kunleweb:



"Respect is earned " The same problem we've been talking about, if respect must be earned, must you marry? Why date or marry when you will withhold respect? Is the home a battle ground where wits and fists are to be used in a game of challenge? Some of you ladies just won't learn the easy way. We await the sad tales in days ahead. If on the flip-side, a man withholds love, financial responsibility and moral responsibility and sleeps around and tell you it must be earned listing conditions will you settle for such an unhealthy situation? Place the same standards on yourself. If respect must be earned, then it's not love, it's a battle ground



Cc: Chilly.chill

kunleweb:
I've come across over 50 single female professionals in the past 6 months, never met a happy one It's almost as though our ladies can't handle power,success, fame and happiness in a healthy mix

chillychill:




Na unna sabi I don't argue with ppl like u dats your problem not mine . I hope u enjoy ur feminism den.

princfred:
This is whole truth. The Bible never gave preconditions before a man earns respect. As long as man(in this case woman) uses sense differing from Bible they encounter problems. Marriage is not law. Thats why many lawuers lafies have priblem in marriage. If earning money and paying bills is the main reason to respect the man then divorce him once you can do all that since you wont have reasons to respect him anymore.

Hanseel1:



what will approval from strangers add to my life?

very funny

Laysmt001:
Feminism wants women to have the right to be whatever they chose. It wants women to have power over their own lives and bodies. It wants women not to feel lucky for being given and allowed things they are entitled to in the first place. Feminism wants women not to have to censor their dreams or fine tune their ambitions so as not to be criticized or maligned.
In pidgin, Feminism jus wan make woman sef dey fit chuk mouth and hand too. Make dem sef no send.

Back to the thread, Feminism is not actually the problem. Feminism doesn't have problem, feminists are.

kunleweb:



The pre-conditioning is from a combative mental posture that encapsulates arrogance, belligerence, contentiousness, needless argumentativeness , insolence and a lot more. They simply can't manage been successful and been of exceptional character at the same time.


All these negative attributes no matter how educated a lady maybe makes her worse than an educated soul, what is education without character refinement?


Cc: Chillychill

laudate:


Your words make sense, die! I wish it was possible to dash someone 1,000 likes for a post!

LivingFree:


Men do the bolded and still expect to be respected.

It is earned by being respectful. You get what you give. If a man doesn't show me respect then I won't give him respect.

You want men respected on the grounds that he is a man! I can't do that. I don't respect for the sake of it. I don't do that with anyone! If a pensioner disrespects me I will tell then where to go! Respect is earned!

laudate:

Ehm....are you asking yourself that question?


Uh?

kunleweb:



[b]There is a parable Jesus quoted, he says a man that listens to my words is like one that builds on a strong foundation, and without notice, the storms come, the winds come and it hits against it but it remains, the other man that doesn't listen is like one that builds on sand, and the storms and wind came, and mighty was it's fall, my dear young lady, in life, " our present state " isn't the reality but a passing phase, the reality is what the process forms through us and pushes us towards. In the house and wind analogy, the two houses looked good for a moment before storm came, it's storms and issues of life that tests our building materials after, not before we construct but after we have constructed, it's at this phase life reveals who was wrong and who was right, which is why everyone can shout on social media for a moment, but a day comes that reveals the quality of our convictions, and it's always in the future, not in the moment, there's time, reflect on what people say on social media even your friends and as life extends, watch whose beliefs and convictions created happiness and success down the line.


Bottomline, to test any notion in life and make it a theory, subject it to time, time will reveal what's right and waht's not.[/b]

LivingFree:


Ask yourself that question, you hold that answer.

Hanseel1:


you're equal to your husband!!

stop deceiving yourself


Only lazy women will say they aren't equal to their husbands.

LivingFree:


To take responsibility and to advise each other on how to be better husbands never crosses their mind... but how to change and control women is on the top of their agenda

Respect a man without a basis, my stretchmarked ass

Ladyhippolyta88:
Not really religious but a good bible student.You are right and I acknowledged that time would tell.Also know that views changes from time to time.Your perception and my perception cannot be the same even outside social media and we focus on on own realities going conservative may work for A and not for B like wise other ideologies theories and beliefs.I believe we should carve out visions for ourselves life itself is a risk so we may lose some and win some when we fail we should not lose hope but work harder to repeat such mistakes.Nice one.

kunleweb:



If a lady has to keep proving herself to earn love then she's not loved. It's also the case with respect. Listen my lady, if you have to beg me to date you, then we have a crisis at hand, in love, respect, loving, admiration all comes without conditions. Conditions strife happiness, peace, joy in relationships. Ask anyone that constantly make permutations sets rules, and reviews them like it's a KPI, they're never genuinely happy, cause happiness isn't meant to be hinged on rules,but upon liberty and expression of one's soul.

princfred:
This is whole truth. The Bible never gave preconditions before a man earns respect. As long as man(in this case woman) uses sense differing from Bible they encounter problems. Marriage is not law. Thats why many lawyer ladies have problem in marriage. They bring the logic in their profession into a completely different field. Personally i cant marry a lawyer for that. If earning money and paying bills is the main reason to respect the man then divorce him once you can do all that since you wont have reasons to respect him anymore.

princfred:
If you respect a man just because he pays the bills i sorry for that man if something happens in his life and he cant pay. And i sorry for you if the man finds out that your respect is based only on the fact he pays the bills cuz he will bail before anything happens to him thay may affect him paying the bills. From the day he knows he will only see you as pay as you go not wife. And that is the reason why there are so many baby mamas.

Hanseel1:
Young lady.. kindly stop disturbing my mentions

Ladyhippolyta88:
Hahahaha they always know how to use religion to drive their narrative.

princfred:
If you respect a man just because he pays the bills i sorry for that man if something happens in his life and he cant pay. And i sorry for you if the man finds out that your respect is based only on the fact he pays the bills cuz he will bail before anything happens to him thay may affect him paying the bills. From the day he knows he will only see you as pay as you go not wife. And that is the reason why there are so many baby mamas. Even my brother almost made the wife a baby mama just for this orientation last year.

kunleweb:



But against these there are no rules, joy, peace, happiness, love, goodness, meekness, being nice, good, Godly, righteous has more gains, or rather has no downsides, i've never heard anyone dying from being good. Let's practice the habit of being good, we're the beneficiaries of our practice down the line my lady. As you lawyers say, i put it to you, we make ourselves of inestimable value when we practice these things and will attract , rather men will die to keep women with such qualities, take it to the bank and deposit it.

Hanseel1:



Thanks for your time.

Now, kindly stop quoting me.

kunleweb:



It's conditional, the day that man experiences a network failure, i pity such a man. These people have programmed themselves to vacillate and function by the external factors of life and have not conditioned themselves on how to behave first internally,and then make the most out of any situations they find themselves

princfred:
If you respect a man just because he pays the bills i sorry for that man if something happens in his life and he cant pay. And i sorry for you if the man finds out that your respect is based only on the fact he pays the bills cuz he will bail before anything happens to him thay may affect him paying the bills. From the day he knows he will only see you as pay as you go not wife. And that is the reason why there are so many baby mamas. Even my brother almost made the wife a baby mama just for this orientation last year.

princfred:
Not just religion but discard the Bible to your own peril. Not for my sake for yours . Its the book with instructions for a good life.

LivingFree:


You would make a great politician

So, I should respect even when I am disrespected because to put such conditions on respect is what

So, I should show love when I receive heartache because to put conditions on love is what

All I am saying is all things are mutual and so is respect and love and one doesn't get those without the conditions ( give and take) I feel we are saying the same thing in different ways because I agree with 85% of what you say but I still believe love and respect are earned and only a fool gives it out for free...

LivingFree:


It's you that jumps on people's mentions. I never quote you.

laudate:


Who told you that "No man can kick his wife out of his house anyhow in Nigeria and retain children.. that's just a lie?" Something that has been happening all over Nigeria, since time immemorial? Even sons of judges do it. Were you not in this same Nigeria, when the son of a former judge snatched his son away from the mother at the airport, and kept him away from her for over 7 years, despite court injunction?



Thanks for educating him, oh!

LivingFree:
To take responsibility and to advise each other on how to be better husbands never crosses their mind... but how to change and control women is on the top of their agenda

Respect a man without a basis, my stretchmarked ass

LivingFree:


Prince, you've lost me... I never said any of those things, in fact I said the opposite. It was your fellow man who demanded love and respect for paying the bills. I said I can pay my own bills...