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Treat Him Like A Friend by dinewithoyin(f): 9:43pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
Think back to the beginning of your relationship when you first met your partner. You didn’t nag him. Chances are, you treated him much as you would a friend. You were relaxed; you had fun and laughed more. You felt comfortable speaking your mind. He wasn’t the “be all and end all” of your existence. When you started nagging, your behavior began to tel a different story. “I’m affected by every move you make.” For this reason and this reason alone, nagging rewards him. Not because he enjoys it, but because it reassures him you care. |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 9:48pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
In other words, you're saying we should nag on them? |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 9:50pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
Nagging shows you care? What happened to constructive criticism ![]() |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 9:54pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
greiboy:You can even criticise some people constructively and not have them see it as such. ![]() |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 9:58pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
kimbraa:Yes Maybe people that are too emotional or proud ![]() As for me, I love to be criticized In fact, I feel strange if no one criticize me for a long time |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 10:01pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
greiboy:Sorry, modified. What I meant to type was "you could criticise someone constructively and not have the person see it as such. You just have to pray it doesn't turn into a serious fight 'cause perception varies. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by PastorLucifer: 10:04pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
dinewithoyin: Don't take alcohol while you are pregnant, una nor go hear now see the gibberish you are typing. 1 Like |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 10:08pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
kimbraa:OK Absolutely! you are right, perhaps through humor or sarcasm. Sure perception varies, that is why I always try to be familiar with the person I am criticizing, before someone burst my head Unless it is on the internet, then I can say whatever I like ![]() |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Mandrake007(m): 10:12pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
what I can deduce is that you're trying justify the fact that you're a crazy,bi-polar temperamental and a confused lass BTW this post is bland . |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 10:19pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
greiboy:Exactly!. I've an eighteen years old friend I corrected twice; one was for eating with her roomates she barely know their health history with the same spoon while another was for blowing air with her mouth into a nylon she wanted to rap moi-moi in, and you needed to see the facial expression and reaction afterwards. ![]() |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 10:27pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
kimbraa: Maybe humor or sarcasm might have been appropriate in that scenario, but then again, humor can only work when the other party gets the joke. So what other method will you use to deal with such a situation in the future? |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 10:37pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
greiboy:Humans are complicated. The ones you failed to correct will be like "you saw me doing this and you didn't say" while the ones you did correct may end up insulting you for correcting them or employing all sorts of defence mechanism. Anyway, we all have our sober moments we reflect on events and draw corrections from them. Like you said, knowing whom you're dealing with is paramount before attempting to criticise. |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 10:44pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
kimbraa:So in summary, they will still blame you whether you correct them or not. If that is the case, I will rather choose to correct them and live with the consequences of their defense mechanism. it is of no importance if the outcome is similar. |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by Nobody: 10:55pm On Mar 03, 2018 |
greiboy:Yeah, there are situations you can't help but correct them. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by dinewithoyin(f): 12:51am On Mar 04, 2018 |
dinewithoyin:criticism is futile because it put a person on the defensive and usually makes such person strive to justify himself. it is dangerous because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurt his sense of importance and arouses resentment. |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by dinewithoyin(f): 12:58am On Mar 04, 2018 |
greiboy:You are absolutely right when dealing with people let's us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic we are dealing with creatures of emotions, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. let's try to figure out why they do what they do that's lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism and it's breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness |
Re: Treat Him Like A Friend by dinewithoyin(f): 1:15am On Mar 04, 2018 |
greiboy:hmm....that good some people may not like to be criticized, i think communicating in love,tolerating each other won't look offensive let's correct in love..... |
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