laudate:


Wubbish! After the so-called husband has sampled all the babes around? Or after the guy decides to get married, despite knowing he has inner problems? Your advice has led some women to get married to impotent men, or guys with sexual dysfunction. Instead of you advising a girl to look out for characteristics such as integrity, compassion, discipline, hard work, respect etc, in their potential husbands, before making a commitment, you are asking them to save their virginity for their husbands. What happens if the husband collects her virginity, but later becomes a wife beater who turns her into a punching bag?

Preach on.Nicely put.

laudate:


Wubbish! After the so-called husband has sampled all the babes around? Or after the guy decides to get married, despite knowing he has inner problems? Your advice has led some women to get married to impotent men, or guys with sexual dysfunction. Instead of you advising a girl to look out for characteristics such as integrity, compassion, discipline, hard work, respect etc, in their potential husbands, before making a commitment, you are asking them to save their virginity for their husbands. What happens if the husband collects her virginity, but later becomes a wife beater who turns her into a punching bag?

God is no fool,he can't give his precious daughter to an irresponsible man. The have to be compatable.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I repeat virginity is a personal conviction and not because one man would take a lady to space let Duru009 come and slap me.If you are advocating for virginity please let us teach our men and women.

asin the useless men talking abt virginity ain't virgins o!! Who hv they been f***king i guess a tree!!!

U see a girl wanting to hv sex with you, instead of u to say No!! Keep ur virginity!! They will carry their small prick n start sexing the girl, but will come on social media n be advocating virginity!!! Hypocrites

Jochabed:
God is no fool,he can't give his precious daughter to an irresponsible man. The have to be compatable.

precious because of virginity?? What if they steal n kill!!! Premarital sex has nothing to do with Christianity!! There are enough women who married as virgins n are unhappy.

Opentokwowledge:
Keeping the virginity comes with a message that means 'No other man has been here before, I'm not loose, I'm a woman of standard moral principles and virtues'. Whoever is keeping her virginity for her husband is not doing him any favour, she's just showing the man how principled and determined she could be, and that's attractive!

Ehen? So virginity means a woman is not loose? But she could be a shrew? Or she could be a thief? Or a backstabber, gossip monger, trouble maker or even a disrespectful creep!

Shugavee:
precious because of virginity?? What if they steal n kill!!! Premarital sex has nothing to do with Christianity!! There are enough women who married as virgins n are unhappy.

It takes Discipline and Character to keep yourself.

UDUJ:
As for me, once it gets to that time for me to get married I wouldn’t care whether she is a virgin or not. I would marry a woman once I know we were genuinely right for each other regardless of whether or not she was a virgin. I am not a virgin, so I first of all think that it would be a hypocritical stance of me to insist that she be one.

I have great respect for women who remain virgins for their personal convictions or preferences, and would not see this as a major cause for concern were we to marry so long as she doesn’t intend to remain a virgin once married. I imagine we would, however, potentially have to navigate some awkwardness regarding the differences between our experiences.

I also have great respect for women who have morally had sex, or who learned from and turned away from immoral sex. When the time to talk of our experiences comes up, I would listen to her with the same reasonable and open-minded attitude I would hope she would offer me in return. My primary goal would be to see whether we are on the same page now as to what constitutes sexual morality, and whether we were then similarly mature in our attitudes and levels of self-control in this area.

Finally, I have not only respect but compassion for women who have been sexually abused / raped. To have one’s sanctity of body and mind violated in such a way is potentially one of the most terrifying experiences people around the world, sadly, have every day. Overcoming such horrible events requires a lot of resilience and mental / emotional healing. If I were to fall in love with such a woman and come to consider her the one I’d want to marry, having this past of hers revealed to me could be a hard thing for both of us - and I would give her as much patience and gentleness she needed if I remained willing to marry her.

The theme you should notice through each of these paragraphs is that the worth of women is not based in their extent (or lack) of sexual experience. It is based on who they are as people - who they have become - through whatever their experiences might be.

Very beautiful. You've said everything. I've read so many comments here but this one sum it all. Without insult or unnecessary argument just straight to the point. You have my respect.

Shugavee:
asin the useless men talking abt virginity ain't virgins o!! Who hv they been f***king i guess a tree!!!

U see a girl wanting to hv sex with you, instead of u to say No!! Keep ur virginity!! They will carry their small prick n start sexing the girl, but will come on social media n be advocating virginity!!! Hypocrites

This was the same sentiments two ladies that commented on the forum.said.You are not a virgin.yet you want to marry one how stupid can that be who would now marry the ones you dis virgined?Everyone should be virgins.Hypocrites everywhere preaching to me that you would gain more respect because of as if my respect is tied to an hymen.

All nairalanders who viewed this thread I have never indicated whether I was a virgin or not so nobody should judge for themselves thank you and have a lovely night rest

Dream of me

Probably after he has deflowered countless number of girls before you. Anybody who thinks virginity equals respect needs to be in the comedy industry.

Shugavee:
precious because of virginity?? What if they steal n kill!!! Premarital sex has nothing to do with Christianity!! There are enough women who married as virgins n are unhappy.

You dey mind am? Do you know how many naive, virtuous Christian sisters have had their lives wrecked, because they got married to wolves in sheep's clothing, popularly called Christian 'brothers, without knowing the true nature of the men they married? There is one on my street right now, whose husband had a big fanciful wedding with her in a pentecostal church. Eight months later, the guy left her to go abroad promising to send for her once he had settled down. This is the 5th year and he has not sent for her, o!

Meanwhile, he left her pregnant to go abroad. She has been all alone trying to keep body and soul together down here. Someone in his family confessed that he has already married a foreigner abroad, to get his residency papers..... Don't ask me if he divorced the one he left behind, because I really do not know the details.

Doctormarrvin:
Probably after he has deflowered countless number of girls before you. Anybody who thinks virginity equals respect needs to be in the comedy industry.

You seem to have learnt a lot from Hippolyta

Jochabed:
Shut your legs till Marraige,its worth the wait.
p.s I am not married,am just seconding this popular motion.

Love you

Jochabed:
It takes Discipline and Character to keep yourself.

tahhh discipline not to hv sex, is it discipline to be a good human being?!! Abi u will be a virgin n hv bad character n be wicked to people n u say i am a virgin n a percious daughter of God!!! Don't just deceive urself o!!! If u wanna be a virgin good!! If not please hv enough sex, no one know when we will die!!

Jochabed:
It takes Discipline and Character to keep yourself.

The woman may also be frigid, or she may be a cantankerous biitch. So nobody wants her. Virginity is NOT equal to marital happiness. It is more important to know and understand your partner's character, before making a commitment. Jeez!

Jochabed:
God is no fool,he can't give his precious daughter to an irresponsible man. The have to be compatable.

Which dirty compatibility? God gave which precious daughter to who? Why do you folks like deceiving yourselves? Who defined the so-called compatibility? How do you know if you are compatible? Because you kept your virginity? Do you know how many Christian sisters claim to have heard from God, concerning their marriage partners, and still ended up unhappily married to the person? Taa!

Some ladies and insecurity sha.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Go and sit down there women and girls who were raped and lost their virginity that was not their personal choice or intention ate you trying to tell me that their husbands can never respect them.pride ke when we were dating and he claimed to love me respect me was it because of my virginity.You cannot speak for all men so please stop acting childish.The respect a woman would gain can never be attached to an hymen so deal with it.Whatever respect a man gives his wife because of that would only be temporary.

Well, well, well I know your type. You sound so bitter. You are good for use n dump.....


I just pity the man that will end up with ur likes!

It's unfortunate seeing people react harshly against chastity or any post / topic the encourages people to keep their virginity.

One thing I know, is that all these reactions no matter how popular they are, are not of God.

Belittling keeping virginity or chastity does not give glory to God and it's a deceitful campaign by the devil.

The new trend of tagging reasonable things like this as, RELIGION is a way by the enemy of man, to take man far away from God... When you see people using the word "religion " to make their point or defend their stance, know they are very far from God.

The devil is too smart. Just as he deceived Eve, he has deceived many.

Anyone who fornicates and commite adultery without there heart judging them, CAN NEVER VALUE A VIRGIN.

A VIRGIN MAN WILL VALUE A VIRGIN WOMAN. the only way a non virgin man will value a virgin lady, is if the man is GENUINELY BORN AGAIN.

NOTE THIS FACT.

GOD LOVES CHASTITY, THE DEVIL HATES IT.

Duru009:



Well, well, well I know your type. You sound so bitter. You are good for use n dump.....


I just pity the man that will end up with ur likes!

Hahahaha Hippolyta has written the gospel truth. Have you seen me before how come you know my type.I don't even go near men with no focus not to talk of dating them so who would dump who?It is the other way around boy

Ladyhippolyta88:
So by my comments you know that.Keep your orientation to yourself and don't in any way insult my parents.Your experience with life would be different from mine.Sweetie I am so happy with my life I have never been more happier because I have realised that I am the one responsible for my own happiness and not another human being.

Lol

Happiness with so much internal bitterness. You don't even sound responsible at all. I certainly know how to handle your type......
Say hi to your street boys!

ndcide:
It's unfortunate seeing people react harshly against chastity or any post / topic the encourages people to keep their virginity.

One thing I know, is that all these reactions no matter how popular they are, are not of God.

Belittling keeping virginity or chastity does not give glory to God and it's a deceitful campaign by the devil.

The new trend of tagging reasonable things like this as, RELIGION is a way by the enemy of man, to take man far away from God... When you see people using the word "religion " to make their point or defend their stance, know they are very far from God.

The devil is too smart. Just as he deceived Eve, he has deceived many.

Anyone who fornicates and commite adultery without there heart judging them, CAN NEVER VALUE A VIRGIN.

A VIRGIN MAN WILL VALUE A VIRGIN WOMAN. the only way a non virgin man will value a virgin lady, is if the man is GENUINELY BORN AGAIN.

NOTE THIS FACT.

GOD LOVES CHASTITY, THE DEVIL HATES IT.

You have missed the point totally. Nobody here is advocating promiscuity. What we are saying is that when looking for a marriage partner, there are far more important things to consider, instead of just basing your decision on virginity. Virginity is NOT a recipe for marital success or happiness.

ndcide:
It's unfortunate seeing people react harshly against chastity or any post / topic the encourages people to keep their virginity.

One thing I know, is that all these reactions no matter how popular they are, are not of God.

Belittling keeping virginity or chastity does not give glory to God and it's a deceitful campaign by the devil.

The new trend of tagging reasonable things like this as, RELIGION is a way by the enemy of man, to take man far away from God... When you see people using the word "religion " to make their point or defend their stance, know they are very far from God.

The devil is too smart. Just as he deceived Eve, he has deceived many.

Anyone who fornicates and commite adultery without there heart judging them, CAN NEVER VALUE A VIRGIN.

[/b](A VIRGIN MAN WILL VALUE A VIRGIN WOMAN. the only way a non virgin man will value a virgin lady)[b], is if the man is GENUINELY BORN AGAIN.

NOTE THIS FACT.

GOD LOVES CHASTITY, THE DEVIL HATES IT.

@ your bolded this is laughable.

At the mention of the word virgin, many nairaland ladies be like

Shugavee:
asin the useless men talking abt virginity ain't virgins o!! Who hv they been f***king i guess a tree!!!

U see a girl wanting to hv sex with you, instead of u to say No!! Keep ur virginity!! They will carry their small prick n start sexing the girl, but will come on social media n be advocating virginity!!! Hypocrites

You sound soooooooo freaking bitter, hope you are okay. By the time you are 40yr without a husband you will certainly remember me. You better save this page.
Because one day de one day, you will remember me!

Duru009:


Lol

Happiness with so much internal bitterness. You don't even sound responsible at all. I certainly know how to handle your type......
Say hi to your street boys!

So you know this by my comments?I hardly get bitter on this forum so how come you know so much.I am irresponsible if you have the time go through all my comments not only on this thread and judge who sounds irresponsible between us.I would reiterate what I said earlier I make myself happy and nobody does that for me.As for the street boys I hardly socialise or wait a minute are you sure you are not a street boy yourself to know a lot about the street life?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Lol cry me a river.

who's crying you a river...ravished tart.sorry cry for your self...as for me it Will never be my portion..I cherished virgin not oloshoish fool..with borehole pussy ever in search of some bigger to fill it up

ndy87:





Mr dumping no wonder your name is Duru.

Once it comes to marriage, I dump your ass and marry wife material. Marriage is for life!. I cannot com n kill myself!

It's sooooooo simple,

Duru009:



You sound soooooooo freaking bitter, hope you are okay. By the time you are 40yr without a husband you will certainly remember me. You better save this page.
Because one day de one day, you will remember me!

lol bitter kwa!! I am here hving fun n u talking abt bitter!! Ok whatever

When I am 40 years i will be a boss, that's my dream, marriage I guess is ur no1 priority for ur sisters, but not me!!

Duru009:
You sound soooooooo freaking bitter, hope you are okay. By the time you are 40yr without a husband you will certainly remember me. You better save this page.
Because one day de one day, you will remember me!

Na God I take beg you, take your stuvpidity go one side and park well. Virginity is not a guarantee that a lady will have a successful or happy marriage. A woman should be encouraged to study the character of the man she is going to marry very well, before she decides to make a commitment. The man should also do likewise. Qualities such as integrity, accountability, respect, discipline, tact, compassion, hard work ethic, supportive nature, generosity etc, are far more important than virginity. Some women have used virginity as a mask to cover their frigid nature, while some men have used virginity as a cover-up to hide their dysfunctional status.

ruffDiamond:
who's crying you a river...ravished tart.sorry cry for your self...as for me it Will never be my portion..I cherished virgin not oloshoish fool

Wow your mentality is so low.So because I have said what I said I am an olosho how. Nice.Sorry to disappoint Hippolyta ain't one.If you like cherish a virgin nobody asked you or should I now be crying because you cherish them.I have better things to do with my life

Duru009:


Once it comes to marriage, I dump your ass and marry wife material. Marriage is for life!. I cannot com n kill myself!

It's sooooooo simple,

good!! make virginity ur no1 agenda for marriage!! But i am sure u can see not all men think the way u do!!