joeeee240:


OK..I GUESS YOU'RE WET NOW .

Brimstone1:
Worst thing to happen in a relationship is not when you break up or when your partner dies. It is when you decide to drag your privacy out to be discussed by uncouth, ill-mannered, inexperienced and jobless Nairalanders. Shame on you, Op.

biacan:
Don't be too fast you forgot your Vaseline......

Lalas247:

Another mature lady..
morning I know longest time.. how work and family hope all is well

I have left op to it whatever floats his boat.. both are wrong n the issue could have been resolved .. Couples should learn how to communicate ..... its vital

Pricelessangel0:
@Op, creating a thread to counter her is not the best thing to do cos if you really love her like you claim, you would have draw her closer and have heart to heart talk with her, tell her your mind and everything cos the thread she create was to express her mind, you could have pick from her opinions and make time 4 her, This is just too childish of you.
My Advice; Give yourselves space, it woulnt work with this mindset and the foundation both of you are setting is not healthy. what will be will be, so let it go 4 nw.

IamD18:
It's nice you as the man in question created this thread to clarify and seek for proper advice without condemning her but giving a balance details of what transpired between you both.

According to your thread and her thread, all I see in the said lady is DESPERATION , and as a result of that comes her disrespectfullness and nagging.

And one of worst thing that can happen to any man is to mingle with a desperate lady who isn't reserved and principled in her life.

I keep on saying this ; Women should channel and prioritize other positive things in their life apart from marriage , their craves and marriage achieving goals is now getting disgusted and irritating.

This said lady is ungrateful and not thankful to meet a man who didn't care to take advantage of her due to her desperation for marriage, she's so so lucky.

She sounds like a cheat according to your story with her threats to leave for another man, she MIGHT possibly be seeing another man but looking for an opportunity to opt out from your relationship with her because you aren't yet financially ready for marriage.


But with all due respect sir!

I simply do not think she worth a patient man like you, don't ever bother yourself for a woman who started a relationship with you with desperation to marry you, don't do that. Relationship should be all about courting and getting to know each other well before getting down for marriage, not an avenue to threaten and pressurize a partner for marriage.

It's obvious you love the lady, but one thing you must learn from me now is that A MAN CANNOT LOVE AND BE WISE AT THE SAME TIME , it can't happen.

She loves you, that's why she apologized to you and you love her, that's why you are tolerating her.

But the relationship goals of you both are different, she's desperate for marriage and you are desperate to make money before opting in for marriage.

My advise is this; Live and let her live, whatever will be MUST be

Focus on making a better end, financially and allow her focus on marriage elsewhere since she can't wait.

MisterGrace:


These girls sef? Are you married yet?

joeeee240:



STRETCH YOUR HAND A LIL, YOUR DÎLDO IS CLOSE BY. HERE'S ONE MORE WETNESS FOR YOU

Michelle55:
I don't even know what to say... women are just confused beings. Haba!! If the man in question didn't come out to say his own side of story, we wouldn't have known she's the problem all along. meanwhile I wouldn't advise Op to leave her, you can work on her and make her stable. no one is perfect you know, if you still love her, kindly give her another chance to work on herself and mindset about some certain things.
marriage is scary to me these days and I don't even know how to go about it when the time comes but we're all wired differently hence the reason for her desperation. NOTE: marriage does not guarantee happiness or how fulfilled one can be. peace of mind and happy state of mind is dependent on oneself.
just give the relationship one last try@Op

kuchikau1:
nice comment, coming from a lady wey blood dey comot from her toto every 28 days.

biacan:
Surprise........

synclaire:
It was really wrong of ur lady to bring ur private issues to nairaland or any social media at all. When i first read her story a couple of days back, i wanted to comment but decided not to, seeing the way people were advising her which could be misleading. she kept replying proving that she just wants to get married by all means, weda for luv or not. when a lady is fed up with her guy she looks for a reason to leave. but if she still genuinely luvs u, she will look for a reason to stay and hang on. Its obvious she is tired of the relationship. People shld not marry because of they luv the idea of getting married or in her case she jst wants to be a Mrs. I hv been in a long distant relationship back to back. As much as its tiring and i get to see my partner once in 2/3months, i still find a reason to hang on till the end, and i never cheated. when the relationship ends i will tell myself i am never doing long distance relationship again bt in one way or the other i still find myself in another one.@goldcrossxx sit ur lady down and let her know ur intentions are real and she should give u tym to sort tins out, if u cant come to a reasonable understanding then u guys should go ur seperate ways. cos if all this drama in ur relationship how will marriage look like. I'm a lady and i know how ladies can be so desperate wen it comes to marriage. Goodluck

biacan:
Your m0ther is an old bitter ashawo..... you hopeless son of a pro8titute

Lalas247:
Two grown adults airing out their relationship issues on a forum .. like y’all should not even be in a relationship to begin with ..

Look at all the issues and you are not even married ..... what will both of u gain
If you can’t solve this issue privately then you shouldn’t be together ..., with marriage comes other challenges .. behaiviour Will change .. persona will change a bit over time ..what will u do then ?


Anyway just read the topic .... not reading that essay save it for your Mrs dear .....

midehi2:

I am fine jare, bless

biacan:
Take your two minutes fame and get off my mention

biacan:
Which happy are you talking about..... you're still in pains it's written all over you

joeeee240:


HONEY, YOU WANT THEM FOR BREAKFAST . I PROMISE THIS TIME, THIS THE LAST WETNESS FOR YOU

biacan:
Your m0ther is an old bitter ashawo..... you hopeless son of a pro8titute

Lalas247:

have you seen dimpz?
she is back .. livingfree

biacan:
Pervert is gradually coming from his shell

midehi2:

My dear, there is nothing like try, its better it ends than to be disaster in marriage, they are not meant to be, the guy in question will find who can tolerate his flaws likewise the lady..best in relationship is mostly "understanding" if you gat that, you will enjoy it to the fullest, alot people still enjoy their union today

kuchikau1:
as i type this right now, ur mother is on my bed. Screaming 'FVCK ME HARD'

kuchikau1:
as i type this right now, ur mother is on my bed. Screaming 'FVCK ME HARD'

joeeee240:


YOU'RE ENJOYING THIS ABI WELL I WILL STOP.

Donald95:

2. Next time you notice unstableness and pompousness from a lady, f.u.c.kk her up, down , front and back double shift so that even if she leaves, it won't hurt you

Bahddo:
lol. This troll is a funny kind of stupid. You quote people minding their business like you have something meaningful to say, and then go ahead to embarrass yourself.

You have been noticed, but you aren't interesting. So... Bye.

biacan:
You belong here

Bahddo:
ok... Your opinion has been noted. Is there anything else you'd like to add?

midehi2:

wow, not yet, lost her contact