thank you for visiting...

I am so hurt because of my fiancé.
My story goes like this...

She was in a relationship before I met her... I knew she was but then the young man is just a boy and not ready for marriage or anything.

then after mentoring her for awhile I tried my luck (cos the young man is not ready even in 2 or 3 yrs or so). she agreed and fell helplessly in love with me.

the young man refused to let her go and she has tried to let him go but I think she is still attached because on three occasions she has had sex with him for three times and I have only dated her four months!!! and she never lies to me....

when the first line happened I ended the relationship and she almost died. then I took her back, forgave her and moved on with her... it has happened again and am not sure it won't happen...

I love her still but I can't go on... if there is a way I could have her totally I would marry her...

now Av ended the relationship and she is devastated and almost Running Mad....

Pls I am a pastor... currently fasting and praying for three days without food and water...

Two people have called me and told me they had a dream where I married someone else (someone I don't even have a thing for, not my type etc and besides I don't know if I can base my life on people's dreams though I trust them that they are spiritually sound)

I guess one or two married and experienced can help me out here....
my name is James I'm 31yrs n ready to settle this year

You are a pastor, yet you went for a girl that was in a relationship with another man?

Are you normal atall?

I'll advice you to fast and pray for sense

What nonsense!!!

C'omon get d'fvck out of here!

see this one,you think love is by force. smh!!girlfriend snatcher.

I feel sorry for the Op tho i have no solution to ur predicament.

highqueen:
see this one,you think love is by force.
smh!!girlfriend snatcher.

calm ur nerves

highqueen:
see this one,you think love is by force. smh!!girlfriend snatcher.

thanks

ennon92:
I feel sorry for the Op tho i have no solution to ur predicament.

thank you God will help me

Bros drop spirituality and face reality. She wants sex, and she knows she can't get it from you anytime she needs it. It's either u let her go or u start banging her.

If you marry her you have yourself to blame when things go seriously wayward in your home. God is showing you signs now, take advantage of it!

This young man is naive. Please, take no offence.

Your gf is simply still in love with her ex. You made her come out of that relationship before she was even ready. That's what happens when you make decisions for other people. They keep running back to their old ways...and you'll keep trying to pull them back.

This girl is cheating on you flagrantly. If that's not enough reason to walk away, then I don't know what is. Don't try to go back to where God has pulled you out from. Don't even think twice about it. You can't marry this girl. She'll frustrate your ministry.

She wants to run mad? Why are some people like that anyway? Very wrong.

Flowers95:
If you marry her you have yourself to blame when things go seriously wayward in your home. God is showing you signs now, take advantage of it!

wow....

PrimadonnaO:
This young man is naive. Please, take no offence.

Your gf is simply still in love with her ex. You made her come out of that relationship before she was even ready. That's what happens when you make decisions foe other people. They keep running back to their old ways...and you'll keep trying to pull them back.

This girl is cheating on you flagrantly. It that's not enough reason to walk away, then I don't know what is. Don't try to go back to where God has pulled you out from. Don't even think twice about it. You can't marry this girl. She'll frustrate your ministry.

She wants to run mad? Why are some people like that anyway? Very wrong.

maybe I'm naïve like you said.... that's my problem.... this is the first time I actually fell inlove.... oh God.

thank u....

PasD:


maybe I'm naïve like you said.... that's my problem.... this is the first time I actually fell inlove.... oh God.

thank u....

...And she's playing on your naivety. Don't get roped in. For your own good. Don't put yourself under so much pressure. Good thing you're a Christian...God will make all things beautiful in His time.

PasD:


wow....

Think with logic not emotions. Don’t allow your urge to settle down to make a huge mistake in your life. You’re only 31, you will find someone better for you. My husband married me in his 40s and I’m his first and only wife. Be wise oh! Don’t marry this girl!

PrimadonnaO:



...And she's playing on your naivety. Don't get roped in. For your own good. Don't put yourself under so much pressure. Good thing you're a Christian...God will make all things beautiful in His time.

it's a shame but I have to admit it.... u have no idea what you just did. thanks

Flowers95:
Think with logic not emotions. Don’t allow your urge to settle down to make a huge mistake in your life. You’re only 31, you will find someone better for you. My husband married me in his 40s and I’m his first and only wife. Be wise oh! Don’t marry this girl!

Everybody is just saying the same thing! thanks

PasD:


it's a shame but I have to admit it.... u have no idea what you just did. thanks

I'm glad.

donstan18:
You are a pastor, yet you went for a girl that was in a relationship with another man?

Are you normal atall?

I'll advice you to fast and pray for sense

What nonsense!!!

C'omon get d'fvck out of here!

no chill at all o

if only people understood how bonding the emotional words exchanged after sex between two previous lovers is, they would understand why it's extremely difficult to get over an ex

PasD:
thank you for visiting...
my name is James I'm 31yrs n ready to settle this year

I really feel sorry for this op.
Dont mind those name callings. It's not everyone in a relationship that's in a serious one. What if it's bf/gf thing with no string attached or what of a situation where either of the party aren't compatible and are already seeing a dead end in the relationship?
That aside, I think you started dating her for a wrong reason.
I want to believe that you are in haste to marry too, cos its evident in your post but remember you cant afford to make a wrong choice that will ruin your ministry.
While she claimed she was helplessly in love with you, she kept going back to the first man for sx. This is infidelity and it's a red flag.
Let her go when all signs are clearly written on the wall now before you put yourself in a strait corner.
She wouldnt run mad, she would be okay with time, dont let emotions get the best part of you and pushed you into what you will later regret.
Keep trusting in God for your very own, which will give you peace of mind and bring you happiness.

Sex Creates Soul Ties For Some People... You Should Have Just Administered Prick for Her so She Can Suffocate from The whole Ties... Just Forget The Bitch and Go Back To Your Church... Check Out One Of Your Choir Babes na.. Abi No Fine Girl For Your ministry?

Mcy56:


I really feel sorry for this op.
Dont mind those name callings. It's not everyone in a relationship that's in a serious one. What if it's bf/gf thing with no string attached or what of a situation where either of the party aren't compatible and are already seeing a dead end in the relationship?
That aside, I think you started dating her for a wrong reason.
I want to believe that you are in haste to marry too, cos its evident in your post but remember you cant afford to make a wrong choice that will ruin your ministry.
While she claimed she was helplessly in love with you, she kept going back to the first man for sx. This is infidelity and it's a red flag.
Let her go when all signs are clearly written on the wall now before you put yourself in a strait corner.
She wouldnt run mad, she would be okay with time, dont let emotions get the best part of you and pushed you into what you will later regret.
Keep trusting in God for your very own, which will give you peace of mind and bring you happiness.

A true follower of Christ speaks! thank you ma/sir