cassyrooy:
MissJoy29 like you rightly said yesterday that I'm a gamophobic, well see another reason.


Hope you're having a nice Sunday?

This is actually one of the major reasons(if not the major one) why we have a surplus of men and women of marriageable age. The economy is not smiling at all!

I actually am. You? Hope you went to Church.

Ginaz:
The day for introduction would be my traditional marriage. After that I and my husband with friends and family only would head to the court to get our marriage certificate. And I move into my marital house.

Or

After making an introduction between both families, we head to the court (just family) then later fixed a date for the traditional marriage only.

But I'm choosing the first option...if only I see a man that would agree with me and don't try to shift it to his way.

My mom is a party woman, she pulls crowd. She might just be the only problem I have. Who cares about a big wedding, not me. I do things my way fuccck society.

Apart from eating to their satisfaction, and filling up the chairs what else do they bring? And it's not everybody that will even be happy for you.

Nice options.
Just like you, I prefer the first option. Only difference is that mine will include a white wedding. So my introduction day will also double as traditional marriage day. Very low key (though I doubt that cos my father who pulls crowd will like to invite the whole of Abia State and beyond). But I'd prefer immediate families and one or two friends. Same with court marriage. Then the white wedding. I'd also prefer an intimate affair.

Cos it's not a question of how much was spent on weddings. It's how well the marriage lasts.

MissJoy29:

This is actually one of the major reasons(if not the major one) why we have a surplus of men and women of marriageable age. The economy is not smiling at all!

I actually am. You? Hope you went to Church.

And IMO people are not considering that one, bride price still doesn't get changed.

Well my area's just dry and power outage to culminate the dryness.

Service was great, *whispering* first time this year. *covers face and run out of thread*

cassyrooy:
And IMO people are not considering that one, bride price still doesn't get changed.

Well my area's just dry and power outage to culminate the dryness.

Service was great, *whispering* first time this year. *covers face and run out of thread*

Is it just Imo?(though I'm not from Imo State).I think it all depends on the bride's family and how greedy & materialistic they are. These set of people could come from anywhere in the country.

Same here o. No light too. Just came back not too long ago. Just want to relax a bit.

you have been running away from Church?

MissJoy29:

Is it just Imo?(though I'm not from Imo State).I think it all depends on the bride's family and how greedy & materialistic they are. These set of people could come from anywhere in the country.

Same here o. No light too. Just came back not too long ago. Just want to relax a bit.

you have been running away from Church?

Yeah, not just Imo, but theirs is more pronounced, when my sister did her wedding some years back, I saw the venture that was called marriage, couldn't stand it.

In some areas in Ebonyi, they collect around N10,010 as bride price, that can't compare to the Imo areas.

My battery is getting flatter by the second.

I think so, second time since 1st January, 2017, I got up this morning and decided to go to Church.

cassyrooy:
Yeah, not just Imo, but theirs is more pronounced, when my sister did her wedding some years back, I saw the venture that was called marriage, couldn't stand it.

In some areas in Ebonyi, they collect around N10,010 as bride price, that can't compare to the Imo areas.

My battery is getting flatter by the second.

I think so, second time since 1st January, 2017, I got up this morning and decided to go to Church.

Hmmmm...well, a lot of people say that though. It might be true.

Sorry about your battery. Go get it charged then.

Thank God for touching your heart to go to Church today. May He continue to do so. Say Amen.

MissJoy29:

Hmmmm...well, a lot of people say that though. It might be true.

Sorry about your battery. Go get it charged then.

Thank God for touching your heart to go to Church today. May He continue to do so. Say Amen.

Yeah! its true o!

Now there's light!

Amen!

I know those days I don't go to Church at all are almost over.

One thing i don't like is going and not feeling the presence of God, and I don't like going alone.

cassyrooy:
Yeah! its true o!

Now there's light!

Amen!

I know those days I don't go to Church at all are almost over.

One thing i don't like is going and not feeling the presence of God, and I don't like going alone.

Wow. Enjoy. Still waiting for ours.

Amen.

If you don't feel the presence of God in your Church, you might need to change.
You don't like going alone? How

MissJoy29:

Wow. Enjoy. Still waiting for ours.

Amen.

If you don't feel the presence of God in your Church, you might need to change.
You don't like going alone? How

I've considered leaving my present Church but I don't know what's keeping me static with it.
My spiritual level is low(sometimes people fear I'm an agnostic or worse, atheist).

About going alone, I grew up going to Church in pairs or with other people, since I came off, I didn't fancy going alone, so I stopped unknowingly.

Also going alone kind of make me agoraphobic, with a friend I enjoy fully the ambience of the worship, laugh when there's need to, not keeping a straight face all through. You get me?

cassyrooy:
I've considered leaving my present Church but I don't know what's keeping me static with it.
My spiritual level is low(sometimes people fear I'm an agnostic or worse, atheist).

About going alone, I grew up going to Church in pairs or with other people, since I came off, I didn't fancy going alone, so I stopped unknowingly.

Also going alone kind of make me agoraphobic, with a friend I enjoy fully the ambience of the worship, laugh when there's need to, not keeping a straight face all through. You get me?

For you to have considered leaving in the first place, it means it's not giving you what your spirit yearns for. So, do the needful please.

Yeah. I get you. But....

MissJoy29:

For you to have considered leaving in the first place, it means it's not giving you what your spirit yearns for. So, do the needful please.

Yeah. I get you. But....

I'll start the search for another place.

But? Please finish up!

cassyrooy:
I'll start the search for another place.

But? Please finish up!

Good idea....

But....it's not an excuse to miss Church

MissJoy29:

Good idea....

But....it's not an excuse to miss Church

I was trying to justify missing Church.

I'll see into it seriously!

cassyrooy:
I was trying to justify missing Church.

I'll see into it seriously!

I know you were.
Very good. Please do.

Cheers!!

MissJoy29:

I know you were.
Very good. Please do.

Cheers!!

I made a mistake o, I wasn't trying to justify missing church, but well, that's past now.

We'll see midweek and then Sunday too.

cassyrooy:
I made a mistake o, I wasn't trying to justify missing church, but well, that's past now.

We'll see midweek and then Sunday too.

Lol....ok.

I don't understand the last sentence please

MissJoy29:
Lol....ok.
I don't understand the last sentence please

Going back to Church

cassyrooy:
Going back to Church

Ok...good!

Pepsi101:
Bros the thing tire me sef.

I have decided to do only the traditional marriage rites,no white or court wedding.

It's good you at least have a court document to prove that you are actually married

just an opinion

emperormossad:
#my2pence
I see a lot of unmarried youths who ought to realise the truth.
You don't need to accumulate a fortune to marry.
Infact, the less you've the more realistic considering the present-day craze for materialistic possessions. Marriage ought to be a lifelong commitment.
My advise to young men is to marry while they're still young. Be in love, settle down, use your youthful energy while you can to hustle and provide for your family.
When you grow into mid/old age, your kids are out trying to start your own family which decreases the burden on you.
Do your research and see how many 60 year Olds and 70 year Olds are still training their kids through school. It's alarming.
For we men, get a woman who appreciates you for who you're, who's willing to do the 'dirty work' with you in order to have a settled family.
Ladies, give the young men a chance. Not everyone means bad for you. Some of these men only need someone to believe in them, their dreams, their ambitions, their desires to love and be loved in return. That doesn't necessarily have to be measured by money at hand. We have so monetised our lives that everything is based on what the other person has at hand.
Marriage doesn't have to be elaborate. The most important thing is what happens after the ceremony.
Left to me, a court wedding coupled with a traditional marriage between me and my Beau is sufficient. The land recognizes it, God recognizes it. I don't need any religious wedding. Our parents give their blessings and life goes on.
Forget the facade of the ceremony. Life after marriage is what really counts. Just a piece of my mind.

excellent point you got there

emperormossad:
#my2pence
I see a lot of unmarried youths who ought to realise the truth.
You don't need to accumulate a fortune to marry.
Infact, the less you've the more realistic considering the present-day craze for materialistic possessions. Marriage ought to be a lifelong commitment.
My advise to young men is to marry while they're still young. Be in love, settle down, use your youthful energy while you can to hustle and provide for your family.
When you grow into mid/old age, your kids are out trying to start your own family which decreases the burden on you.
Do your research and see how many 60 year Olds and 70 year Olds are still training their kids through school. It's alarming.
For we men, get a woman who appreciates you for who you're, who's willing to do the 'dirty work' with you in order to have a settled family.
Ladies, give the young men a chance. Not everyone means bad for you. Some of these men only need someone to believe in them, their dreams, their ambitions, their desires to love and be loved in return. That doesn't necessarily have to be measured by money at hand. We have so monetised our lives that everything is based on what the other person has at hand.
Marriage doesn't have to be elaborate. The most important thing is what happens after the ceremony.
Left to me, a court wedding coupled with a traditional marriage between me and my Beau is sufficient. The land recognizes it, God recognizes it. I don't need any religious wedding. Our parents give their blessings and life goes on.
Forget the facade of the ceremony. Life after marriage is what really counts. Just a piece of my mind.

exactly