OP, I can relate well to your experience! Had very similar case...

Now, I don't know what your belief-inclination is, but in my own case I deliberately let the Word of God prevail! . How do I mean? Anytime we communicate, I try to 'preach'. I once told her I love her, albeit fraternal, not conjugal love!
Luckily, she's since accepted the reality and now we both have the healthy cousin-relationship. We stay far apart also, and I'd suggested we be prayer partners of-a-kind... I give her points to pray for me, and she does raise prayer points with me also!

So, since you're the Man and the older here, my advise; be in-charge (that's if you aren't ''fallen'' too)... Cheers!

hadjipapiey:



She's my uncle's daughter from my grandmother's step wife

I'm still trying to translate this type of relationship.... Wait, let me think.

Cut communication to essentials, and should be once a month kinda. Alternatively tell her your wife is suspecting and she needs to keep her distance. Good luck

Incest!

hadjipapiey:
what do you take of your cousin sister showing advances and professing deep love and care?

It started when we were young, about 15 years ago. I had finished my SSCE when we had a get together at the remembrance of my grandfather, all the grandchildren showed up, and it was the first time we had met(grown up).

I was almost 2 years older, we got talking and chatting and trying to know each other. While at it, I was in charge telling her about myself, the school I attended and all. All I could observe is staring and gazing straight into my eye balls.

After the remembrance, I got to understand her looks translated into feelings where she had to ask her mum can one marry her cousin? To me i only can feel she was just a kid being childish about it. Since then we kept our cool and we're just the normal cousin brother and sister.


Fast forward till now, I'm Married while she's married too. We've lost contacts for years cos of struggles and all and we only got back online talking lately, we got talking about life and delved into relationships. It was then she told me what she had for me years back. Her husband is a weekend husband coz of the nature of his work, but she wants some sort of very close friendship. It really funny and confusing what string she's trying to pull


Matured minds please advise

thread like this makes me to detest marriages!!

Smh
imagine what a married lady z saying to a cousin

Bros....which advise you dey find.....

Common get that shit out of your mind fast......avoid, run, hide, fight, tell off....do what ever it takes to ensure that it never happens...

Just keep a far distance. It shall all pass away!

sheDD:
thread like this makes me to detest marriages!!

Smh
imagine what a married lady z saying to a cousin

Unapologetically

Awoleesu:
OP, I can relate well to your experience! Had very similar case...

Now, I don't know what your belief-inclination is, but in my own case I deliberately let the Word of God prevail! . How do I mean? Anytime we communicate, I try to 'preach'. I once told her I love her, albeit fraternal, not conjugal love!
Luckily, she's since accepted the reality and now we both have the healthy cousin-relationship. We stay far apart also, and I'd suggested we be prayer partners of-a-kind... I give her points to pray for me, and she does raise prayer points with me also!


So, since you're the Man and the older here, my advise; be in-charge (that's if you aren't ''fallen'' too)... Cheers!

Thanks a lot brother, really appreciate.

Firehead:
Just keep a far distance. It shall all pass away!

We are indeed distant location wise.

Working on disengaging the deep mutual closeness.


Like

Awoleesu

said, I will intensify efforts in adopting being a religious mentor.

By the way, I'm a Muslim

khalids:
Bros....which advise you dey find.....

Common get that shit out of your mind fast......avoid, run, hide, fight, tell off....do what ever it takes to ensure that it never happens...

K, cool
Thanks

target100:
Cut communication to essentials, and should be once a month kinda. Alternatively tell her your wife is suspecting and she needs to keep her distance. Good luck

That actually kept her a bit in check doh..


Thanks

hadjipapiey:
what do you take of your cousin sister showing advances and professing deep love and care?

It started when we were young, about 15 years ago. I had finished my SSCE when we had a get together at the remembrance of my grandfather, all the grandchildren showed up, and it was the first time we had met(grown up).

I was almost 2 years older, we got talking and chatting and trying to know each other. While at it, I was in charge telling her about myself, the school I attended and all. All I could observe is staring and gazing straight into my eye balls.

After the remembrance, I got to understand her looks translated into feelings where she had to ask her mum can one marry her cousin? To me i only can feel she was just a kid being childish about it. Since then we kept our cool and we're just the normal cousin brother and sister.


Fast forward till now, I'm Married while she's married too. We've lost contacts for years cos of struggles and all and we only got back online talking lately, we got talking about life and delved into relationships. It was then she told me what she had for me years back. Her husband is a weekend husband coz of the nature of his work, but she wants some sort of very close friendship. It really funny and confusing what string she's trying to pull


Matured minds please advise

Run, my friend run as fast as your legs can carry you. Biblically remember Joseph he ran. Locally don't forget those siblings that got married and were asked to perform trial cleansing. Don't get entangled in future wrecking advances.

hadjipapiey:



She's my uncle's daughter from my grandmother's step wife

If you weren't from Nigeria or a Muslim especially from the north (according to the Shari'a), you would have been able to marry her. But now that she's married, brother run for your life, shaitan is just fingering your brain.

She might hate you afterwards, but it's best for and your family.

QueenSuccubus:



Its obviously a temptation...But Ofcurz , it's up to u if u gonna dive in or tell her off...the last card is in ur hands.

And the best way to avoid temptation is by falling into it

Qtsnow:


If you weren't from Nigeria or a Muslim especially from the north (according to the Shari'a), you would have been able to marry her. But now that she's married, brother run for your life, shaitan is just fingering your brain.

She might hate you afterwards, but it's best for and your family.

On a marathon race already

For the fact that you remember all the little details about that first meeting you had when she was 15yrs, even after so many years, makes me believe you are the one pushing for this and wanting it to happen. Its already a fetish for you.

But as usual with naira landers they come here and play the victim card, usually to seek validation or sympathy because in the first place this isnt a thing to debate about or thought to entertain. asides being a cousin , in Pete's sakes you both are also married. So what's advice do you seek for incest, infidelity, adultery, lying and cheating.

Ogs go park one side,

lagosrd:


Run, my friend run as fast as your legs can carry you. Biblically remember Joseph he ran. Locally don't forget those siblings that got married and were asked to perform trial cleansing. Don't get entangled in future wrecking advances.

Thanks

hadjipapiey:



She's my uncle's daughter from my grandmother's step wife

the relationship is far but you are married and she's also married..just hold your wife jeje

As long as she doesn't trip and fall on your d1ck. It's OK.

ridbell01:
the relationship is far but you are married and she's also married..just hold your wife jeje

Gbam!

5thElement:
As long as she doesn't trip and fall on your d1ck. It's OK.

Akious2k2:

The only problem I see here is that she's now married... I would have advised that you marry her... THIS IS NOT INCEST... There are categories of relations you can't marry and can be termed INCEST... I don't want to delve there now

you are right. Marrying ur cousin is not incest

Oma307:
how do you expect me to believe this

I experienced same with my cousin,shit like this one is real!

1st - She is your cousin
2nd - She is married
3rd - The strings that will get pulled are her happiness and yours

Finally, this is a 'no, no'. Wake her up to reality please.

madgoat:
What is cousin sister abeg?

MAAADGOATUU!

goat22:
Negative most able madam, the young man, needs to offer sacrifice to the Almighty Goat Lord, ashumna ashumba the goat that divides and imports. Nevertheless, without the ludicrous pitch ma cabinet it is forbidden.

I have no idea what are u talking about...

Grayjoy:
I got it. Was tal.kn abt her feelings nt urz. Could nt retype initially.

OK Bro
Thanks

QueenSuccubus:



I have no idea what are u talking about...

What is he talking about

QueenSuccubus:



Naso baba. abeegi make ur own thread ooo..so pipu go there and do their kata kata

Lol, how do I start a thread on nairaland self, I can't remember how to do that anymore.

Marshalxv:


I experienced same with my cousin,shit like this one is real!

.. For real


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