Nigga44:
Maybe her mother had suggested the daughter asking you for the money......., but your girl turned it down cos of shyness or some other reason.


Check if your girl really needs the money and if you can help please do. It's 5 freaking years man!!! C'mon.

skales67:
Dude...she's not a wife yet.

Letzdothething:
free bleeping? What does that mean? Did she pay for the bleeping? It is people like you that make ladies think they do guys favour by having sex.

A prostitute will Bleep you better sef.

Get a life

babythug:




To me It's not appropriate for any reasonable parent to make demands of the boyfriend or girlfriend of thier child. Especially financial, a few random errands may be ok* but not an outright 'give me money'

Doesn't the woman have relatives or friends to borrow from? Why will she throw away her dignity like that!

She sent me a text asking for financial assistance.

That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount

before the end of the month when she will remit it.

That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me.

LaudableXX:

And it was even the 1st time she had ever asked in 5 years! Even if he couldn't give her everything she asked for, he could have given her half of it by saying that is all he can afford for now.

Instead of even calling the girl, and seeking ways to address the issue, he wants to dump her for a demand she didn't make, and something she probably had no knowledge about. By the time he leaves her, and a different sly character enters his life that collects 5 times the amount from him under various guises, he will still come back to NL to lament.

frank202012:


Mr helper,relationships re not employment opportunities.
There are ways things re been done.
What is wrong with u guys sef.
Oga if u have a mom go and take care of them nd free ur in-laws
Smh

Acidosis:


An outright give me money is definitely not appropriate.

I don't think she outrightly demanded money from the guy.


See OP's post;


She didn't even placed a call. People who usually request for money via text messages have gone through series of thoughts. They're usually not proud of their actions. I'm not saying all, though.



These are genuine reasons and OP seems like the only person that understands the situation. He has dated her daughter for 5 years. The relationship the woman has with the guy can be likened to what many married folks have with their in-laws. Forget the fact that they're not married. When a mother likes her daughter's guy, to the extent she's cool with them dating for 5 years, they're as good as married.



Before the end of the month means she's willing to pay back in 2 weeks or less. OP did not even wait to see whether the woman will refund or not before castigating her.


Lastly, you see this?

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

babythug:


It's not appropriate for any reasonable parent to make demands of the boyfriend or girlfriend of thier child. Especially financial, a few random errands may be ok* but not an outright 'give me money'

Doesn't the woman have relatives or friends to borrow from? Why will she throw away her dignity like that!

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

kmcutez:


It's not even the fact that he refused the mum the financial assistance that has got most of us angry, but the fact that he wants to end the relationship after 5 years because the mum asked for financial assistance to pay his girl's fee, considering how good the girl has been to him, and him claiming to love the girl.

deanxy:
yeah I know but that the girl never asked doesn't mean I don't do anything. I buy gifts even for her younger ones and the mother knows about this. I just feel it's not okay she asking

insigne:
Juve is currently teaching Tottenham a lesson of their lives

LaudableXX:

When people like you lack valid points, they resort to insults. Daft and greedy must be your middle names. If you had read all my responses on this thread, you would have seen the advice offered to the OP. You referred to the 5 year relationship as mere "fornicating' with the daughter. Some marriages do not even last that long. But then you are too myopic to see that. People go out of their way to help total strangers, how much more those they know. But then, a "hungry selfish nl activist looking to indoctrinate magadom" like you would lack the basic wisdom to understand that, wouldn't you?

skales67:


Dude...she's not a wife yet.

ireneony:
Your own don finish for life...
For nairaland guys to say you're stingy and u don't deserve your fiancee know that your village people are using your picture to dance every night.

ireneony:
Your own don finish for life...
For nairaland guys to say you're stingy and u don't deserve your fiancee know that your village people are using your picture to dance every night.

worworgirl:
Chai! And my Bf of 1year is here asking me what he should buy for my mom as valentine gift. This life sha, I’m glad the op type has never crossed my path since my history of dating

deewhydoski:

In the ops write up, I didn't see where he gave his fiancee monthly stipend... maybe u should read again

olaboy1:


Why do you guys keep making unmatched comparisons. Your BF willingly chose to buy your mum a valentine gift, OP is been requested to do so under the guise of dating her daughter, both are not the same situation. OP has no financial obligations to her and should only help at his own free will if he has the means. Trying to shame him for declining this request sounds very childish.

Fellas try and watch Chris Rock Tamborine Netflix special.

ChiefSweetus:
Hegehegehegehege!

My brother in the lordt, I didn't read all your responses because fùck you bruh. idiocy bores me.

Nyen nyen nyen, shut up! If you don't come for me i won't come for you. Don't play the victim now after you started running your mouth in your first post to me.. like an uncultured smello.

As usual, you sound daft. Who is obligated to help anyone? Whether stranger or in-law? The only people I can truly fall back on are my immediate biological family I.e. parents and siblings, but even they owe me nothing. And I can expect their help will be limited as they have their own problems. But you are busy expecting help from strangers and anyone who your family member has invested vaginà in his life. Lol. good luck with your shameless and entitled strategy. Beggardom bodes well on thee.