purples25:


That aside, I don't even know where to start on this. We women may have our crazy sides, but I think our Nigerian men also have some psychological issues. I mean, sleep with women. Then turn around and look for every way to shame those whom you went out of your way to sleep with. Why the hatred from African man to African woman ? It seems the African male always looks for ways to frame and blame his female counterpart ..... ....'I catch you' mentality. It's a pity and for me I don't even bother to defend myself anymore. If it makes the black man happy to nail some blame on his woman, give a dog a bad name, no problem, it's just no longer worth fighting against, for me. Let the man give his blame and live in his delusional paradise of sainthood.


Well, as for those of us fighting here about the worth of virginity against character. Nairaland , is thankfully, not reality. I used to be winded up by these arguments too. Sometimes I wish every lady here could be like me and just sit back, let them rant. Lol, go to real life and see, whether a large number of those getting married aren't disvirgined already. You've done it, you've done it. To win the war in life is now to develop and improve yourself against all odds. In the real world, not nairaland world - guys will marry a strong woman that is hardworking and decent, that can hold and be responsible through hard times. That's the truth. Hardly anybody out there still having much hope for a virgin. No need to get anxious about what guys on here are saying, really.

Jochabed:
Sorry your really pained. Accept my sincere appologies.But preaching it,is a must.

Duru009:
Continue with your poor life mentality Duru009, I already know how your stupid likes always end up!

Your type always n always n always realise themselves toooooooo late.....
Always trying to blame people around them for their wolves!

What a pity!

You better go n die, you are not fit to leave plz Duru009

Espada10:
It is like you are daft...I say the ones I know..next time read well before jumping in. .haba..that is why i say - do you ,let me do mine..It is simple

Shugavee:
lol is marriage happiness?? Kikikikik, children r not hard o!! I will go the US,, go to a sperm bank n give birth to a halfcast child, if giving money to gigolo boys makes me happy( that's if indeed i am not involved with anyone)) how doesthat affect ur life

laudate:


All I did was to ask if you conducted a survey....why are you so upset?

walesalak:
. It tells nothing. Cos she isnt d mother of d Lord Jesus. I advice u stop quoting what u dont understand and do not b a stumbling block to odas who may b @ d cross roads of the subject of discussion. I hope u u derstand my point? Thanks

Ladyhippolyta88:
Sister you see why I love your comments you deserve a bottle of champagne

Espada10:
and I said that you are daft Espada10 and should read well before jumping in ..stop embarrassing yourself

Shugavee:
please sir good evening,,, just a simple question, the Adam n eve u just talked abt!

When did they get married??

bemejr:
Am Not A Time Traveller Nor God to give you the description of what you are requesting for. But what i can tell you is This! At That Time, there was nothing like marriage. They just gave birth to childrens and the children gave birth to other being down to this timeline. Adam And Eve where like a new born baby living in peace untill they ate the fruit and things changed from then. Marriage Was Found At A Point Of Time By We Humans.

purples25:




Leave them alone. Pray you don't end up with a judgemental one.


Sometimes I do something crazy. I know this blaming thing gives them great joy, and makes them feel like saints.

So what do I do ?
Oh god ( yawns )

Sometimes I deliberately sit back and let them blame and name me, cuz that makes him happy. They used this thing to swear for em, if you don't sit back and take some vicious ' police charges ' they are never happy . I let the baby get the toy , lol.

But....creeping slowly to the point, have you ever thought that , someone who always goes round looking for blames, is doing that because his / her conscience is disturbed, guilty, not clean? Lol enough said o.

Shugavee:
my darling it's not true!!!
U r a guy so yeah u can say such n think it makes sense,
I am a woman n i interact with women ,
virginity brings no respect what's so ever,
If u like be a virgin n be jobless, no man will respect u o
Virginity does not bring any respect!!

Ladyhippolyta88:
Shut da hell up and learn to use decent words in my post did I ever indicate whether I was a Virgin or not dunderhead

Espada10:
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Duru009:
You are blaming me!!!!

Okay oooooooo.

I said it!

Preshy561:

me too.

jaksmillioniar:
I knw u feel pains Dat u are tokunbo 2nd DAT most guy have test how many guy have see ur pant

Ladyhippolyta88:
You done change mouth unlike me who always stands by her beliefs.Now let me reiterate to you whatever respect that man has because of an hymen is temporary.What is your definition of real men the ones that have slept around and married virgins.

Espada10:
...

laudate:


Show me where and how virginity guarantees a good marriage or a successful union. I have seen too many women get taken in by this deceitful tale, to recycle for such stories. There are good people, and bad people. Virginity does not bestow a toga of sainthood on anyone. People should study their partners, very well. Every woman was born a virgin. But it was lost at one time or the other. Some lose it before marriage, others lose it after marriage. Personally, I would seek for qualities such as integrity, accountability, respect, compassion, supportive behaviour, generosity, tact, discipline etc, over and above virginity. I know a case of a man who married his wife as a virgin, and she ended up killing him in anger!

Late Princess Diana of England married Prince Charles as a virgin. It did not stop her from having an affair later, during her marriage.

laudate:

Continue defending your folly....

Duru009:


I have never change my stand, check thru all my comments.

Truth is always very bitter n difficult to comprehen and understand most times. But true life experience will always come sooner or later in our life.

You might not embrace all, but take the little positive n move forward on so that your mistakes in life will minimal.

You can't hide the truth !

Ladyhippolyta88:
So this one is quoting me.Like I care how you feel would it add any value to my life.Go back and read the thread from the beginning and see if it tallies with the nonsense you wrote here.Comparing a woman's worth to a vehicle shows your level of education.Well I never indicated whether I was a virgin or not so stop thinking.FYI Hippolyta is not a member of the aforementioned and she has a lot of valuable things and reasonable things to do with her life.

XhosaNostra:
Good for you. Pray that he'll be faithful to you afterwards. Being a virgin doesn't = to preferential treatment or immunity. You'll still face the same marital struggles that a whòre does.

laudate:


Show me where and how virginity guarantees a good marriage or a successful union. I have seen too many women get taken in by this deceitful tale, to recycle for such stories. There are good people, and bad people. Virginity does not bestow a toga of sainthood on anyone. People should study their partners, very well. Every woman was born a virgin. But it was lost at one time or the other. Some lose it before marriage, others lose it after marriage. Personally, I would seek for qualities such as integrity, accountability, respect, compassion, supportive behaviour, generosity, tact, discipline etc, over and above virginity. I know a case of a man who married his wife as a virgin, and she ended up killing him in anger!

Late Princess Diana of England married Prince Charles as a virgin. It did not stop her from having an affair later, during her marriage.

jaksmillioniar:
dont let me get mad at u am a mature guy dont tell me bad word or I attack u