saasala:
You and your brother marrying women who have kids from another lover. Your father wont be proud of you guys. Not one of you o, two of you.

Anyway, dont take the child abroad even if the mother cries blood. Dont mind the above posters o. Let him stay with the mum's relatives here in Naija cos you dont like him enough to live with you. You want to start afresh with your woman and the poor boy will be a stumbling block Bringing him over will cause more harm than you can foresee or even break your home.

Na wetin I be wan talk be that. E don turn to another thing.
Reminds me of ubunja's thread on bad boys and nice guys like the op. The last thing I will ever do is raise another man's kid, I'd rather let go of the p*ssy.There too many single ladies out there than for me to be helping one single mother carry her cross when I'm not her personal lord and savior.
My only advice to you Op is to stand your ground. One wussy N*gga up there said you shouldn't make her choose between you and her son but I dare say you should let her choose because you didn't choose that life for her, so let sort her baggage herself without involving you.
You are even nice agreeing to sponsor the boy when he has a father.
I will advise that you let the boy stay back because no matter how hard you try, you will never be the boy's biological father and there is a high probability that he will never recognize you as his father as long as the real father is alive. And living in a country like US where child rights laws and violent culture produces mostly mannerless spoilt brats,the risk doesn't look good.
Don't make decision based on the present but the future because what we are today is a product of what we did yesterday

lenghtinny:
Na wetin I be wan talk be that. E don turn to another thing.
Reminds me of ubunja's thread on bad boys and nice guys like the op. The last thing I will ever do is raise another man's kid, I'd rather let go of the p*ssy.There too many single ladies out there than for me to be helping one single mother carry her cross when I'm not her personal lord and savior.
My only advice to you Op is to stand your ground. One wussy N*gga up there said you shouldn't make her choose between you and her son but I dare say you should let her choose because you didn't choose that life for her, so let sort her baggage herself without involving you.
You are even nice agreeing to sponsor the boy when he has a father.
I will advise that you let the boy stay back because no matter how hard you try, you will never be the boy's biological father and there is a high probability that he will never recognize you as his father as long as the real father is alive. And living in a country like US where child rights laws and violent culture produces mostly mannerless spoilt brats,the risk doesn't look good.
Don't make decision based on the present but the future because what we are today is a product of what we did yesterday

Elparaiso:
If I understand you well, you are about to make her a wife. But I would plead with you to understand that she's already a mother, don't make her choose between a life with you and a life with her son. To be frank, I wouldn't trust a woman who would abandon her child in the hands of outsiders because of a marriage.

You can, at least, file for both of them. You're not just marrying her, you're marrying her son too. In fact, he's also your son.

staystrong:


spoke my mind exactly, if you truly love her,you gat be a man and love everything about her,dont give her a reason to be with you or child,immigration delayal is not denial