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| . by Nobody: 11:01pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Okay, we've been dating for a year now. And so far everything is going well and we have no issues at all. We plan on get married this year, no fixed dates yet but we are working towards it. We are both burn on January. On 9th January, she was with me at home and that day was my birthday, even though I'm not the type that celebrate birthdays I really appreciate gifts from anyone no matter how small I don't care. The drama started when I noticed she forgot that day was my birthday, I was getting calls from friends and family wishing me happy birthday but she didn't say anything. Not until it was evening when my Lil brother called and she over heard him saying "happy birthday bro" then she started saying she's sorry that she forgot my birthday and I couldn't just believe it. I was soo angry, and I just can't forget it even though I have forgiven her. But I never got any gift at all from her, her excuse is that she has no money. I spent over 200k last December on shopping and other stuff and most of it was spent on her and my mom. Now she's back to school, and expecting me to take care of her as usual. Her birthday is coming up on 31st of January , and I keep remembering it every single day, I really want to forget her birthday too but I can't. This little issue is causing me heart breaks inside, so many things are going on through my mind as how someone who cares about me so much can forget an important day of my life. Why are ladies like this? You want us to care for you, love you, respect you and provide for you. But when we do you take us for granted. The only way I might probably forget the whole thing is to pretend I forgot her own birthday too but, I'm just confused right now. Mods please don't move this to front page, I just need a few advices from matured minds please. And please no one should insult my lady, if you can't comment without insults please don't comment at all, and I appreciate you for coming. |
| Re: . by bedspread: 11:03pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Sorry bro.... The truth is that she might have honestly Forgotten about your birthday.... But honestly something or Someone is Distracting her attention from you... It's just the bitter truth As for Her Birthday, Get her a Gift... Do not retialate 1 Like |
| Re: . by Iphone5: 11:04pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
[s]Mods please don't move this to front page, I just need a few advices from matured minds please. And please no one should insult my lady, if you can't comment without insults please don't comment at all, and I appreciate you for coming.[/s] 1 Share
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| Re: . by Nobody: 11:05pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Na dis kind thing dey make sex doll a better option. If ordinary sex doll no dey forget birthday upon say u no dey give am anything than to dey fucck am, how much more humans. If u no go say my mouth dey smell, na bad omen you don dey see so. When familiarity enter una finish, she no go fit say thank you for N50 million..she no go see am as anything. |
| Re: . by Lewaluv(f): 11:08pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Don't let her change who you are. Still get her something. Show her with her birthday what u expect for yours. Having not even a kobo should stop her from celebrating you. There are many things she could have done. Is she a selfish person? She should have been saving small for you present a month ago sha 4 Likes |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:08pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
hmm are u sure u are the only fiancee? ur birthday..hmmm u better search deep. |
| Re: . by donstan18: 11:09pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Lewaluv: Just imagine. 2 Likes
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| Re: . by dominique(f): 11:12pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
She's taking you for granted and will continue to if you don't express your displeasure at her attitude. The best way to show her that she did wrong is to give her a dose of her own medicine. Forget her birthday too 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: . by Pubichairs(m): 11:12pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
your zodiac signs are both Capricorn, go ahead with the marriage and face your doom, you are both controlled by same forces and I don't think u two will understand each other if u finally get married, leave love out of this |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:15pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Lewaluv:lol are u trying to give him hope? even on my birthday some of my female friends wished me a happy birthday and one actually sent me a little gift.but here op is talking about fiancee.there is someone else taking up her attention jor. 3 Likes |
| Re: . by sinaj(f): 11:16pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Its painful tho. Just forgerit nd celebrate her birthday with her. Her conscience will surely prick her. Thats if you are her main bf  1 Like |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:21pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Lewaluv:See as this one mouth dey whine like okada tyre. Sometimes I wonder whether God do mistake d time weh he create some women. You fit give person N5 talkless of being in his position to do what you asked him to do. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:21pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Lewaluv:See as this one mouth dey whine like okada tyre. Sometimes I wonder whether God do mistake d time weh he create some women. You fit give person N5 talkless of being in his position to do what you asked him to. |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:26pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
bedspread:Yeah.. Something probably, but someone I doubt. We spend a lot of time together and I know the people she talks to because she tells me every time. But maybe I'm wrong but don't want to give that a thought for the sake of my sanity. |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:28pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
[quote author=Iphone5 post=64431340][/quote]Lol, thanks for coming  |
| Re: . by tosyne2much(m): 11:28pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
What a silly excuse... If someone that claims to be part of your life can forget the remarkable day of your life, then it means you're going too far by calling such a lady your fiancee. This is a bad signal |
| Re: . by Gracespecial101(m): 11:29pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Bro just let go it doesn't really count But it is kinda painful sha Just remembered when my whole family apart from my senior bro forgot my birthday i was like they must be joking 1 Like
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| Re: . by Nobody: 11:35pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Lewaluv:The thing is a've actually celebrated her birthday before, and it was wonderful. We've dated for 1 year and 14days. I went as far as paying a French guy to bake her a chocolate cake because she loves chocolate a lot. She exhibits characters of selfishness sometimes and when I point it out to her she quickly apologize and seldom repeat it again. But she will do it in some other way next time. I must say, there is no perfect woman. I tolerate her most times but this one pain me seriously. |
| Re: . by bedspread: 11:39pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
grossintel:yeah... don't give it a thought... ...If you are sure she is your wife just do what you should do and Marry her Legally.... 1 Like |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:49pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
I don't even remember mine sef.  1 Like |
| Re: . by Lewaluv(f): 11:54pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Are you sure you wanna marry this one? What will you do when she forgets your children's birthdays? grossintel: |
| Re: . by Nobody: 11:56pm On Jan 22, 2018 |
Lewaluv:Nothing, she can forget there's and I will remind her. My mom forgets mine too and we laugh over it. |
| Re: . by Only1mi(f): 12:17am On Jan 23, 2018 |
grossintel: So you don't argue with your mum for forgetting and she's known you all your life? Did you ever tell her that you don't really care about celebrating your birthday? Sometimes when we show the people getting to know us how we feel about certain things (like saying your birthday isn't that special) then those people pick up on the vibe and treat it as any other day. Maybe you need to tell her it hurt and see what she does next year or when another important event comes up. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Marcelo290(m): 12:36am On Jan 23, 2018 |
There is no excuse, I repeat! There is no excuse for her to forget your birthday. Girl's like her want to be treated right but don't like reciprocating. One good turn deserves another, same as a bad turn. you can decide to celebrate her in your own fullness of heart, but if I'm to advice, feed her in her own plate so she too cold understand how it feels. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Macgreat(m): 1:34am On Jan 23, 2018 |
Truth is. . . She doesn't appreciate you as much. Is she not on Facebook. The app sends notification. Men, you are in a one sided relationship. Open your eyes. Must she buy you things, HELL NO! you were in the same house. If she had prepared food and presented it as usual and then wished you a happy birthday. My brother that's something. She's with you for the help. Don't be surprised if you don't see her again after graduation. You are a nice guy. Help her, take care of her but don't put all your heart. You'll get hurt badly. You can switch to become someone helping and no longer a boyfriend. She is still young. Be careful. |
| Re: . by Shegzy8(m): 4:34am On Jan 23, 2018 |
choi...buhar[ |
| Re: . by Hector09(m): 4:56am On Jan 23, 2018 |
Bro she might be right that she forgot ur birthday, there was a yr that i forgot mine, thanks to my younger sister |
| Re: . by Scholar01: 5:00am On Jan 23, 2018 |
So wetin you wan make we do
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| Re: . by konkonbilo(m): 6:51am On Jan 23, 2018 |
As for me OP,I will only wish her a happy birthday without getting her any gift. If she was really sorry she forgot urs,she would had made it up to you or got you something after that day but yet she haven't gotten you anything, that means she isn't serious or she's really taking you for granted. |
| Re: . by Nobody: 6:58am On Jan 23, 2018 |
I once remember when all my roomates forgot my birthday. About 10 girls o. The surprising thing was that they all heard me receiving calls from time to time and in all this calls i kept saying "Thank you" "Amen" laughing and all that (which doesnt even happen on a normal day) Still none of them got the gist till towards evening when my bestie came to my room. I was really shocked. Same thing applies here, If at all she forgot, but the moment she noticed the unusual frequent calls, she ought have wondered why or even ask you, "this one your phone is ringing like this"... and maybe you may just have teased her and said "So you forgot its my birthday" Then probably she would say ... "Oh! My love...im so sorry, my mind kept telling me i forgot something"... Then somehow, she makes up for it. What sef! You were both born in January, why the hell would she forget. Women do not easily forget dates especially when its their fiance/boyfriend/Husband. OP! Believe her story at your own peril 1 Like |
| Re: . by TheSuperNerd(m): 9:05am On Jan 23, 2018 |
Dear Grossintel... I will be very honest with you. Someone else is or may be distracting your woman. I don't think it is a something... I think it is a someone. No woman really in love with her man will forget the one thing or one of the major things that matter to her man- His birthday. There is no reason no earth that will be valid enough to speak in her defence. If she loves you truly, then she will not forget that one detail about you. That is the bloody truth. Being taken for granted is one of the worst feelings a person really in love and putting in the efforts can feel. Op, are you certain this lady loves you truly and deeply or maybe she just loves you partly? You got to be sure of the kind of love you receive because if she can forget your birthday and you won't talk to her about it, then it means you are gonna have to settle for the kind of love where you can be taken for granted times without number. As for whether you should also forget her own birthday... hmmmm... what advice should I give you now? Well, normally, one of the subtle ways you can send her a message about your displeasure will be to forget hers obviously buuuuttttttt........ I wanna ask you something. Do you believe in doing the right thing even when it looks stupid sometimes? In this case, I am thinking that you should probably not forget her birthday. I think you should honor her on her birthday and even get her a little something too.... but do it with a note that reads something like, "Today I celebrate the woman I love and plan to make my wife. Today I celebrate all that you are to me and all that you would still become for us and for our future. I Love you and I adore you. I just want to say Happy Birthday. Honey, I was really hurt when you forgot my birthday but you see, nothing will actually make me forget yours. Have a beautiful birthday Baby, It is well" Now, this way, you have done two things My friend.  You remembered her birthday and honored her but you also passed a message across softly of your hurt at what she did before then. I don't know the full details of the kind of woman she is but what I do know is that if she feels love for you indeed, then she will be ashamed of herself and even feel that your love is far more genuine than hers. This should make her rethink for next time and ensure she doesn't repeat such nonsense. That is if she loves you indeed. This could also make her reduce whatever might be taking her distraction away from you. Listen just try it. In the end, you don't wanna repay bad with bad. You just wanna be a gentleman with class and "good sense" All the best Sir Grossintel. Wish you the best in your relationship.  1 Like |
| Re: . by stinkmeaner: 9:10am On Jan 23, 2018 |
Na bday dey worry this one |
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