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Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by lasmile(f): 1:46pm On Dec 08, 2017 |
Oge De Blogger writes... Marriage Now Vs Then Marriage is the legally, culturally or formally recognised union of two people as partners in a relationship specifically a union between a man and a woman. The origin of marriage is as old as man himself. But let’s look at the impact of marriage in our society and has it values changed over time? Answers to the question below will throw more light into this topic. Is our marriage these days better than that of our fore-fathers and great grand mothers? Back in the days when our fathers would pick their wives without asking out for a date not to talk of going sexually with them before meeting their parents. In fact some of these women were married to the husbands without seeing him in person. Preparation to marry a woman then doesn’t involve so much razzmatazz like church/white wedding with exorbitant reception. Traditional and cultural rites and values were highly respected and therefore the benefits attached to such rite would guide the union. Then it turns out to be the coming together of two unknown people, recognising their responsibilities and at the end of this union, they had both lived together in blessing, well stricken in age, there was nothing like DIVORCE for unnecessary reasons. But now, the tune has changed. We call it the 21st century, in fact one of the religious books called it the generation of vipers. These days a man can only but lust after 10 different kind of women, get himself inspired to approach 3 out of them, select the best 2 to race and after so much of sexual exercises with all of them, he pick the finalist to which he has concluded is the best for him, as if that is not enough, the waywardness continues after the marriage. It is even more common among the so called new generation styled marriages where so much attention is given to church or white wedding. the razzle-dazzle of announcing marriage ceremonies has becomes the talk of the city, hypes here and there, getting a special twitter #tag for the union. This special focus to westernised procedures has led to a total abandoned of the traditional marriage which is of more value and blessing when compared to that of our great grand parents. Now we give priority to white/church wedding(adopting western culture) and after all of these, we tend to be having high rate of broken marriages, News of dissolved marriages are everywhere. Now it seems we are getting tired of fruitless marriages and we are moving into a worst situation where we now have another union called baby mamas and daddies. So I ask, how is marriage of these days better than that of our great grand parents? Please drop your comment below ; http://www.oge.com.ng/2017/12/08/marriage-now-vs-then-which-do-you-prefer/ 8 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by lasmile(f): 11:42am On Feb 20, 2018 |
The topic should have gone to frontpage. Nairaland which criteria should we follow. Or is it a game of chance? Good Afternoon all 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by veekid(m): 3:25pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Who marriage epp 8 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by rottenPussy: 3:26pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
lasmile: |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by AreaFada2: 3:26pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Money and materialism have changed everything. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by hobermener: 3:26pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Unless women are taught to know their place in a marriage, marriage as an institution will only get worse and ultimately turn out irrelevant. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by scobyhybrid(m): 3:26pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
now |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Litblogger: 3:26pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Well, both have pros and cons. There is no doubt that the marriage of 'then' used to last longer than the marriage of 'now'. And women used to be extremely loyal and 100% committed to their husbands. The con is that there wasn't room for "Love". It made marriage seem like a strict contract. It was too traditional. If a lady wasn't a virgin, she was considered worthless. And it was believed that a woman's place was in her husband's kitchen. I'm too hungry to type too much jare. Call me weird, but I think I do prefer the marriage of 'then' anyway. 35 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by eleojo23: 3:26pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
This is highly subjective... |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Pringlez: 3:26pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Game of Chance!!! |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Tsola13(m): 3:27pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
I will think about it |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Venice789: 3:27pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Jamiubond009(m): 3:27pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Nobody: 3:27pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
then marriage, reasons women back then are humble unlike now we have gold diggers gals every where 7 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by KeenMind(m): 3:27pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Then, though I'm not even too keen about the whole marriage ish. Marriage as an institution has outlived it's usefulness long time ago. It's naturally disintegrating gradually. In the next 400-500 years or so, I can bet the last vestiges of the marriage institution will be tossed into the bins of history. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by EweduAfonja(f): 3:28pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
I prefer then.... today some silly men are looking for Rich ladies or a lady from wealthy family. 10 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by dfrost: 3:28pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
I am here to read comments. Silly and responsible ones. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by KingGBsky(m): 3:28pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Why the hustle for first to comment come serious like this now? 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Gerrard59(m): 3:29pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
lasmile: Time changes, and everything changes with it. To your bolded: The moment you adopted Christianity, you adopted the western style of wedding. Don't cherry pick! 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by RexTramadol1: 3:30pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
I prefer next generation marriage. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by ShitHead(m): 3:30pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Marriage is a scam! Don't be fooled! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by axeman2(m): 3:31pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
i am speechless |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by prinsam30: 3:31pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
who marriages epp Contract Marriage All The Way Get what u want peacefully, terminate the Contract and both parties are happy Shikena 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by AnodaIT(m): 3:31pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Just get over with it and face your marriage The problem is the girls, they have eaten, drink and dance at their friend's, not doing theirs would be a good gossip 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by OKUCHI11(m): 3:31pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by congorasta: 3:31pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
k sex is now cheap. the main reason for marriage have been subjected or watered down... it is deadly decadence of human evolution. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by golor(m): 3:33pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
The issue is not the marriage but individuals involve. Back then , they were broken home but not rampant, also was there lusting. Like the saying goes ;man must try to adopt to change. Just like then, when you finish school you get a first class job now it ain't same but that did not dispute the fact that, when you distinguish yourself you get job quite easy. Same is marriage , know what you want and be the best you can believe me the marriage will work . I have a girl I am currently dating heaven knows if we get married na till death do us apart. I just need a job and everything is set and i strongly believe God for the job. 10 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Ayodejioak(m): 3:34pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
Marriage is sweet when you have the right woman. 6 Likes |
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by marvin905(m): 3:35pm On Feb 20, 2018 |
before.. now men are looking rich women.. women are looking for rich men.. men want baby-mamas now and women are ready as ever.. women want who they can control now submissiveness is slavery to them 7 Likes |
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