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My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Amagite(m): 3:33pm On May 02, 2018 |
A South African lady, Bridget took to Twitter to share heartbreaking story of how her mom physically abused and cursed her. According to her, the story she shared on Twitter is just a glimpse of what her mum did to her. Read below... "My mom abused me physically, she’d beat me up like she was fighting an adult. I remember this one time she was kicking me on my abdomen cuz I lost a R100...lol that day I started menstruating. I could write a book about this woman but these are stories we don’t talk about on this app because our mothers are “perfect” . She made a point that she reminded me how inadequate I am, now I’d never be anything life. Told me I wouldn’t even go to varsity. But I realize each & everyday that none of bad words turned out to be true. I became the opposite of every word & curse she spoke upon my life. My chest tightens whenever she asks me for money. Like...okay..how are you asking someone whom you kept on telling that you want nothing from them even if they ever made it in life? I personally don’t think I’d cry if my mom died, it would be such a relief tbh. She hurt me a lot She tormented me. She was supposed to be my best friend, she was supposed to protect me from this cruel world, but no I had to learn how to have my own back. I had to learn that I’m beautiful..on my own without anyone’s validation. She failed me as her only child. Don’t tell me “she’s your mom”, she never played that role. I was her punching bag whenever my step dad did something to upset her. I was so young...I feared my mom. My heart would race whenever she came back from town. I found peace when she had gone out for a few hours. Guys, I couldn’t wait to grow up. I remember praying to wake up old and in my own place where she couldn’t hurt me. I never enjoyed my childhood because I was my mother’s punching bag. I never had a chance to study throughout primary school...I was always scared and terrified. I don’t know how I survived my mom. I honestly don’t know how I survived the monster she was. I’m so grateful for @go2uj for their Psyched services, UJ didn’t only offer me education but for 4 years it moulded me & made me a better person. I doubt I could have been this woman I am today if I never had a psychologist from 1st year until my final year. I healed. I still have this one memory that makes me laugh but it’s sad okay. So she instructed me to cook pap & I did but it was undercooked cuz I was young...So she made me eat the whole pot while slapping me . Wow..guys what if I was adopted? Guys stop saying this was discipline. I was never a problem child. I was even isolated from other kids, I had no one to play with. I was always drawing people on the yard at home, even the drawing pissed my mom off. Also this is not even half of my story..it’s a glimpse. My step sister fell pregnant twice and she would just come drop off her babies and run away. She played herself because my mom would throw her two boys on cemented floor just for crying, now they are not okay mentally..because of my mom. When I’m strong enough & ready to let the world in...I will explain why I have operation scars that start from thighs down to my legs. But today I just wanted us all to know that a mother can break you. I’m glad I never broke. I’m a phenomenal woman because of all this. I’m okay now. I’m far away from her. I went for therapy for about 4 years cuz I needed to build myself & heal. I needed to be okay so that I too could be a good therapist ..the therapist I am today. I forgave her but I don’t think I owe her anything, my psychologist told me to block her and cut her off. Black parents are abusive but nobody wants to talk about this." See more here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/05/my-mom-physically-abused-me-her-death-would-be-a-relief-to-me-s-a-lady.html Cc; Lalasticlala 25 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by theunnamed: 3:35pm On May 02, 2018 |
If not for her mother, she wouldn't have been a woman, yet she wants her mom to die... Ppl are ungrateful sha ![]() ![]() 2 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by youngest85(m): 3:40pm On May 02, 2018 |
One day you go give woman belle |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by directorXixXICK(m): 3:42pm On May 02, 2018 |
So u don't know you are your mom's assurance..... |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by MrGreenMavro: 5:04pm On May 02, 2018 |
![]() na so her daughter go do her too...yeye gal ![]() ![]() 2 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by ichommy(m): 5:04pm On May 02, 2018 |
youngest85:Huh ![]() 12 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Evablizin(f): 5:04pm On May 02, 2018 |
My God. Very painful experience,but don't wish her death. 40 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Whogoblog: 5:05pm On May 02, 2018 |
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Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by SoapQueen(f): 5:05pm On May 02, 2018 |
Damn. |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Benblaq(m): 5:06pm On May 02, 2018 |
J |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Pavore9: 5:07pm On May 02, 2018 |
theunnamed: It is difficult to love the one who abuses you. 91 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by adeniyi3971(m): 5:07pm On May 02, 2018 |
pathetic 1 Like |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Suxes(m): 5:07pm On May 02, 2018 |
karma is coming for you! 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by nelsonebby(m): 5:07pm On May 02, 2018 |
My mom is worst. But I can never wish such a thing to her 1 Like |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by carpmam: 5:08pm On May 02, 2018 |
I saw nothing wrong with what her mum did, spoil the rod and spare the child, if not for the military training her mum gave her,she for be one useless prostitute with possibly carrying hiv\aids 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Pavore9: 5:08pm On May 02, 2018 |
Being abusive and traumatizing a child is not effective parenting. Since she never mentioned her father in her post, I guess her mother being a single mom may have transferred her bitterness against her father to the daughter. Extending her abuse to her two grandsons from her other daughter, certifies she is not in a good place mentally. 68 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Nobody: 5:09pm On May 02, 2018 |
Abusive parents are the worst thing for kids. Worst than childhood poverty. They steal their childhood away. The world needs to start talking about abusive parents and shaming them or we would start praying they die off! choose one. ![]() 68 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by tintingz(m): 5:09pm On May 02, 2018 |
Most African parents and elders think getting respect from a child and disciplining them is by beating them. This is something almost 90% African children are suffering from, psychologically and the effect grow up with them. I'm sure the mum was from an abusive home. 36 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by willi926(m): 5:11pm On May 02, 2018 |
Wow. A typical example of my Neigbour mum. atimes I feel like calling human right for her. Children go see their mama go hide, her first son jumped from a storey building all because he wanted to dodge her mum. Thank God I had a beautiful parental relationship. 36 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by IMASTEX: 5:11pm On May 02, 2018 |
What goes around comes around |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by sandrahnaub(f): 5:12pm On May 02, 2018 |
I feel her pain 12 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by yomalex(m): 5:13pm On May 02, 2018 |
chai |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Nobody: 5:13pm On May 02, 2018 |
theunnamed:And you think her mum had a hand in her success? 30 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by kinkybunny(f): 5:13pm On May 02, 2018 |
cool |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Pavore9: 5:14pm On May 02, 2018 |
IMASTEX: It is high time we stand up against abuse in the guise of parenting! 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by HajimeSaito(m): 5:15pm On May 02, 2018 |
LuciferChrist: Are you really this stupid or are you just a shameless attention seeker? May your evil wish visit all the females in your family who are over the age of 30, starting with your mother. 9 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Nazaretha1(m): 5:17pm On May 02, 2018 |
Anyone who is in support of how that lady's mother treated her as a child is a bumbling idiot. So are you saying you also can abuse your child whom you profess and supposedly show love to physically and mentally? 40 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Kissup(f): 5:17pm On May 02, 2018 |
Maybe she isn't your real mum.maybe your mum bought you from a Nurse when your real mum gave birth to you.my cousin friend told us that last two years a Nurse sold her sister son immediately she had d baby.your real mum might be somewhere else. Just saying 2 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by Nazaretha1(m): 5:18pm On May 02, 2018 |
Can you imagine! willi926: |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by biggy26: 5:19pm On May 02, 2018 |
Many lazy youth above just read d heading with reading the story, therefore commenting rubbish. The responsibility of a parent is to provide and protect a child that didn't ask to be born into the world. The heart of man is wicked and I guess her mum wanted her dead as well. I know a lady that once told me she always wished her mum wasn't her mum, cos of abuse not even close to this. 12 Likes |
Re: My Mom's Death Would Be A Relief To Me, She Hurt Me A Lot - South African Lady by lilmaydee(m): 5:20pm On May 02, 2018 |
If you are lucky to have a good mother, you should be grateful. Don't judge her because you were never in her shoes. If you know you know... 10 Likes |
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