jasper83:



Life is just too funny. In fact it's truly a series of unlimited schools we all go through but at different stages of our lives as humans but mysterious taught with almost if not the same syllabus with little or no editing but with different teachers.

What happened to you bros happened to my elder bro almost a decade ago, in fact if he is privy to read this thread na laugh he go dey laugh. Now quick one, do you want an honest advice devoid of emotions? please drop that lady asap. God has just saved you from a future marital crisis, as a man you must have a discerning spirit and try to be less emotional. I know it's not easy but that the only way to life a long and fulfilled life and it's an hard way. I have learnt in a very hard way to adopt it and it's working for me.

Your girlfriend mum not liking you is a huge red flag for me, secondly concerning that pastor lover boy na dia way be that always intimidating people with God say this and that, let him have her by taking undue advantages like closeness to her mum, the spiritual inclination to the story blah blah. Na dia wahala be that, I know it's painful when you think of the great times you have shared together, maybe the smoochings, hugs, great sex etc, you are now imagining her doing it with the pastor, no think am, na dia wahala let him have her.

Bros fear anybody that over analyses issues,what does she mean by my grandmother married twice, my mum same thing, you see na dia way be that always trying to spiritualise and rhyming stuffs together.
God forgive me ooo, something tells me it's that pastor during the wooing that deposited that consciousness in my heart coupled with her mum unlikeness for you. But they have forgotten that marital bliss comes from God only, marrying a pastor doesn't guarantee that evident by what we read daily. She saying that she hasn't choosen a bae is a lie, from abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh, she just doesn't want to hurt you so she wants to gradually withdraw. Just watch and observe her tactically withdrawing, she is gone, please forget her and move on. If you forcely marry her any time the union has any minor issues she will always refer to this time that she doesn't want to do but you coerced her into the union and nothing makes a man go mad like that ugly statement which will surely leads to domestic violence and the end of the union. Hasn't she said it? that your union with her will be unblissful abinitio? Bros abeg think without emotions...

This is the best time of your life to run your race without distraction and shine like a star, when the time is ripe you will surely get yours. Set the record straight at the start, do genotype test, medical compatibility, spiritual blah blah no time for story. Be strong we have passed through that route before, welcome to the CLUB of strong men!

infact eeeeeh... U have said it all.... May God keep blessing you

divinehand2003:
This advice goes to the ladies;

If any man comes to tell you that God told him that you will be his wife, my advise is that you should let him know that God has to inform you about it too. Both Joseph and Mary were informed about Jesus's arrival. Yours shouldn't be any different.

Most people dey use God Name dey lie to women ooooo.

well, it shows dat d lady does not hav a mind of her own, that means even if u married, someone can still tell her dat GOD said she is a wrong marriage abd she will leave, some ladies hav tissue brain

i dont really comment on posts, but i have to help someone here.. my sincere advice is, that lady does not believe in your future, dont be decieved, if she can come up with this trash after 5yrs, if u eventually marry her, it will lead to break-up, i make bold to tell you her hrt is not with u, dealing with indecisive woman is emotionally dangerous.. please be smart and move ON

bignigerian:
Hi guys I have to open an account to let out this story.

My girlfriend of 5 years, she was 18 and I was 23 both students when we met. We have shared everything together, I mean everything u can possibly think of. She told me she can't continue the relationship. That we can't marry each other.

Her reasons
She met 2 pastors who told her we are not compatible with each other. One told her in 2014 and the other in 2016 of which she told me about both of them. But last 3 weeks she broke the ice on the grounds that
1. she needs to choose her husband with all diligence. That her grandmother has 2 husbands, her mum has 2 husbands and she can't thread that path because those pastors told her we shall split if she marries me.
2. She doesn't want me to hear that she got married to someone else.

Her mum doesn't like me and doesn't want me to marry her and recently she is pestering her to marry another man, her Pastor. This man talks with her every time, calls her, gives her and her mother gifts. Well I give them gifts to my capacity too. But pastor is playing son-in-law game well because he (pastor) said God told him that she is his wife. The pastor anyway happened to be a real pastor, I can attest to that, but I can't vouch if his vision is from God or self induced.

But babe told me she has not made up her mind yet and that she didn't break up with me to marry that man. That she will take her time to decide what she will do and maintaining a single status.

We all stay in the same neighborhood, bae is a nairalander too. She will see this and get angry but...
I need matured views on this issue...

Op, it is good to let her be.

I was in similar situations some years ago. Dated a lady for 4 years, we met when she was in year 1, second semester final year, she told me, she was no longer interested. I was devastated, the shock landed me in the hospital, The plan was that before she goes for her NYSC, we do the introduction and after NYSC, we do the tradition and white wedding, unknown to me, her pastor was reformatting her brain and she swallowed whatsoever she was been told.

Her mum and sisters tried to convince her, but she stuck to her guns. I tried talking her out of her decision, but could not get her to change her decision. After all said and done, no change of heart, I let go and faced the future, hoping for the best.

Fast forward to 2016: 15 years after her self decision to quit the relationship, I ran into her elder sister, asked about her, the elder sister told me she was doing well, but she (girlfriend) was still single. I felt very bad and disappointed.

So sometimes what you can't change, you have to let go.

kaywhy09:


Are you the one? Oya share your story if you are

ask am o

Hmmm..... same issues happening to me now.... After 4years & 2months of a good relationship with a lady she just decided we cant move on together just this week.... its so painful bro but you just have to move on with your life bro.... Ladies of nowaday are easily decieved.... I pray we will not make a deadly mistake in Life....

Pathfinder121:
Have you prayed personally and God told you she is your wife? If not, God back to God in personal intercession and seek clarity. Sacrificing a 5 year old relationship for a blissful future shouldn't be a problem.

From my personal experience, God showed me a lady as my wife and she refused my request. I let her be but today am married (with unfathomable fulfilment, achievement and happiness) but she's not.

No Pastor can choose a wife for you, they can only guide you and sometimes personal interest are paramount to them.

If you want a wife and a glorious future, go to God in prayer and seek His face. You require patience, determination and perseverance though.



Thank me later.

wait bro God showed you the lady did God show her you re the man.
your sense of judgement met be beclouded and work with ur imagination when u sleep therefore thinking is God that show you but your want and insatiable for d woman is actually working on you.

Trust me this vision is not one sided, u can't go out of God visions, if he showed u,he will show the woman

yusasiv:
Bro, i know how it feels, honestly.. I wish there is a better way to counsel u on this but it's all good.. All u need right now is prayer bro, for everything that's good or bad demands prayer... I was once in your shoes bro, a story for another day... Don't let desperation makes u jump into what is not meant to be, take your time to observe how things goes and make sure u never deter from praying.. Btw, am a Muslim, i don't believe in someone being too real as a clergy man, all i believe in is GOD that i worship.... DON'T allow anyone to intimidate u or makes u feel like u don't deserve what u have, believe me, the Creator hasn't revealed the future to anybody yet

Honestly you said it all I understand this n feel this is right

sinaj:
She is in love with her pastor not you.

She already told u that u not a husband material
So what else do u want to knw.

Na wa for u ooo

Which work the pastor dey do apart from pastorial job, it simply means that pastor is using the money been sow as a seed by the members of his church to buy gifts for ur bae's mom...its OK. Jst be strong and let go of the girl as she's bn giving u silly excuses and let her be if she ain't ready to marry u

adeyemik:


Op, it is good to let her be.

I was in similar situations some years ago. Dated a lady for 4 years, we met when she was in year 1, second semester final year, she told me, she was no longer interested. I was devastated, the shock landed me in the hospital, The plan was that before she goes for her NYSC, we do the introduction and after NYSC, we do the tradition and white wedding, unknown to me, her pastor was reformatting her brain and she swallowed whatsoever she was been told.

Her mum and sisters tried to convince her, but she stuck to her guns. I tried talking her out of her decision, but could not get her to change her decision. After all said and done, no change of heart, I let go and faced the future, hoping for the best.

Fast forward to 2016: 15 years after her self decision to quit the relationship, I ran into her elder sister, asked about her, the elder sister told me she was doing well, but she (girlfriend) was still single. I felt very bad and disappointed.

So sometimes what you can't change, you have to let go.

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you felt bad lol.
the truth is Many ladies can't take decision for themselves.
they are daft,fish brain,many of them will never get married cos of this.

and besides pastors has ruined Many girls life In Nigeria

All the Pastors she met must have knack knack her front and back. I trust Pastors on that. Any fine girl for counseling must be knack

[quote author=jasper83 post=64736356]


Life is just too funny. In fact it's truly a series of unlimited schools we all go through but at different stages of our lives as humans but mysterious taught with almost if not the same syllabus with little or no editing but with different teachers.

What happened to you bros happened to my elder bro almost a decade ago, in fact if he is privy to read this thread na laugh he go dey laugh. Now quick one, do you want an honest advice devoid of emotions? please drop that lady asap. God has just saved you from a future marital crisis, as a man you must have a discerning spirit and try to be less emotional. I know it's not easy but that the only way to life a long and fulfilled life and it's an hard way. I have learnt in a very hard way to adopt it and it's working for me.

Your girlfriend mum not liking you is a huge red flag for me, secondly concerning that pastor lover boy na dia way be that always intimidating people with God say this and that, let him have her by taking undue advantages like closeness to her mum, the spiritual inclination to the story blah blah. Na dia wahala be that, I know it's painful when you think of the great times you have shared together, maybe the smoochings, hugs, great sex etc, you are now imagining her doing it with the pastor, no think am, na dia wahala let him have her.

Bros fear anybody that over analyses issues,what does she mean by my grandmother married twice, my mum same thing, you see na dia way be that always trying to spiritualise and rhyming stuffs together.
God forgive me ooo, something tells me it's that pastor during the wooing that deposited that consciousness in my heart coupled with her mum unlikeness for you. But they have forgotten that marital bliss comes from God only, marrying a pastor doesn't guarantee that evident by what we read daily. She saying that she hasn't choosen a bae is a lie, from abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh, she just doesn't want to hurt you so she wants to gradually withdraw. Just watch and observe her tactically withdrawing, she is gone, please forget her and move on. If you forcely marry her any time the union has any minor issues she will always refer to this time that she doesn't want to do but you coerced her into the union and nothing makes a man go mad like that ugly statement which will surely leads to domestic violence and the end of the union. Hasn't she said it? that your union with her will be unblissful abinitio? Bros abeg think without emotions...

This is the best time of your life to run your race without distraction and shine like a star, when the time is ripe you will surely get yours. Set the record straight at the start, do genotype test, medical compatibility, spiritual blah blah no time for story. Be strong we have passed through that route before, welcome to the CLUB of strong men!

Great words of advice bro...... am also learning things here..... A lady just hurt my heart now.

donstan18:
What opinion do you need?
C'omon will you move on!!!

Na so

mastermaestro:


Never force anyone to marry you. If she doesn't want you, persuade her but don't force her to accept you. You'll regret it. People don't wake up and walk away from a marriage bound relationship for nothing. Respect her decision. Move on, no matter how hard it is.

Words on marble! I cherish this.

I don't think your gf loves u the way u love her. I was once in her shoes where one pastor told me my bf is not my husband and that my husband in not in nigeria bla bla bla. I just discarded it even though I mentioned it jokingly to him(we don't hide tins from eachoda).

HerXLNC:
Never beg someone to marry you because if you beg them to marry u, u ll keep begging them to stay in the relationship..... Feelings for marriage should be mutual if not just walk away....you won't regret it

That's right. You are mouthed

bignigerian:
Hi guys I have to open an account to let out this story.

My girlfriend of 5 years, she was 18 and I was 23 both students when we met. We have shared everything together, I mean everything u can possibly think of. She told me she can't continue the relationship. That we can't marry each other.

Her reasons
She met 2 pastors who told her we are not compatible with each other. One told her in 2014 and the other in 2016 of which she told me about both of them. But last 3 weeks she broke the ice on the grounds that
1. she needs to choose her husband with all diligence. That her grandmother has 2 husbands, her mum has 2 husbands and she can't thread that path because those pastors told her we shall split if she marries me.
2. She doesn't want me to hear that she got married to someone else.

Her mum doesn't like me and doesn't want me to marry her and recently she is pestering her to marry another man, her Pastor. This man talks with her every time, calls her, gives her and her mother gifts. Well I give them gifts to my capacity too. But pastor is playing son-in-law game well because he (pastor) said God told him that she is his wife. The pastor anyway happened to be a real pastor, I can attest to that, but I can't vouch if his vision is from God or self induced.

But babe told me she has not made up her mind yet and that she didn't break up with me to marry that man. That she will take her time to decide what she will do and maintaining a single status.

We all stay in the same neighborhood, bae is a nairalander too. She will see this and get angry but...
I need matured views on this issue...

She knows what she wants... Not YOU,just move on,there's nothing you can do if her mom doesn't want her to marry you,move on nigga

adeyemik:


Op, it is good to let her be.

I was in similar situations some years ago. Dated a lady for 4 years, we met when she was in year 1, second semester final year, she told me, she was no longer interested. I was devastated, the shock landed me in the hospital, The plan was that before she goes for her NYSC, we do the introduction and after NYSC, we do the tradition and white wedding, unknown to me, her pastor was reformatting her brain and she swallowed whatsoever she was been told.

Her mum and sisters tried to convince her, but she stuck to her guns. I tried talking her out of her decision, but could not get her to change her decision. After all said and done, no change of heart, I let go and faced the future, hoping for the best.

Fast forward to 2016: 15 years after her self decision to quit the relationship, I ran into her elder sister, asked about her, the elder sister told me she was doing well, but she (girlfriend) was still single. I felt very bad and disappointed.

So sometimes what you can't change, you have to let go.

Jesus... 15 years and not married? I was still in secondary school then.

Her heart is not with you so please move on. The most important thing in marriage is getting a woman whose heart is with you. There is nothing you can do about it. The girl is honest, at least she told you about it.

I learnt this lesson over series of failed relationships. I always advice guys, marry a woman that likes you, a woman crazy about you. Don't ever waste your time on any woman claiming you love her. Let her be the one to do the loving. Then I was the one giving love etc but it never worked out.

But the woman I ended up with was madly and crazy about me. Never really took her serous. Then I was weary of women. But she never let go. I decided to give her chance, found out she was genuine. With time I also developed deep likeness for her. A woman that is always grateful that she ended up having me for life. You can imagine how I was wasting my time before on women that never gave a damn about me all in the name of falling in love.

So guys be wise, go for the woman that likes you more. You will enjoy it and it will favour you more.

swinging1976:
Guy, what are you still waiting for? the matter has already been settled, all those grandmother and two husbands stories is just a detour... please move on okay... by the way have you gotten your PVC?

I appreciate all your comments but I quoted this dude cos the PVC thing lifted my spirit

Thanks to everyone who has contributed to my life. I will say again that nairalanders gave their views without the crazy and outrageous insults. Well there were a few harsh words... lol

My girlfriend of two years broke up with me yesterday too because of what her pastor told her. It happens. Move on with your life and be strong enough to let go.

God sees and knows all.

12th December 2015 was when I was in your exact shoe. I must confess, it is not easy but today, my story has changed. I tied the nuptial knot with my Queen 30th December 2017 and I remain grateful to my ex for breaking my heart.




It is just unfortunate how some of our pastors take advantage of the nature of women by inducing fear in them through fake and unfounded prophesy.

bignigerian:
Hi guys I have to open an account to let out this story.

My girlfriend of 5 years, she was 18 and I was 23 both students when we met. We have shared everything together, I mean everything u can possibly think of. She told me she can't continue the relationship. That we can't marry each other.

Her reasons
She met 2 pastors who told her we are not compatible with each other. One told her in 2014 and the other in 2016 of which she told me about both of them. But last 3 weeks she broke the ice on the grounds that
1. she needs to choose her husband with all diligence. That her grandmother has 2 husbands, her mum has 2 husbands and she can't thread that path because those pastors told her we shall split if she marries me.
2. She doesn't want me to hear that she got married to someone else.

Her mum doesn't like me and doesn't want me to marry her and recently she is pestering her to marry another man, her Pastor. This man talks with her every time, calls her, gives her and her mother gifts. Well I give them gifts to my capacity too. But pastor is playing son-in-law game well because he (pastor) said God told him that she is his wife. The pastor anyway happened to be a real pastor, I can attest to that, but I can't vouch if his vision is from God or self induced.

But babe told me she has not made up her mind yet and that she didn't break up with me to marry that man. That she will take her time to decide what she will do and maintaining a single status.

We all stay in the same neighborhood, bae is a nairalander too. She will see this and get angry but...
I need matured views on this issue...

I didn't read your long sermon but take heart

you bring gift to her parent and her pastor did also, even the pastor gift outweigh yours?


my guy this is bet9ja not spiritual whatever. pastor huge gift had disqualify you in their family already


you even said you're sure that the pastor vision is real but you're not sure if is from God, what a contradictory statement


you people wey dey carry religion for head, we keep falling victim of this thrash


she want to maintain her singleness status and she and the pastor do talk I swear which secondary school did you finished from



the lady is gone for good, don't know why u guys take responsibilities of a ladies you haven't married legally. I'm sure some of your friends, family might need the gift you're splashing on the lady family



smh!

Tetragramaton:
If you no what is good for you, live that girl and let her carry her cross. If you know what this pastors are doing now. Its terrible o. She will still end up with two husbands because that pastor is fake. He is not real and he is not using the gift of the holyspirit. He has convinced and connived with her parents spiritually and materially that you don't stand a chance to be with her. If she stays with you , you might not have peace of mind. I have to many stories about pastors hypnotizing married and unmarried women into living their husbands and boyfriends for them. It's very real. This are not men of God but demons in human form and some of this pastors are also married.


Because he sees vision doesnt make him real o. Satan to give gifts. So nothing new. If possible let her see this post and ponder on it before her life is completely ruined. Pastors are ruining lives. Another thing, only very few pastors see total vision when it comes to life partner. In Yoruba, there is something called " eni to ma ba wa kale" meaning someone who will stay till evening.

Many pastors see the morning of the relationship but not evening, only very few have the gift of a complete relationship check hence people make mistakes caused by incomplete prophecies from pastors. If the morning is bad but evening is good the pastor who only saw morning will tell you not to marry the person because he did not see the evening. meanwhile a lot of couples experience many difficulties in their early years " which yorubas call morning, only to go through it and come out victorious in their later years of marriage.

While some pastors will tell you that this person is your perfect match only for you to encounter terrible circumstances and situations in your later years of marriage making you regret why you married the person in the first place.

Before a pastor tell you about any relationship, you must have weighed and discussed many options which include long term goals and possibly worst case scenarios with your partner. If all this match yours! You don't need any pastor to tell you anything.

your head dey there. it's what religion led us into in Africa. we have lost sense of reasoning completely. we let our pastors do the thinking for us and they ( pastors) have a way of putting fear in people, making you do their bidding.

one pastor say, one prophet say. a lot of women today have left their husbands cause they told them he isn't your destined husband. a lot of broken relationships because pastors say they aren't meant for each other.

the story is long and sad, only God can save Christians from false doctrines

Bro! No one has the power to see the future. But some people are gifted predictors.

All these Nigerians and their stupid pastors.

OP please take it easy. You will heal with time. Let her go. I don’t even see it working out between you guys.

Everyone should be wary of people who let ‘pastors’ make decisions for them. Don’t ever marry such a person. There will always be three people in that marriage. And you bet their pastors will always influence your family decisions. That’s so irritating to me

bignigerian:
Hi guys I have to open an account to let out this story.

My girlfriend of 5 years, she was 18 and I was 23 both students when we met. We have shared everything together, I mean everything u can possibly think of. She told me she can't continue the relationship. That we can't marry each other.

Her reasons
She met 2 pastors who told her we are not compatible with each other. One told her in 2014 and the other in 2016 of which she told me about both of them. But last 3 weeks she broke the ice on the grounds that
1. she needs to choose her husband with all diligence. That her grandmother has 2 husbands, her mum has 2 husbands and she can't thread that path because those pastors told her we shall split if she marries me.
2. She doesn't want me to hear that she got married to someone else.

Her mum doesn't like me and doesn't want me to marry her and recently she is pestering her to marry another man, her Pastor. This man talks with her every time, calls her, gives her and her mother gifts. Well I give them gifts to my capacity too. But pastor is playing son-in-law game well because he (pastor) said God told him that she is his wife. The pastor anyway happened to be a real pastor, I can attest to that, but I can't vouch if his vision is from God or self induced.

But babe told me she has not made up her mind yet and that she didn't break up with me to marry that man. That she will take her time to decide what she will do and maintaining a single status.

We all stay in the same neighborhood, bae is a nairalander too. She will see this and get angry but...
I need matured views on this issue...

Are you Born Again?

Take time to pray. Be patient.

God doesn't reveal to Pastors alone.

Find out the mind of God for yourself and save yourself.

BiafranBushBoy:

My sweetheart. .
Lol...

Hmmmm! Easy ooooo bro

bignigerian:
Hi guys I have to open an account to let out this story.

My girlfriend of 5 years, she was 18 and I was 23 both students when we met. We have shared everything together, I mean everything u can possibly think of. She told me she can't continue the relationship. That we can't marry each other.

Her reasons
She met 2 pastors who told her we are not compatible with each other. One told her in 2014 and the other in 2016 of which she told me about both of them. But last 3 weeks she broke the ice on the grounds that
1. she needs to choose her husband with all diligence. That her grandmother has 2 husbands, her mum has 2 husbands and she can't thread that path because those pastors told her we shall split if she marries me.
2. She doesn't want me to hear that she got married to someone else.

Her mum doesn't like me and doesn't want me to marry her and recently she is pestering her to marry another man, her Pastor. This man talks with her every time, calls her, gives her and her mother gifts. Well I give them gifts to my capacity too. But pastor is playing son-in-law game well because he (pastor) said God told him that she is his wife. The pastor anyway happened to be a real pastor, I can attest to that, but I can't vouch if his vision is from God or self induced.

But babe told me she has not made up her mind yet and that she didn't break up with me to marry that man. That she will take her time to decide what she will do and maintaining a single status.

We all stay in the same neighborhood, bae is a nairalander too. She will see this and get angry but...
I need matured views on this issue...

actually I wanted to pass by this topic, but think its necessary to stop by just to tell you that you are stupid.

So a girl left you and you bleed blood instead of tears.
Seek deliverance from stupidity and move with your life, and in your next life don't dare to love a woman cos they don't deserve love. Just friend them and care for them

Be warn
Don't love a woman
To serve urself from heart attack