Hello guys,

Since we got married it’s been one quarrel into another. Last Sunday I dressed in Jean and Long sleeve T shirt for Church and on sighting what I was wearing my wife yelled “Why will you be wearing this to Church?! We will not sit together ooh!!”

I felt dumbfounded but didn’t utter a word. On getting to Church I went to sit separately.

Is this right coming from a wife?

You'd only get advice from kids, people who sleep around, single depressed people, and mostly folks who have never been in a serious relationship.

I understand the structure of Nairaland, but it's not everything you post on here. You'd only get wrong advice.

Bossmd:
Hello guys,

Since we got married it’s been one quarrel into another. Last Sunday I dressed in Jean and Long sleeve T shirt for Church and on sighting what I was wearing my wife yelled “Why will you be wearing this to Church?! We will not sit together ooh!!”

I felt dumbfounded but didn’t utter a word. On getting to Church I went to sit separately.

Is this right coming from a wife?

What will you do if we tell you that it's not right??

Have you talked to her about this?
Communication bro, use it. That is a weapon

HeyCorleone:
You'd only get advice from kids, people who sleep around, single depressed people, and mostly folks who have never been in a serious relationship.

I understand the structure of Nairaland, but it's not everything you post on here. You'd only get wrong advice.

you should have told him the best place to seek advice instead of you telling us you knowing the architectural structure of nairaland.

OP at this point, you both need your pastor's words of advise as well as a marriage counsellor's piece of advice.

Well me I'm not married. I can only imagine how it seems. Nagging breaks a man walahi..what she desire to see in u that makes her nag will even go farther away from her. What you're going g thru is one of my greatest fear in marriage..."familiarity!"

But one formula I've always used for women that I can borrow you is total silence and avoidance. When you give a threat after a long silence about the continuous misbehavior, your threat will carry weight. But if Shes a woman with a conscience she will learn from ur silence that quarrels aren't worth it.

God is ur strength bro.

Nagging is annoying. The best thing is to talk to her and tell her that you don't like it.

From my experience, silence only prolongs a matter and breeds bitterness and malice. It never solves anything because after you have finished the silent treatment, a lot of harm would have been done and you will still come back and discuss the issue.

N.B.
There is nothing wrong with what you wore to church. It doesn't have to be native or suit.

dayo2me:
you should have told him the best place to seek advice instead of you telling us you knowing the architectural structure of nairaland.

I will email You a bottle of Fanta next year Christmas bro for your comment ...

""Since we got married it’s been one quarrel into another""
Can u imagine There is no compatibility here.

Please don't be too angry. That's how majority of women behave,when they are single,they pray to have someone to call their husband but once they get what they want,they feel empowered. What you should do is to bring up the issue while both of you are in a playful mood and calmly call her her favourite name, look straight to her face and tell her what she is doing wrong and that hurts you. I hope this helps.
She is obviously wants you in your best and her taste.

HeyCorleone:
You'd only get advice from kids, people who sleep around, single depressed people, and mostly folks who have never been in a serious relationship.

I understand the structure of Nairaland, but it's not everything you post on here. You'd only get wrong advice.

Lol, thanks Bro, but there are matured minds here too na

ImaIma1:
Nagging is annoying. The best thing is to talk to her and tell her that you don't like it.

From my experience, silence only prolongs a matter and breeds bitterness and malice. It never solves anything because after you have finished the silent treatment, a lot of harm would have been done and you will still come back and discuss the issue.

N.B.
There is nothing wrong with what you wore to church. It doesn't have to be native or suit.

Thanks Dear, I appreciate your time on the thread.

HeyCorleone:
You'd only get advice from kids, people who sleep around, single depressed people, and mostly folks who have never been in a serious relationship.

I understand the structure of Nairaland, but it's not everything you post on here. You'd only get wrong advice.

For someone who tend to know the structure of nairaland, you don't seem to know there's a little difference between family and romance section and your profile pic tells us just how mature you are. By the way, you forgot to enlighten the OP with your elderly wisdom on what to do.

*Modified* At least you finally changed the derogatory dp

sweettease:


For someone who tend to know the structure of nairaland, you don't seem to know there's a little difference between family and romance section and your profile pic tells us just how mature you are. By the way, you forgot to enlighten the OP with your elderly wisdom on what to do.

Because you're too stupid to realise that anyone can gain entrance to the Family section. Even those who never had a family.

Obviously your problem is comprehension of simple words. Take your time to read people's comments and don't just be in a hurry to castigate people.

And thanks for checking out my profile picture. Because you don't have something similar doesn't make you a more mature person or a person of substance at all.

Your problem is you think you're wise but you're just wallowing in the abyss of foolishness.

Asually, the FTC guy no well. What in the world might have been wrong with him sotey he wrote that? Who dey fight am? Oh my! ...

I'm sorry OP, biko you and your wife should both get some lessons in communication and exposure. Hian, I remember one of my friends that had her wardrobe complement her Hubby's. No be anko o, but they bam. As e be say na casuals enter your head that day. She sef go find one nice shirtdress...

Biko try not to go sit down your own separate when you are out with your spouse again no matter the argument wey una get...especially not in the church. Whew!

I bet it didnt start immediately after your wedding, both of you got what you wanted (marriage) so attitude and characters are revealing itself slowly, something that wasnt noticed during courtship so dont worry, this is the one of the experiences of newly wed couples, talk to her, calm her down,make her realise that it will be both of you for a very long time so she should better face reality.

It is better and safer to sleep on the roof top, than to be with a nagging wife. Is either you clip her wings now or be ready to lose your sanity.

dayo2me:
OP at this point, you both need your pastor's words of advise as well as a marriage counsellor's piece of advice.

Pastor?
Really?

You are in trouble deep one
It reminds me of PROVS 21:9 -
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

One person just have to take responsibility

I hate when people suffer all in the name of marriage. Marriage is not a must!

So sad

Bossmd:
Hello guys,

Since we got married it’s been one quarrel into another. Last Sunday I dressed in Jean and Long sleeve T shirt for Church and on sighting what I was wearing my wife yelled “Why will you be wearing this to Church?! We will not sit together ooh!!”

I felt dumbfounded but didn’t utter a word. On getting to Church I went to sit separately.

Is this right coming from a wife?

You are the one who nags bro.....

We are talking abt ur wife not some random girlfriend

ABI NA ME PROPOSE TO HER FOR YOU


BEHAVE OOOO

HeyCorleone:



Because you're too stupid to realise that anyone can gain entrance to the Family section. Even those who never had a family.

Obviously your problem is comprehension of simple words. Take your time to read people's comments and don't just be in a hurry to castigate people.

And thanks for checking out my profile picture. Because you don't have something similar doesn't make you a more mature person or a person of substance at all.

Your problem is you think you're wise but you're just wallowing in the abyss of foolishness.

Nwoke m ; Get the fuc×k out here.. u believe say Kids full Nairaland but u always login to play with the kids. Nonsense.

Marriage coming to an end...

My advice to you is to make your wife your friend...

send her back to her parents. women plenty for market

Why you sef wear jeans na? when you no be agbero

Sundays when people do stiff competition with dressing especially Igbos.

Please change o!

Sir she correcting you doesn't make her a nagging wife pls...imagine wearing a jean and shirt to church,she is your wife and she has the right to correct you in your choice of dressings and decisions.
Your choice of dressing to church wasn't even apporaite at all because when you get to church its still her they will blame for your dressing.

BE A MAN