO NOT support polygamy. I don't know if you were the first he married, if you aren't, the your own marriage is void. Do you know his real names?If you do you can start by posting it here, I'm sure other smart Nigerians may help to give you full background concerning him. I know you love him,but come on,I think you have been fooled long enough.My suggestions are for you to divorce him and try to remarry. There are several Igbo men married to foreign wives and as I speak ,many are here in Nigeria with their wives to celebrate the season of Christmas,with their beautiful kids. Its obvious you married a bad person and a wicked one.At least giving you the privilege of having his child is not too much for being his legal wife. Sorry madam. Be wise. 1 Like |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by TheManOfTheYear: 9:55am On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull:Yes it's common especially in big cities like Lagos or Abuja due to the high poverty rate and high cost of rents. So many families resort to living in cramped conditions. You don't have to feel strange. Although your man could feel bringing you to Nigeria will mean spending a lot to suit your 'expensive' preferences. Maybe. But if you really wanna save your marriage you can save up and let him know you're coming over so you can figure things out. If he is married to another woman then that's a crime. Bigamy. Because he didn't let them know he's already married to you. Best of luck |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by TheManOfTheYear: 9:58am On Jan 01, 2018 |
error4040:My guy I just tire for these our Naija men spoiling our name in diaspora. I just hope the poor lady has not been scammed lol. 1 Like |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 11:14am On Jan 01, 2018 |
nkwuocha: Happy New Year! Thank you for advised me. So Catholic Christian can't do polygamy? But if he has another wife in Nigeria, is it sin? If he don't count our marriage, he think he is not polygamy? But here in Japan, he is married me. That is truth in Japan. He left by this season bcoz of I asked him change his plan. He was planning around summer. Always,anythings he decide by himself w/o me. Once he decide when he go, after he tell me when he will and wanna go. So, by this time I asked him to change when I heard his plan. Then he changed. What do you mean real name? I always confusing about name. Many times he explain about name in Nigeria. But I'm still can't understand. I have his passport and alien registration card photo copy. I also have some documents from Nigerian high court when we married. They put his parents name. I think that name is his real name. But nobody call him that name. And he using another name when he call to his family. Even he say will change family name soon. Divorce is still not easy for me now. So difficult. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 11:29am On Jan 01, 2018 |
TheManOfTheYear: TheManOfTheYear: Thank you for gave me information again! And sorry about asking you many questions. I didn't know that is common and I was doubt his talk. Sister-in-law's sister is not close family for me. That's why my fell like jealousy. Am I scammed my husband and in here(Nairaland) who wrote for me? Scammed for what? But if everythings are lie, is very good for me. Bcoz if I haven't kind of situation with him, I'm not feel like lonely, I'm not cry behind him,I haven't hard life etc, I'm so happy woman! |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by nkwuocha: 12:31pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull: His real names are names he uses on his documents, especially those documents that came from Nigeria.His international passport too should have his real names. Catholic church do not support polygamy, so is civil court too.Your husband is,committing a sin and a crime as well. We don't know who he married first, maybe you or the Nigeria wife,so i can't say for sure who amongst you is the legit wife. You need to make up your mind for any eventualities. Don't waste more tears and years on someone that is totally not worth it,please. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Funkybabee(f): 12:47pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
TheManOfTheYear: And did u read all my quote? Happy new year thou.. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Funkybabee(f): 12:56pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull: God has already favour you my sister,ur child is not a kid anymore...and also keep praying God can touch his heart..i pray your marriage his back this new year,try to save cash and plan for ur travel... Happy new year |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by TheManOfTheYear: 1:23pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull:Could be he just married you for the Japanese permanent stay. That might also explain why he avoided having kids with you. And why he left you to go back to Naija and won't even introduce you to his family. Thats the scam I'm talking about. But don't jump into conclusions remember these are just speculations. But find out the truth and also prepare for the worst |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by NoToPile: 2:29pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
I really feel so bad for this lady, reading more on this thread pains me. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 4:28pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
nkwuocha: Thank you so much! Maybe I know his real name. If every his documents are real one. Some peoples even use fake documents when they come to Japan. I don't wanna think he is criminal person. If he has another wife, I know one day he will get bad something. Thank you so much once more time! I don't wanna cry. But I believe that this my experience gonna be good experience to me after sometime. Just like learning about life now. I don't wanna be like somebody never understand somebody's pain. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 4:40pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Funkybabee: Yes! My child is not small baby. Child is my treasure! My everything! I'm very proud my child! I got phone call from my husband. I was so happy when I heard his voice. But once I remind about maybe he has wife, feel so down. I'm so confusing now. 1 Like |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 4:49pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
TheManOfTheYear: Oh!!!! You talk about my husband? I'm very very sorry. I'm misunderstanding. Thank you. But don't worry. I have to hear from my husband first what he thinking about and what he wanna do our marriage. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 4:53pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
NoToPile: I made you feel so bad? I'm sorry. I know that I'm making everybody to irritated. But I'm still can't stop loving him. Pls don't be angry. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Arijude(m): 6:00pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull:I wish you the same. Ok |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Lexmane(m): 6:15pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
seriously, some pple are damn wicked... just wasting other pples time...it ain't right!!!!!!!m freaking angry!sorry lady.. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by NoToPile: 6:17pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull: I am not angry or irritated at you not at all. There are a lot of statements you make that makes it obvious to a Nigerian that he's lying and just using you that's what is making me feel bad. Happy new year ma'am. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by NoToPile: 6:21pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Lexmane: Honestly reading some of her lines is makes me cringe. Her obvious innocence makes it worse. So the hubby, sister inlaw and brother all stay in one room Abi ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Lexmane(m): 6:23pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Funkybabee:remember,not a Nigerian lady that u can tell to forget d husband and focus on ha growing kid,outside there, they deal with love love matter...me and my husband.even with no kid they are satisfied 1 Like |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Lexmane(m): 6:25pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
if dem deport some dudes,we go say na from dem village,unknown to us say dem dey cause kasala over there! 3 Likes |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Funkybabee(f): 6:34pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
[quote author=peacefull post=63799106] Yes! My child is not small baby. Child is my treasure! My everything! I'm very proud my child! I got phone call from my husband. I was so happy when I heard his voice. But once I remind about maybe he has wife, feel so down. I'm so confusing now. [/quote ]eahyah....stop thinking about that,God is your strength 1 Like |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by Funkybabee(f): 6:36pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Lexmane: Yes.i knew about that,that is why I told her to keep praying that God can touch his heart... |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by TheManOfTheYear: 6:41pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull:You don't have to be sorry, I know English ain't your first language. Alright that's a good idea |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by error4040: 7:10pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
NoToPile: ![]() ![]() ![]() Sister Inlaw and brother stay and sleep in one Room! ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by TheManOfTheYear: 7:14pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
peacefull:Oh he called you? That's good. So what was the conversation like?? Did u ask questions? |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 7:26pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 7:30pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Lexmane: Lexmane: Happy New Year! Are you angry with me? Am I disturbing everybody? Sorry about that. |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 7:38pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
NoToPile: Oh! My English skill.... ![]() I misunderstood. Thank you! But my husband is not bad person. I made many peoples think about he is bad person. Sorry ![]() |
Re: Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. by peacefull(f): 7:39pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
[quote author=Funkybabee post=63801947][/quote] I will try! Thank you. |
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