We are having arguments in my house right now and I need your advice to tell me what to do.

I have a beautiful wife and three months old daughters with a car, and I am working in one company in Ibadan,last week I applied for two weeks leave in order for me to rest and the leave start today,also my wife start her shop today since our daughter is 3monrhs old, since the time she return from the shop,she has been complaining about the stress she went through on the bike and the child, later she confront me that I should be taking her to shop since I am at home doing nothing and I should be coming back in the evening to take her back home,I don't know what to do because of the far distance from my house to her shop. Pls I need ur advice before tomorrow morning.

If she can drive, just leave her with the car since you said you took the leave to rest(as in you sound as if you don't want to step outside the house throughout the leave). If she can't, find someone to be driving her to/from the shop. If you can't, better be the one to drive her. Else, no ready for you during the leave.

Lol.... Too many leave in one post

Picking and dropping her isn't something you both should argue over now. Let her know, your reliable and keep to your words Bro. Happy Wife equal happy home else, forget having peace on that break you took from job.

Haaa! You were arguing for your 3 months old baby to be carried on a bike, not against? Biko, it is very wrong and super dangerous. Most men would not even contest it at all...may God keep your family safe.

You would be seriously stressed if some bad happens to them sir.

UnknownT:
If she can drive, just leave her with the car since you said you took the leave to rest(as in you sound as if you don't want to step outside the house throughout the leave). If she can't, find someone to be driving her to/from the shop. If you can't, better be the one to drive her. Else, no ready for you during the leave.

Lol.... Too many leave in one post

She doesn't know aw to drive,if she knows aw to drive I would have given her the key this morning when she was going to shop

What will it cost u to carry ur 3month old baby in ur car. U allow ur wife enter bike with that Pikin. And u are coming here to ask question......are u serious at all

sisisioge:
Haaa! You were arguing for your 3 months old baby to be carried on a bike, not against? Biko, it is very wrong and super dangerous. Most men would not even contest it at all...may God keep your family safe.

You would be seriously stressed if some bad happens to them sir.

God will not let bad thing happen to them,but what if I am not on leave or when i resume work? And I know her very well that if I start taking her to shop now and bringing her back she will expect me to be doing that when I resume work

herveze:

God will not let bad thing happen to them,but what if I am not on leave or when i resume work? And I know her very well that if I start taking her to shop now and bringing her back she will expect me to be doing that when I resume work

You should be glad that you have two whole weeks to think about how to sort the logistics issue for your family. My concern is actually the baby. You shouldn't allow your baby be carried on a bike...it should be an absolute no for you. Let her learn to drive and take on the driving herself then.

I secretly have a profound disrespect for parents who carry their children, especially babies on bikes.

Give her an uppercut, that should knock her out and end the argument

sisisioge:


You should be glad that you have two whole weeks to think about how to sort the logistics issue for your family. My concern is actually the baby. You shouldn't allow your baby be carried on a bike...it should be an absolute no for you. Let her learn to drive and take on the driving herself then.

I secretly have a profound disrespect for parents who carry their children, especially babies on bikes.

Your IQ is really high, you're always making sense.

You no dey hear say husband and wife matter, dem no dey put mouth.

Bros, bros, bros.
How many times I call you?

Just make your woman happy as often as you can. Your mates will drop their kids at school in the morning, drop their wives at work, have somebody pick up the kids, then pick up their wives on their way back from work. You get to do your own only during your annual leave! Don't neglect your duties. Your marriage sounds like its still in its infancy.

Ogaooo you are somehowooo...
your baby is 3 mths old and your wife hops around on bike with her.A long distance that is even tiring you.


Hmmm.pls go and drop her off and bring her back.Also reg her in a driving school.It is neccessary esp for emergencies and situations like this.

Oga, marriage is all about sacrifice! Please please and please, I see most parents on bike with baby behind them as not being appreciative of Gods blessings over their lives by risking the baby's life. This little angels are meant to be love and pampered. Please enroll her in a driving school and surrender the car to her please. God bless your home!

On my way home yesterday,I saw a woman with her baby in the rain trekking home. I don't know how far she's going but two things came to mind. Her husband might be somewhere drinking not even minding where the wife is during thw downpour. Second,when she gets home,she will cook and in that wet scenario,hubby might decide to come close and wake up early to take care of the family again. Women,I hail una. God bless our mothers. Amen..!

Oga mi,it is not easy for women at all,pls,the little time you spend at home,let her know you can sacrifice anything for her. She does not need to ask this before you make her happy. As rightly pointed,driving schl is 3months,let her start and you will have rest of mind. Thank you for making her happy.

some people shouldn't be married yet

What's she doing on a bike with a 3 month old baby in Ibadan? Cost of Taxi in Ibadan is 500% cheaper than cost of taxi in Lagos.

If the above options on the thread are not up for considerations, consider relocating her shop.

OP...

Op, tell the mods to take down this thread as you have received valid advice here.
If this got to front page, nairalanders will roast you and toast your ashes to the deepest part of the ocean for not thinking about safety of your fragile 3 month old baby rather it is your comfort first.

Oh did I forgot the comments that put you against your wife....the comments that makes both of you sound like demons to each other....make you hate why you didn't have enough money to buy cars for her and even the baby.
Comments that make you think this is your village peeps at work.
I have been there and got burnt beyond recognition.... I got out more confused.

Earthbound:
Bros, bros, bros.
How many times I call you?

Just make your woman happy as often as you can. Your mates will drop their kids at school in the morning, drop their wives at work, have somebody pick up the kids, then pick up their wives on their way back from work. You get to do your own only during your annual leave! Don't neglect your duties. Your marriage sounds like its still in its infancy.

As in ehh...
That's usually the routine in most homes where there's only one car.
Op, is there any reason why you want to watch your family go through unnecessary stress when you can easily help?

MrBottle:
Op, tell the mods to take down this thread as you have received valid advice here.
If this got to front page, nairalanders will roast you and toast your ashes to the deepest part of the ocean [/b]for not thinking about safety of your fragile 3 month old baby rather it is your comfort first.

Oh did I forgot the comments that put you against your wife....the comments that makes both of you sound like demons to each other....make you hate why you didn't have enough money to buy cars for her and even the baby.
Comments that make you think this is your village peeps at work.
[b]I have been there and got burnt beyond recognition.... I got out more confused.

@ the bolded(s)...

how disrespectful, you are a man not her slave

do not do it

@OP

You can't genuinely love someone without being a source of comfort to her. I wager you don't have genuine love for your household. Kindly change for good, your household deserve the very best in everything.

Oga, driving your wife to work shouldn't be too much for you. How can you even be comfortable with letting your wife carry two infants on an okada you no dey fear? Carry her abeg na ya wife and ya shidrens. Her demands aren't unreasonable.

Acidosis:
What's she doing on a bike with a 3 month old baby in Ibadan? Cost of Taxi in Ibadan is 500% cheaper than cost of taxi in Lagos.

If the above options on the thread are not up for considerations, consider relocating her shop.

I really wonder what this guy is looking for here. Common sense dictates that he should make commuting as easy and safe for his wife and daughter as possible. Boarding okada with an infant especially in a place like Ibadan is just silly.

Timbuktuo:
Oga, driving your wife to work shouldn't be too much for you. How can you even be comfortable with letting your wife carry two infants on an okada you no dey fear? Carry her abeg na ya wife and ya shidrens. Her demands aren't unreasonable.

So you can give reasonable advice? Wow! A miracle has happened. Could it be that the miracle is female who gives you the comfort of a home where you find peace of mind? I heard men with lovely, warm-hearted, caring women are happier and less aggressive.

herveze:
We are having arguments in my house right now and I need your advice to tell me what to do.

I have a beautiful wife and three months old daughters with a car, and I am working in one company in Ibadan,last week I applied for two weeks leave in order for me to rest and the leave start today,also my wife start her shop today since our daughter is 3monrhs old, since the time she return from the shop,she has been complaining about the stress she went through on the bike and the child, later she confront me that I should be taking her to shop since I am at home doing nothing and I should be coming back in the evening to take her back home,I don't know what to do because of the far distance from my house to her shop. Pls I need ur advice before tomorrow morning.

If you are at Ibadan, I believe transportation is quite cheap there.

You can look for a cab that will take her to and fro work.

Once in a while, you can surprise her by stopping by some afternoons with snacks and you have a picnic.

On another note, I wonder why your wife is rushing to operate a shop with a three month old baby.

It is well.

Let your daugter stay at home with you when your wife goes to work. Ask her to express enough breast milk and keep refrigerated for your daughter before she leaves, so you can feed her when she's hungry.
If that's too much of a task for you, its better you drop them and pick them up as suggested. Its unsafe to have children on a bike.
Even adults are getting broken bones and heads.
Meanwhile, what happens when you resume back at work? Who will drop and pick them up?
Maybe its high time your wife learnt how to drive, and you allow her the use of the car till you people can afford a 2nd car. She can always drop you off at work in the mornings before she goes to her shop, and you will find your way back home.

Mindfulness:


So you can give reasonable advice? Wow! A miracle has happened. Could it be that the miracle is female who gives you the comfort of a home where you find peace of mind? I heard men with lovely, warm-hearted, caring women are happier and less aggressive.

I am filled and overpouring with reason. What I tell my brothers is that they should be manly; that means doing what is right whether your woman likes it or not. If she doesn't like it, too bad, she is free to leave. No woman I've ever been involved with can say I treated her badly. However, my principles are non-negotiable. Shape up or ship out. Surely, this isn't too difficult to grasp for your addled brain

Arrange for a taxi that will take her to and fro,this is because of their safety.
With this you are getting the rest that made you leave job and I think its time to relocate her shop closer to your home.

Timbuktuo:


I am filled and overpouring with reason. What I tell my brothers is that they should be manly; that means doing what is right whether your woman likes it or not. If she doesn't like it, too bad, she is free to leave. No woman I've ever been onvolved with can say I treated her badly. However, my principles are nin-negotuabke. Shape up or ship out. Surely, this isn't too difficult to grasp for your addled brain

Standing by your principles is a sign of a strong character not manliness.

You don't know what to do? Chai. Some men can fall hand sha. This small issue you don't know what to do. Bringing small issues as this to social media is uncalled for. What da heck? Your wife is right, you're home doing nothing, you're not gonna do it for ever, just during your leave.

This's is the right thing your ought to do without your wife even call your attention to it. You're married now you need to make sacrifices to keep your home.

This's your family for crying out loud. Oga, don't let your wife remind you tomorrow before you take her to her shop. What nonsense.