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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by makydebbie(f): 7:29pm On Mar 28, 2018
MissRaine69:

I am well aware of the legal framework regarding rape but this happens in spite of that
Just wanted to clear the air on your question.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Cladez(m): 7:31pm On Mar 28, 2018
MissRaine69:

What’s the correlation here?
Let me help you with your comprehension issues.SHE SAID IF YOU CANNOT ENDURE THEN DON'T COMPLAIN WHEN HE CHEATS.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 7:36pm On Mar 28, 2018
MissRaine69:
Amaka is a woman in her 40s. She has been in a conflicted marriage for years. Her husband insists on morning sex, even though he knows it will make her late for work. She gives in to get it over with.

Funke is newly married, she is upset because her husband has been having sex with her while she is asleep. She likes sex but doesn’t like to be woken by him penetrating her. He says she agrees in her sleep. She feels violated.

Halimah is in her 30s. She feels she has no say about when and where she and her husband will have sex. He often refuses when she initiates. But he’ll get furious if she doesn’t immediately fall into bed (or the bushes) with him when he wants it. She gives in rather than have yet another fight about it.

Layefa is 19 years old her husband regularly slaps her around and then forces her to have sex saying that he just knows she loves it. She does love him. She doesn’t want to leave. But she honestly doesn’t love domination as part of sexual intimacy.

These women are all married. Is what their husbands are doing rape? Can a husband rape his wife?


Yes, it's nothing other than rape. since it is forceful and without consent of the opposite party. Most African Men are guilty of this and that's because we have an enabling environment for such inhumane attitude here in Africa. Yes! we are in a society that sees marriage as a reason for the woman to be totally submissive in matrimony. However, with the pace of transformation, westernization and gender equality movement renting the nooks and crannies of most Nations, Africans, not left out, such infringement and human violation would be abolished sooner, but I fear the rate of the single parent will be on increase.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by marvin906(m): 7:37pm On Mar 28, 2018
MissRaine69:

I need someone to translate what you wrote .....into English. Let me go and find someone bear with me.



hmmmmm..
my dear your just another crayfish in the midst of meat's
in other words your absolutely useless to me..
so throwing word's at you is pointless
Lord knows i didn't Start this one

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by DaddyKross: 7:39pm On Mar 28, 2018
IamSINZ:



Onye egwu! cheesy



You know the OP's contesting for NL feminazi committee president so, allow her campaign in peace, bruh grin



cheesy grin grin cheesy

Ngwanu Op, enjoy your campaign ooh
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by MissRaine69(f): 7:52pm On Mar 28, 2018
Cladez:
Let me help you with your comprehension issues.SHE SAID IF YOU CANNOT ENDURE THEN DON'T COMPLAIN WHEN HE CHEATS.
And the problem continues
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Tajbol4splend(m): 8:59pm On Mar 28, 2018
makydebbie:
Rape means..


The act of forcing sexual intercourse upon another person without their consent or against their will; originally coitus forced by a man on a woman, but now any sex act forced by any person upon another person.

Would you say the man has done something unlawful and deserves indictment?
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Mandrake007(m): 9:20pm On Mar 28, 2018
if it's your husband it ain't rape gotta give up that pusssy
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by chivic(m): 9:45pm On Mar 28, 2018
makydebbie:
Rape means..


The act of forcing sexual intercourse upon another person without their consent or against their will; originally coitus forced by a man on a woman, but now any sex act forced by any person upon another person.

This is always a controversial word in marriage. Your definition is spot on.But in marriage ,can taking what is yours be defined as rape.in a Christian marriage you are not meant to deny your partner sex except by mutual consent. When ever there is denial it shows that the marriage has a problem.There is no understanding, love,tolerance and effective communication.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Opentokwowledge: 9:53pm On Mar 28, 2018
I still don't understand how other men are able to enjoy sex without the full attention, cooperation and interest of their partners...

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Apina(m): 9:54pm On Mar 28, 2018
Saying u were raped by ur husband sounds absurd, the reality is that marriage is legal, so whatever you claim is rape is nonsense for the fact that you are a signatory to the union with no clause attached undecided

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by 9ja083: 10:38pm On Mar 28, 2018
I see nothing in that but the one I kick against is man having sex with his wife 4days after delivery. With the pain she's passing through and all that. I do feel for my clients. To me that man or husband can kill. Because that's the way a selfish, self centred and wicked heart can do.
Some men can be really horrible and am sure their sex will be as bad as their ugly wicked heart

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 10:55pm On Mar 28, 2018
the only way to stop domestic abuse and domestic rape is by eliminating the bride price culture. because Nigerian men think that after paying huge amounts for your bride price, sponsoring the marriage etc you're now their property. therefore after spending so much just to get you, you can't disobey them or deny them sex.
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Tallesty1(m): 11:12pm On Mar 28, 2018
Tajbol4splend:


Would you say the man has done something unlawful and deserves indictment?
I don't think so......




A husband cannot rape his wife simply because it is assumed that the wife gives implied general consent to sexual intercourse with her husband upon entering the marriage contract. All these feminist wanna be wey full here are just daft. You cannot say that your husband raped you when the constitution of your country does not recognize marital rape.

Once you say I do in Nigeria, you've agreed to have sex with your partner, not just once, not when you like but every time. In fact, no wetness is allowed to dry just like that and every erection must be attended to.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 12:12am On Mar 29, 2018
Bantam:
After paying dowry..appeasing ur village people's Bottomless list of items i havnt bought for my own mother I have every right to Bleep my wife whether she's in d mood or not.Ur pussy should greet me fess before ur mouth whenever I return home. ...
U talking of forceful penetration what do u call that long list ur village people give the groom? Is that not financial rape cos they forcefully penetrating my account grin
Please I'm speaking for Easterners o


bride price is the number one cause of domestic abuse and marital rape.. why should I even call it rape when there's no marital rape in our constitution

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 3:33am On Mar 29, 2018
Imapearl:
and your not happy?
if him go rape person outside
you will call him a cheat
#women


You're talking jare. It's easier for a woman to consent to sex even if she doesn't feel like doing it at a point in time because she won't be under intense pressure to ejaculate. But if a man is under very intense pressure to have sex, pushing him away will be like setting the marriage on fire.

A fiancee came to my place and spent 4 days and she didn't let me have her. If she was the one in the mood in the past, she would touch all my sensitive parts to get me but here she was preventing me from touching hers so that she wouldn't be aroused. Two weeks later, she said she has started missing me but there was workload in school and asked me to come over. On getting to her, she refused sex again. I asked her why the recent nonsense. She said she just didn't want it. I told her that if it will not be painful after lubrication, she should just pretend as if she is not having sex till I'm through. She then took a novel to read while I was busy. When I returned home, I stopped talking to her about things. That was the beginning of the end of the relationship. How will a wife or gf that's not quarreling with me not feel like having sex with me again? When I returned home, I felt like nobody, hated the day I was born.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 7:37am On Mar 29, 2018
Bantam:
After paying dowry..appeasing ur village people's Bottomless list of items i havnt bought for my own mother I have every right to Bleep my wife whether she's in d mood or not.Ur pussy should greet me fess before ur mouth whenever I return home. ...
U talking of forceful penetration what do u call that long list ur village people give the groom? Is that not financial rape cos they forcefully penetrating my account grin
Please I'm speaking for Easterners o

These days men and women bear the cost of the wedding, gone are the days when men bear the cost of the wedding alone, the man is not buying the woman so marriage should not be an excuse to use her to satisfy yourself,
both partners should be satisfied sexually! their feelings should both be considered and if one partner is not in the mood, they can have sex another time, afterall they are married for the rest of their lives and will see each other daily

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 8:01am On Mar 29, 2018
Yes it is rape and those men ought to be in jail.
No man has any right to force bleep his wife when she is not in the mood because of one yeye dowry.

Any man that does that is a beast in human flesh.
Nice one MissRaine,keep it coming you have a wide followers which i am one.
This is one of the topics out of many that makes sense as it talks on an issue that is affecting our society such as rape in marriage.

I will always post such especially the evils of marital infidelity.
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by derachokolate(m): 8:41am On Mar 29, 2018
Ermmm I would have said its rape but what do you expect in a country where people misunderstand the concept of sexual dominance .


Las las nah sexual dominance them dy practice so
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 9:22am On Mar 29, 2018
Happyicon:


These days men and women bear the cost of the wedding, gone are the days when men bear the cost of the wedding alone, the man is not buying the woman so marriage should not be an excuse to use her to satisfy yourself,
both partners should be satisfied sexually! their feelings should both be considered and if one partner is not in the mood, they can have sex another time, afterall they are married for the rest of their lives and will see each other daily

Where exactly does this happen? Definitely not in the Eastern part,sorry I must have overreacted I was angry atm sex is a mutual thing but women should also understand that after all that work pressure man gats relieve stress na,an erect dick understands only one Language..SEX. If they aren't in the mood they should device another means of pleasuring him instead of nagging and disrespecting him.
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by PrickGetSize(m): 9:35am On Mar 29, 2018
chivic:


This is always a controversial word in marriage. Your definition is spot on.But in marriage ,can taking what is yours be defined as rape.in a Christian marriage you are not meant to deny your partner sex except by mutual consent. When ever there is denial it shows that the marriage has a problem.There is no understanding, love,tolerance and effective communication.
Don't bring the word 'denial' into this discussion. Whether you're a Christian or not, sex in marriage should be by mutual consent. That you paid a bride price for a woman does not mean you have bought her and she belongs to you. No. It means you have accepted to live with and endure with her till death. You belong to each other and you must have mutual respect and understanding. If you're hórny and want to fvck but she's not in the mood, kindly put your prick back in your boxers and sit on it. You have no right to hump her against her will. You have to endure with her. This principle goes the other way round too. She's not your sex doll, she's your wife!

By the way, I hate and forbid marriage.
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 9:43am On Mar 29, 2018
TheUpsetGirl1:



bride price is the number one cause of domestic abuse and marital rape.. why should I even call it rape when there's no marital rape in our constitution
That's naija mentality for you they treat them like it's a plot of land they acquired through hard labor.the wives have no option but to give in cos the man might use it as an excuse to cheat or marry another wife. sad
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by abimic(m): 9:49am On Mar 29, 2018
In marriage, rape is a controversial word that can't be applied same way for those unmarried. Having been legally married, you should be ready for better for worse, because that's the agreement, but understanding one's partner goes a long way to help each other. If your hubby likes a particular time, it's either you find a way to convince him to adjust to another time that could both please you too, or get used to that same time, over time you would adjust. That you're not ready to get down, when it's not as if you delivered, monthlies, tiredness, sickness and you just chose not to be in mood when understanding should be key, that's the beginning of trouble, the day he stops disturbing you for it, just know one okpeke is giving him every seconds and if the dude is rich, a baby mama loading.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by wordcat(m): 9:59am On Mar 29, 2018
Tallesty1:
I don't think so......




A husband cannot rape his wife simply because it is assumed that the wife gives implied general consent to sexual intercourse with her husband upon entering the marriage contract. All these feminist wanna be wey full here are just daft. You cannot say that your husband raped you when the constitution of your country does not recognize marital rape.

Once you say I do in Nigeria, you've agreed to have sex with your partner, not just once, not when you like but every time. In fact, no wetness is allowed to dry just like that and every erection must be attended to.

You said it all, and the funniest thing is that those championing this course are with no husbands trying to deceive the gullible married ones.

It is absurd defending myself in the court because my wife accused me of rape when no one has ever accused me of such throughout my bachelorhood

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Blonchilli(m): 12:30pm On Mar 29, 2018
MissRaine69:
Amaka is a woman in her 40s. She has been in a conflicted marriage for years. Her husband insists on morning sex, even though he knows it will make her late for work. She gives in to get it over with.

Funke is newly married, she is upset because her husband has been having sex with her while she is asleep. She likes sex but doesn’t like to be woken by him penetrating her. He says she agrees in her sleep. She feels violated.

Halimah is in her 30s. She feels she has no say about when and where she and her husband will have sex. He often refuses when she initiates. But he’ll get furious if she doesn’t immediately fall into bed (or the bushes) with him when he wants it. She gives in rather than have yet another fight about it.

Layefa is 19 years old her husband regularly slaps her around and then forces her to have sex saying that he just knows she loves it. She does love him. She doesn’t want to leave. But she honestly doesn’t love domination as part of sexual intimacy.

These women are all married. Is what their husbands are doing rape? Can a husband rape his wife?
If you've seen Gone Girl you'll know a woman can be raped. Apart from the whole consensual sex and woman right I don't think a man who respects his wife will do any of these. It goes beyond hitting a woman or holding her down while you force your way because you're married to her. Apart from the penetration while she's sleeping which sometime I see it as being naughty but not everytime. It's all about respecting your woman. Sometimes you just have to study the lady, not everytime she's in the mood. That's why it's important to ask how her day was and talk, you can't ask a woman who was ridiculed at work for sex, how do you want her to feel. Sometimes no matter how bad her day was showing some concern could lighten the mood, everyone become happy. Yes a wife can be raped
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Aniwhyte(m): 1:52pm On Mar 29, 2018
Blonchilli:

If you've seen Gone Girl you'll know a woman can be raped. Apart from the whole consensual sex and woman right I don't think a man who respects his wife will do any of these. It goes beyond hitting a woman or holding her down while you force your way because you're married to her. Apart from the penetration while she's sleeping which sometime I see it as being naughty but not everytime. It's all about respecting your woman. Sometimes you just have to study the lady, not everytime she's in the mood. That's why it's important to ask how her day was and talk, you can't ask a woman who was ridiculed at work for sex, how do you want her to feel. Sometimes no matter how bad her day was showing some concern could lighten the mood, everyone become happy. Yes a wife can be raped




You don't really knows much, women pretends alot, do u know that the female vagina has more that 8,000 nerve endings responsible for sexual pleasure, while the male penis has just 4,000 nerve endings responsible for sexual pleasure, do u knw the feelings of when u are ejaculating when having sex?? That is what women feels when been penetrated by a dick normally "how much more, just imagine the feelings they feels when Cumming" just try and imagine it, rape or no rape they enjoys sex to the fullest with such imaginable pleasure, just that they pretends alot.

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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Blonchilli(m): 3:01pm On Mar 29, 2018
Aniwhyte:





You don't really knows much, women pretends alot, do u know that the female vagina has more that 8,000 nerve endings responsible for sexual pleasure, while the male penis has just 4,000 nerve endings responsible for sexual pleasure, do u knw the feelings of when u are ejaculating when having sex?? That is what women feels when been penetrated by a dick normally "how much more, just imagine the feelings they feels when Cumming" just try and imagine it, rape or no rape they enjoys sex to the fullest with such imaginable pleasure, just that they pretends alot.
Bros my concern is not if they enjoy the sex or not, rape is wrong. So what you're implying is that a 8 year old raped by a 40 year old enjoyed it or a woman who was attacked by some guys and raped enjoyed it? Guy go and evaluate your head. Knowing about the nerve endings does not mean you're mentally stable.
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by ba7man(m): 3:32pm On Mar 29, 2018
ubunja:

well if she stays she loves rapes
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Re: My Husband Rapes Me by ba7man(m): 3:33pm On Mar 29, 2018
Aniwhyte:





You don't really knows much, women pretends alot, do u know that the female vagina has more that 8,000 nerve endings responsible for sexual pleasure, while the male penis has just 4,000 nerve endings responsible for sexual pleasure, do u knw the feelings of when u are ejaculating when having sex?? That is what women feels when been penetrated by a dick normally "how much more, just imagine the feelings they feels when Cumming" just try and imagine it, rape or no rape they enjoys sex to the fullest with such imaginable pleasure, just that they pretends alot.
When dem start to dey brush you for Police cell now, you go dey beg say na work of devil. undecided
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 3:39pm On Mar 29, 2018
Bantam:
After paying dowry..appeasing ur village people's Bottomless list of items i havnt bought for my own mother..list longer than my forefathers dicks joined together I have every right to Bleep my wife whether she's in d mood or not.Ur pussy should greet me fess before ur mouth whenever I return home. ...
U talking of forceful penetration what do u call that long list ur village people give the groom? Is that not financial rape cos they forcefully penetrating my account grin
Please I'm speaking for Easterners o
Ode, dem force you to marry her?
Re: My Husband Rapes Me by Nobody: 3:49pm On Mar 29, 2018
Chikita66:
Ode, dem force you to marry her?
Dem force her to say "I do" ?

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