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Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 2:22pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
bukatyne:Well my Dad did it. I'm doing it so sons will do too . It's nothing like dream . You work 2wards it cos hard and honest work does pay |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by bukatyne(f): 2:22pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
DonPiiko: Funny you. If she is a liability to you financially, you are a liability to her domestically except you do chores with her. 7 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Sterope(f): 2:24pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
It is not relaxing for ladies. House chores is not for the weak, it is demanding on its own. Then try doing house chores with a proper job and see if you won't cry all night. I don't know the ladies you are talking about but I know that in most average homes I am familiar with, the woman carries the financial burden of the home equally. By equally, I am not talking about the amount she spends but the fact that she spends the same percentage as her husband. Basically, her life is not financially better sunless she is married to a rich guy. Which hustling more? Where both couples 've the same work schedule, the wife is still expected to do more house chores! Where the husband may have more time in his hands, the wife is still expected to do more! princefunmmy: 4 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by monex(m): 2:24pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa: i am just saying they share the sentiments you expressed there. I am not campaigning for muslim men. I am not muslim |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:28pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
pcguru1: sharap there and look around you. which housemaids? the ones that are underpaid because both the husband and wife can barely survive above minimum wage or the ones that indulge in child labour because the husband's Ego is too much to do housework and change napkin. also see the number of monikers saying she should know that is how things are supposed to be. the other day na one corper dey praise him mama how she sold fish to send him to school im sure she was probably doing all the emotional Labour and house work alone too. kai if I have to marry one of these misogynistic Nigerian men he better be rich. The worst thing that can happen to any woman is to marry a broke, misogynistic man that thinks household duties is for women alone. 3 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Xmen149(m): 2:33pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
They should scrap marriage list,marriage ceremony/expense and bride price then we can start talking of 50/50.. after all na oyibo we wan copy we still insist :its not a mans duty,but a man can assist,if u make it a duty u go home ![]() |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:36pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:I am not aware that Naija guys do ask their women to split bills |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Chari4: 2:40pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Very funny, women were created to take care of kids and manage home, then all women should be married and all should have kids. What are men created for? This egocentric narcissism is the reason there are many failed marriages because you fail to understand it a 50% effort from both parties. These ideology worked then cause men were full providers, their wives were pampered even given helps, how many men today can even boast of a good job to take of themselves? So when you start thinking of "outlawing" female employment better be ready to fully provide for the family but we all know that I never going to happen PietraK: 2 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by gidicouture: 2:41pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
dannytoe:wise man 2 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by bukatyne(f): 2:44pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Proudgorgeousga: @Bold: On the flip side, that's why mothers will be always praised than fathers and I laugh when peeps start whinning. 4 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:44pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Sterope: dont mind these people. they talk as if in their various work place there is no married woman that works the same hours as them. they should imagine how tired they are each day from work then going home to do another round while the husband goes to watch tv and press phone. How about those that sell fish under the sun and still go home for another round. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:44pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Proudgorgeousga: Eyah sadly it seems i will have to explain in details so here we go, I stated no every home is like that because most partners have agreement on how to share the household tasks and if a maid is required assuming they had the financial power. What you are describing has nothing to do with what i stated, so keep the ad hominems. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Bodex2000(m): 2:44pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
HeWrites: I totally agree with her. This is 21st century,husbands and wives should share domestic chores wife75%-25% husband. Although I would prefer my wife to either be a homemaker by profession or teacher so as to have enough time for all duties |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by ernwale(m): 2:45pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
dominique: I agree with you dear. Even though, i hardly help at home too. That's why i believe that women are naturally stronger than men. Buh, where does the strength lead them? |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:46pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
bukatyne: Mothers bond more with the child than Fathers, Fathers usually play tough love as they are seen to be strict and not accessible, then again it could be that in those cases, most of the fathers abandoned their responsibilities. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 2:48pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Sterope:Over time house chores reduces either by kids or house help but this will affect the man more as more responsibility will be added. Like i said, it is more of mental stress for the man not physical stress and you already know that mental stress drains strength than physical stress. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:51pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:Good. Let’s keep it like that, and don’t ask me to help you financially at ALL in the house. Do your job as a man and we won’t have any problems ![]() |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Sterope(f): 2:54pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
House chores don't reduce over time with kids until they are adults. My scenario also covers a situation where there is no kid. House chores demand both mental and physical energy. You need the will power and physical strength to fold those clothes. princefunmmy: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:57pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
pcguru1: wrong most men in Nigeria believe household work is women's job alone that is why they ask useless questions like "can you cook? " on a first date . in most homes the wife carries both financial burden and household burden we all have mothers here. how many households have the financial power to hire cooks and housekeeper? nothing like ad hominem here. you made it sound like what the OP described is rare while it is the reality in many homes. 4 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 2:57pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
princefunmmy:I don’t give a damn about mental or physical stress. It is both stress at the end of the day. If you cannot financially take care of all my needs and pamper myself and my children, then please do not expect me to cook and do all the house chores. We can do half and half as long as you won’t compromise your position in the domestic sector. You cannot pick and choose, when things are convenient for you, it doesn’t work that way. 2 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Sterope(f): 2:57pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
She must also be willing to fulfil her sexual obligations. Everything on top one human being. Proudgorgeousga: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by orumba(m): 3:01pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
idiot!!! Tel your guy to carry the pregnancy now |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 3:03pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
I have no comments bukatyne:
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Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 3:09pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:All your needs? Humans needs are unlimited my dear. But if he can provide you and the kids with shelter and food i think he has done something and if you can do the food, clean the house and kids then you've done well (but you know that a house help can do all of these). |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 3:13pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Sterope:Do you know that when something is a routine, it demands less from the person? So does house chores. But the demands on a man is not a routine, demands increases and a man must be able to measure up to the standard demanded of him |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 3:18pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
princefunmmy:Not only provide a shelter with food, those are compulsory necessities. Provider in all sectors, providing and taking care of all my wants. Making sure I live a very comfortable and smooth life. That’s your job as my husband, then sure I will take care of the kids and house. Of course everybody can be replaced partially. The house help can do my job as well as a maga can do yours. But that’s why we’re married, because we want to help and benefit each other. If you cannot perform your job as a provider fully then you will need help. As well as I will need help as a nurturer. I can’t help you without receiving anything back. That’s what silly women do,and then complain later on about doing everything. Pick one and stick to it. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 3:26pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Getting a maid is legal, but getting a maga is shameful, Now, lets turn the table around if he decides that if you don't do your duty as expected, he's not doing his too; you can never get equality one has to do more, rather seek equity |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Sterope(f): 3:27pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
I am tired. You have no argument! princefunmmy: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by TonyeBarcanista(m): 3:30pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Do I come as one that depends on whatever a woman gets? |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 3:31pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
princefunmmy:There’s nothing about shame here. It’s about being smart and knowing what you deserve. You have to pay the price either directly or indirectly. Whether you replace him or get a maga. Everything in this life is replaceable whether shameful or not, so quit that mentality. All I’m saying is do your job, I do mine. Simple. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 3:32pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:huh |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Tinalex(f): 3:33pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
I totally get what she said. Exactly why I already zero my mind that marriage is not by force, if I can't cope no more i divorce you and take by babies. At least I am very OK on my own. 2 Likes |
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