chillychill:



Play mind games with me kee.." Won kere" I had said my mind Dere is nothing wrong with what I said everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Na Dere wahala b dat make dem Dey do 50_50 with Dere husband like u said "their end is certain and predictable ". Thanks

ruffDiamond:
I have one as friend whose son is almost a teen now..I discovered she a stubborn streak and unnecessarily argumentative and opinionated for a gal that's even uneducated,that's a lot of baggage.. I have lesent that the best thing about Ladies is their smile..any other thing is left for actual experience.. don't ever assume you know everything about them..like some men do...and finally 98% of them usually learn through the hard way before calming down

ImaIma1:


What about a case where they both spent equal amount for the marriage ceremony or that the lady even brought most of the money...can she drag rights with him then?

Marriage is not actually about following set principles or living by the book. Both parties need to love and respect each other and find a model that works for them. Upbringing also affects marriage. A man that was brought up in a home where his mum had no say will shut down his wife when she tries to speak.

People need to shine their eye and look at the person they are marrying...if they can work together.

Women should not marry a guy they cannot respect. Men and women are joint heirs and equal in God's eyes but one still has to submit to the other. One is the head and one is the neck. The neck and head never fight for control.

chillychill:



U no nothing girl,u ready don't know anything :

ImaIma1:
So now you are in my mind abi

softprick:
Like I always say WOMEN AINT NOTHING BUT HOS AND TRICKS,they try to get brothers hitched by any means necessary but when it backfires and it turns out the babies ain’t he’s then they end up single mums,women are the cause of their own problems,if only they will toughen up and earn decent money than spreading STI,STD and babies all over the place.

kunleweb:



You just typified what many men have been saying on this thread with this part " A captain in a ship earns the post ". Why earned? Why settle in a relationship where you can't respect freely? You're posturing, and locked in combative mode even without a fight? This is the belligerent and contentious culture permeating the minds of many ladies that makes them remain single. Many of you folks just don't understand what a man's inner soul yearns for, i feel sorry for you.


No one licks honey and spits it out, the same way no sane man will dump a good lady,failed relationships can be grossly attributed to bad character of the female no matter what anyone says. Even God in his infinite wisdom through Solomon clearly states " A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish one tears it down " negative vibes and energy like the one that emanates from it should be earned will only push you into divorce. If you can't respect a man without a basis for it, remain single, it's not by force to accept proposals.


Chillychill, what do you think about this?

kunleweb:



It will be better you take heed to the advice you read on this thread now that the day is young, you're on a path that only leads to sorrow down the line. I've met hundreds of unhappy women and all had the time to work on themselves while they were young but refused, i hope you'll listen. I won't take back my word about " female lawyers ", it's how it is. Even the ones that are not lawyers that are contentious are single and miserable not to talk about female lawyers

Hanseel1:
take responsibility as in??
if the guys are providing foodstuffs and other necessities for the kids must they get married to the ladies??

or when did marrying a lady becomes a man's responsibility?

as long as he's providing for the kid then he's fulfilling his responsibility!!

LivingFree:

If you can't respect a man without a basis for it, remain single, it's not by force to accept proposals.

I must remain single then... no be by force to marry. Wow!

Can you help me understand what a man's inner soul yearns for because most of us believe that most men are controlled by their sexual needs... we didn't even think he had a soul talk less of a yearning one

My bad, i feel like slapping the back of your palm for this one

Simply put, the process in life it takes a man to achieve his potential is a daunting one, by the time, he arrives, his soul just want to be pacified, nothing but peace. Because women exert lesser energy physically and psychological towards financial establishment, there's so much unused energy that is channeled into frustrating a man abusing him psychologically and otherwise, at this time, a man wants peace and rest, the woman on the other hand is insatiable and want a lot of things even she doesn't want. My lady, give a man peace and you've given 50% of what it takes to get a peaceful home.

laudate:

Oh so he can impregnate her, without any responsibility? Ok, may the same thing be done to your sisters and daughters....as long as the man buys food for her kid. Oya, say Amen!

princfred:
How many % of marriages do we have wifes older than husbands, wifes house the man and wife pay (groom) price not the man?. Talk reality.

Ladyhippolyta88:
No I don't plan on heading towards that direction in the first place.Your perception about female lawyers remains your opinion some women have had happy lives with that field and are doing well.And please don't try to pray for such next time I may not know what the future holds but as far as Hippolyta is concerned it is bright for he use your own experience to judge yourself we can't all agree on the same thing and time would tell but as of now I am happy and not on the path to sorrow.

princfred:
A captain in this case is earned by who paid bride price first and foremost. Then, mostly the man older than the wife so why should that respect for a senior just die because ge married. Also house/rent etc are responsibilities of the man. Hence the captain. Why should a woman be the captain how did they earn it?

Hanseel1:
in which country? Nigeria?

Chai....

No man can kick his wife out of his house anyhow in Nigeria and retain children.. that's just a lie

OK.. is that why the woman will take his house and money smh...

Godforbid I ever travel to the UK again before one demon falsely accuse me of assault or sexual harassment..

Trust UK ladies at your own peril

LivingFree:
Yet it has been done and can still be done...

LivingFree:


Omg... you don't even comment for the sake of communication, you comment to shine

Why do you need approval from strangers?
All these monikers and all you do is spew nonsense for likes

Personal question... Did your aunties 'touch' you as a kid? Or do you have the Oedopus complex


Nah... you couldn't make it in the UK... you would get sold for parts.

LivingFree:

If you can't respect a man without a basis for it, remain single, it's not by force to accept proposals.

I must remain single then... no be by force to marry. Wow!

Can you help me understand what a man's inner soul yearns for because most of us believe that most men are controlled by their sexual needs... we didn't even think he had a soul talk less of a yearning one

laudate:


Who told you that "No man can kick his wife out of his house anyhow in Nigeria and retain children.. that's just a lie?" Something that has been happening all over Nigeria, since time immemorial? Even sons of judges do it. Were you not in this same Nigeria, when the son of a former judge snatched his son away from the mother at the airport, and kept him away from her for over 7 years, despite court injunction?

LivingFree:

[b]If you can't respect a man without a basis for it,[/b] remain single, it's not by force to accept proposals.

I must remain single then... no be by force to marry. Wow!

Can you help me understand what a man's inner soul yearns for because most of us believe that most men are controlled by their sexual needs... we didn't even think he had a soul talk less of a yearning one

LivingFree:


If no bride price is paid, and the man is not older, and we earn the same income... then what?

I agree with you on your grounds... the woman should borderline worship the man who puts food in her belly and a roof over her head, but if she can meet those needs for herself then should she just stay single?

Respect is earned and it is mutual respect; in my world, anyway.

DonPiiko:
You think money makes a family complete, it's far more than that, what time will you have to impart good morals on your wards? Raising a family is not something you do because you are getting old, it should be something you do when you are mentally ready and believe you should start a family.

kunleweb:



I've come across over 50 single female professionals in the past 6 months, never met a happy one It's almost as though our ladies can't handle power,success, fame and happiness in a healthy mix

Hanseel1:
are you crazy?

Hanseel1:
......Stop quoting me

kunleweb:



You just typified what many men have been saying on this thread with this part " A captain in a ship earns the post ". Why earned? Why settle in a relationship where you can't respect freely? You're posturing, and locked in combative mode even without a fight? This is the belligerent and contentious culture permeating the minds of many ladies that makes them remain single. Many of you folks just don't understand what a man's inner soul yearns for, i feel sorry for you.


No one licks honey and spits it out, the same way no sane man will dump a good lady,failed relationships can be grossly attributed to bad character of the female no matter what anyone says. Even God in his infinite wisdom through Solomon clearly states " A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish one tears it down " negative vibes and energy like the one that emanates from it should be earned will only push you into divorce. If you can't respect a man without a basis for it, remain single, it's not by force to accept proposals.


Chillychill, what do you think about this?

kunleweb:



My bad, i feel like slapping the back of your palm for this one

Simply put, the process in life it takes a man to achieve his potential is a daunting one, by the time, he arrives, his soul just want to be pacified, nothing but peace. Because women exert lesser energy physically and psychological towards financial establishment, there's so much unused energy that is channeled into frustrating a man abusing him psychologically and otherside, at this time, a man wants peace and rest, the woman on the other hand is insatiable and want a lot of things even she doesn't want. My lady, give a man peace and you've given 50% of what it takes to get a peaceful home.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Do you think I care about your opinion madam.Live your life the way you want to and judge it with your own experience and let me do mine as well.We are not living the same lives for you to conclude such so to each his own.I learn everyday and I decide what I learn and not have people learn it for me.

kunleweb:



Look at such energetic release, typical of the kinds of women who are combative even when there's no fight. " rational discussions " atypical of a lawyer, no wonder most female lawyers remain miserable and sorrowful, you see everything through the mould that has formed in your mind in your career training. Like they say, if you see every problem as a nail, you're default response is to bring out the hammer. Learn how to communicative without needless posturing or being on a combative posture, better a word communicated with peace than through strife,you are a typical representative of the ladies this thread addresses

kunleweb:



"Respect is earned " The same problem we've been talking about, if respect must be earned, must you marry? Why date or marry when you will withhold respect? Is the home a battle ground where wits and fists are to be used in a game of challenge? You ladies just won't learn the easy way. We await the sad tales in days ahead. If on the flip-side, a man withholds love, financial responsibility and moral responsibility and sleeps around and tell you it must be earned listing conditions will you settle for such an unhealthy situation? Place the same standards on yourself. If respect must be earned, then it's not love, it's a battle ground



Cc: Chillychill

LivingFree:
Many have given men more than peace. They have given love, submission and even financial aid and these women won't saved from heartbreak and sorrow. Men want peace after they've created a multitude of sin and responsibilities, then they demand peace.

In this day and age (our generation) women work and contribute to the home even if it's just keeping up her upkeep because being fine and sexy takes time, money and energy. So I still don't get the male plight. Like you said tho, to accept proposals no be by force.

Ladyhippolyta88:
How did you know they were not happy?Well try meeting other set of people.As for your last statement I won't try to ascribe it to gender either way I haven't tasted the things you highlighted for now so I can't say although I am happy.