Lately, it is becoming increasingly common the hear guys say these phrases "I was dumped by my girlfriend because I was too nice" or "Because I loved her so much, she started taking me for granted". It is sad but a fact that girls these days mistake guys gentility, patience or meekness for weakness.

Contrastingly, most if not all women claim to want a nice guy, but when they finally meet one, he seems not to be their type. They disrespect and talk down on him. In reality, bad boys who even abuse women get the best and prettiest ladies.

The question is, WHY?

Why is it that ladies who claim to love the generally described " good guys " still fall for the "a$$h0les"

I once dated this girl for a few months. She would not pick my calls or reply texts except when she felt like. She was always going ON and OFF. Nevertheless I was usually the first person she called if she ran into some trouble, got bored, needed some help or her first boyfriend got her side-lined on Valentine’s day.

I mustered some courage at a point and decided I couldn't bear it anymore.

Many of my peeps have had similar experiences with women.

Guys and Ladies, I need you to help me out on this one.

WHY LADIES TAKE NICE GUYS FOR GRANTED

gbenyi:
Lately, it is becoming increasingly common the hear guys say these phrases "I was dumped by my girlfriend because I was too nice" or "Because I loved her so much, she started taking me for granted". It is sad but a fact that girls these days mistake guys gentility, patience or meekness for weakness.

Contrastingly, most if not all women claim to want a nice guy, but when they finally meet one, he seems not to be their type. They disrespect and talk down on him. In reality, bad boys who even abuse women get the best and prettiest ladies.

The question is, WHY?

Why is it that ladies who claim to love the generally described " good guys " still fall for the "a$$h0les"

I once dated this girl for a few months. She would not pick my calls or reply texts except when she felt like. She was always going ON and OFF. Nevertheless I was usually the first person she called if she ran into some trouble, got bored, needed some help or her first boyfriend got her side-lined on Valentine’s day.

I mustered some courage at a point and decided I couldn't bear it anymore.

Many of my peeps have had similar experiences with women.

Guys and Ladies, I need you to help me out on this one.

WHY LADIES TAKE NICE GUYS FOR GRANTED

Become a bad boy also

Many girls like a man that is hard to deal with, learn how to be a player and you will be in control

There should be a balance. No lady wants a doormat sissy as a boyfriend. Show her you can be just as tough. When your lady was pulling all those stunts on you, why did you stay? Don't act pathetic & then blame ladies when they can't deal with your weak ass anymore. If you don't like something, don't put up with it because of "love". People in general are annoying. It does you a world of good to cut some off sometimes. You can't keep going in circles & accepting disrespect. Cut a bytch out of your life & save yourself some stress.

You were not a nice guy, you were a guy with a low self esteem.

If something is harmful to you it is right to cut it off nothing bad about that.

I don't take nice and sincere guys for granted

They are even the type i'm looking for
They have everything to offer in a relationship

MhizAJ:
I don't take nice and sincere guys for granted

They are even the type i'm looking for
They have everything to offer in a relationship

na so una dey tok until una jam d unfortunate mumu

MhizAJ:
I don't take nice and sincere guys for granted

They are even the type i'm looking for
They have everything to offer in a relationship

Oooooh! This sounds good

tosyne2much:
It's very true

Being a cool guy sometimes doesn't pay because some ladies will easily ride on you and take you for granted. They rather remain loyal and submissive to that very guy that treats them like poor unlike you that treats them softly

Treat them Softly as in? being a doormat or a pushover for love?

It depends on the type of ladies you go for. The probability of your assertion may be there when dealing with undergrads.

become a bad boy na... is that hard??

Earthquake1:
You were not a nice guy, you were a guy with a low self esteem.

If something is harmful to you it is right to cut it off nothing bad about that.

I don't think it has anything to do with esteem especially for the fact that she later realized her mistake and regretted the choice she made. But it still doesn't answer the question, what's about the bad boys that some women fall so easily for?

tosyne2much:
It's very true

Being a cool guy sometimes doesn't pay because some ladies will easily ride on you and take you for granted. They rather remain loyal and submissive to that very guy that treats them like poor unlike you that treats them softly

thankGod you used 'SOME' ladies

Epositive:


Treat them Softly as in? being a doormat or a pushover for love?

Don't call it "doormat". I think the issue is that most guys who are not harsh to ladies end up being hurt unlike the arrogant ones

It becomes a mystery to me till date why arrogant and strict guys handle ladies better than cool guys

Annibel:



thankGod you used 'SOME' ladies

I should have used the word "MOST" gan sef

Annibel:
become a bad boy na... is that hard??

I have since perfected in acting like one but can never maltreat a lady.

CaptainJeffry:
It depends on the type of ladies you go for. The probability of your assertion may be there when dealing with undergrads.

You may be right.

gbenyi:

I don't think it has anything to do with esteem especially for the fact that she later realized her mistake and regretted the choice she made. But it still doesn't answer the question, what's about the bad boys that some women fall so easily for?

Women are attracted to confidence, ruggedness,strength and apparently 'bad' guys seem to possess these traits.

XhosaNostra:
There should be a balance. No lady wants a doormat sissy as a boyfriend. Show her you can be just as tough. When your lady was pulling all those stunts on you, why did you stay? Don't act pathetic & then blame ladies when they can't deal with your weak ass anymore. If you don't like something, don't put up with it because of "love". People in general are annoying. It does you a world of good to cut some off sometimes. You can't keep going in circles & accepting disrespect. Cut a bytch out of your life & save yourself some stress.

The fact is some women are very poor in making good choices when it comes to guys. But its usually not long before they realise. SOME LADIES, Not all. Although MOST that I have met are just like that.

gbenyi:

I have since perfected in acting like one but can never maltreat a lady.

Awwwnnnn Isookay. just be the real you

tosyne2much:
I should have used the word "MOST" gan sef

lol... trouble maker

Annibel:



lol... trouble maker

But on a very serious note, cool guys get hurt and jilted easily unlike those tough guys

Earthquake1:


Women are attracted to confidence, ruggedness,strength and apparently 'bad' guys seem to possess these traits.

Nice guys posses all this quality also, nice guys only have a gentle spirit.
Like when he want sex he will beg for it and even ask the girl whether to remove her pant, but bad boy will just lock door grab the girl pounce the hell out her puccy without beg beg.

tosyne2much:
But on a very serious note, cool guys get hurt and jilted easily unlike those tough guys

and to be honest too... it happens same to cool girls. they're just taken for granted. let's rest abeg. it's a bleeped world.

Annibel:


and to be honest too... it happens same to cool girls. they're just taken for granted. let's rest abeg. it's a bleeped world.

Yes it happens both ways

Op u try oo. U been texting her and she hasn't been replying and u been calling her and she hasn't been answering her fone....hmm. Girls boku everywhere na.if d first one treat u like trash den dump that one and move along to d next one.

Odingo1:

Nice guys posses all this quality also, nice guys only have a gentle spirit.
Like when he want sex he will beg for it and even ask the girl whether to remove her pant, but bad boy will just lock door grab the girl pounce the hell out her puccy without beg beg.

ladies want their man to be dominant and contrary to what feminists and hypocritical girls on this thread say most ladies fantasize about a guy who would rip them off and devour them during sex, not beg for it that's a deal breaker.

tosyne2much:
But on a very serious note, cool guys get hurt and jilted easily unlike those tough guys

but tough guys still get cheated on by their girlfriends as well too. There was this video i saw at one time when i was in school.it was someone dat shared it to me on phone. In the video this guy that happened to be a cultist caught his cousin redhanded having hot sex with his girlfriend. This cousin was squating with this cult guy. So what this cult guy did was to call his guys and they started using the flatside of a cutlass to smack the back of his cousin and the cultist guy now instructed his cousin to mount the girl.anytime d dude slowed down on his thrust they will use the flatside of the cutlass on the dude's buttocks. So girls do cheat even if their boyfriends are badass but most times it comes with consequences.

lefulefu:
but tough guys still get cheated on by their girlfriends as well too. There was this video i saw at one time when i was in school.it was someone dat shared it to me on phone. In the video this guy that happened to be a cultist caught his cousin redhanded having hot sex with his girlfriend. This cousin was squating with this cult guy. So what this cult guy did was to call his guys and they started using the flatside of a cutlass to smack the back of his cousin and the cultist guy now instructed his cousin to mount the girl.anytime d dude slowed down on his thrust they will use the flatside of the cutlass on the dude's buttocks. So girls do cheat even if their boyfriends are badass but most times it comes with consequences.

You have a point though.. It's the consequences of their actions that normally make them sit tight and behave well to their tough boyfriends

gbenyi:

I don't think it has anything to do with esteem especially for the fact that she later realized her mistake and regretted the choice she made. But it still doesn't answer the question, what's about the bad boys that some women fall so easily for?

THE BAD GUYS MAKES THE MINDS OF WOMEN SKIP
AND THAT IS IT. THEY DONT JUST TALK.

tosyne2much:
You have a point though.. It's the consequences of their actions that normally make them sit tight and behave well to their tough boyfriends

yes such ladies act submissive to their tough boyfriends but they still cheat but they do it codedly.there was an incident i witnessed where i went to buy bread.i don't know what was the matter but there was this young girl on bumshorts crying and begging her boyfriend that looked like a yahooboy.the guy was on dreadlocks and wearing a pair of red trainers. The girl was holding onto his shirt and d guy was yelling at her to leave his shirt alone. What he did next surprised us. He gave the girl a dirty slap and pushed her off him while she fell on the dusty ground. The guy now walked towards his car(a black Mercedes jeep) and drove away at top speed with the girl screaming and running after d car. I suspect it must have been cheating issue. Girls cheat on the rugged guys too but they act very sorry when they get caught but not so for the weak wuzzy dude.