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I Want To Be Guided In Ways Of Allah But My Mum Is Not A Muslim by Nobody: 11:58am On Apr 08, 2018 |
Pls I need help,my dad was amuslim but late now,my mum is a nonmuslim,but am a muslim. Pls how do I escape from tis constant threat from my mum to force me denounce islam? |
Re: I Want To Be Guided In Ways Of Allah But My Mum Is Not A Muslim by hadjipapiey(m): 12:25pm On Apr 08, 2018 |
There are various guided ways in the confines of Islam that could help you consolidate on your faith(ISLAM). Firstly, you may not Woah at your mother except she compel of you to denounce Islam . Try all your best to be steadfast, hence it could guide her aright as well. Again, It'll do you a great deal and strength if you associate yourself with those who are steadfast Muslims. Quràn 9 vs 119(Suratul Tawbah) ALLAH says; "O Yee who believe, fear ALLAH and always be in the midst of Truthful and Good ones". Please associate yourself with steadfast sisters in your community. May ALLAH bless, guide you and grant you strength and goodness. Aameen. As salaam alaekum WarahmatuLLAH wabarokaatuh 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Be Guided In Ways Of Allah But My Mum Is Not A Muslim by creedencity(m): 2:11pm On Apr 08, 2018 |
it usually not a easy position to be when u are different from people around you especially when it comes to religion. The utmost duty is the one to your lord(Allah) never for go that to satisfy any being. Be steadfast as a brother had advised you. Allah is closer to us than our jugular vein. Remember, our parents also have rights that we should fulfil to them except when it comes this type of ish. never neglect them, deal with them with wisdom hopefully that can change their ways too. Associate yourself with muslim sister, '2 heads they say, are better than 1'. and it will also help strengthen ur iman. if it's becoming violent, i will advise u give them space. may Allah ease our affairs. ameen Salam alaykum warahmatullah 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Be Guided In Ways Of Allah But My Mum Is Not A Muslim by Dreydoe(m): 5:03pm On Apr 08, 2018 |
Salam Alaikum waramatullah All prasie are due to Allah.(s.w.t) and peace be to our noble prophet Mohammed (s.a.w) You dont need to fight with your mom or quarell with her. Just be a nice/caring daughter.. Love her And still continue being a practicn Muslim - Your mom will get to accept you and also convert to islam in sha Allah, when she sees in you Islam is all about peace and Love.. If your mom is insulting/ physically abusing you cus of ur religion. Try and remain calm and show her more Love. If its too mush for you and you can't bare her... Its better to leave her Vicinity and Love her from Far.. You av to be steadfast in your prayers and Remembrance of Allah. Go to Mosque closer to ur home, meet other Muslim sisters and the Imam or Ameera, MSS.. They will enlighten you more May Allah make it very Easy for you in this world and hereafter 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Be Guided In Ways Of Allah But My Mum Is Not A Muslim by Rashduct4luv(m): 5:33pm On Apr 08, 2018 |
Lilisticlili: I read this online which should be relevant. It's long though! ....we find that some mothers are constantly stubborn to the extent that she might hurt and oppress her son or daughter. Usually such mothers are blindly prejudice because they consider that her son or daughter had gone astray by leaving the faith of his fathers and ancestors and she must do something to help go back to the right path (according to the mother). The following are three stories that took place at the time of the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, that involved three of the Sahaba (Companions of the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him) which illustrates the reactions of their mothers after they embraced Islam: . Story #1 On the authority of Asmaa' Bint Abi Bakr she said "My mother came to visit me one day. At that time she was still a polytheist and there was a pledge between the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, and Quraish (one of the great tribes in Arabia that lived in Mecca in the pre Islamic Period of Ignorance who used to enjoy great spiritual and financial powers). I requested the Prophet's , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, religious verdict and said: Oh Prophet of Allah, my mother came to visit me, seeking my help; should I keep a good relationship with her? Yes, keep a good relation with her said the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him:. Reported by Bukhari and Muslim, and this narration is listed in Sahih Muslim under # 1003. . In another version narrated by Ahmad, on the authority of Asmaa' Bint Abi Bakr she said " My mother came to visit me when she was still a polytheist and she was living amongst Quraish. She was desirous, meaning in need, so I asked the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, and said: Oh Prophet of Allah my mother came to me and she is a polytheist and she needs help. Should I keep a good relationship with her? He said yes maintain a good relationship with her. . Story #2 On the authority of Abu-Huraira, who said: I used to call my mother to Islam when she was still a polytheist. One day, while I was calling her she mentioned something about the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, that I detested. So I went to see the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, while crying and told him: I used to call my mother to Islam and she would refuse. I called her today and she mentioned something about you that I detested. Please invoke the blessings and guidance of Allah on her. Then the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, said: O Great Allah guide the mother of Abu-Huraira. So I left full of hope because of the Prophet's supplication for my mother. When I reached home I found that the door was partially closed. My mother heard my footsteps and said: Stay still Abu-Huraira, then I heard the water running; he added my mother performed body ablution, put on her cloths and hurriedly opened the door without her head-cover and said: "None has the right to be worshipped but Allah and Muhammad, Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, is the Messenger of Allah". I went back to the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, crying of joy and told him: I am bringing you good news; Allah answered your prayers and guided the mother of Abu-Huraira. The Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, praised and glorified Allah and said: this is good. I said: Oh Messenger of Allah, pray to Allah to make me and my mother beloved by Allah's believing slaves and make us love them. The Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, said: Oh Allah, make this little slave of Yours and his mother (meaning Abu-Huraira and his mother) become beloved by your believing slaves and make the believers love them. Ever since, there was not a believer who heard of me, even without seeing me, that did not love me. Reported by Muslim in Sahih Muslim (Muslim Authentic volumes) under # 2491. . Story # 3 On the authority of Saa'd (Ibn Abi Waqas May Allah be pleased with him) who said that verses of the Qur'an revealed his story. He said Um Saa'd (his mother) swore not to talk to him ever nor eat or drink until he renounces Islam. She said: You claim that Allah commanded you to obey your parents. I am your mother and I order you to do this ( to renounce Islam). He said: She stayed with nothing to eat or drink for three days until she fainted because of strain. Then one of her other sons named Umarah gave her water to drink. And she started to invoke evil upon Saa'd, then Allah revealed this verse in the Qur'an, which translates to the meaning of {And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents; but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what you used to do} Verse 29:8 - Surah 29, Al Ankabut. This Hadith is narrated by Imam Ahmad in his Musnad and in Sahih Muslim in his Sahih under # 1748. . Also, Allah revealed another verse in the Qur'an, which translates to: "But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that if which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do"( 31:15 - Surah Luqman). . Based on the above stories one can determine how to deal with a non believing mother and can draw the following significant conclusions: The importance of good presentation of Islam to the non believing mother and to try to kindly persuade her and to strive to convince her as Abu Huraira did (story # 1) . Continue to do good to the non believing mother and to remember that her disbelief does not justify disobedience by the son or daughter and that doing her good does not contradict with your innocence of her as a non believer, on the contrary as it is stated in Verse 31:15 above, Allah has commanded us to treat the non believing parents kindly even if they strive to make their child a polytheist because of their rights as parents hoping that they will embrace Islam. . Continue to sincerely pray and supplicate for the non believing mother hoping that Allah may guide her, as evident in Abu Huraira's story (story #2). The divine guidance of Allah may come after continuous strive by the child and strong objection of the mother as in Abu Huraira's story, therefore the son should never surrender or give up but should continue to pray and supplicate for the non believing mother. Regardless of how hard does the non believing mother strive to make the son renounces Islam, and the pressure she will exercise against her son such as refusing to eat or invoking upon him , the son should never surrender or give in nor should he retrocede away from the righteous path as one of the Sahaba said to his non believing mother in a similar situation: :If you had one hundred (100) souls and it all left your body one after the other I will never give up my religion (Islam)". . It seems that the mother in question deliberately oppresses her daughter through estrangement which makes her emotional torn but that should never weaken the muslim or shake his faith and belief in his religion. There is no objection to make the non believing mother understand that you are not going to retrocede , however she (the mother) can kindly ask for anything and she will be immediately answered to it except for giving up this religion. . We ask Allah to quickly guide her to the righteous path and give you patience to call her to Islam and lead you to the righteous and correct way. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Be Guided In Ways Of Allah But My Mum Is Not A Muslim by tintingz(m): 4:29pm On Apr 09, 2018 |
Religion problems. Just sit your mum down and tell her why your religion is the right one and your mum's is the false one, tell her the truth of the things leading to islamic hell and wait for her response. Good luck. |
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