Daeylar:


Lol, I don't know, but I wouldn't look twice if it was me. But she can forgive if it makes her happy.

a child always forgives.no matter what.and many single mothers get pissed and take it like the child betrayed her but a child sees it all as her getting a father she ever had but always dreamt about.if you went thru it yourself you wouldnt be so dismissive.
i have a distant cousin who's father left his mum when he was very young.the dad died before the kid grew.but once the guy was nearly 20 or so, the guy spent a lot of time and money trying to locate his dead father's grave. the craving to face that side of his life was that much. and he did locate the grave and paid his respects.to this day he takes good care of that grave
children forgive.they really do.but dont let that as a woman worry you.its just nature.

Stupid HE-Goat

Forgive fuhari?
Impossible

Useless girl, she just wasted the poison I sent to her

love is all that matters

Good one. Similar issue with mine, mine still 25 years tho, let's see what happens in the next 2 years. I have forgiven him but let onikaluku duro sori owo e. Maami, you are still the best.

Divay22:
My forgiveness spirit is not yet old enough.

Pele.


But, u write like, u turned out right.

so many bastard girls around naija

it is not easy,blood is thicker than water, the lesson is that do not waste your resources training another man's child especially if the father is still alive somewhere.Sooner or later the man will come with tears for forgiveness to claim the child.

ubunja:
nice one. father and daugter get reunited.the step father that brought her up is not even mentioned.he has done his job of being a father figure and an ATM.once the child has matured he is no longer needed. the real father re-enters the young adult's life and asumes charge.
will the loser guys dating single mothers learn the leason?
i dont know

You just stole those words from my mouth, are u a mind reader?. That scenario is all over Europe and US, so many Nigerian ladies are single mums who dumped the father of their children and dating other guys. Inspite of the good deeds of these guys, the kids still miss and yearn for their biological dads b/c blood is very thick. Good lesson for those currently playing the role of a father figure. I know of one family where the teenage boy attacked his mum and her lover b/c she refuses to divulge info about the whereabout of his biological dad.

Daeylar:
He doesn't deserve forgiveness, he deserves to be thrown into the dustbin.
But it's her life and as long as she is happy.

You sound like one of those mums in the west who threw away the father of your kids and brainwashed them to hate their dad. This is a lesson for mums like you.

Daeylar:


After 27 years?,
Nah. I don't play those games.
A good 27 years he abandoned his child. There is no excuse, absolutely no excuse to abandon your child in the first place.
But to do so for 27 years? Nah. Straight to the trash. He knew better.

You are completely ignorant of what goes on in the West if you believe that a father can willingly abandon his child for 27 years. Educate yourself on YouTube and google, search for stories about Nigerian marriages in the US and Europe. Tip: search for “why Nigerian men are killing their imported wives”, etc.

toprealman:
Ad long as it doesn't lead to another storyline tomorrow..... lady who reunites with dad after 27yrs is pregnant for HIM!!!

Sick mind

Daeylar:


Lol, I don't know, but I wouldn't look twice if it was me. But she can forgive if it makes her happy.

Yeah, but forgiving him is completely irrational.

How was your day?

Daeylar:
He doesn't deserve forgiveness, he deserves to be thrown into the dustbin.
But it's her life and as long as she is happy.

I have been searching for comments like this. He doesn't deserves forgiveness because he is a man right? What will you say about my own mother who left for the past 24 years? Should i or should i not forgive her when she remembers she has a son somewhere?

donefezy:
I have been searching for comments like this. He doesn't deserves forgiveness because he is a man right? What will you say about my own mother who left for the past 24 years? Should i or should i not forgive her when she remembers she has a son somewhere?

Lol, why did you start by projecting? Lol
Na don't project,
If your mum left you for 24 years then in my opinion, she doesn't deserve forgiveness,
BUT
If you decide to forgive her then that's your choice, and it's fine.

Forgiving your ungrateful dad who abandons you for 27years does not mean that he should reap from you where he did not sow.That step father who suffered to send you to school and to the university and built the excellent girl in you must be the one who should receive the blessing and most care from you when he gets old,not your ungrateful father who may still be harbouring the ungratefulness without the naive innocent daughter knowing.

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Tozara:
Yeah, but forgiving him is completely irrational.

How was your day?

Really, I think it's their choice though,

Fine yours?

Daeylar:


Lol, why did you start by projecting? Lol
Na don't project,

i had to because that's where you are heading to

Daeylar:

If your mum left you for 24 years then in my opinion, she doesn't deserve forgiveness,
BUT
If you decide to forgive her then that's your choice, and it's fine.

hmm, I guess you had to stand firm so as to prove me wrong. Yea, it's my choice and i hope i do forgive her when the time comes

donefezy:
i had to because that's where you are heading to hmm, I guess you had to stand firm so as to prove me wrong. Yea, it's my choice and i hope i do forgive her when the time comes

Nah that's not how the apology starts , lol, it goes something like this. Sorry for projecting..... ( then you Fill in the blanks)

And you're still projecting, "you knew where I was heading to,, I did it to prove you wrong " lol


I don't feel anyone that abandons his/her child deserves forgiveness. But the child is free to do whatever he/she wants.

Wish you the all best on that

Daeylar:

Really, I think it's their choice though,
Fine yours?

Yeah. Her choice.
Mine was fine too.

Tozara:
Yeah. Her choice.

I'm very sure I wouldn't too, lol, but why did you say irrational?

Mine was fine too.

ashjay001:




Pele.


But, u write like, u turned out right.

Yeah
When you gat a mum who's trying to make things right, it's only fair you give her a chance...
She has successfully covered up for him.... I know him not

Daeylar:


I'm very sure I wouldn't too, lol, but why did you say irrational?

Because if we all forgive people who commit extreme crimes without having them face the consequences of their actions, we're incentivizing their kind of comportment and making the concept of justice irrelevant.

Tozara:
Because if we all forgive people who commit extreme crimes without having them face the consequences of their actions, we're incentivizing their kind of comportment and making the concept of justice irrelevant.

Exactly, you can't just waltz out for 27 years when she needed a father to grind and do what a parent, a father does, put in all the work to raise a child.
Then waltz back in 27 years later when she is fully grown and doesn't need raising any longer with some little words of apologies, then start prancing around calling himself a father.
He is not a father, a father who walked away and came back after 27 years is considered a sperm donor, and sperm donors are not fathers,
a father is one who raised his child, while still respecting that she is her own individual and helped her become the best possible version of herself.
That's a father.

But like I said, her choice.

Daeylar:


Exactly, you can't just waltz out for 27 years when she needed a father to grind and do what a parent, a father does, put in all the work to raise a child.
Then waltz back in 27 years later when she is fully grown and doesn't need raising any longer with some little words of apologies, then start prancing around calling himself a father.
He is not a father, a father who walked away and came back after 27 years is considered a sperm donor, and sperm donors are not fathers,
a father is one who raised his child, while still respecting that she is her own individual and helped her become the best possible version of herself.
That's a father.

Exactly. After he must have lost everything he left her for, he came back to take back his donation, forgetting that she's now a person.

But like I said, her choice.

Yeah.

Daeylar:

Nah that's not how the apology starts , lol, it goes something like this. Sorry for projecting..... ( then you Fill in the blanks)

And you're still projecting, "you knew where I was heading to,, I did it to prove you wrong " lol


I don't feel anyone that abandons his/her child deserves forgiveness. But the child is free to do whatever he/she wants.

Wish you the all best on that

You seem to have a tough heart. Anyway, everybody deserves forgiveness no matter their offense as long as they are truly sorry. Btw, sorry for protecting once again

No big deal forgiving him cos you certainly can't have another father!

To hell with my mother

Before nko ? That's why I keep telling my friend whose bf knocked her up and made a run for it. Now that the baby is here, she's not giving him access. She will just end up doing all the work and the kid will welcome him into her life twenty years on. Don't do all the job by yourself, let him do his part too! The moraforking slob is the father anyways. May God bless us with fair people.

Niseamaka:


Sick mind

Keep living in denial.