UKmigrant, Baba I hail you. Na u dey ball oooo

Nice one! Did you visit the Sharde?

bigtt76:
Nice one! Did you visit the Sharde?

Not yet, maybe on my next visit.

UKmigrant:
Not yet, maybe on my next visit.

Boss d boss, u just dey enjoy..want to be like u when I grow up oo

Hi all, I have searched everywhere on nairaland for this but could'nt find anything useful. I am about to apply for tier2 UK visa and tier 2 dependent visa for my wife and child. I however have another child born out of wedlock who is now 6years old and I intend to bring him to the UK too.

People tell me it is not likely to be approved because his case is more complicated. His name appears on my marriage certificate (single with a child) and my name is also on his birth certificate. His mother is willing to provide every necessary document and is in full support of this.

Could you please advice me on what to do, documents to provide and how I can proceed with this? Thank you.

cc: justwise

Posting to UK Visa thread would help. In any case, the application should go through since he's still within the age limit, however be prepared for paternity test to be carried out on him

simbaray:
Hi all, I have searched everywhere on nairaland for this but could'nt find anything useful. I am about to apply for tier2 UK visa and tier 2 dependent visa for my wife and child. I however have another child born out of wedlock who is now 6years old and I intend to bring him to the UK too.

People tell me it is not likely to be approved because his case is more complicated. His name appears on my marriage certificate (single with a child) and my name is also on his birth certificate. His mother is willing to provide every necessary document and is in full support of this.

Could you please advice me on what to do, documents to provide and how I can proceed with this? Thank you.

cc: justwise

London is blazing today. I’m so hot, but it’s nice for once. Was getting tired of the cold weather.

Please where is @ Falzdbadtguy

Safiaa:
London is blazing today. I’m so hot, but it’s nice for once. Was getting tired of the cold weather.

25 degrees on flick baby

UKmigrant:
25 degrees on flick baby

Tesla...

Mamatukwas:
Hello All!

New migrant alert here. This thread has been great, thanks a lot to all who have contributed.

Pls my perspective is slightly different. I'm a Tier5 dependent (Wife) and we all moved with our 3 children. It has honestly been unbelievably expensive and we still have not settled in a house we like.. have been doing short stay which is very expensive.

Anyhoo, we are North and even though I honestly won't be able to work for at least a year or two coz I have small children, I want to invest the time wisely doing courses etc that will allow me be immediately relevant when I'm ready. So for those with knowledge pls help your sister... which areas are perpetually hot in the U.K. especially the Scotland area. Pls note that - I have over 10 years experience in Entrepreneurial endeavors/Business management. - No passion for IT or Medical fields plus Hubby na d medic. - For now considering Social work or Project Mgt or Event Mgt (Events coz I have a passion there) but I don't know if it pays this side.

I honestly have never not contributed to the household purse and I dey pity Oga as I'm seeing how the money is vanishing.. won't even mind ideas on what I can do online at home from now to earn in the U.K. Pls oh my peeps give me ideas based on your wealth of knowledge. Many thanks.

Cc: @Ralphlauren @dupsyhoo @imconfused and all the other greats on the thread including OP.

Regards.

having 3 small kids is no excuse to be a full time housewife.

you can get a contract job and put all 3 kids in nursery.

Mamatukwas:
Hello All!

New migrant alert here. This thread has been great, thanks a lot to all who have contributed.

Pls my perspective is slightly different. I'm a Tier5 dependent (Wife) and we all moved with our 3 children. It has honestly been unbelievably expensive and we still have not settled in a house we like.. have been doing short stay which is very expensive.

Anyhoo, we are North and even though I honestly won't be able to work for at least a year or two coz I have small children, I want to invest the time wisely doing courses etc that will allow me be immediately relevant when I'm ready. So for those with knowledge pls help your sister... which areas are perpetually hot in the U.K. especially the Scotland area. Pls note that - I have over 10 years experience in Entrepreneurial endeavors/Business management. - No passion for IT or Medical fields plus Hubby na d medic. - For now considering Social work or Project Mgt or Event Mgt (Events coz I have a passion there) but I don't know if it pays this side.

I honestly have never not contributed to the household purse and I dey pity Oga as I'm seeing how the money is vanishing.. won't even mind ideas on what I can do online at home from now to earn in the U.K. Pls oh my peeps give me ideas based on your wealth of knowledge. Many thanks.

Cc: @Ralphlauren @dupsyhoo @imconfused and all the other greats on the thread including OP.

Regards.

Hello Mamatukwas,
Welcome!! I hope you are settling in.

To be honest,it all depends on you and the agreement between both of you.If he came in as a medic,i doubt he will be earning very well except he is working locums round the clock,there used to be a 20 hour restriction on locuming when my husband came in newly on tier 2

Your finances will be under a lot of pressure till you both settle in properly and he decides to do locums full time or train and become a specialist.If he chooses to train,it will take at least 3-4 years to stabilize as training jobs don't pay very well either,maximum 3,200 which he can supplement with some hours of locuming if he has the power.

If he has a lot of experience in Nigeria,he can gather all the evidence and ask them to review his salary for a bump up because they normally start at the bottom for new entrants to the NHS. All this is if he is employed straight by the NHS,if it is agency that's another kettle of fish.

From all i've said,your husband will be under too much pressure for the next 3-5 years bearing the burden alone.You can see that finding a job is not easy so it's never too early to start testing the waters.

First,the ages of your children matter.If anyone is between 3-5,they are entitled to a place in the council nursery free for a few hours a week.If you need a full day,you pay but its not usually much.I pay £128 three full days for one of my kids,and i live in an expensive area by scottish standards.

You need to apply to the council.Depending on the month they were born,may start primary at 4 or at 5.5 years. You have to check the council website for the scottish gov policy per school starting and see where your children fall in.If under 3,it's private nursery and that's where it gets expensive.

Another thing you may say is they are too small,nursery will be too costly for three of them compared to the earning for you,it may even gobble up all your salary but the key is getting a foot in and start building up your cv,even if it's once/twice a week or something.

There's a website called mumsnet where there's a lot of discussions about women and the workforce and they usually advice to always get working no matter how little as the competition is much and it is difficult to get in after a break.I'm not saying this would be the case with you at all o!!

What matters is that you calculate well well and have a feasible plan.3 kids is not easy but you can send them somewhere for one or two days at least even if it's for your sanity.If you and your spouse are happy for you to be a stay at home mum,that is very okay as well,you'll just have to be very careful with cash.

Unfortunately,i'm not business oriented,i have no clue about making money.All i can do is work and earn a salary.Pele,i am useless to you at this point,lol.

imnotconfused:


Hello Mamatukwas,
Welcome!! I hope you are settling in.

To be honest,it all depends on you and the agreement between both of you.If he came in as a medic,i doubt he will be earning very well except he is working locums round the clock,there used to be a 20 hour restriction on locuming when my husband came in newly on tier 2

Your finances will be under a lot of pressure till you both settle in properly and he decides to do locums full time or train and become a specialist.If he chooses to train,it will take at least 3-4 years to stabilize as training jobs don't pay very well either,maximum 3,200 which he can supplement with some hours of locuming if he has the power.

If he has a lot of experience in Nigeria,he can gather all the evidence and ask them to review his salary for a bump up because they normally start at the bottom for new entrants to the NHS. All this is if he is employed straight by the NHS,if it is agency that's another kettle of fish.

From all i've said,your husband will be under too much pressure for the next 3-5 years bearing the burden alone.You can see that finding a job is not easy so it's never too early to start testing the waters.

First,the ages of your children matter.If anyone is between 3-5,they are entitled to a place in the council nursery free for a few hours a week.If you need a full day,you pay but its not usually much.I pay £128 three full days for one of my kids,and i live in an expensive area by scottish standards.

You need to apply to the council.Depending on the month they were born,may start primary at 4 or at 5.5 years. You have to check the council website for the scottish gov policy per school starting and see where your children fall in.If under 3,it's private nursery and that's where it gets expensive.

Another thing you may say is they are too small,nursery will be too costly for three of them compared to the earning for you,it may even gobble up all your salary but the key is getting a foot in and start building up your cv,even if it's once/twice a week or something.

There's a website called mumsnet where there's a lot of discussions about women and the workforce and they usually advice to always get working no matter how little as the competition is much and it is difficult to get in after a break.I'm not saying this would be the case with you at all o!!

What matters is that you calculate well well and have a feasible plan.3 kids is not easy but you can send them somewhere for one or two days at least even if it's for your sanity.If you and your spouse are happy for you to be a stay at home mum,that is very okay as well,you'll just have to be very careful with cash.

Unfortunately,i'm not business oriented,i have no clue about making money.All i can do is work and earn a salary.Pele,i am useless to you at this point,lol.

Thank you so much. You've been far from useless honestly, in fact you've managed to capture the reality of a lot of things... I wish I'd spoken to you earlier, had to find out the schooling thing through trial and error.

I will check out Mumsnet and start to check the area for suitable roles. Is it ok if I send you a pm?

Thanks again.

Mamatukwas:


Thank you so much. You've been far from useless honestly, in fact you've managed to capture the reality of a lot of things... I wish I'd spoken to you earlier, had to find out the schooling thing through trial and error.

I will check out Mumsnet and start to check the area for suitable roles. Is it ok if I send you a pm?

Thanks again.

Yes you can send a pm,will reply when i can.

Mamatukwas

Apologies if I sounded crude with my initial reply. I was in a rush when I got your mention.

what are the ages of your kids?

my wife and I have two kids under the age of 3 and we both work full time. my wife works as a contractor (she is not entitled to maternity leave, etc), yet within those 3 years, she has worked all through at 3 different top firms, had two babies and kept her contracting role (she 'hides' her pregnancy and doesn't let her bosses know until a week she was due or even after delivery as she did with our second and she requests for a few weeks off). we usually have a relative around to help out for the first few months and by 3-4months, we enrol our child at nursery. so it is possible to have kids your age and work full time. I have worked with female colleagues with 3-4 young kids, yet they are working full time.

there is nothing impossible to achieve if you put your mind to it.

one of the easiest ways of stepping into the UK corporate world is by getting a job in customer service. another option is complaint handling. I have heard of a bank at Glasgow that employs a large number of people to deal with their complaints with some people earning over £300 per 10 hours shift. a few months working on such roles and then you can easily move to your desired career path or move closer to your desired career path.

does your visa come with any restriction? many permanent roles these days come with flexible working as a perk. I work with colleagues that work from home as many as 3 times a week and no - they do not have young children. many firms will also allow you to do compressed hours (work 40hours within 4 working days and have the 5th working day off). Since your husband is a doctor, you can always have his shifts arranged to suit yours (for example, he might work only all night shifts or late evening shifts during weekdays)


in addition to what have been said by iamnotconfused about nursery places/funding, the government offers 20hrs a week (it will be increased to 30hours a week in 2020) for each child aged above 3 (depending on what month of the year the child was born).these free hours are also accepted at most private nurseries. there are also 'not for profit' nurseries that charge very reasonable fees. there is usually a waiting list for such nurseries so why not look around and see if there is any around your post code and then have your kids registered. there are both cheap and expensive private nurseries. there are nurseries charging around £35 and other charging as much as £55 a day. I strongly believe that if you had sort out affordable/reliable childcare, you can get yourself a very decent/well paying job.

on the business side of things, I cant really think of anything you can do that wont involve a driving license/reasonable amount of start-up funds.

I know a lot of people are looking at cheap/non-bulky/unique items that could be bought from china (aliexpress, etc) and then sold on platforms such as amazon and ebay. I know amazon has a certain feature where they keep your goods in their warehouse and they handle delivery/returns for you in exchange of a fee. You might want to look into that option.

Ralphlauren:
Mamatukwas

Apologies if I sounded crude with my initial reply. I was in a rush when I got your mention.

what are the ages of your kids?

my wife and I have two kids under the age of 3 and we both work full time. my wife works as a contractor (she is not entitled to maternity leave, etc), yet within those 3 years, she has worked all through at 3 different top firms, had two babies and kept her contracting role (she 'hides' her pregnancy and doesn't let her bosses know until a week she was due or even after delivery as she did with our second and she requests for a few weeks off). we usually have a relative around to help out for the first few months and by 3-4months, we enrol our child at nursery. so it is possible to have kids your age and work full time. I have worked with female colleagues with 3-4 young kids, yet they are working full time.

there is nothing impossible to achieve if you put your mind to it.

one of the easiest ways of stepping into the UK corporate world is by getting a job in customer service. another option is complaint handling. I have heard of a bank at Glasgow that employs a large number of people to deal with their complaints with some people earning over £300 per 10 hours shift. a few months working on such roles and then you can easily move to your desired career path or move closer to your desired career path.

does your visa come with any restriction? many permanent roles these days come with flexible working as a perk. I work with colleagues that work from home as many as 3 times a week and no - they do not have young children. many firms will also allow you to do compressed hours (work 40hours within 4 working days and have the 5th working day off). Since your husband is a doctor, you can always have his shifts arranged to suit yours (for example, he might work only all night shifts or late evening shifts during weekdays)


in addition to what have been said by iamnotconfused about nursery places/funding, the government offers 20hrs a week (it will be increased to 30hours a week in 2020) for each child aged above 3 (depending on what month of the year the child was born).these free hours are also accepted at most private nurseries. there are also 'not for profit' nurseries that charge very reasonable fees. there is usually a waiting list for such nurseries so why not look around and see if there is any around your post code and then have your kids registered. there are both cheap and expensive private nurseries. there are nurseries charging around £35 and other charging as much as £55 a day. I strongly believe that if you had sort out affordable/reliable childcare, you can get yourself a very decent/well paying job.

on the business side of things, I cant really think of anything you can do that wont involve a driving license/reasonable amount of start-up funds.

I know a lot of people are looking at cheap/non-bulky/unique items that could be bought from china (aliexpress, etc) and then sold on platforms such as amazon and ebay. I know amazon has a certain feature where they keep your goods in their warehouse and they handle delivery/returns for you in exchange of a fee. You might want to look into that option.

Apology accepted Sir and many thanks for your feedback! You've given me food for thought. All 3 of my kids are under 4- the last is a newborn.

My visa doesn't have work restrictions which is a plus.. I've decided to start working seriously towards getting my license so that I'm not limited by mobility as is the current situation then decide on the best way to attack this U.K. Job market God will help us. Your input is very much appreciated and has been saved for future reference.

Regards.

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Good morning all. Also a newbie in UK on a tier 2 dependent visa. Mamatukwas you and i are in similar situations. I have 2 kids under 4.
Looking for how to attack this UK job maket as well. I just applied for my temporary license and would take the theory test soon. Mobility cannot be a hindrance

I have International drivers license from Nigeria. Im just not confident enough to drive on UK roads. The right hand steering still dey confuse me

Mamatukwas:


Apology accepted Sir and many thanks for your feedback! You've given me food for thought. All 3 of my kids are under 4- the last is a newborn.

My visa doesn't have work restrictions which is a plus.. I've decided to start working seriously towards getting my license so that I'm not limited by mobility as is the current situation then decide on the best way to attack this U.K. Job market God will help us. Your input is very much appreciated and has been saved for future reference.

Regards.

MadameKofo:
Good morning all. Also a newbie in UK on a tier 2 dependent visa. Mamatukwas you and i are in similar situations. I have 2 kids under 4.
Looking for how to attack this UK job maket as well. I just applied for my temporary license and would take the theory test soon. Mobility cannot be a hindrance

I have International drivers license from Nigeria. Im just not confident enough to drive on UK roads. The right hand steering still dey confuse me

Lol we are in the same shoes. I can’t believe I’ll have to start changing gear with my left hand. Anyway, you’re welcome Ma. Oya move to this thread. https://www.nairaland.com/4158866/living-uk-life-uk-immigrant

Ralphlauren:


my wife and I have two kids under the age of 3 and we both work full time. my wife works as a contractor (she is not entitled to maternity leave, etc), yet within those 3 years, she has worked all through at 3 different top firms, had two babies and kept her contracting role (she 'hides' her pregnancy and doesn't let her bosses know until a week she was due or even after delivery as she did with our second and she requests for a few weeks off). we usually have a relative around to help out for the first few months and by 3-4months, we enrol our child at nursery. so it is possible to have kids your age and work full time. I have worked with female colleagues with 3-4 young kids, yet they are working full time.
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Omg ........ your wife is working way too hard if she has to hide a pregnancy and not take a proper time off / maternity leave . UK can be hard but this is too much n.a. or maybe just me

LagosismyHome:


Omg ........ your wife is working way too hard if she has to hide a pregnancy and not take a proper time off / maternity leave . UK can be hard but this is too much n.a. or maybe just me

Working way too hard ke?

Announce a pregnancy so that they won’t renew her contract? Lol. Do you think high paying roles for “black women” are that easy to come by?

Well, if you earn a rate of c£700 per day with remote working available (sometimes she’s only in the office once a week when she’s got meetings with her stakeholders), and you have plans to send your kids to independent fee paying private schools, have a property portfolio to fall back on at retirement, etc ......... then giving up maternity leave won’t be such a bad “investment”.

Ralphlauren:


Working way too hard ke?

Announce a pregnancy so that they won’t renew her contract? Lol. Do you think high paying roles for “black women” are that easy to come by?

Well, if you earn a rate of c£700 per day with remote working available (sometimes she’s only in the office once a week when she’s got meetings with her stakeholders), and you have plans to send your kids to independent fee paying private schools, have a property portfolio to fall back on at retirement, etc ......... then giving up maternity leave won’t be such a bad “investment”.

I hear you and I went back to work after 8 months maternity because I was missing my day rate but felt very guilty about it .

It not an easy decision I get it but giving up maternity leave is not an easy walk but only a mother will understand so I raise hand for your wife. She tried

Mamatukwas:
Hello All!

New migrant alert here. This thread has been great, thanks a lot to all who have contributed.

Pls my perspective is slightly different. I'm a Tier5 dependent (Wife) and we all moved with our 3 children. It has honestly been unbelievably expensive and we still have not settled in a house we like.. have been doing short stay which is very expensive.


Regards.

Working with 3 little children is not easy ooo in terms of childcare bill ....

This depends on what you are earning. I have twins and their nursery bill is over 2k a month..... Except you are earning well it better to be housewife oo until they are old enough for reception / primary .

Nursery of 3 is not beans and has to be more than your income to be worth it. Finding aupair might help as that cheaper than nursery for 3 kids

LagosismyHome:


This depends on what you are earning .... I have twins and their nursery bill is over 2k a month..... Except you are earning well it better to be housewife oo until they are old enough for reception / primary .

Nursery of 3 is not beans and has to be more than your income to be worth it. Finding aupair might help as that cheaper than nursery for 3 kids

Problem is getting your foot in the door..by the time you wait and wait till the kids are grown,your options may not be as viable.
A lot of restraints for women,you have to brace up if you are going to get ahead.It is all very difficult,no choices are easy

I started work when my second was 3 months,even premmie but i had to take that opportunity.It was hell,work is still hell sef.
I nearly quit last week because my rota was so bad that i wouldn't see my children 7-10 days in a row.I leave when they are asleep and come home when they are asleep.

I was questioning my choice of career,others are raising their kids themselves,i'm busy at work helping people,who is caring for mine??If not for DH i would have quit and damned the consequences.We are usually a close bunch but this money money thing seems to be consuming us even though we earn way above average combined income.It seems the more you earn you have a certain lifestyle you cannot compromise.

We are moving to england and hoping to start afresh and decide what our priorities are.More time for us,more time for the kids.My new job for the next 3 years starts in august.If the rota is nonsense again,i go part time.

I have a fixed goal to finish training in 6 years but i'm willing to add an additional year if it means i get to spend more time with the kids & DH.
My greatest fear is overburdening DH,he is the higher earner,don't want to put him under too much pressure.

Sacrifices have to be made inorder to maintain a certain standard but after a while you start to wonder when the sacrifice is now detrimental to you and your family and then act accordingly.

If you and your spouse don't cooperate ehhh your own don be for here.

holiday loading,career woman/mother/spouse is not a joke

imnotconfused:


Problem is getting your foot in the door..by the time you wait and wait till the kids are grown,your options may not be as viable.
A lot of restraints for women,you have to brace up if you are going to get ahead.It is all very difficult,no choices are easy

I started work when my second was 3 months,even premmie but i had to take that opportunity.It was hell,work is still hell sef.
I nearly quit last week because my rota was so bad that i wouldn't see my children 7-10 days in a row.I leave when they are asleep and come home when they are asleep.

I was questioning my choice of career,others are raising their kids themselves,i'm busy at work helping people,who is caring for mine??If not for DH i would have quit and damned the consequences.We are usually a close bunch but this money money thing seems to be consuming us even though we earn way above average combined income.It seems the more you earn you have a certain lifestyle you cannot compromise.

We are moving to england and hoping to start afresh and decide what our priorities are.More time for us,more time for the kids.My new job for the next 3 years starts in august.If the rota is nonsense again,i go part time.

I have a fixed goal to finish training in 6 years but i'm willing to add an additional year if it means i get to spend more time with the kids & DH.
My greatest fear is overburdening DH,he is the higher earner,don't want to put him under too much pressure.

Sacrifices have to be made inorder to maintain a certain standard but after a while you start to wonder when the sacrifice is now detrimental to you and your family and then act accordingly.

If you and your spouse don't cooperate ehhh your own don be for here.

holiday loading,career woman/mother/spouse is not a joke

Wow hats off to you .. it no joke at all .

UKmigrant:
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Where are the almost naked girls?

ChiefAzubuike:

Where are the almost naked girls?

Post your own bikini pics first, no ojoro here

This weekend I had a family visiting from naija so decided to do tourist stuff... take the family to see Big Ben , London eye etc and generally walk around CL

a great shock there was an event by big Ben... some nudist event. I saw loads of naked men and women cycling . I didn't hear off the event before hand .. As in all their God given goods were on display .

My friend kids who are just 5 and 4 were like yuck aunty what is this..... giving me eyes like Is this how una dey do for London. I had to look for paper to cover their eyes . As in grown men things were in full display . Women the same .I didn't even know it legal to show God given gift in public and full display.

My eyes have seen it all .... shocked but amused . The pics i took are not as censored as this so went online to find a censored pic to show so mod wont delete