I'm about to a best man to one of my friend wedding this Sunday!

We are not really best of friends. But, since he came to my town and we really get very close and he's kinda like a mutual friend ..

He's getting married on Sunday ! I took 3 days off from my work to attend this marriage I haven't meet his wife before ! I got here on friday and I met the wife I was actually expecting her to be happy to meet her husband best man..

Her attitude was kinda weird ! I try talk to her and interact with the wife to be she always look at her husband face before she reply me or don't even talk to me at all .. like totally ignored me and one other guy with em..

I met the wives family and my guy was too gentle and calm in front of the family like totally different from the guy we use to hang out together .. I was not comfortable cus the wife father was trying to talk to me a lot and the wife sister too they are friendly , but. seems like my friend is not comfortable with it and sometimes ask me not to talk with em too much .. I respectfully accepted not to talk

We went dinner with wife and family today ! And same thing happen at the dinner my friend and his wife are not talking much at the table and the dad is always trying to talk with me more my friend always try to caution what I should say or shouldn't say on the table like he's hiding something which basically the conversation is just basic like work , family, normal things generally not even about my friend ..

I just felt I wasted my time and money to go all the way here and be caution for what to say or even the wife not giving attention to me not like I care about it much , she even turned off the TV at their family house when my friend told her to go and use the PC in other room cus we want to relax before we lodge in our hotel.. she turn off the tv while we still watching and walk away! I felt really disrespected and embarrassed...

But, I felt inside of me that the woman is just doing what my friend told her to do. Bcus anytime I talk or ask her question she always look at him first before she answer or he will be the one to answer ! I know he did before with a guy about her gf shouldn't talk to any of his friend or get jealous a lot . But, I wonder why I should be best man to a person like that! If I had met the wife earlier maybe I wouldn't even come...

Please should I just tell him that I don't feel comfortable being his best man on Sunday or just do it and ignore everything.

Geez! What an eye sore...I got lost in the 2nd paragraph

I think you shouldn't really be bothered. Just do your part as a friend and be the very best, best man you can be to a friend. You can't jeopardize your friendship of many years just because of this issue? Just stay your lane, with the way February is flying, this issue will be history soon.

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U were invited to be a best man on sunday and not otherwise. U maight ve sounded too loud to ur friend n his wife liking. Ur convo is surpose to be more with ur frnd not otherwise.

Ordinary 3 days you can't cope

It ur friend (guy code) bro walk away...! His well-being is more important.

Mhmmmm op go ahead and do it, but make sure you let him know that you ain't happy with his attitude after the occasion OK

makydebbie:
I think you shouldn't really be bothered. Just do your part as a friend and be the very best, best man you can be to a friend. You can't jeopardize your friendship of many years just because of this issue? Just stay your lane, with the way February is flying, this issue will be history soon.

Well said.

Op should pay heed to this wise counsel.

cc: TolaniLuv