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Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by clemmonce(m): 8:04am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Zanxx:yes ... you can give me a hug..... Lol 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by Letzdothething: 8:06am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Ignatio:free bleeping? What does that mean? Did she pay for the bleeping? It is people like you that make ladies think they do guys favour by having sex. A prostitute will Bleep you better sef. Get a life 5 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by oilofgladness1(m): 8:08am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Bro make sure ur heart is settled before u try it.... It's a life journey. |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by skales67(m): 8:26am On Feb 14, 2018 |
koolg: Dude...she's not a wife yet. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by lardeipo(f): 8:29am On Feb 14, 2018 |
deanxy:that's not an excuse at all. you said the lady has not demanded for anything since 5 years, I have a feeling you don't expect her to demand for anything later in the future too. even if she didn't ask either because she is independent or trying to be, her younger siblings will ask especially if she is the first child or female. major question, do you wait until she ask before you give her? |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by Halo22: 8:31am On Feb 14, 2018 |
kmcutez:Sorry, but it should be talk more of and not talk less of. |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by frank202012: 8:32am On Feb 14, 2018 |
mickybeejay: Mr helper,relationships re not employment opportunities. There are ways things re been done. What is wrong with u guys sef. Oga if u have a mom go and take care of them nd free ur in-laws Smh 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by Halo22: 8:36am On Feb 14, 2018 |
You guys have said it all and that was enough to reset the dudes poor mindset. |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by chronique(m): 8:37am On Feb 14, 2018 |
gcof: No,it's not so. I can't ask some of my siblings for money cos I don't feel comfortable asking them. I'd rather ask a friend outside. It has a lot to do with how comfortable you are with such a person. |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by Azam101: 8:58am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Bros you wicked oo just because of some little assistant you want to Benjohnson! in short thunder fire u! |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by bizyromy(m): 9:07am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Imagine girls saying they hate stingy men.Who stingy pas? The one mugu dash u hu u share am wit?The recharge card dey send to u do u call dem wit it?Wat do u do?flash den wit it.As for Ladies, their money is their asset and dat of the man is for donation.l can't suffer and hussle for my money and a lady will want me to part way wit my sweat so easily.If u refuse to fall mugu den go call u stingy.I gree.I stingy.She should work for her own money.Jus that on my own accord i will give her wat i feel like giving.Aside dat paying her house rent and school fees is not my responsibility until i marry her.If they are already married and this request is coming up i don't think the op wil feel bad.No man will sit down and watch his inlaw having financial constrain and he will fold his hands and do nothing. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by gcof(m): 9:10am On Feb 14, 2018 |
chronique:my guy your friend is your friend, your daughter’s boyfriend is her boyfriend. Remember they are still contemplating settling down not that he has officially seen her family. She should have simply asked through her daughter and if her daughter sees reason not to ask her boyfriend then they respect that 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by 2m2mdarling: 9:18am On Feb 14, 2018 |
sir, I can tell you they don't need your money the mother is just trying to protect her inexperienced, innocent and vulnerable daughter from you.she had fears about you and you confirmed her fears. can you imagine you dating a girl for five years and you are planning to get married to her and you don't Know if she was going through such problem or not. it only meant that you intentionally avoided money related discussions. come to think about it, for five years they never ask you for anything until now you are getting married, and that was your test and you failed. she told you the money was for her school fees (to know how dedicated you are to her personal needs) that the rest is for her brother's school fees (trying to know if you will take him as your own) and that she sees you as her son (are you ready to take her as your mom?). we read about people like you on mother's forums like mamalette who see their in-laws as a burden and tries to break their spouses away from their families. sir before thinking of getting married to her or to any other girl, work on your giving life , your ability to shoulder responsibilities and the way you treat others remember women are incubators give them a seed they will give you a tree! 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by LaudableXX: 9:24am On Feb 14, 2018 |
ChiefSweetus:When people like you lack valid points, they resort to insults. Daft and greedy must be your middle names. If you had read all my responses on this thread, you would have seen the advice offered to the OP. You referred to the 5 year relationship as mere "fornicating' with the daughter. Some marriages do not even last that long. But then you are too myopic to see that. People go out of their way to help total strangers, how much more those they know. But then, a "hungry selfish nl activist looking to indoctrinate magadom" like you would lack the basic wisdom to understand that, wouldn't you? 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by sekem: 9:24am On Feb 14, 2018 |
nike4love: The truth is that I am too old in this game I don't let any female bullshït to pass through I try as much as possible to set the rules from the very onset And one of those rules is that I am not in any way a father christmas Most guys make that mistake of not calling the girl to order ab initio Only to later start grumbling and complaining when the demands start to increase or become too frequent I understand Most of such guys are either too afraid to speak up or risk losing the girl or they have simply been sucked in into the real man movie script written for them by women But I have none of such handicaps If the biatch likes she's free to go at anytime Like fiddy cent said in P.I.M.P, mayne bïtches come and go... 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by Nobody: 9:27am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Halo22: Thanks for the correction. It's been awhile I left school. Lol |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by obinoral1179(m): 9:27am On Feb 14, 2018 |
deanxy:You and all the people that gave you likes are a disgrace to the men folks...... Wenger stinginess dey learn from you....... |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by ZeroShenanigan(m): 9:29am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Heartless, if you dont have the they asked for, it's. a different case. If you are asking us what to do when you can afford to help, pls you are not serious bro. Your wife to be deserve more than that, after five good years. just talk to your girl. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by Olawale118(m): 9:32am On Feb 14, 2018 |
the OP is very immature |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by LaudableXX: 9:35am On Feb 14, 2018 |
2m2mdarling:And it was even the 1st time she had ever asked in 5 years! Even if he couldn't give her everything she asked for, he could have given her half of it by saying that is all he can afford for now. Instead of even calling the girl, and seeking ways to address the issue, he wants to dump her for a demand she didn't make, and something she probably had no knowledge about. By the time he leaves her, and a different sly character enters his life that collects 5 times the amount from him under various guises, he will still come back to NL to lament. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by babythug(f): 9:37am On Feb 14, 2018 |
lieutenantprime: It's not appropriate for any reasonable parent to make demands of the boyfriend or girlfriend of thier child. Especially financial, a few random errands may be ok* but not an outright 'give me money' Doesn't the woman have relatives or friends to borrow from? Why will she throw away her dignity like that! 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by babythug(f): 9:40am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Acidosis: To me It's not appropriate for any reasonable parent to make demands of the boyfriend or girlfriend of thier child. Especially financial, a few random errands may be ok* but not an outright 'give me money' Doesn't the woman have relatives or friends to borrow from? Why will she throw away her dignity like that! 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by chiteny(m): 9:41am On Feb 14, 2018 |
deanxy: Simply put bros, YOU ARE WICKED!! |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by MrBottle: 9:56am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Op, Nairaland never forget. Next they will give you a rope to kill yourself cos you did the unthinkable. Even the brokest and stingiest of guys here are against you. Next time you choose your battle wisely. |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by andycom(m): 10:04am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Maychang: the guy is not only stingy but egotistical, you dating someone for 5years and you don't notice she has financial issues. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by delishpot: 10:06am On Feb 14, 2018 |
deanxy: Ask yourself why the girl couldn't approach you personally? Maybe you have been telling her how you end any relationship the moment a woman asks for anything because if you want to give you give without her asking so the moment she asks you feel used or that she is greedy? Maybe she told her mom she couldn't face you and out if desperation the woman came to you. It seems this is the first time in 5 years this is happening why are you taking it so personal? 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by chronique(m): 10:15am On Feb 14, 2018 |
gcof: People are different and relate differently. The fact that he isn't comfortable with it,doesn't mean it is wrong. That He doesn't like it, is not enough reason to start canceling wedding. I definitely wouldn't encourage my sister to marry someone who thinks like this. For Bleep's sake,Nigeria of today is hard and people are dying silently because they can't share their problems with others. The last thing we should do,is to start making them feel bad because they asked us for help. That the daughter hasn't asked for a dime in five years of dating, shows to a large extent that she doesn't know how to ask for things. The mom could have asked with the thinking that he'd be matured enough to reason with her since the demand is coming from an elderly person. It is things like these,that makes people die in silence and when they are gone,we'd start typing useless RIP up and down. Personally, I derive joy in helping people in need and I'd never stop giving if I have the means to. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by owowa145(m): 10:18am On Feb 14, 2018 |
deanxy:Oya stingy stingy, come and borrow the spirit of Philanthropy. ![]() |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by nicetboy(m): 10:19am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Oga you are too stingy and you don't deserve that girl. I pray she see your true colour before is too late for her. stingy man |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 10:33am On Feb 14, 2018 |
deanxy:Brotherly you harsh o... This is the first time in 5years. Don't you think it must have been embarrassing for the woman to ask you but due to the situation, she had to damn the shame and stoop low to ask you for help? Nigga... If you have, help out. If you don't have up to the amount, give what you can afford. Believe me, you will feel really good about yourself if you do and from experience, your love for the said girl might even increase.. it's no big deal if you have the money and can help. If anything, I hate to be broke when people ask me for help because I find it very embarrassing for me to say "I don't have". Its 5 fvcking year's bro and you said it yourself.... She and her mum have been nice to you. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by eunisam: 10:46am On Feb 14, 2018 |
deanxy How are you sure she is the one that sent the sms? is sms the usual way of communicating with her? bros ignore the text let it not be as if you are afraid of responsibilities. |
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