dairykidd:
Which one is private matured meeting again... Cut ties with her & if she still comes after u let her know u don't do married women. There's no big deal here unless of course u want to continue & end up slamming her... Disengage

san316:
I already feel like killing the op. As a married man, I can imagine how it feels to hear such a thing about my wife. No no no. My wife will never stay in that their evil camp, Never!!!

Esji80:
@SingleDaddy,I beg you in the name of God disengange! Disengage!! Disengage!!! Will you be happy to hear that your married sister,aunt,wife,cousin,etc is in such relationship? The evil you do now may search for you or you offspring later.



Quran says:

"…and do not come near Zina(adultery,fornication etc); indeed, it is an abomination and an evil way" (Al-
Isra': 32),

" ...come not nigh to indecent deeds. Whether open or secret;... "(6:151)

"Say: the things that my Lord hath
indeed forbidden are: Indecent deeds, whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah, for which He hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge. "(7:33)
Also read Quran 24:30-31

The Bible says in

1 Thessalonians 4:3
“For this is the will of God, that you should be holy and abstain from sexual immorality.”

1 Corinthians 9:10 says, “Or do you not know that unrighteous people will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Do not be misled.
Those who are sexually immoral
(fornication), idolaters, adulterers, men who submit to homosexual acts, men who practice homosexuality, thieves,
greedy people, drunkards, revilers, and extortioners will not inherit God’s Kingdom.”

As noticed from the scriptures above, we see that God hates sexual immorality or
fornication. God even goes to say that those who practice such things will not be allowed in his Kingdom. God intended for sex to take place only between those who are married (Hebrews 13:4). Also read Acts 15:20 ;
1 Corinthians 5:1 ; 6:13,2 Corinthians 12:21 ;
Galatians 5:19 ; Ephesians 5:3 ;
Colossians 3:5 ;
1 Thessalonians 4:3

Finally, I write all these because Allah says in Quran 2 verse 165
" Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and
beautiful preaching.."

SingleDaddy:
OK! , long story short, I really need advice at this point in time. I had an encounter with this particular alhaja, I hope that is correct, while i was in camp(Social gathering) , we eventually got to like each other, because she is always tracking me, while I stylishly do the same..

She's always buying me stuffs and surprising me with gift, and I endeavor to do the same.


After camping, we got to finally meet privately, and we had matured meeting between us. All this while, I never knew she was married, and she never talked about it.

Our friendship seems to be escalating quickly, and personally, I never prayed to have anything to do with a married lady. But with the way situations are, I'm stuck in between the hole of a niddle


She seems to be taking this too far and serious than myself... Please what's your advice and suggestions in regards to this issue.

I would like to quench the flame without breaking the candle.

Mrnakeina:
No be only rope and needle...

Very soon, you'll find yourself between mortar and pistle

SingleDaddy:


I understand, but we had a private matured meeting, when we both came out of camp. I actually regret it though, because she lied to me that she had no man at that moment.

grandstar:


Flee!!!! ( Read Hebrews 13:4)

SingleDaddy:
Please i need matured advice?. This is a serious situation.

Reelectbuhari:



answer these two questions b4 I render my help

1 which state are u from?
2 what is ur religion?

supereagle:


I admire your use of the language.

SingleDaddy:
Quietly going through all your advices, believe me I felt like I had a family in all of you.. I felt like hugging you all for the words and strong advice's...

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PS: Job camping, not NYSC camping...

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Over 32mentions, sorry I couldn't reply you all, but believe me, I'm here with all of you.

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Thanks to the mod who pushed this to front page, my dusty eye was cleared.

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BOOMnaija:


U call urself single dad and u want advice from small children on nairaland romance section. U need slap.

Hit like if u think this guy deserves hot slap

andyanders:


How and when did you come to find out that she was married? In fact,I put it to you op that you knowingly knew that she was married as you stated that she was eyeing you and you also equally did same. How and when did you come to realize that she was married after you went ahead and had matured meeting as you stated? That was SEX and nothing hidden herein.

As matured and educated as you are, how can you at this your age claim that you will encounter a lady during service and you did not find out about her status? Marry her and that is my advise to you.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
oga talk true. You love the fact that she's into you. And you yourselves don't want it to end. I'm sure you still want a matured meeting with her. THis let me advice you. If you want it to end, tell her that you don't hang around married ladies and you never knew she was married that was why you lead her on. Have a less matured meeting with her and tell her that you want it to be over. Stop deceiving yourself that you don't know what to do. If you keep having martyred meetings with her now that you know she's married, my brother, get ready because other men will have matured meeting with your wife. There are so many cute single ladies out there that you can have matured meeetings with. Leaving alhajia alone.

Garphar:
Dear brother,
She lied to you that she is not married, right??
Don't you think if you continue the relationship with her and she finds another cute guy or more endowed than you, don't you think she would do the same for him?
I just want to believe you have not done anything with her, its still safe, you can walk away.
If you feel anything for her, you can sit her down and talk about it, do you even know the reason she lied to you?
Thanks

victorazyvictor:

Experienced.

Krisddon:

The whole truth and nothing but the truth!
100000000000 LIKES!

NairaMaster1:


So, you want counseling before you know the worst sin is to have a carnal knowledge of a house wife?

Ask your father to tell you the implications.

Secondly, you will know when you marry. Karma is alive.

Please, flee my brother. There are so many queens on the street. Not another man's wife.

Run for your life.