DreamChaser2000:


Lol. The op is a man-hater bro. Her brain is dysfunctional after her little boys bombed her dried puzzy. She wants men to lick her disgusting ass.

edimolu:
You is a confam

Tozara:
NOT.

And you say this is so in all cases? What if you're in a platonic frienship with more than one lady? You fall in love with each one of them? Or what if you already have a girlfriend, but still have some female close friends? The friendship still can't be platonic? Notwithstanding the fact that for many of us, it's not all ladies that we find sexually attractive (to our taste), since we have our specs in women? But does that stop us from keeping them as friends? So how does being close friends guarantees having romantic feelings towards them?

I can't relate AT ALL with ANY of the scenarios you gave above. You can't be in a female body and be telling me, a guy, how it feels like to be a male. It's ridiculous.

Maybe your assertions might hold true for some. But that definitively proves that.........

........she has no point and her argument is INVALID---a girl and a guy CAN be platonic friends.

Tozara:
NOT.

And you say this is so in all cases? What if you're in a platonic friendship with more than one lady? You fall in love with each one of them? Or what if you already have a girlfriend, but still have some female close friends? The friendship still can't be platonic? Notwithstanding the fact that for many of us, it's not all ladies that we find sexually attractive (to our taste), since we have our specs in women? But does that stop us from keeping them as friends? So how does being close friends guarantee having romantic feelings towards them?

I can't relate AT ALL with ANY of the scenarios you gave above. You can't be in a female body and be telling me, a guy, how it feels like to be a male. It's ridiculous.

Maybe your assertions might hold true for some. But that definitively proves that.........

........she has no point and her argument is INVALID---a girl and a guy CAN be platonic friends.

kimbraa:
I remember saying more often than not. Meaning that in most cases these things happens. I'm in the best position to tell you what your gender is like 'cause I'm on the receiving end, not you. None of my male friends hasn't wooed me, and I friendzoned all of them 'cause if I wanted a relationship I won't have taken them as brothers. That you haven't tried it doesn't mean a greater percent of your gender don't.

Naezara:
I've noticed people like drawing conclusions from their own life experiences and passing judgements based on them---then they try peddling their own 'truth' as reality. But like I'll always say, "THE WORLD IS BIGGER THAN THAT".

Life has so many sides to it, and you only know the side you've seen. In one case, all the sides may have the same dimensions---the same length, breadth or height---while in others, the dimensions might differ.

You can make general assertions about a square by seeing just ONE side of it---since all its sides are equal. But can the same be said of a trapezium?

Tozara:
F9!!!!

MYOPIA ALERT:

Naezara:

I've noticed people like drawing conclusions from their own life experiences and passing judgements based on them---then they try peddling their own 'truth' as reality. But like I'll always say, "THE WORLD IS BIGGER THAN THAT".

Life has so many sides to it, and you only know the side you've seen. In one case, all the sides may have the same dimensions---the same length, breadth or height---while in others, the dimensions might differ.

You can make general assertions about a square by seeing just ONE side of it---since all its sides are equal. But can the same be said of a trapezium?

Sorry, I'm not one of your male friends, neither am I like them. And they do not represent my gender in anyway. You're making your judgements on a dubious basis. It doesn't work that way.

I can also tell you that most of the chaps I move with are like me---if I should use that as a basis for passing my own judgement, I might as well claim that only a tiny percentage of my gender do what you're accussing us of. But, how do I know? From my own small circle and little bubble of existence?

You might be right about the behaviour being common with a large percentage of my gender, and you might also be wrong. That, I don't know for sure, and I can't accept your own experiences as proof, since it might have more to do with your personality and the kind of people you move with.

And even if your claim is true, how is your argument in support of Mariinee? 'Cause you're, more or less, admitting that it's just a large percentage of men that are like that, suggesting the existence of a significant number of men who are NOT, while she ridiculously claimed that it is applicable to ALL men----NO MAN can be in a platonic friendship with a woman.

Her argument remains ABSURD.

Daeylar:
I agree with this.

AryaStark1:
Thank You for that

DreamChaser2000:


Lol. The op is a man-hater bro. Her brain is dysfunctional after her little boys bombed her dried puzzy. She wants men to lick her disgusting ass.

zicoraads:

I will do and say anything I want to about anything I want to. It's foolish and childish and I'll keep saying it. And I'll strongly advice you take that head and shake it very, very far away from here. Very far away. You mustn't really comment on everything. Lest you get your hands burned for a fire that was never meant for you in the first place.

makydebbie:
Sorry guys but lemme butt in.


When I created a thread concerning this topic you all are currently arguing about, most of the guys agreed with me. We were on the same page nau, what happened? Why did you leave my page without telling me?!

https://www.nairaland.com/4025368/friendship-opposite-sex
Help yourself.

Tozara and edimolu, even in my writeup, I said, there will be some extremely rare occasions when the guy wouldn't even like us (the ladies) but then, being 80% emotional, we would start getting emotionally attached to the guys and we would start catching feelings.

Now it's left to the guy to see it as an opportunity to leave the friend zone or remain there. It's very very rare to see a guy and a girl being 100% platonic. Unless, the guy is gay, they're not compatible, both are not physically attractive or one is married and lastly, they're both in a relationship which isn't even an excuse because when you get close to an extent, you'll start catching feelings, one of you. You may not necessarily agree with my writeup tho, because I spoke exclusively about male besties.

Martin0:




I agree with you on platonic friendship or relationship!


But let me tell you something!

I ve been in a platonic relationship with one of my girlfriend and I ve no feelings for her till date!

But I remember she once told me she's beginning to love me,infact I was shocked but that doesn't mean am gay,infact she even accused me one time of being gay!

Infact most of her friends feels am gay but am not! I built the friendship btw me and her on strictly on "platonic relationship"

I repeat I don't ve feelings for her even when she's trying to force the feelings to come yet it not coming!

Though it rare to see a guy with the mindset of 100% on platonic relationship feeling will alway's come and it all depends!

makydebbie:
But we're still on the same page. I said sometimes the guy may just want nothing more than friendship and the lady may start catching feelings.

Martin0:


Yeah it true!
I agree with you on this!

Please sorry for last night if I wan in anyway rude to you I only wanted you and I to understand each other and I believe u re not on it now!

No vex for last night ooo

makydebbie:
But we're still on the same page. I said sometimes the guy may just want nothing more than friendship and the lady may start catching feelings.

makydebbie:
Sorry guys but lemme butt in.

When I created a thread concerning this topic you all are currently arguing about, most of the guys agreed with me. We were on the same page nau, what happened? Why did you leave my page without telling me?!

https://www.nairaland.com/4025368/friendship-opposite-sex
Help yourself.

Tozara and edimolu, even in my writeup, I said, there will be some extremely rare occasions when the guy wouldn't even like us (the ladies) but then, being 80% emotional, we would start getting emotionally attached to the guys and we would start catching feelings.

Now it's left to the guy to see it as an opportunity to leave the friend zone or remain there. It's very very rare to see a guy and a girl being 100% platonic. Unless, the guy is gay, they're not compatible, both are not physically attractive or one is married and lastly, they're both in a relationship which isn't even an excuse because when you get close to an extent, you'll start catching feelings, one of you. You may not necessarily agree with my writeup tho, because I spoke exclusively about male besties.

makydebbie:
Oh its okay.
I'm sorry for my harsh words too.

Martin0:



Did u jus say she's a man hater? Na wa oooo.

The childishness is still happening here,or can't you see what am seeing?

Daeylar:

Sorry dear, lemme push you out (just joking )




From what I understand from what tozara is saying,
I think he is saying that it's ridiculous to make blanket statements saying that no man can be platonic friends with a woman or vice versa (correct if I'm wrong and that's not what you were saying)
It's simply ridiculous, you cannot use your limited experience of people you know as an example then proceed to proclaim it as a rule or as the truth for every single person living on this earth, because that's what you're doing when you use words like all or none or no.
It just doesn't work.

It's myopic to say the least.

Sometimes it's just OK to say "I don't know"

mhisbliss:
what do you expect from someone who easily get intoxicated from chewing grass? Let him keep reasoning with his testicles, I've graced them enough by replying some silly mentions

makydebbie:
Sorry guys but lemme butt in.


When I created a thread concerning this topic you all are currently arguing about, most of the guys agreed with me. We were on the same page nau, what happened? Why did you leave my page without telling me?!

https://www.nairaland.com/4025368/friendship-opposite-sex
Help yourself.

Tozara and edimolu, even in my writeup, I said, there will be some extremely rare occasions when the guy wouldn't even like us (the ladies) but then, being 80% emotional, we would start getting emotionally attached to the guys and we would start catching feelings.

Now it's left to the guy to see it as an opportunity to leave the friend zone or remain there. It's very very rare to see a guy and a girl being 100% platonic. Unless, the guy is gay, they're not compatible, both are not physically attractive or one is married and lastly, they're both in a relationship which isn't even an excuse because when you get close to an extent, you'll start catching feelings, one of you. You may not necessarily agree with my writeup tho, because I spoke exclusively about male besties.

Tozara:
I do not disagree with your write-up. Like you said, it's exclusively about male besties. And neither do I deny that when you get close to a girl, you might start having feelings for her. The issue is with Mariinee's assertion that, in any boy-girl friendship, it's EITHER lust OR love. This makes no sense. And I'm not really particular about the PERCENTAGE of men who're like that---but saying the percentage of men who are NOT, is INSIGNIFICANT is an argument I won't accept.

A lot of things can lead to friendship, and even if a lady is not attractive or sexually appealing to you, does that stop you from becoming friends? And if you do become friends, why would you start developing feelings towards her, or lusting after her, when she's not your type of girl to begin with? Or is it being argued that a man would fall in love, or lust after any kind of girl at all, as long as they're close friends? Of course, there are some who would, but is that the case for all men? I have many female friends---close friends, not casual friends----but do not have any romantic affection for any of them, because my feelings are towards someone else. Doesn't this fact destroy her argument? It's very possible to keep females as close friends with no strings attached.

Another thing is that friendship is a spectrum, not a ladder with distinct, well-defined steps, so where does it begin and where does it end? We all know that friendship comes in different degrees---and even close friendship comes in different degrees, so the issue of male besties might be considered a special case - and indeed, for some, it may no longer be regarded as mere friendship. But we all have a general idea of what friendship is, and that's what I'm talking about here.

Daeylar:

Sorry dear, lemme push you out (just joking )




From what I understand from what tozara is saying,
I think he is saying that it's ridiculous to make blanket statements saying that no man can be platonic friends with a woman or vice versa (correct if I'm wrong and that's not what you were saying)
It's simply ridiculous, you cannot use your experience of people you know as an example then proceed to proclaim it as a rule or as the truth for every single person living on this earth, because that's what you're doing when you use words like all or none or no.
It just doesn't work.

It's myopic to say the least.

Daeylar:
I agree with this also, I like the part in bold. Although I think I may have an objection to it. But I like it

sirBLUNT:
dear mhisbliss i quite agree with your point to an extend because alot of guys find it hard to accept rejection so they result to hating on you once you reject them i will not blame them we all have different level of emotional intelligence but my take is on the platonic relationship and the affection after ward..you can be platonic friends with a girl and there will be no strings attached once the friendship is define between you two..once there is a limit once you know what you want from the begining and if a guy is nice to you all in the name of platonic friends pls dear ask him bros why are you so nice to me?what do you want? if he tells you its nothing then fine respect if he confess his feelings then let him know where he stands and why you cant't date him if he stops being friends with you..you will know what he has been chasing all along every friendship must be define and while defining always think about the end result to avoid misconception!

baddooski:
Compliment of the Season!