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Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 6:44am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Gerrard59:You are wicked.Let them get married she is still capable of having children although time is not on her side. |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Daeylar(f): 6:48am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Seahawk: Honestly. She can get better, 1 Like |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Awoo88: 6:48am On Jan 11, 2018 |
if you love the lady and she makes you happy, tell your mum to stay out of your marriage. She is not the one that will be living forever(?) with you. if you don't, you mum will want to interfere with your marriage life. A big chance for to let know her boundary 1 Like |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by ediko5(m): 6:51am On Jan 11, 2018 |
raumdeuter: Rubbish! why did she stay until 39 yrs before getting marriage and as for the OP, your marriage is not morally and culturally right. Why on earth will you marry someone that's 3yrs older than you? |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by 9ja083: 6:53am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Advice is very simple. Respect your mother's wish and also your her faith at this time. 1st. . Take her to a fertility hospital and see a gyneacologist who will conduct series of fertility test on both of you. 2nd. Your mom can be there while she see things for her self. Collect the results and allow the gyneacologist to counsel all of you. 3rd. Seeing her result will make her believe that she is fertile. Her following you to the hospital is to prove to her that the sample was collected from her and anyone else. I rest my case. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by reality17(m): 6:56am On Jan 11, 2018 |
LadySarah: Well said from an Aba made comment |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by JONNYSPUTE(m): 7:01am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Butoneday2:. Don't mind the guy.Can he swear that both of them ve not had sex at least 3times before coming here to form holy holy. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by lovegeneration(m): 7:05am On Jan 11, 2018 |
bros ur mum is not in support of u marring that lady just bcus of the age difference and she know that the lady will not subscribe to premarital sex. see we all say age is just a number when luv is involve but reality ll set in by the time her look change, and she look holder dan u nd people start addressing her as ur elder sister |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by swaggprofessor(m): 7:07am On Jan 11, 2018 |
valentineuwakwe:Guy, tho I am against premarital sex but do you really know ur fiancee?? I meant do u know her past Your mum might have seen thru her n her lifestyle past?? Only God can bless any marriage with fruitfulness bt sit ur fiancee n question her abt her past so u can know who u r fighting for Or u can go n run fertility test on her n urself So that story that touch wouldn't be the story of ur marriage!!!! Wait, what do I even know about marriage self?? |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Daeylar(f): 7:09am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Tozara: Abeg don't make me laugh,
Too much interferance in the life of a grown man, the mother better respect herself. And he should be strong, he needs to put his foot down and tell them this is the woman he wants to marry, see the way they are discussing if she will get pregnant or not as if she is a robot they control and can just tell to do anything at any point in time, no care about what she wants at all, they think cos she is 39 and wants to be married, they can tell her "jump" and she would answer "how high" he is 36 about to get married, even wants to have a child, but he can't put his foot down and be firm? Is that how he wants to marry? All these people who always try to control someones life under the disguise of " I care about you" forever disgust me 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by buscojnr: 7:14am On Jan 11, 2018 |
There are two sides to this in my own view. I fully understand your mums view. It's obviously due to the age of that lady because ladies approaching that age could find it difficult to conceive on time. The fact is, God is perfect! . First try to convince your mum because you need her blessing in the marriage so as to allow you wait till after wedding. Secondly , try if your fiancee is willing to bend then you change your church. Am not a Christian. May God guide us all aright!! |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by gratiaeo(m): 7:20am On Jan 11, 2018 |
My advice is simple if she's a virgin then go ahead and marry her but if not do what your mum ask you. Majority of all this so called born again ladies you see in the church are retired olosho, don't be deceive by all this RCCG members on nairaland |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Uyi168: 7:22am On Jan 11, 2018 |
AreaFada2:..Gbam!..i believe this is the angle the mum is seeing things from...nt also forgetting her age |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by erimmy(m): 7:22am On Jan 11, 2018 |
valentineuwakwe:Fake story. This one just want to learn how to write stories. |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by cooljude(m): 7:25am On Jan 11, 2018 |
giles14: If you fit look for mature man Na em she dey till 39 ( football age) |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by mildflame: 7:29am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Ur MOM wishes u all d BEST in life, your WIFE 2be got no BLAME. Bro everything lies in your HANDS, whatever decision your end up taking just be READY and BOLD to brace any future Wahala. Bro do what is BEST 4u, not ur MOM or WIFE 2be |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by davillian(m): 7:32am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Aquariann: Tell him, he is 36 and she is 39 By the time their 1st child get to 27yrs he would be 63 and she would be 66yrs. @ this point who will look after who This dude should get a younger wife that will look after him when he is old and d children when he is gone. |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Ari3040: 7:32am On Jan 11, 2018 |
You and your girlfriend should pray to GOD, to turn around the situation of your mother. |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by lukepraiz(m): 7:32am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Your mum is may be right Jus consider the Age. |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by giles14(m): 7:33am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Nnamaka1:12 |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by valentineuwakwe(m): 7:35am On Jan 11, 2018 |
erimmy: please don't say its a fake story..it's real....must everything to u be fake....this is me....08033559733 |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by valentineuwakwe(m): 7:36am On Jan 11, 2018 |
mildflame: thank you so much..this is one of the best advice so far...the whole decision lies with me....I know what is good for me....thank you everyone as well for your advice.... |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by jaychubi: 7:39am On Jan 11, 2018 |
valentineuwakwe: 39 years old fiancee hmmm sounds more like sugar mum, ur mum is right most old church girls are retired oloshos n at 39 she may ve little or few eggs left, na high mileage she be so common sense she tell u she is tooooo old for u |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by slurity1: 7:39am On Jan 11, 2018 |
At 36 you still rely on social media for advice. you did not trust your own decision as an educated or Christian, you did not consult your pastors or church elders then I sense your problems are not solvable here because it will still bring same confusion. Review your claimed Christianity and talk to God. Your mum is telling you one simple fact. 39 years old woman has less probability to get pregnant. |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by gratiaeo(m): 7:41am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Baffupdrizz:No mind the op he want to marry sugar mummy
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Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Nobody: 7:42am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Reference: I've seen mothers chase wife away while husband stand and do nothing. Its one thing if it were the husband asking for pregnancy that's different but for the mom to dictate mehn that's worrisome. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Tozara(m): 7:45am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Daeylar:Too many parents see their children as their "own", so they believe they're property that should be made into "mini-me's" that mirror their tastes; a canvas on which they paint their wants and desires, regardless of the wishes of these living creatures who have a mind of their own, different personalities, and plans and goals for themselves that might conflict with what the parents have for them. She sees her son as a means to an end, as opposed to an end in himself. And he should be strong, he needs to put his foot down and tell them this is the woman he wants to marry, see the way they are discussing if she will get pregnant or not as if she is a robot they control and can just tell to do anything at any point in time, no care about what she wants at all, they think cos she is 39 and wants to be married, they can tell her "jump" and she would answer "how high"Just imagine. She's an automaton without her own mind. If she's smart, she better dump the guy if he's unwilling to take total control of his own life because of impertinent sentiments. Your family doesn't own you. And any parent that hates you because you didn't do their wishes or allow them to control you is scum, and is never worthy of the name. he is 36 about to get married, even wants to have a child, but he can't put his foot down and be firm? Is that how he wants to marry?His mother will soon tell him the number of children he MUST have. And he'll come here seeking for advice. All these people who always try to control someones life under the disguise if " I care about you" forever disgust meIt's not "care". They rather have a warped idea of it. It's domination and control in the name of "love". It's as though they see one as a marionette or a robot. They would be too glad to manufacture a remote control that would make the job easier for them. 3 Likes |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Nobody: 7:45am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Daeylar: Not to sound like a pessimist but if it took that long going by the numbers it would take a while or impossible unless she marries someone who is divorced or lost his wife. |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by supereagle(m): 7:50am On Jan 11, 2018 |
valentineuwakwe:Nairaland may not give 100% counseling. We have mixed multitude here. Go to your church. Pray as well. 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Nduson20: 7:51am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Bro i log in just to like your post. Say it as it is no pretense. Thumps up. Aquariann: 1 Like |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by iamclime(m): 7:52am On Jan 11, 2018 |
Galatians 6:5 |
Re: Wife Introduction: My Mum Insists On Pregnancy First by Nobody: 7:58am On Jan 11, 2018 |
valentineuwakwe:Usually ladies become born again when they have lost thier womb due to recklessness. Your mum is just protecting you bro. Listen to her. |
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