I am asking this question because i am currently in a Dilemma .

I have this girl called M.

M lives down the street in the Estate where i stay. The first time i met her was at the supermarket , we met again along the street weeks later and we became friends. one thing led to another, the friendship metamorphosed into feelings from each other and it got to the extent that we were so fond of each other and we do exchange visitations. i took the bold step and asked her out. she told me she liked me but wont be able to date me because she has a serious relationship which she wasn't ready to break with the guy.

i couldn't afford to step down as well and i begged her to give me a chance in her heart and with time, i will be able to prove myself to her that i am more worthy of being the man in her life. she accepted but she gave me a condition that i won't be able to reach her whenever her guy is around or whenever she is with her guy. i thought it was a small deal and i accepted. The relationship was smooth at the first 3 months as we had time to spend with each other.

Recently, Her guy got a job transfer to Lagos from Ibadan and it now happened that the three of us are now in lagos. nowadays, the guy is always around almost every weekend, most times, she also go to the guy's house to spend few days as well which she always informed me.


i am finding it hard to cope again, the thought of them having sex alone burdens my heart not to talk of the inability to call or reach her when she is with her guy.

i have tried several means to break the bond between them, i have made her known i wasn't ready to share but each time i do all these, her response is always like " i cant just break up with him without any offence. he has tried alot for me and i cant just leave him except i find fault in him which i am yet to find. and i told you point blank from the start that i have a relationship with him".


she loves me which i know, i also love her. but i am tired of been a shareholder,

i am tired of been an under-cover lover

i want to be the main guy.

it has really affected me psychologically that i am no longer productive in the office like i used to be.


i am 29 with a good job and planning to settle down soon with her.

how do i manage as a relationship share-holder?

cc lalasticlala

You are not feeling fine

Barzinime:
You are not feeling fine

offcourse yes. and thats why i posted for advice

So, you are a 29yrs old sim-2 to one girl?

Yet you ask how you will cope?

Create another thread asking how you'll boost your low self-esteem. Once you fix that, you will look back at this and wonder what you were thinking.

I am 100% sure the other guy doesn't know about you, but you're so UNDERSTANDING a side-guy. Chai. See where zero self-respect landed you. You are living up to your name bro @ last hero.

How will you feel, if you were in the other guy's shoe that ur girl is cheating on u cuz that's what this is...??

Lalasticlala, seun osewa, I know this goes against Nairaland policy but on behalf of Nairalanders I demand that this idiot be allowed to change his moniker...










































... to lastmugu.

AntiBrutus:
So, you are a 29yrs old sim-2 to one girl?

Yet you ask how you will cope?

Create another thread asking how you'll boost your low self-esteem. Once you fix that, you will look back at this and wonder what you were thinking.

You are living up to your name bro @ last hero.

SIM-2 Chai!!!

You want her to leave her bf for you and you think its going to be a happily ever after story for you?

lasthero:


offcourse yes. and thats why i posted for advice

Antibrutus is single, you can forget about the girl and ask her out... I am hundred percent sure she will say yes to your proposal.

MhizzAJ:

SIM-2 Chai!!!

Babe, did you read the post? What's happening to our young men? If I talk my mind now, they'll say I have started.

AntiBrutus:


Babe, did you read the post? What's happening to our young men? If I talk my mind now, they'll say I have started.

I read it babe but i will not say anything
He's answering his name lasthero...

Take this advise with a pinch of salt.

There are 3 ways to deal with issues, The right way, The wrong way and the rare way.

1. Back it up, Back off and back down your feelings and look for another girl, she's taken. ( The right way)
2. I wouldn't suggest the wrong way.
3 . This is the rare way......Get her pregnant! and if she keep the baby, you win.

I wish the brain is an app... I would have said ........ the app
Not everyone will have the app though.

AntiBrutus:


Babe, did you read the post? What's happening to our young men? If I talk my mind now, they'll say I have started.

Go through the guys profile. He's a focused guy trying to go for masters in the US.

This is just Sunday Sunday trolling.

Dude who has been out of school for over 5 years and who get enough para to sue school for transcript will not have time to be doing side nigga for some chick


Even his English is more coherent

I always blame guys who claims they are smart. Please guys if u truly love a girl, and she tells you she is in a serious relationship, please kindly leave her alone. If she agrees to date u while she is having a man already in her life, she does not mean well for a man. This simply means if a third guy shows up she will gladly jump into it. Let's have some sense guys. How can u date a girl whom you know she is occupied. What do u think of her. And what will she think of u?

kai!!!

gabinogem:
How will you feel, if you were in the other guy's shoe that ur girl is cheating on u cuz that's what this is...??

my brother i was about asking the same Q, this is not a male attitude at all it is feminine.....its very crazy lasthero....backoff or how would u explain asking another person to break a relationship just for ur own interest,haba!!

Espada10:
kai!!!

he deserves beating seriously!

sweetgoodnews:
I always blame guys who claims they are smart. Please guys if u truly love a girl, and she tells you she is in a serious relationship, please kindly leave her alone. If she agrees to date u while she is having a man already in her life, she does not mean well for a man. This simply means if a third guy shows up she will gladly jump into it. Let's have some sense guys. How can u date a girl whom you know she is occupied. What do u think of her. And what will she think of u?

u nailed it take and relax

oyb:



Go through the guys profile. He's a focused guy trying to go for masters in the US.

This is just Sunday Sunday trolling.

Dude who has been out of school for over 5 years and who get enough para to sue school for transcript will not have time to be doing side nigga for some chick.


Even his English is more coherent

Does it always work like that, Sir?
The matters of the heart can be complicated o.

I agree with you though, dude might be trolling. I'm yet to go through his profile, I really do hope he is trolling.

It's simple, prepare to loose her the same way you got her if she eventually leaves her boyfriend for you.
And don't forget ; Karma always remembers.

Side guy begging to be the main guy ... Hilarious indeed.

You're a side guy...move on or wait patiently to be upgraded!