Taiwofait:
Please if anyone has any advice I will appreciate it ASAP. I want to know what to say to her after now.

Taiwofait:
Hello everyone,

This is the 1st time I am posting something like this and it's because I don't seem to know what to think or do anymore and I strongly hope this get posted.

I am sorry, but the epistle is quite long. I just have to try and explain as explicitly as I can.

I am a 27 year old guy, a Bsc holder. I am in a relationship with a 24 year old lady who recently had her masters from my school as well.

We are both in love with each other however we have trust issues.

On my part I used to be a flirt but I immediately dumped that character immediately I met her. She became everything to me. Our 1st few months of our relationship I was very loyal, caring and I was everything I should be, unfortunately along the line I started discovering some irregularities and after some investigations I discovered she wasn't as clean as I thought. She's still decent though but truly it affected me because I had total trust in her.

I didn't exactly go back to my former ways but I did started trying to find an alternative should incase she disappears on me [something I later discovered was a bad move] because she kind of found out and that made her distrust me as well.

Consequently, we didn't trust each other anymore, but every other thing was in place. We loved and cared alot for each other.

Our relationship lasted a year with a whole lot of drama, so many break ups and make ups and very recently something happened and that is the reason I am here to ask for your help.

During one of our misunderstanding periods, I met a lady in traffic and gave her a lift, no bad intentions though, we got talking and became good friends. I told her about my girl and the issues we were having and she empathized with me, gave me some tips that can help us. She was just my friend, nothing else, as at that time.

I couldn't tell my girl about it because I knew she was just gonna assume she's another side chick [remember we had trust issues] unfortunately for me she found out about her and she fought me over it. Eventually she decided she was gonna break up with me again just because of the lady who in the real sense of it was actually my friend and not a side chick. It was painful though because even this time I was innocent.

I got pretty close to this my friend to the extent we more or less started dating. Unfortunately, I discovered this girl was best kept in the friend zone as I discovered some things I can't cope with as a man. Also I couldn't get my mind off my supposedly ex girlfriend. So I called her back up and tried to settle things with her.

I truly love this girl and I don't seem to be able to get away from her. I had quite a number of issues I was dealing with but then, I also understand nobody is perfect. She's someone I would love to spend my whole life with.

She came back and we picked up again, but this time, I determined not to try anyone else even if she's not being straightforward. I decided to put in my all once again, be faithful and loyal to her only. [although it was difficult to convince her about that because I have said that to her a couple of times before, meanwhile, I didn't mean it then, like I do now]

I told her about my friend and she supposedly forgave me. We have been doing fine for a couple of weeks now, no distractions, nothing, coz I cut communication with all other girls including friends. But sometimes she would just act up, insultively and at the end she would say she just remembered some of the things I have done to her in the past. I don't get angry, I always stay calm and I believed it was just a phase and I believed she would come around with time. And then the worse happened.

Today she was going through my gallery and she came across some of my pictures and videos with the lady, nothing erotic, just some playful pictures and videos together. Truly, I actually forgot I had it there. That probably got her really mad and before I knew what was happening, she was hitting me, repeatedly, it ranged from slaps on my face to real punches, she broke me nose, I even bled quite seriously. As I type this epistle I have pains all over my body.

Now, I am not a weak guy, I am quite a strong and muscular guy, I can take her down with just a punch,

But I did nothing, in fact I deliberately allowed her to hit me because I believe that would help her let her anger out. But she proceeded to pick up the pressing iron, she tried to destroy my phone, she even tried to pick up a bottle until my neighbor stopped her. She's been threatening to kill me. Now shes a masters holder, not the oshodi kind of girl so the reaction really baffles me. I knew she had anger issues sort of which is one if the things I have been battling with her.

Now here is my dilemma, with all the drama that has happened between us, I really don't know what to do. I truly love her and I wish I could have her, she's wonderful in many ways but this recent outburst is scary. I want her but at the same time, I have to be happy. We are just dating and we have all these dramas, what would happen when we get married?

As a lady, is it worth it, hitting till I bleed just because pictures reminded her of some girl I supposedly cheat on her with [Even though I already ended everything, weeks before now]??

Would you advise I still continue or should I just put on a bold face and walk away.

Please advise me, I am going crazy here and my nose and head is hurting badly.

Thanks in anticipation.

Taiwofait:


During one of our misunderstanding periods, I met a lady in traffic and gave her a lift, no bad intentions though, we got talking and became good friends.

I got pretty close to this my friend to the extent we more or less started dating. Unfortunately, I discovered this girl was best kept in the friend zone as I discovered some things I can't cope with as a man. Also I couldn't get my mind off my supposedly ex girlfriend. So I called her back up and tried to settle things with her.

Thanks in anticipation.

dingbang:
Everyone has typed what's on my mind.

Go in peace and serve the lord.

Cromagnon:
you rae a fool still ,aking excuses after so many signs of failed marriage
there are 3.5 billion ohter women to choose from

BruncleZuma:


Your mind nah showcase

dingbang:

Calm down bros; the guy fit just dey find cyber-sympathy

dingbang:
kai.. Zuma the day I go post about my rship on romance section eh, The kyn bashings I go get due to bashings I don dish out to sheeples ...

crismark:
after reading d" she broke my nose "part, i continued reading hoping to see a "she is nw admitted to one hospital" part which i didnt see...
a girl broke ur nose nd u let her go because of love or trying 2 play d gentleman role...mehn u Bleep up


u broke d most sacred brotherhood code...