missdivineprove:
The Effect Of The Expensive Concept Of Marriage We Have Adopted.

Honestly, I don’t want to post this because I’m not that good in writing, but let me give this a try.

I’ve heard stories from my grand ma how marriage was done during their time. According to her stories, it was simple, interesting and desiring. Quite different from what we do now.

Although I’ve heard people saying marriage ought to be difficult so that the man can value/appreciate the woman, but I doubt if this is true anyway.

Based on my observation, these are the effect of the kind of expensive marriage concept we have adopted. It seems it has enslaved us.

1. High rate of pre marital sex

I am not justifying pre marital sex, but I’m sure the rate of pre marital sex wouldn’t be so high if every marriageable bachelor/spinster can easily get married.
Like that kind of Romeo and Juliet kind of wedding lol.

2. Late marriage

Apart from those who are financial capable, but have no interest in marriage or haven’t met someone of their choice, majority of the youth who are of marriageable age have no means to get married.

3. Marring the wrong person

Sometimes, most especially ladies ended up marring someone who can afford their marriage rite and not someone they really desire to be with.
That’s why some people are married to someone else while they love another person.

4. Poverty

How can a young man keeping working hard, saving his money only for him to spend all that in one day all in the name of marriage? The worst part, after everything, he’ll start all over again but this time, it’s going to get more difficult because more responsibilities have come in.

5. Over rating Marriage

I don’t know how to put this, it’s so annoying the way some takes marriage. Some see marriage as the greatest achievement of their life. Some people’s dream, aspiration, career all come to an end immediately they’re married. Maybe because the cost of marriage is expensive and demanding so it’s being over rated. Knowing that there’s more to life than just marriage

What is your own opinion about this?
Do you think it’s ok so that men could value women more?

If you think it’s not ok, what way forward can you suggest so it could be simpler for everyone to easily achieve without committing crime?
Do you think the media have a role to play in this in educating the people?


Please overlook my typing errors and don't quote my write up. thank you

desreek9:
I honestly dont see what the rant is all about, having a big wedding is not and should not be a do or die affair, if you cant afford an elaborate wedding, make do with what you can, honestly all these people complaining are just not happy they cant have a big wedding or are just envious of the elaborate wedding they see around them.

desreek9:
I honestly dont see what the rant is all about, having a big wedding is not and should not be a do or die affair, if you cant afford an elaborate wedding, make do with what you can, honestly all these people complaining are just not happy they cant have a big wedding or are just envious of the elaborate wedding they see around them.

judecares1:
THIS THE MORE REASON I MUST MARRY FROM URHOBO IN DELTA STATE,URHOBO IS D CHEAPEST OF ALL TRIBE IN NIGERIA WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE.

Memories12411:
My candid advice to the ladies who are craving for elaborate wedding is to use the money to empower their home and watch people coming to leak their feet after gossiping about their low key wedding. Money unnecessarily spent during wedding to impress people who actually don't care.

An expensive marriage won't make a man value a woman more. But people should have the type of marriage they can afford.

Pepsi101:
Bros the thing tire me sef.

I have decided to do only the traditional marriage rites,no white or court wedding.

ibietela2:


My man.... Same thing here o.

skarlett:
To me, it's a simple matter. It depends on the level of maturity and understanding between the couple involved. I don't need a fanfare to tie the knot with one I love if the means is not there. As a matter of fact, the wedding accepted worldwide is a court wedding and that's not expensive. It's not by appeasing your family and pastor, a wedding will only last for one day (max seven) and you can always have the fanfare when you're celebrating your 25 years marriage anniversary. Marriage lasts for a life time, the faster African youths get this, the better for everyone involved.

missdivineprove:
[b]The Effect Of The Expensive Concept Of Marriage We Have Adopted.[/b]let marry

Honestly, I don’t want to post this because I’m not that good in writing, but let me give this a try.

I’ve heard stories from my grand ma how marriage was done during their time. According to her stories, it was simple, interesting and desiring. Quite different from what we do now.

Although I’ve heard people saying marriage ought to be difficult so that the man can value/appreciate the woman, but I doubt if this is true anyway.

Based on my observation, these are the effect of the kind of expensive marriage concept we have adopted. It seems it has enslaved us.

1. High rate of pre marital sex

I am not justifying pre marital sex, but I’m sure the rate of pre marital sex wouldn’t be so high if every marriageable bachelor/spinster can easily get married.
Like that kind of Romeo and Juliet kind of wedding lol.

2. Late marriage

Apart from those who are financial capable, but have no interest in marriage or haven’t met someone of their choice, majority of the youth who are of marriageable age have no means to get married.

3. Marring the wrong person

Sometimes, most especially ladies ended up marring someone who can afford their marriage rite and not someone they really desire to be with.
That’s why some people are married to someone else while they love another person.

4. Poverty

How can a young man keeping working hard, saving his money only for him to spend all that in one day all in the name of marriage? The worst part, after everything, he’ll start all over again but this time, it’s going to get more difficult because more responsibilities have come in.

5. Over rating Marriage

I don’t know how to put this, it’s so annoying the way some takes marriage. Some see marriage as the greatest achievement of their life. Some people’s dream, aspiration, career all come to an end immediately they’re married. Maybe because the cost of marriage is expensive and demanding so it’s being over rated. Knowing that there’s more to life than just marriage

What is your own opinion about this?
Do you think it’s ok so that men could value women more?

If you think it’s not ok, what way forward can you suggest so it could be simpler for everyone to easily achieve without committing crime?
Do you think the media have a role to play in this in educating the people?


Please overlook my typing errors and don't quote my write up. thank you

desreek9:
I honestly dont see what the rant is all about, having a big wedding is not and should not be a do or die affair, if you cant afford an elaborate wedding, make do with what you can, honestly all these people complaining are just not happy they cant have a big wedding or are just envious of the elaborate wedding they see around them.

skarlett:
To me, it's a simple matter. It depends on the level of maturity and understanding between the couple involved. I don't need a fanfare to tie the knot with one I love if the means is not there. As a matter of fact, the wedding accepted worldwide is a court wedding and that's not expensive. It's not by appeasing your family and pastor, a wedding will only last for one day (max seven) and you can always have the fanfare when you're celebrating your 25 years marriage anniversary. Marriage lasts for a life time, the faster African youths get this, the better for everyone involved.

skarlett:
To me, it's a simple matter. It depends on the level of maturity and understanding between the couple involved. I don't need a fanfare to tie the knot with one I love if the means is not there. As a matter of fact, the wedding accepted worldwide is a court wedding and that's not expensive. It's not by appeasing your family and pastor, a wedding will only last for one day (max seven) and you can always have the fanfare when you're celebrating your 25 years marriage anniversary. Marriage lasts for a life time, the faster African youths get this, the better for everyone involved.

Pepsi101:

Bros,I don already tell my girl,if she no gree make she find her level.

No time.