We have dated for only 9 months, last year everything seem rosy and promising even though i was away for about 5 months but visited every month. I have never stopped her on going on a date with another guy, she even went out with a guy last year and they both passed the night together in a hotel. She came back saying nothing happened but the guy tried having his way which she declined reminding him, he promised it was just a platonic meeting and I believed her.
I have always trusted her until recently i noticed she became a lot insulting lately and always asking if we break up at the slightest misunderstanding. I thought it should be to the fact that i have some serious financial challenge and she is been the one footing the bills, she is probably getting bored already or something.
Two night ago a guy called and ask she sing for him, she obliged and sang the John Legend "All of me" While i was there with her.
I asked her who the guy was and she told me, it was nothing but she had promised the guy she was not gonna date anyone until he his back, she said she doesn't want to tell the guy she is dating now just so he doesn't get distracted.
I told her it is okay and we should forget about it but she is always wanting to talk about it and it bothers me why she is so keen on talking about it if i had told her she should forget about it and if she is sincere. I told her i am beginning to not trust her anymore and then she said we should quit. She can't do this no more cos I don't trust her. Just like that....
Am I wrong to have said I don't trust her? Truth is, I love her. Should I just move on or apologize?

Eh ya!!

OP are you dating for dating sake or marriage in mind. Cause this girl is obviously a serial cheat which you know but seems live is beclouding you.

AdiNik:
We have dated for only 9 months, last year everything seem rosy and promising even though i was away for about 5 months but visited every month. I have never stopped her on going on a date with another guy, she even went out with a guy last year and they both passed the night together in a hotel. She came back saying nothing happened but the guy tried having his way which she declined reminding him, he promised it was just a platonic meeting and I believed her.
I have always trusted her until recently i noticed she became a lot insulting lately and always asking if we break up at the slightest misunderstanding. I thought it should be to the fact that i have some serious financial challenge and she is been the one footing the bills, she is probably getting bored already or something.
Two night ago a guy called and ask she sing for him, she obliged and sang the John Legend "All of me" While i was there with her.
I asked her who the guy was and she told me, it was nothing but she had promised the guy she was not gonna date anyone until he his back, she said she doesn't want to tell the guy she is dating now just so he doesn't get distracted.
I told her it is okay and we should forget about it but she is always wanting to talk about it and it bothers me why she is so keen on talking about it if i had told her she should forget about it and if she is sincere. I told her i am beginning to not trust her anymore and then she said we should quit. She can't do this no more cos I don't trust her. Just like that....
Am I wrong to have said I don't trust her? Truth is, I love her. Should I just move on or apologize?

Any relationship that was built of lies & deceit will never gonna grow matured..

Don't fool urself sha... U offered her to be in an OPEN RELATIONSHIP in the first place.. So, now she wants to quit..Let her go. She deserved to be happy with someone else..

Don't be a fool for love, wake up man!

AdiNik:
We have dated for only 9 months, last year everything seem rosy and promising even though i was away for about 5 months but visited every month. I have never stopped her on going on a date with another guy, she even went out with a guy last year and they both passed the night together in a hotel. She came back saying nothing happened but the guy tried having his way which she declined reminding him, he promised it was just a platonic meeting and I believed her.
I have always trusted her until recently i noticed she became a lot insulting lately and always asking if we break up at the slightest misunderstanding. I thought it should be to the fact that i have some serious financial challenge and she is been the one footing the bills, she is probably getting bored already or something.
Two night ago a guy called and ask she sing for him, she obliged and sang the John Legend "All of me" While i was there with her.
I asked her who the guy was and she told me, it was nothing but she had promised the guy she was not gonna date anyone until he his back, she said she doesn't want to tell the guy she is dating now just so he doesn't get distracted.
I told her it is okay and we should forget about it but she is always wanting to talk about it and it bothers me why she is so keen on talking about it if i had told her she should forget about it and if she is sincere. I told her i am beginning to not trust her anymore and then she said we should quit. She can't do this no more cos I don't trust her. Just like that....
Am I wrong to have said I don't trust her? Truth is, I love her. Should I just move on or apologize?

Move on. There is no future in this relationship

What kind of a relationship is that

Is this an open relationship or you're just being a 'dèwè/gbèwu'?

Move on, the breeze has blow and you have seen the fowl yansh, do you need another handwriting on the wall for you to know.

I hate weak men. They are like women in men's clothing.

Quit now abi what r u still waiting for.


When the head can no longer hold the body, then things fall apart.

It's obvious she is so sick and tired of you but I don't know why letting go tends to be difficult for you to oblige her.

i dont know whether is enough to call it quit buh i do know is enough to call you stupid

Ubunja tell him something

I didn't finish reading... Can't stand effeminate guys it really irks me.

You need to grow some big hairy balls man

shinarlaura:
What kind of a relationship is that

an open relationship

AdiNik:
We have dated for only 9 months, last year everything seem rosy and promising even though i was away for about 5 months but visited every month. I have never stopped her on going on a date with another guy, she even went out with a guy last year and they both passed the night together in a hotel. She came back saying nothing happened but the guy tried having his way which she declined reminding him, he promised it was just a platonic meeting and I believed her.
I have always trusted her until recently i noticed she became a lot insulting lately and always asking if we break up at the slightest misunderstanding. I thought it should be to the fact that i have some serious financial challenge and she is been the one footing the bills, she is probably getting bored already or something.
Two night ago a guy called and ask she sing for him, she obliged and sang the John Legend "All of me" While i was there with her.
I asked her who the guy was and she told me, it was nothing but she had promised the guy she was not gonna date anyone until he his back, she said she doesn't want to tell the guy she is dating now just so he doesn't get distracted.
I told her it is okay and we should forget about it but she is always wanting to talk about it and it bothers me why she is so keen on talking about it if i had told her she should forget about it and if she is sincere. I told her i am beginning to not trust her anymore and then she said we should quit. She can't do this no more cos I don't trust her. Just like that....
Am I wrong to have said I don't trust her? Truth is, I love her. Should I just move on or apologize?

While she is receiving vitamin D from multiple sources you're there crying, my friend better wise up. You said she spent a night with a guy and did nothing. Are you in kindergarten?... If it's an open relationship, you still need to put boundaries... With the way you're emotional about her despite the numerous Vitamin D capsules she receives, I doubt if you can really handle an open relationship.

Amazinpeace:
an open relationship

As in eh.

But how do some people find it comfortable being in such relationships. Question I always ask myself

hmm... open! I swear LOVE is a bastard based on your story.... and if it's true.
I suggest you for once man up and actually break up with her...
believe me.. she ain't worth even a second of your time. (if this is true )
that's my one cent

That woman is tired of you