A Nigerian woman shared her marital woes on a Facebook group and the replies she got are quite interesting to read.

According to the woman, her husband hasn't been intimate with her for 2 years though they live in the same house but they are living like a tenant. She said he married a new wife and brought her home and he now gives his undivided attention to his new pregnant wife and cares nothing for her. She's now asking if she should have an affair with another man who is asking her out, seeing as she is tired of masturbating.

Read what the woman wrote below;
NO SEX WITH MY HUSBAND FOR ALMOST 2YEARS, CAN I HAVE AN AFFAIRS?
My husband has not touched me for almost 2years. Is it still wrong for me to look for someone else?
We are in a marriage of 15years with 3 boys.
Almost 5years ago he asked if I minded if he had a second wife.
I told him I did mind because I hate polygamous marriage setting but he had the second wife anyway and has had several several affairs since.
He hasn't touched me since almost 2 years, we live as flat mates.
He wouldn't let me leave with my kids because he wanted to stay in the house together with his new wife who's pregnant and centre of his attention.
A man has shown interest in me, is it still wrong to have a physical relationship with him, even though I still live with my husband.
I haven't had a physical relationship for 2years. I'm tired of masturbation and dying to be touched and pleasure by my husband but he never look at me!!
I wouldn't mind to have sex with my husband but begging him to is not an option!!
I'm only in this marriage because of my children otherwise, I would have long gone!!
I need advice please."

As expected, lots of advice were given to the woman and most of them will leave you shaking your head.

Read their advice below;

https://www.torimill.com/2018/03/no-sex-with-my-husband-for-almost-2years-can-i-have-an-affair-lady-asks-see-advice.html


Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique

NO YOU CANT!

This one is strong o. Body no be firewood.

Why have an affair when you can divorce him? He has made it clear that he does not want you anymore so why bother?

Everytime I hear nonsense like "I am staying because of my children" I wonder what that is about. As much as broken homes affect children, a home that is in conflict does more harm than a broken home.

You have 3 boys and you are allowing them see their father treat you like a rag yet you think you are doing the best for them? I hope she knows those kids will probably grow up to make useless statements like "why can't women of nowadays endure like my mother did?" She is raising children that will think it os okay to do this and a "good woman" is supposed to soak it in.

You are supposed to show your kids that women need love too and deserve respect.
You are supposed to let your kids know it is wrong to be mean to other people.
You are supposed to show that marriage is not by force, that people deserve to be happy even if it means going their own way.

I hope she makes the right choice and does what is right for her sanity, her well being, the children she claims to live for and the culture.

But then again, what do I know? I am even single sef

Before you judge the lady, Click like if you know you cannot stay without sex for two years.. body no be firewood.

So many people are enduring marriage because of their children. Total bull#hit

You are masturbating and asking/making the first move for your husband to have you is not an option? Is obvious that you've been using sex starving to bring your husband to his knees, now is his pay back time as he has gotten alternative which your actions lead him to. You either swallow your pride and ask him for sex or continue with your masturbation as sex outside marriage will officially put that your partnerships marriage to an end.

the man seems to be wealthy cos you never complained of wants rather sexual needs,I don't think you want to divorce him like people are advising because if he is poor am sure you would have left him
am also against divorce but madam as a man I have to tell you that once a man is tired of you no matter your seductive attire,perfumes and improved behaviour it will be too hard to find you attractive again sexually.his attention is somewhere else now
i will still advise that you kindly study your competition and know what is it about her that made her irresistible to your husband,when you do that try getting his attention but if he doesn't change better leave him cos we the men sometimes value that woman who leave us than the one who stayed and take all our poo,he will come begging before you know it

No you cannot, you deepshit

Do you know the meaning of: for better for worse?

There is no better way of saying I don't want you anymore than stay away from your wife, even 2years at that, nevertheless, leaving him and having your children kept the marriage will spell disaster for the children. The better option is to talk it out, perhaps letting him know your feeling and if he doesn't change, such could be reported to someone he respect. May God settles every home in such tumultuous situation.

ednut1:
So many people are enduring marriage because of their children. Total bull#hit

That's one of the most annoying things ever.

Endure a marriage and raise kids that are flawed eventually

Can’t judge a situation we don’t know the roots

But remember

What is wrong can never be right

jerflakes:
No you cannot, you deepshit

Do you know the meaning of: for better for worse?

For better for worse only happens when both parties are enduring. When one party is the one causing the worse and enjoying it, those words become meaningless

Madam he is no longer a husband, but your room mate. You better move on

So much trouble in this world. May the troubled heart find peace.

Did I hear her say demanding sex from her own husband is not an option? The ego on some ladies huh.

This is seriously serious

mustafa006:
Madam he is no longer a husband, but your room mate. You better move on

Housemate actually

She better look for better dick to Bleep

No you can't thanks

Well lady ......Do whatever makes u happy
But i dont know tho....

Sex urge is the same as smoking or any other urge for that matter.
Your life does not depend it.
Teach yourself what is important in life and the vices will flee.
Do you have kids? Now is the time to give them the foundation of love and self determination.
Goodluck.

WTF
Which kin useless advice all those people dey give sef
Emotional torture is sometimes more painful than physical torture
A much as I hate divorce, that's the best thing in this situation, she does not mean anything to him anymore.
Whether she did anything wrong or not, is not the point here, she is of no use to him anymore and he has made that CLEAR.
If she did something wrong to warrant his actions, she should still divorce and go and chop the regret of her actions, if she didn't do anything wrong she should still divorce and lick her wounds.
If he was just cheating its a different thing , she can easily try to mend things, but he has married someone else, gave her belle and brought here in , ahn ahn !!
Chai, poor woman.

I also understand her concerns for her children, that is probably what is making the decision tougher.The other woman go suffer them if she leaves.Chai !. Why do people just make marriage complicated, its should'nt be this hard na .

Nairalanders, shine your eyes before choosing a life partner, pray, as you probe spiritually, probe physically too.If there are any red flags you can't tolerate or you feel uncomfortable with, talk to your prospective partner about it, if they are not willing to change before you tie the knot .WALK !!
God bless us all with good life partners that would give us peace and happiness.Just make sure you return the favor of giving your partner peace and happiness

Chuks9000:
Sex urge is the same as smoking or any other urge for that matter.
Your life does not depend it.
Teach yourself what is important in life and the vices will flee.
Do you have kids? Now is the time to give them the foundation of love and self determination.
Goodluck.

So an adult having sex is a vice?

Would you type this same thing if a woman denied her husband sex for 24 months?

Is marriage all about sex? This sex thing is over hyped abeg

Mynd44:

Housemate actually

Not house mate but flatmate

Aunty try o, so people still dey faithful like this

I weak

Unbothered

Hmmm. Divorce should be the very last option. She has invested so much in the relationship to leave now. Should she go frolicking with the new man? I really can't say. Sex is overrated and bringeth with it many diseases and death.
If it's truly companionship that she seeks for with this man, then I guess she is not wrong as long as some boundaries are firmly put in place.
It is a tough situation that requires tons of maturity and patience and faith.. I will advice she focuses on what makes her happy from within, perhaps a job, some hobbies, friends, family and ensuring her boys grow up to be responsible, respectable members of the society.

Things will turn around when the kids are all grown up and the man is old and weary.... Hopefully, the man on getting older will learn to depend on her and show love.

It is a tough one really.

Chuks9000:
Sex urge is the same as smoking or any other urge for that matter.
Your life does not depend it.
Teach yourself what is important in life and the vices will flee.
Do you have kids? Now is the time to give them the foundation of love and self determination.
Goodluck.

hypocrite, what does giving kids good foundation has to do with sex?