I'm so confused right now.
For a long time, I've noticed that the mention of marriage sends me running. I'm a lady for crying out loud. Why do I have this issue?
I've a job...and my man has a good job too. I love him a lot and He wants to marry me soon but each time he starts talking about it, My heart starts racing...and I feel like I want out.
Tonight was the height. I almost closed my ears when he started.

Is it just me? What could be wrong? What do I do?
P.S-no insults please.

U will surely get over it dear

Marriage is a scared bond that binds two individuals together. While many people wait their whole life to be together forever with the person they love, the story may be different for some others. For some people however, the foundations of marriage are scary as hell. Any such irrational fear of getting married or committed is known as gamophobia.
Ithas been derived from Greek word “gamos” meaning marriage. Gamophobia is signified by intense, irrelevant and constant fear of marriage and commitment. The person is specifically scared to get into a marriage which implies spending the whole life with a single person. A gamophobic person’s fear of marriage is similar to the fear of dying. A gramophone person may be in relationship with someone, but drift away and get nervous if the topic of marriage comes up.
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CAUSES OF GAMOPHOBIA.
1. Related Distressful Incident.
Gamophobia can also be associated with any unwanted and distressful event that implanted a negative image of marriage in a person's mind. These incidents can be divorce of parents during childhood, abuse from parents, seeing one’s parents or other married couples fight and quarrel, a previous marriage failure, betrayal from partner or hearing about unsuccessful marriages extensively. Any such related distress can be responsible for gamophobia in people.
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SYMPTOMS OF GAMOPHOBIA
Major symptoms that can occur with someone having gamophobia (both in men and women) are: Irrational and extreme fear of marriage and commitment ( Even a thought of marriage or seeing someone else marry can trigger the fear) Complete avoidance of marriage or related events and discussions Aggression, panic attacks upon the thought or discussion of one's marriage Realization that the fear is irrational but unable to control Lost self esteem Panicking follows physical signs such as trembling, crying, racing heartbeat,trouble in breathing, nausea or vomiting, dizziness or fainting, sweating and abdominal discomfort
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How is Gamophobia Treated?
Gamophobia can be treated using different psychotherapies and medications. The effective psychotherapies for successful elimination of the fear.

You are not alone o,I get goose bumps mere thinking of it including pregnancy and childbirth. Sometimes,I wonder if am up for it. When my ex mentioned that we should be planning for introduction soon and I wasn't giving a favourable reply,he felt I wasn't serious. I just ran and started crying and that day marked the beginning of issues. Its scares the shit out of me

Thanks for this. I understand my issue better. Mine might be rooted in the fact that I've seen too many marriages go wrong.
Thanks again.

SUPERPACK:
Marriage is a scared bond that binds two individuals together. While many people wait their whole life to be together forever with the person they love, the story may be different for some others. For some people however, the foundations of marriage are scary as hell. Any such irrational fear of getting married or committed is known as gamophobia.
Ithas been derived from Greek word “gamos” meaning marriage. Gamophobia is signified by intense, irrelevant and constant fear of marriage and commitment. The person is specifically scared to get into a marriage which implies spending the whole life with a single person. A gamophobic person’s fear of marriage is similar to the fear of dying. A gramophone person may be in relationship with someone, but drift away and get nervous if the topic of marriage comes up.
.
CAUSES OF GAMOPHOBIA.
1. Related Distressful Incident.
Gamophobia can also be associated with any unwanted and distressful event that implanted a negative image of marriage in a person's mind. These incidents can be divorce of parents during childhood, abuse from parents, seeing one’s parents or other married couples fight and quarrel, a previous marriage failure, betrayal from partner or hearing about unsuccessful marriages extensively. Any such related distress can be responsible for gamophobia in people.
.
SYMPTOMS OF GAMOPHOBIA
Major symptoms that can occur with someone having gamophobia (both in men and women) are: Irrational and extreme fear of marriage and commitment ( Even a thought of marriage or seeing someone else marry can trigger the fear) Complete avoidance of marriage or related events and discussions Aggression, panic attacks upon the thought or discussion of one's marriage Realization that the fear is irrational but unable to control Lost self esteem Panicking follows physical signs such as trembling, crying, racing heartbeat,trouble in breathing, nausea or vomiting, dizziness or fainting, sweating and abdominal discomfort
.
How is Gamophobia Treated?
Gamophobia can be treated using different psychotherapies and medications. The effective psychotherapies for successful elimination of the fear.

I see you sis.
my man has been trying to fix a date with me too. All I give are excuses.
Do you think getting married will fix this fear?

Windflower:
You are not alone o,I get goose bumps mere thinking of it including pregnancy and childbirth. Sometimes,I wonder if am up for it. When my ex mentioned that we should be planning for introduction soon and I wasn't giving a favourable reply,he felt I wasn't serious. I just ran and started crying and that day marked the beginning of issues. Its scares the shit out of me

It's kinda like preparing so well and having all grounds covered in an upcoming examination or interview. The calm, peace and tranquillity is unmistakable. You also know the feeling when you're ill prepared for exams or interviews.

From your aggregate experiences, what have you observed as a reoccurring theme mitigating against marriage success? Are you equipped with the right mindset and tools to solve such issues when you eventually come across one?

You need 2 let go of ur past nd move on

Don't force it, the desire to get married will naturally come

Oh my! Babe... You are not alone!

I honestly want to get married, have children, companionship , share bills, etc but I kinda have marriage phobia. I love to chase bobo or be chased but once seriousness sets in, I start singing a different song. I'm super loving all by myself but....Whew! I have nice exes.. .my most recent ex is still confused about me.

My final verdict is: relax, let tomorrow take care of itself

sisisioge:
Oh my! Babe... You are not alone!

I honestly want to get married, have children, companionship , share bills, etc but I kinda have marriage phobia. I love to chase bobo or be chased but once seriousness sets in, I start singing a different song. I'm super loving all by myself but....Whew! I have nice exes.. .my most recent ex is still confused about me.

My final verdict is: relax, let tomorrow take care of itself

Hhmmmmm