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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Zheemub(f): 7:25pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Anugod:Lol Nope. Am in Jalingo. Taraba state |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
zaynie:this woman eh 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Glowprincess: 8:07pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
MercyMercy: Your son is so fine 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Glowprincess: 8:14pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
lady25: Had this same issue too. Doc said it wasn't stitched well. I was given some pills and it dried up. The pain might be as a result of infection. 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by lady25(f): 8:32pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Glowprincess:My fear has been 'not been stitched well". I hope this is not the case. |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by MercyMercy(f): 8:47pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Glowprincess:Thanks my sister |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Jina24(f): 8:48pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Zheemub: Wooooooowww |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Nobody: 9:02pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Bread with tea Giddyperson: 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by greenpenwriter: 9:15pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Dear Mamas, I am member of this thread, but had to use this moniker to conceal my identity. I have a serious issue and I need sincere advice. Dear Mamas, I am member of this thread, but had to use this moniker to conceal my identity. I have a serious issue and I need sincere advice. This is an epistle. My brother-in-law has been staying with my husband (on and off) before we got married. Our marriage is 2 years old. He started living with us fully by time we were married. My husband left for the U.S to acquire Masters / P.hd degrees in August 2016. Our plan is to join him (including my BIL) by December this year. Ever since he left, my BIL has been putting on some attitude that I don't like. All these he did not do when my husband was around. He brings in all manner of friends to the house everyday till late in the night. Atimes, I walk to the sitting room at night and meet strangers lying on the couch. Some cook indomie in the kitchen when am off to work. Some even sleep over for days and he won't let me know. He brings them in immediately I retire to bed at night and sneak them out. I once confronted his friend I saw in the house around 11pm and he simply told me that the guy is sleeping (without informing me prior). He will go out and come in with friends around 9-10pm and those ones will not leave until 11pm or more. Some days ago, some strange faces came in with him around 8pm and they simply walked to the bedroom area (in the dark as there was no power supply at that time. We only kept light in the sitting room). He entertains his friends with all these gin (ogogoro) brands when am off at work. The only time I asked him about it was when I saw an empty bottle of gin under the couch (he forgot it there). I kept it and asked him about it when I got back from work. He "repectfully" told me that he used it to entertain his friend. An issue cropped up 4 days ago, he left with the house with his friends around 9pm and around to 11pm, I heard him open the main door. Thus, I assumed he is back. I told my House Help to put all the bolts on the door and go to bed that I will re-check the doors before I sleep. I was baffled when my husband's elder sis called me at work and asked why I locked my BIL outside yesterday. I argued with her that the statement is not true, until she told me that it was my BIL that said I locked him outside and he had to trek to a friend's house around 12pm. From BIL's explanation to her, he opened the door briefly to take phone charger "to 11pm" and he ran out immediately. I was bitter and angry that why is this guy trying to give me a bad name? That I chased him out because my husband is not around? The question now is; Why can't he knock the door harder when he discovered all the bolts were locked from inside? Or call my phone lines? Or shout my name by my bedroom window (we stay on the ground floor)? Or know my window frame? Or wake my HH help up through her bedroom window? My BIL simply called his parents and siblings that I have locked him outside, and that I don't want him to stay in our house again. For the very first time, I told my mum abt an issue in my home. She called my MIL to please put my BIL in check and that ordinarily an adult (my BIL) is not supposed to be staying with new/young couples in the first 2 years of marriage...and that she kept quiet because I said my BIL is a good guy. She also told my MIL to him to saying he'll still scatter my HH's head with wood one day. This is a girl that does not talk to him at all. I have also warned him about these in the time past, but he still persisted with the utterance. All these talks between my Mum and my MIL intensified the heat. My DH people blamed me for telling my mum about the "locking my BIL outside" incident. When I got back from work that day, my BIL came to me and said it was not my fault that he was locked outside...that my househelp said I was the one that locked him outside and it got him angry. This was a girl that was fast asleep that period cos she'll be going to school the following day. AND TODAY, I told him that he must not bring friends to this house again and he must not bring ogogoro to this house again. He simply told me that I don't have the right to tell him that. I said it is my house and he said who told me that. He said he has been bringing friends to his brother's housee before he got married and I can not stop him now. I said he should come to terms with the fac that his brother is now married. He insisted that I don't have right to tell him not to bring people into the house or HIS ROOM. This conversation has caused serious issues and my DH's siblings has told him to leave our house. I want you all to sincerely point out my faults cos they are all on my neck that I don't have a right to tell my BIL to stop bringing ogogoro (gin) and friends to the house again. NOTE: My BIL is 26 and an unemployed graduate. I am also 3 years older than him. Cc: All Mamas. |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Lilliesbud12: 9:28pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
I saw this article & thought to share it. Home remedies for blocked milk duct eskimi.com Jan 27, 2018 4:02 PM If you are a nursing mother and you constantly experience reduced milk supply in your boobs, redness, and soreness, pain around a breast or both. You might just be suffering from blocked milk duct which is caused by stress, lack of sleep, tight bras or clothing, certain sleeping positions and many other factors. To get rid of the pain real quick here are some effective home remedies that would prove effective. Massage This you can do yourself right before breastfeeding your baby. Massage the affected breast with both hands and try to squeeze out the blockage by using your index finger and thumb. Garlic and honey A blocked milk duct could easily result in mastitis, to prevent this eventuality crush some garlic cloves and mix with honey. Drink this mixture regularly. Take a hot shower With coconut oil in hand direct hot water onto the affected breast and massage with coconut oil for fast relief from clogged milk duct. Pineapple juice Pineapple contains Bromelain that works effectively in reducing inflammation and blockage found in the clogged milk duct. Drink a cup or two of freshly squeezed pineapple juice on a daily basis to fix this, you should also take foods rich in vitamin C like broccoli, tomatoes, kiwi fruit, orange, grapefruit, etc. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by enque(f): 9:48pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Jina24: Ur village Abi? 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by ochis24: 9:49pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Giddyperson: Am wit u o... I follow jare. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Giddyperson: 9:53pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Naomi14:bread with formula ok 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Zheemub(f): 9:56pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Jina24:This your wooooooww get as it be oo. You dey Jalingo too ma? 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by temmy2103(f): 10:33pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
@greenpenwriter I dey come |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by hunniesuzie: 10:33pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Lol. Greenpenwriter where does your husband stand in all of this? In any case anybody that cannot abide by the house rules is free to go and rent his own house. Afturoh he's a grown man shebi? Except he is paying rent with you sha You people are very patient in this place sha, very calm and loving wives. I need to learn at your feet 6 Likes |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Jina24(f): 10:34pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by hunniesuzie: 10:35pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
So you were one of those Efe goons... Giddyperson: |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by hunniesuzie: 10:46pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
According to my paed you shouldnt deworm babies under 1 or less than 10kg (1 year old weight) Take him to the hospital let them check him out. He could have a sore throat or inflamed tonsils making it hard to swallow Also benylin or any cough syrup isn't appropriate for children under one. Was it prescribed for him? eksbabe: 2 Likes |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Jina24(f): 10:49pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
When it comes to in-law matter ehn, the case is always tiring. Every step you take is always read with one meaning or the other and its usually in the negative. Okay, if I were in your shoes I just might not have confronted my BIL directly not because I can't (my head dey touch too sometimes) but I will rather channel all the hurts I feel on my hubby till he takes the right action and caution his brother. For everything he does I don't like I will so yell at hubby after all, it was he who encouraged such behaviour in the first place. I might not say direct words to my BIL but my countenance and rapor with him will definitely send my message. You know its easier to handle your own people then in-laws. May God see you through all this. Cc: greenpenwriter 3 Likes |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by katchycouture(f): 10:50pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
greenpenwriter: if I talk na they will say I'm teaching you bad thing.... well me I would have actually locked him out of the house since since, what is your husband's stand in all of these? is he in support of his brother's behaviours?? does your husband also agree with you that the moment he married you the house belongs to you??.. this answers will determine the type of advice you will get.. but that ur brother in law get luck oooo, I would have locked him outside or mistakenly pour hit water on his guests that sleep on ur couch and claim I thought it was a mid night thief, by the time I pour hot water on 2 people ehn, his friends will refuse to come and visit in the daytime....no no no,i would have just simply locked him outside and turn deafter ears to what the in laws will say.. 3 Likes |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by greenpenwriter: 11:56pm On Jan 27, 2018 |
katchycouture: I spoke with my husband some hours ago and he started by saying it's not good for his brother to bring friends and all to the house. We had a break in converstation (phone call) and during the next conversation, he was indirectly blaming for giving his brother rules on not drinking and bringing friends home. I'm just so disappointed at him. I cried bitterly. Meanwhile, I have repeatedly told my husband to call his brother to order on this issue in the time past. I guess he did not, because the guy intensified his misdeeds. I had to resort to telling my BIL calmly about what I expect from him. Things actually got worse. I had to tell him with all seriousness and firmness today, but he told me I cannot tell him not to bring friends into the house. |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by greenpenwriter: 12:01am On Jan 28, 2018 |
katchycouture: I spoke with my husband some hours ago and he started by saying it's not good for his brother to bring friends and all to the house. We had a break in converstation (phone call) and during the next conversation, he was indirectly blaming for giving his brother rules on not drinking and bringing friends home. I'm just so disappointed at him. I cried bitterly. Meanwhile, I have repeatedly told my husband to call his brother to order on this issue in the time past. I guess he did not, because the guy intensified his misdeeds. I had to resort to telling my BIL calmly about what I expect from him. Things actually got worse. I had to tell him with all seriousness and firmness today, but he told me I cannot tell him not to bring friends into the house. |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by greenpenwriter: 12:11am On Jan 28, 2018 |
Jina24: @Bolded1, these has beeen done on several ocassion. I mean a million times and it yielded no result. Rather, he wants to start seeing me as a nag and that I don't like his brother. @Bolded2, it was with this option that they said I don't like his stay in my house and they held on to it. They even told my husband that I don't play or laugh with them. That I'll rather stay on my own than talk to them. |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by greenpenwriter: 12:24am On Jan 28, 2018 |
hunniesuzie: Initially, he said his brother's actions are bad and suddenly (perhaps after talking to his peeps) , he started blaming me for telling his brother not to drink and bring friends to the house. That since I wanted him to leave the house for me, he will leave. I felt so disappointed in my DH. None of them is even talking about the main issue or reprimanding him for giving me so much stress. |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by LholarB(f): 1:02am On Jan 28, 2018 |
Giddyperson:. Meeeeee ,I and DH being counting down since... We even Filled up the generator tank already, can't afford to miss the Live show today |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by LholarB(f): 1:04am On Jan 28, 2018 |
Thanks Anugod and kelizosuy, she is better now !! 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by JDQueen: 1:23am On Jan 28, 2018 |
LholarB: Giddyperson: Please don't make start crying. Am trying not to feel pained that I can't watch till mid show. |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by katchycouture(f): 4:35am On Jan 28, 2018 |
greenpenwriter: then you have to over look your brother in law because your husband is not fully on ur side, don't do what will create problems between you and ur husband.. if he is in support of his brother's life style then so be it, just make sure ur room is kept locked all the time and ur househelp is kept far away from rape and other form of abuse... my advice to you is to just ignore your brother inlaw and don't threaten to send him away from the house againecessarily, let him do as he pleases in his brother's housee.. kpele, all will be well 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by greenpenwriter: 5:19am On Jan 28, 2018 |
katchycouture: Thanks mama, but I never for once said he should leave the house. My offence is telling him to stop drinking in the house and bringing friends in. They have all agreed to let him stay in my SIL in-law's place henceforth. I tolerated more than enough, I need to protect myself, my baby and my Hh too. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by omotolanibaby(f): 6:28am On Jan 28, 2018 |
greenpenwriter:to me it's ur husband that supposed to caution him and set d rules for him 1 Like |
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by greenpenwriter: 6:32am On Jan 28, 2018 |
omotolanibaby: He refused to do that for reasons best known to him. |
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