I had seen D* around the office of the tech company I worked for. But we didn’t really get to know each other well until our office holiday party.

We hit it off and made plans to go Christmas shopping together, which was our first time hanging outside of work. We started dating about a month after that.

IT WAS GREAT…AT FIRST

D and I worked on opposite ends of the office and in different departments (he was in engineering, I was in marketing), so we didn’t think it would be a big deal to mix business and pleasure. At first, it was exciting to get to see each other every day at work. It was this secret we were holding on to—some of our close colleagues knew, but we hadn’t told out bosses or HR, since it didn’t seem that serious yet. Whenever we’d cross paths in the halls, I’d feel a rush of adrenaline.



But about a year later, something clicked in my head, and I wanted to end it. D had become complacent in his life and wasn’t motivated to do anything positive, professionally or personally, and his priorities weren’t where I thought they should be for a man in his thirties. It wasn’t working for me anymore, so I had to break it off.

By that point, seeing him every day at work was the worst. I’d think, “Ugh, you again?”

BUT THE BREAKUP WAS AWKWARD AF

For D, the breakup felt totally out of the blue. He didn’t get it, and he wanted another chance. But I had been talking to him about these issues for a while, and when he didn’t change, I made up my mind. We had a very emotional conversation over the weekend, and the following Monday back at the office was incredibly awkward.

I didn’t want to run into him, so I ate my lunch at my desk and only left my area to go to the bathroom. The first time we interacted again was that Wednesday. I had a meeting, and he walked by the glass-walled conference room 8 to 10 times in that one hour.

He kept walking by my weekly meetings and staring at me with puppy-dog eyes.

At first, I figured he just had business to do on my side of the office. But when it continued, I realized he was trying to see me and get my attention. There were a few people in the meeting who knew about our history, and they gave me eyes like, “You better handle this.”

D and I worked on opposite ends of the office and in different departments (he was in engineering, I was in marketing), so we didn’t think it would be a big deal to mix business and pleasure. At first, it was exciting to get to see each other every day at work. It was this secret we were holding on to—some of our close colleagues knew, but we hadn’t told out bosses or HR, since it didn’t seem that serious yet. Whenever we’d cross paths in the halls, I’d feel a rush of adrenaline.



But about a year later, something clicked in my head, and I wanted to end it. D had become complacent in his life and wasn’t motivated to do anything positive, professionally or personally, and his priorities weren’t where I thought they should be for a man in his thirties. It wasn’t working for me anymore, so I had to break it off.

By that point, seeing him every day at work was the worst. I’d think, “Ugh, you again?”

BUT THE BREAKUP WAS AWKWARD AF

For D, the breakup felt totally out of the blue. He didn’t get it, and he wanted another chance. But I had been talking to him about these issues for a while, and when he didn’t change, I made up my mind. We had a very emotional conversation over the weekend, and the following Monday back at the office was incredibly awkward.

I didn’t want to run into him, so I ate my lunch at my desk and only left my area to go to the bathroom. The first time we interacted again was that Wednesday. I had a meeting, and he walked by the glass-walled conference room 8 to 10 times in that one hour.

He kept walking by my weekly meetings and staring at me with puppy-dog eyes.

At first, I figured he just had business to do on my side of the office. But when it continued, I realized he was trying to see me and get my attention. There were a few people in the meeting who knew about our history, and they gave me eyes like, “You better handle this.”



I didn’t speak to D about it until it happened again at next week’s meeting. Then I decided I couldn’t avoid conflict any more. I went to his desk and told him I felt like it was getting really awkward and I hadn’t thought it was going to be like this. He didn’t want to hear it.

He would fill his 16-ounce water bottle two to three times in the few minutes it took my K-Cup to brew, never saying anything.

He asked me how I could walk away from what we had. He said he just wanted to be around me, see my face, and smell my perfume. I felt bad–I wasn’t trying to be mean or heartless, but at a certain point I just had to shut off emotionally. I couldn’t have these intense conversations at work, and for me, it had long been over.

TENSIONS ESCALATED QUICKLY

After we talked, things only got weirder. He would “randomly” pop up everywhere. He kept walking by my weekly meetings and staring at me through the glass walls–not in a menacing way, but with puppy-dog eyes, trying to make me feel something.

If I was making coffee in the break room (which was on his side of the building), he would fill his 16-ounce water bottle two to three times in the few minutes it took my K-Cup to brew, never saying anything, but just always there. People were starting to notice and talk, but it was more of a nuisance than anything, so I didn’t feel the need to go to HR.

Non-work breakups are hard enough–just seeing your ex’s sweatshirt can make you nostalgic.

I did have one boss take me aside and say .....

Is it right to date a co worker

https://livelystones.com.ng/dated-co-worker-epic-disaster/

The worst mistake any guy can make is to date a colleague .

k5500:
pity

Why break up?

z11111:

The worst mistake any guy can make is to date a colleague .

Only guys?

When office romance goes wrong.

Both ladies too.

Loool.

boyjo:


Only guys?

One person suffers it.

But the guy self fall hand ,em for try control em emotion

Grayjoy:
When office romance goes wrong.

z11111:

One person suffers it.

But the guy self fall hand ,em for try control em emotion

controlling emotions is nt easy 4 some people irrespective of their social status or age, u never jam?

Sure, controlling emotion is never easy , though depends on one level of maturity.

Grayjoy:
controlling emotions is nt easy 4 some people irrespective of their social status or age, u never jam?

preciousluv2018:

Sure, controlling emotion is never easy , though depends on one level of maturity.

that is to say he is nt matured enuff then.

Maturity is the key to successful relationship, which most people dont know

Grayjoy:
that is to say he is nt matured enuff then.

Beke2020:
Maturity is the key to successful relationship, which most people dont know

they dnt knw cos they are nt matured. IMO.

Sure !

Grayjoy:
they dnt knw cos they are nt matured. IMO.

z11111:
Sure !

u are replying me with almost d fifth moniker only you?

Loooool

Grayjoy:
u are replying me with almost d fifth moniker only you?

z11111:

Loooool

u laff? Are u a haemaphrodite? Cause u use both male and female monikers.

Don't S H I T where you eat

Smiles..
No male and female in the realm of the spirit.

Grayjoy:
u laff? Are u a haemaphrodite? Cause u use both male and female monikers.

z11111:

Smiles..
No male and female in the realm of the spirit.

jesuuu!!! *I take cover* abeg no vex na mistake, i no go ever comment on ur thread.

Office romance does not always end well

Ore mi.
You d fear like this ? Loool.
Okay, I'm a guy . Just that so many use my system to explore naira land. Once I come online ,don't really check whose (which grammar u call am ?) User name.
But I will be checking now. But will love to chat you up

Grayjoy:
jesuuu!!! *I take cover* abeg no vex na mistake, i no go ever comment on ur thread.

z11111:
Ore mi.
You d fear like this ? Loool.
Okay, I'm a guy . Just that so many use my system to explore naira land. Once I come online ,don't really check whose (which grammar u call am ?) User name.
But I will be checking now. But will love to chat you up

ahhh!!! Na now my mind come down. Make I rest first. Where do u wan2 chat me up??

Weti u xpect?

z11111:
Ore mi.
You d fear like this ? Loool.
Okay, I'm a guy . Just that so many use my system to explore naira land. Once I come online ,don't really check whose (which grammar u call am ?) User name.
But I will be checking now. But will love to chat you up

I'm glad now that you are relaxed .

As for where I want to chat you up , are you on Twitter ?

Maybe we can chat on Twitter or where u prefer .

Grayjoy:
ahhh!!! Na now my mind come down. Make I rest first. Where do u wan2 chat me up??

Loooool

Beke2020:
Weti u xpect?

z11111:
I'm glad now that you are relaxed .
As for where I want to chat you up , are you on Twitter ?
Maybe we can chat on Twitter or where u prefer .

Am on twitter, just registered some months back. Am nt a female incase.

I'm not a female, Incase. Loooooool

Must you be a female to chat on Twitter ?

No nah.

The female I get is cool for me ohhh,not looking for more.

Looool.

What's your Twitter handle

Grayjoy:
Am on twitter, just registered some months back. Am nt a female incase.

z11111:
I'm not a female, Incase. Loooooool
Must you be a female to chat on Twitter ?
No nah.
The female I get is cool for me ohhh,not looking for more.
Looool.
What's your Twitter handle

posting my handle here will be a mission impossible o.