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Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by feek07: 1:44pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
if your husband should come across a woman that will treat him like a king there is no how you will not be added to the list of divorcees and single parents if you have kids, it is a very good thing for a wife to respect the husband, many homes are broken today because we refuse to give respect to whom it is due |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by bukatyne(f): 1:44pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
PietraK: You refreshingly understand the OP's point. Your post is a very good solution however, where do you leave the ambition of women? Except you go further to discourage tertiary education for women. A women once opined general studies not as tedious and structured as tertiary education. Your suggestion also means that men must learn to treat their wives right else we go full circle. 2 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 1:44pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
I am not seeking to marry a "rich" lady, just be self sufficient and comfortable, it's going to be really awkward if I marry you and become the burden bearer for every little thing. Safiaaa: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 1:46pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
pcguru1:Why is not realistic to take care of the family in all aspects? Then it shouldn’t be realistic for me to do all the house chores and take care of the kids. Marriage is not for everyone, if you can’t take on your job then don’t get married. Simple. It’s not by force. 5 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by bukatyne(f): 1:47pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Chari4: While you sound so hip in theory, the person you quoted understand married life and the OP better and offers an average woman a better option. Running the home + full time work is killing that's why most wives look stressed and miserable than their husbands. 1 Like |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 1:48pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Sterope:Its a two~way thing and couples are meant to compliment each other. Life don't get harder for ladies it only becomes more of relaxing with less financial burden. But for the guys they have to hustle more and harder to make more money to care for his family and the demands. And you expect that same man going through such mental stress to still go through the stress of getting good food when he has a wife who doesnt go through that stress? 4 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 1:48pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
DonPiiko:And again, of what use is it to marry a ‘comfortable’ lady if you’re taking up all the financial responsibility in the house? That’s not what you as a man should look for in a woman. Her money shouldn’t be important to you, what is important is her wifely qualities and her ability to take care of your children and home. If she’s financial stable on her own, it’s just a bonus, not a necessity. Unless you’re looking for someone to help you with your job. 5 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by monex(m): 1:50pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
dominique:the biggest problem with marriage is human selfishness. Do you know how difficult it can be to be truly selfless? |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 1:52pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa: I said in Nigeria, and i also said economically speaking, and I also mentioned it's not a problem for some ( High Economic power ), Nigerians standard of living is lower than in advance countries and notice i also said it is very possible outside Nigeria. Also what happens when the husband loses his job, does that the mean the marriage is over ? |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 1:52pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Well if you read n understood my response therr would have been ni need for them questions But if you insist I will Financial fulfilment is not just giving money to one's wife rather set her up . Now as regards house chores . You do not xpect a house with kids to be spotless . Therr are certain things I do arround my house I call Man program and I enjoy doing them . The major house chore is cooking and cleaning . . Cleaning can be halved if one invest in washing machine and a generator . . Now cooking. If one's wife cannot cook or complain that it's too stressful to cook ahhh wahala dey ohh . In my book cooking is a responsibly rather than a daily chore |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by monex(m): 1:54pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa: most of those I know actually. They recognize and appreciate any support/assistance the wife provides but they consider financial provision (at least) to be their primary responsibility |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 1:55pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
pcguru1:Tbh some aspect of living in Nigeria is on the high side compared to the west . If we where to have electricity 24/7 We will pay more . Healthcare , security etc |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 1:56pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Exactly I like this thought pattern Safiaaa: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 1:57pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Haba come on In Nigeria the Man pays all primary bills . The wife can support when it comes to secondary . That's Nigeria . |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 1:59pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
jennyolive:Intellectuals don't solve problems from the complex part, we tackle it from the simple! If she can't cook for two then she can't cook for more. And from the post, she didn't mention cooking for a family, she was too lazy to cook for her husband that they share the same bed. Like i said, any lady that feels cooking for her husband is too burdensome for her is lazy and dirty and such doesn't deserve a husband. Finally, i hope nobody come here to cry that her man is staying out late or he's seeing another mistress.. And for the latter part of your post, I chose to believe you are not referring to me |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:01pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
pcguru1:I understand that economically Nigeria is not on the level it should be. Making it harder for men to provide fully. However if you want to adjust financially due to the economic strain, then you must adjust domestically due the physical strain it will cost your wife. Do you understand? You cannot do things that are only beneficial for yourself. That’s not how marriage works. Now when a man loses his job, the roles may be reversed and the man has to work extra hard to reverse those roles back to normal, otherwise their will be problems. If the woman becomes the man in the household for too long, it will damage the relationship and it will possibly crash. Things happen and I understand that, but one should never be content with that. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:02pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
monex:fantastic. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:02pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2: Actually it's just Lagos, I went to Akure and you can actually live a good life there easily. we've lost it in this country, even 24/7 electricity will create a lot of jobs and reduces loads of expenses and prices of item in the market. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:03pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:There’s nothing like supporting you financially. Do your job, I do mine and they’ll be no complications. That’s how we support each other. 2 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Newboss(m): 2:06pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Marriage is a scam. But these religious and traditional fools won't listen! ![]() 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by monex(m): 2:06pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
the rule of thumb is to discuss your understanding and expectations about marriage. As a lady, If you dont expect cooking to be your obligation in marriage, explain this before any committment. Don't refrain from discussing it due to some desperation. There are always going to be those who share similar marital values and expectations with you. As a guy, if you expect cooking to be your wife's responsibility. Let her know before you guys make a commitment to each other so she has a choice. We have no right to take away anyone's choices or to coerce someone into something the person does not want. Most of us where raised in a culture and the effect of this culture still affects our understanding of marriages. Religion (Orthodox Christianity and Islam especially) further support this idea of Husband (Lead, Protect, Provide) and Wife (Home Management and Nurturing) responsibilities. A lady will probably know about my position on marital responsibilities in our first month of dating. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:06pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:then you must adjust domestically due the physical strain it will cost your wife. Do you understand? You cannot do things that are only beneficial for yourself. That’s not how marriage works. Ah i now see where the issue comes from, to be frank i've always been of the opinion that both parties should share domestic stuffs, i don't feel comfortable when someone is doing stuff and i know i'm capable to reduce the load, seems reasonable to me. However not everyone shares that but alot of guys did domestic works while growing up and have no issues. but i cannot iron clothes sha i hate that sh.it |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by monex(m): 2:11pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
dominique: is it a lack of respect to want one's wife to be responsible for taking care of the home? |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by peezeygwiny(m): 2:11pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
deesad2002:And u dint ask ursef y her family collected bride-price ![]() |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by bukatyne(f): 2:12pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
PietraK: Lol! @ bold. I would say men and women are different not 'unequal' |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by bukatyne(f): 2:13pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2: Dreams come true. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by monex(m): 2:13pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa: That's exactly what Islam states. I understood that from my Muslim friend. I would advise you marry a Muslim then if you are single and want to get married. 1 Like |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by monex(m): 2:14pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
dominique: the bolded shows that you consider it HER responsibility |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by bukatyne(f): 2:15pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa: Insightful. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:17pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
monex:No thanks. But my dad is a Muslim. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by lilyheaven: 2:18pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Correct !!! ![]() |
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