Good morning. I am under immense pressure from my mom to redeploy back to the southern part of the country.

Here's the story

I am the only child of my mom and I am Serving in Kwara, batch B stream 1. Initially, when I first printed call up letter and saw Kwara, I didn't want to report to camp but she convinced me that it wasn't bad. After all it's just for a year and I can take care of myself.

Now barely 3 months into service, she has been calling me almost everyday crying that i redeploy back to the south. She keeps saying she's having recurring bad dreams for over 3 weeks about where I am. Calls me more than 10 times daily to check on me.

Now I afraid because of her blood pressure. I mean I have travelled before and left home for years but this hasn't happened. She already called this morning crying. My grandma too had to call me crying and accusing me of wanting to kill her daughter. Looks like she is overly depressed. They And she keeps saying if something happens to me she will kill herself.

Please, guys what do I do?
She has never requested anything from me before.
Is family pressure enough reason to redeploy back south?
If yes how do I go about it?
Omo am just 23 and can't bear the thought of something happening to her because she's all I really have..

Is it possible after leaving orientation camp?


If yes, then redeploy

Mamma's boy! So if Chevron should employ you after service and post you to Rivers State, she will still be worried cos gunmen kill people there?

emeijeh:
Is it possible after leaving orientation camp?


If yes, then redeploy

It is possible but with money. All the people I am contacting said N50k. I only have 20 and there's the fear of being scammed

I am just troubled. The online portal is still open but only security and marital options showing

amnesty7:
Mamma's boy!

Not like that bro. Na only 2 of us against the world

uzoclinton:
Don't know about you, but that recurring Nightmares she's having is enuff to make me run back home..

Bro, I can't even sleep again. Though I lied to her that where I am is good, honestly to get even paracetamol you must travel to the next town. Na bush I dey

NyscTroubled:


Bro, I can't even sleep again. Though I liked to her that where I am is good, honestly to get even paracetamol you must travel to the next town. Na bush I dey

Go back home before It is too late... Apply for relocation

uzoclinton:
Go back home before It is too late... Apply for relocation

And risk being queried and possibly service extension. Right now, I can't move till relocation is approved.

The portal doesn't even option for health.

NyscTroubled:


And risk being queried and possibly service extension,

I didn't say you should Go awol.. just apply for relocation

uzoclinton:
I didn't say you should Go awol.. just apply for relocation

That's what I want to do but there are only 2 options there. Security and marital. That's why I need to know whether if I pick security, is family pressure with the explanation above enough reason for me to relocate?

NyscTroubled:


That's what I want to do but there are only 2 options there. Security and marital. That's why I need to know whether if I pick security, is family pressure with the explanation above enough reason for me to relocate?

Figure that one out yourself..... ciao

Don't miss the experience of staying away from home on account of National Service for one. My humble suggestion, travel home, is to have a robust discussion with her, and let her know you are safe and also keep safe anyway. Promise to be calling her every day or two days, pray with her on phone in the morning before going out each day and you can be sure she will be comfortable with your stay in Kwara.
I schooled in Kwara State and spent close to 10years years there, it is one of the safest states in this country.
Be of good courage, it shall be well with you.

middlebelter:
Don't miss the experience of staying away from home on account of National Service for one. My humble suggestion, I travel home, is to have a robust discussion with her, and let her know you are safe and also keep safe anyway. Promise to be calling her every day or two days, pray with her on phone in the morning before going out each day and you can be sure she will be comfortable with your stay in Kwara.
I schooled in Kwara State and spent close to 10years years there, it is only of the safest states in this country.
Be of good courage, but it shall be well with you.

Bro I have stayed away from home since 2010. Only went home to spend time with her before service.

As for Kwara, you may have lived in a good place. Ppa doesn't even have a clinic.. tp to and fro where I can get basic drugs is roughly N500.

Nothing here to enjoy.

Besides If I were to redeploy, I would not redeploying to home but a neighboring state.

Thanks anyways.

Only if u cud get sum1 genuine to help u run dis stuff,,,, it doesn't take more Dan one week and u wudnt need to apply online

NyscTroubled:


It is possible but with money. All the people I am contacting said N50k. I only have 20 and there's the fear of being scammed

I am just troubled. The online portal is still open but only security and marital options showing

That is the true cost bro. Just make sure it is someone that redeployed that link you up..

You're the only child...pity your Mum

This is bad! I wonder why ur mom getting tensed up like this.

Redeploy back to the south if that's what she wants.

Settle with your ppa and LGI and move back to kwara. You can always go for your monthly clearance cos of your mum. Believe me, she needs you around her

Pls hurry up, she needs to breast feed you

Firstly, OP nothing is gonna happen to you in God's name. Secondly, I want you to know mother's are over protective and when you are not close to where they can easily visit or see you they panic and become scared.
I doubt if you can redeploy 3months into service, so the best bet is to try and explain things to her and give her a visit soon.
Btw, don't bother giving anybody money to help you with redeployment except you follow normal process through NYSC Kwara . I am saying this because I served in Kwara.
Lastly, I wish you a wonderful and peaceful service year.

Then relocate home. Mothers have this 'thing'. I can't tell you how many times its happened to me. I end up regretting that I didn't listen

Redeploy ASAP, it's not easy being an a only child.

U be tatah wey mom dey feed? Nawa ooo

If only there is guarantee in getting a good job. Na by force to serve your father land. Family first jare.

What you need to do is to immediately fortify the two keys to life. The spiritual realm and the Physical realm.

If u don't work on both, how are you sure you will be safe when you redeploy. You may even have accident God forbid on your way back home if you redeploy. Bad dreams can materialize any where and no place is peculiar.

To fortify your spiritual realm do these; Fasting, Almsgiving, Thanksgiving and Fervent midnight prayers.

To fortify your physical realm do these; Cut off much friends, don't go out at night , don't date much women, make sure u stay at a secured environment. In fact any human physical security conscious measures.

Do these and you are fine. Explain same to your mother that coming home may not mean you are safe. Let her also say prayers for you.

NyscTroubled:
Good morning. I am under immense pressure from my mom to redeploy back to the southern part of the country.

Here's the story

I am the only child of my mom and I am Serving in Kwara, batch B stream 1. Initially, when I first printed call up letter and saw Kwara, I didn't want to report to camp but she convinced me that it wasn't bad. After all it's just for a year and I can take care of myself.

Now barely 3 months into service, she has been calling me almost everyday crying that i redeploy back to the south. She keeps saying she's having recurring bad dreams for over 3 weeks about where I am. Calls me more than 10 times daily to check on me.

Now I afraid because of her blood pressure. I mean I have travelled before and left home for years but this hasn't happened. She already called this morning crying. My grandma too had to call me crying and accusing me of wanting to kill her daughter. Looks like she is overly depressed. They And she keeps saying if something happens to me she will kill herself.

Please, guys what do I do?
She has never requested anything from me before.
Is family pressure enough reason to redeploy back south?
If yes how do I go about it?
Omo am just 23 and can't bear the thought of something happening to her because she's all I really have..

which state and city are you from? And where in kwara are you serving?

Where is your home?