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My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Taiwofait: 2:23am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Hello everyone, This is the 1st time I am posting something like this and it's because I don't seem to know what to think or do anymore and I strongly hope this get posted. I am sorry, but the epistle is quite long. I just have to try and explain as explicitly as I can. I am a 27 year old guy, a Bsc holder. I am in a relationship with a 24 year old lady who recently had her masters from my school as well. We are both in love with each other however we have trust issues. On my part I used to be a flirt but I immediately dumped that character immediately I met her. She became everything to me. Our 1st few months of our relationship I was very loyal, caring and I was everything I should be, unfortunately along the line I started discovering some irregularities and after some investigations I discovered she wasn't as clean as I thought. She's still decent though but truly it affected me because I had total trust in her. I didn't exactly go back to my former ways but I did started trying to find an alternative should incase she disappears on me [something I later discovered was a bad move] because she kind of found out and that made her distrust me as well. Consequently, we didn't trust each other anymore, but every other thing was in place. We loved and cared alot for each other. Our relationship lasted a year with a whole lot of drama, so many break ups and make ups and very recently something happened and that is the reason I am here to ask for your help. During one of our misunderstanding periods, I met a lady in traffic and gave her a lift, no bad intentions though, we got talking and became good friends. I told her about my girl and the issues we were having and she empathized with me, gave me some tips that can help us. She was just my friend, nothing else, as at that time. I couldn't tell my girl about it because I knew she was just gonna assume she's another side chick [remember we had trust issues] unfortunately for me she found out about her and she fought me over it. Eventually she decided she was gonna break up with me again just because of the lady who in the real sense of it was actually my friend and not a side chick. It was painful though because even this time I was innocent. I got pretty close to this my friend to the extent we more or less started dating. Unfortunately, I discovered this girl was best kept in the friend zone as I discovered some things I can't cope with as a man. Also I couldn't get my mind off my supposedly ex girlfriend. So I called her back up and tried to settle things with her. I truly love this girl and I don't seem to be able to get away from her. I had quite a number of issues I was dealing with but then, I also understand nobody is perfect. She's someone I would love to spend my whole life with. She came back and we picked up again, but this time, I determined not to try anyone else even if she's not being straightforward. I decided to put in my all once again, be faithful and loyal to her only. [although it was difficult to convince her about that because I have said that to her a couple of times before, meanwhile, I didn't mean it then, like I do now] I told her about my friend and she supposedly forgave me. We have been doing fine for a couple of weeks now, no distractions, nothing, coz I cut communication with all other girls including friends. But sometimes she would just act up, insultively and at the end she would say she just remembered some of the things I have done to her in the past. I don't get angry, I always stay calm and I believed it was just a phase and I believed she would come around with time. And then the worse happened. Today she was going through my gallery and she came across some of my pictures and videos with the lady, nothing erotic, just some playful pictures and videos together. Truly, I actually forgot I had it there. That probably got her really mad and before I knew what was happening, she was hitting me, repeatedly, it ranged from slaps on my face to real punches, she broke me nose, I even bled quite seriously. As I type this epistle I have pains all over my body. Now, I am not a weak guy, I am quite a strong and muscular guy, I can take her down with just a punch, But I did nothing, in fact I deliberately allowed her to hit me because I believe that would help her let her anger out. But she proceeded to pick up the pressing iron, she tried to destroy my phone, she even tried to pick up a bottle until my neighbor stopped her. She's been threatening to kill me. Now shes a masters holder, not the oshodi kind of girl so the reaction really baffles me. I knew she had anger issues sort of which is one if the things I have been battling with her. Now here is my dilemma, with all the drama that has happened between us, I really don't know what to do. I truly love her and I wish I could have her, she's wonderful in many ways but this recent outburst is scary. I want her but at the same time, I have to be happy. We are just dating and we have all these dramas, what would happen when we get married? As a lady, is it worth it, hitting till I bleed just because pictures reminded her of some girl I supposedly cheat on her with [Even though I already ended everything, weeks before now]?? Would you advise I still continue or should I just put on a bold face and walk away. Please advise me, I am going crazy here and my nose and head is hurting badly. Thanks in anticipation. ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Taiwofait: 2:31am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Please if anyone has any advice I will appreciate it ASAP. I want to know what to say to her after now. ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Creamcustard: 2:33am On Feb 18, 2018 |
This is a clear cut case of domestic violence. Do you want to die?Hitting,slapping,iron,bottle? ![]() Your lady is sick upstairs. Kindly thank your stars and run away from this relationship because next time it will be a knife. No matter what you've done,there is no excuse for this sort of behaviour. A word is enough for the wise. 26 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by mithras(m): 2:35am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Oga leave immediately. Don't tolerate any form of violence. See question o, until she poisons you and you reach the other side that's when you'll open your eyes abi? 9 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Nobody: 2:37am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Leave her alone or you'll have yourself to blame in the nearest future. 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Paschal001: 2:42am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Domestic violence, masters without any sense. Mtchew. Oga even you sef get wahala. Maje i go sleep joor 3 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by fifty5(m): 2:47am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Behaviour is likened to a smoke it can't be covered.she has exhibited her real behavior nobody his indespensable let her go and don't have any form of contact with her anymore you should use the frequent break ups to wear out all form of emotional attachment that connects you with her. All am saying in essence let her go. 5 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by crismark(m): 3:30am On Feb 18, 2018 |
after reading d" she broke my nose "part, i continued reading hoping to see a "she is nw admitted to one hospital" part which i didnt see... a girl broke ur nose nd u let her go because of love or trying 2 play d gentleman role...mehn u Bleep up u broke d most sacred brotherhood code... 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Olalan(m): 3:46am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Pls OP for the safety of your life cut off from that girl, if she could hit you this much now when married and a much more heavier issue comes up she might just stab you, all in the name of having anger issues. The main stronghold of relationship which is trust is not in your union. Pls let go of her. |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by BaeMercy(f): 4:21am On Feb 18, 2018 |
I Understand How You Feel But, This Lady Has Refused To Change If There Was A Gun Around That Day, She Would Have Shot You Only God Know Where You Will Be By Now Don't Because Of Love Push Yourself To Your Early Grave I Have Never Slap A Man Before Talkless Of Me Hitting Him Till He Bleeds, Because I Am Also A Human And I Know The Feeling When You Get Married To Such Lady She Will Make You Avoid Friends And Even Family Sit Down And Think About You Future, You Wouldn't Like To Die Young. Will You? She's In Lust, And Addicted To You She Will Control You Can You Stop Loving Her And Save Your Life? Or Die And She Marries Someone Else? Think Twice! 16 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Cromagnon: 4:36am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Taiwofait:you rae a fool still ,aking excuses after so many signs of failed marriage there are 3.5 billion ohter women to choose from 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Cromagnon: 4:40am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Taiwofait:punch or cane or belt your mumu no get part 2 o i hope you gwt married so she can end you like my clasmate ebnded her stupid husband in ibadan so your genes will end with you human race can't afford such mumulity to spread
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Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Nobody: 4:44am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Taiwofait: The bolded parts, Can you please expatiate on that? Also One thing I must tell you, There are plenty Beautiful Women looking for a Spouse, Don't kill yourself over one. Don't let her turn you into a Guy with Domestic Violence issues. Breakup with her & cry very well, If you must. Cry it all out & Move the Fvck on. 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by dingbang(m): 6:05am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Everyone has typed what's on my mind. Go in peace and serve the lord. 8 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by maggilove(f): 6:14am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Are you still waiting for an advice before you pull your shoes and run for your life? |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by BruncleZuma: 6:15am On Feb 18, 2018 |
dingbang: Your mind nah showcase ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by konkonbilo(m): 6:25am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Cromagnon:You don't have to call him a fool,you should have just made ur contribution 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by dingbang(m): 6:27am On Feb 18, 2018 |
BruncleZuma:my brother , the op matter tire me sotey I no know wetin to type again. If you check on my timeline, there is never one day I posted any thread about my relationship life. Because any babe wey fvckup, I dey treat their matter there and then. Ah mean how can someone hit me so hard that I got injured on my nose and even smashed my phone and I come online to ask people what to do... Is it not madness that is worrying me? Dem never beat that girl the way I go beat am o. 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by OgahBohz: 6:31am On Feb 18, 2018 |
even the ladies here are advising you to drop the ass hole... come so what would have happened if she saw you bleeping her best friend ... and its obvious your not even saying everything ... BROSS I BEG YOU , HAVE MERCY ON YOUR FAMILY , YOUR MUM AND DAD .. HAVE MERCY ON YOUR FUTURE KIDS AND SAVE YOUR LIFE FOR THEM NOW .. NEVER UNDERRATE A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IT CAN LEAD TO YOUR VERY END . |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by BruncleZuma: 6:35am On Feb 18, 2018 |
dingbang: |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by dingbang(m): 6:38am On Feb 18, 2018 |
[quote author=BruncleZuma post=65158731][/quote]kai.. Zuma the day I go post about my rship on romance section eh, The kyn bashings I go get due to bashings I don dish out to sheeples ... ![]() |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by BruncleZuma: 6:42am On Feb 18, 2018 |
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Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Nobody: 6:51am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by nams77: 8:04am On Feb 18, 2018 |
I don't want to be reading my Sunday newspaper sometime in the future and read something like this-"Man stabbed to death in his sleep by jealous wife" Or man burnt to death in his sleep by jealous wife. The case of the Abuja killer house wife comes to mind 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Nobody: 8:14am On Feb 18, 2018 |
free that babe she doesn't love you. I haven't got the patience to start explaining why, but I'd advice you to leave, and above all she's cheating on you, take it or leave it. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by egopersonified(f): 8:34am On Feb 18, 2018 |
There is always something to love in people no matter how bad they are. Even the devil has followers. But the advantages of being with that person should always supersede the disadvantages. |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by ranmoor: 8:47am On Feb 18, 2018 |
I dumped my gf because she is paranoid about me having another person meanwhile I was just extremely busy. She should sort her trust issues out, I don't have time for unnecessary headache and drama, just too busy for that.. So, if want the seasonal movie to continue in your life, pls continue with her. U go know say actor self dey die! 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Nobody: 9:03am On Feb 18, 2018 |
You are saying she's a masters holder. That has nothing to do with anything, haven't you heard of the female lawyer that killed her husband. Be wise enough not to continue with that lady, she will never be able to forget how you hurt her and that will always bring out the beast in her. Save yourself and every other person the stress. |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Nobody: 9:05am On Feb 18, 2018 |
You deliberately let her hit you? And she brokr your nose Naso Oyibo boy
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Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by Oxster(m): 9:22am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Is only a fool that will over look that action,A friend of my elder Brother got Dead becos of Home violence from the GF He has rotten in the Soil while the Girl is serving the Government (Prison) Soon as she gets out she starts anoda Life,while a Life is already Out Bruh,,Use your head!!! This is one of the reasons you have to Date / Court b4 getting married 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Gone Rogue. by coolh3ad(m): 9:25am On Feb 18, 2018 |
crismark: Sacred Brotherhood code??. So one of the codes is to fight a Lady back?. Are you for real?. What happens to walking out immediately and avoiding the "breaking of nose"..It's not about playing the "gentleman" role.. Two wrongs don't make a right...... |
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