Hello all, posting on behalf of a friend.

I have my big regrets this has happened so please blames wouldn't be necessary. I just need advice from matured minds please. Thanks all

You are not ready for marriage but were ready to and "did" what married people do.
Bros be RESPONSIBLE for once please.
Go accept responsibility for your actions.
I could help you with sweet baby names when it's time. Just keep tabs on me.

PurplePatch:
You are not ready for marriage but were ready to and "did" what married people do.
Bros be RESPONSIBLE for once please.
Go accept responsibility for your actions.
I could help you with sweet baby names when it's time. Just keep tabs on me.

I usually get confused by the word Responsible. Can u please clarify that??
Note: I am just 24 and she's 26

I don't understand your reason for opening this thread..

Just today, she called and said the doctor advised her to have more sex because her vagina was too tight to ease her during child labour. I am currently in Abuja while she is in Abia state. She is asking me to come and help her out.

Is it that you need someone close to help you out as regards this or what?

Yeah you made a mistake and she is pregnant so now all you have to do is whatever is best for the innocent child who had no role in the whole thing but he/she will have to be at the centre of the entire issue all their life.

So for the sake of the innocent unborn child, you have to think carefully before you take any action. I will advise that you try to give the lady the best support you can. Even if you will not marry her, support her at least. You may think it is hard on you but the truth is, your burden is the least ( compared to that of the girl and the unborn child). So you just need to support her and when the child comes you be the best father you can be.

Trust me, whether you plan for them or not, children are blessings and yours won't be any different. And whether the child will be great or useless in life is dependent on the decision you take today. So don't mess it up.

midolian:
I don't understand your reason for opening this thread..



Is it that you need someone close to help you out as regards this or what?

I opened this thread because I don't know what she might be up to. I have already made a mistake by sleeping with her. I accept all the blames for that but this Lady is desperate to have me and I know it. But still, I don't love her.. My family doesn't want anything of such, and we are not even sure if the pregnancy is mine as she claims because we weren't dating..

912:
Yeah you made a mistake and she is pregnant so now all you have to do is whatever is best for the innocent child who had no role in the whole thing but he/she will have to be at the centre of the entire issue all their life.

So for the sake of the innocent unborn child, you have to think carefully before you take any action. I will advise that you try to give the lady the best support you can. Even if you will not marry her, support her at least. You may think it is hard on you but the truth is, your burden is the least ( compared to that of the girl and the unborn child). So you just need to support her and when the child comes you be the best father you can be. Trust

Thanks for your comment. And yes, I would admit things have been very rough between us because I was not happy with the fact that she played me... Or I couldn't resist her.. But now, she's asking me to come have sex with her to ease her delivery based on doctors prescription. That's what I don't know to what to do

There is no advice that can undo what has been done, just manage the situation.

Whatever decision u make, please consider the innocent child involved.

But how come u dated and slept with a girl older than u with no intention to settle down with her?
I didn't love her but u slept with her...Na wa!


This is a lesson for guys who think with their penis.

lovelyeyez:

I usually get confused by the word Responsible. Can u please clarify that??
Note: I am just 24 and she's 26

Young man face reality you're going to be a parent,the only advice I will give you is to go work hard and take care of your family( the lady inclusive) man up and take it as the will of God for you, besides babies are a blessing from God. Good luck

There's Ceasarian Section.

Why get pregnant for a guy who isn't even ready to settle down though...

lovelyeyez:


Thanks for your comment. And yes, I would admit things have been very rough between us because I was not happy with the fact that she played me... Or I couldn't resist her.. But now, she's asking me to come have sex with her to ease her delivery based on doctors prescription. That's what I don't know to what to do

Yeah I understand how you must feel because she was really selfish and inconsiderate in what she did. But keep that for later. You can always deal with that some other time. But right now you have to step up to the plate and be a man. The deed has been done and now it's time to show that you are a man and can take responsibility for your actions (regardless of whether you were deceived into it or not). Just try to do your best right now.

And make her understand that you will be there for her because you know the child is innocent in all of this and you don't want him/her to grow up with any stigma. Whether you like it or not that child is your flesh and blood so you just have to do all you can to make them proud to have you as their dad.

Also you don't have to have sex with her. That's rubbish! There are exercises that she can do that would help her during delivery. Google the best exercises she can do and share it with her. Don't fall for any more tricks. She should know that what's between her legs is a vagina and not a TRAP that she can use to hook someone without their consent

912:


Yeah I understand how you must feel because she was really selfish and inconsiderate in what she did. But keep that for later. You can always deal with that some other time. But rightl now you have to step up to the plate and be a man. The deed has been done and now it's time to show that you are a man and can take responsibility for your actions (regardless of whether you were deceived into it or not). Just try to be best you right now.

And make her understand that you will be there for her because you know the child is innocent in all of this and you don't want him/her to grow up with any stigma. Whether you like it or not that child is your flesh and blood so you just have to do all you can to make them proud to have you as their dad.

Also you don't have to have sex with her. That's rubbish. There are exercises that she can do that would help her during delivery. Google the best exercises she can do and share it with her. Don't fall for any more tricks

I really appreciate your comments. God bless you.

What about her current requests? Is it ideal for me to do what she's asking for since I don't really have any intentions of marriage even if I take responsibility for the child?

Since you carelessly slept with your girlfriend and she carelessly got pregnant, I suggest you should carelessly accept the responsibilities that follow and also urge your family to carelessly accept the condition so that all of you will be carelessly happy.
I just wanna make a common sense and I hope I just did.

lovelyeyez:


I really appreciate your comments. God bless you.

What about her current requests? Is it ideal for me to do what she's asking for since I don't really have any intentions of marriage even if I take responsibility for the child?

No don't fall for any more of her tricks if you don't want to be with her. Just share with her some possible exercises that she can do to help her during delivery. I won't advice you have sex with her given the situation on ground right now. If in the future you guys wish to mend fences and be together, well then you can do that but right now, that shouldn't be on the table. Just support her through everything for the sake of the child that's all.

CaptJeffry:
Since you carelessly slept with your girlfriend and she carelessly got pregnant, I suggest you should carelessly accept the responsibilities that follow and also urge your family to carelessly accept the condition so that all of you will be carelessly happy.
I just wanna make a common sense and I hope I just did.

Thanks

912:


No don't fall for any more of her tricks if you don't want be with her. Just share with her some possible exercises that she can do to help her during delivery. I won't advice you have sex with her given the situation on ground right now. If in the future you guys wish to mend fences and be together, well then you can do that but right now, that shouldn't be on the table. Just support her through everything for the sake of the child that's all.

Thanks. I am indeed grateful. I have tried to talk my family over it but they are not interested in this matter. I don't want to carry the load alone without the support of my family. That hurts me more, what can I do about that please??
Can I support her when my family doesn't consent? And there are still doubts whether its my child or not.

lovelyeyez:


Thanks. I am indeed grateful. I have tried to talk my family over it but they are not interested in this matter. I don't want to carry the load alone without the support of my family. That hurts me more, what can I do about that please??
Can I support her when my family doesn't consent? And there are still doubts whether its my child or not.

Yeah that's going to be the main issue because you need your family's support before anything you plan to do can work. You have to try and get them to support you. That's going to be the most difficult part but it is the most important because the burden would be unbearable if they don't support you. So I will advice that you talk to them individually and privately about what you intend to do and why. Make each of them understand that the child isn't a bastard. The child might be yours and you want to do what you can. Also make them understand that you do not and will not consider taking the girl as you wife. All you plan to do is to make sure your child doesn't suffer for the selfishness of the mother.

Also, considering the fact that the child may not be yours, you can let them know that you intend to do a paternity test once the child is born but you would like to support right now just in case the baby is yours.

Try convincing them separately and start with the ones you know have soft hearts and can as well influence others in the family. Once you get one or two to see things your way then it gets really easier from there. But make sure you don't do anything without consulting them first. Or else they will never support you and whatever you are planning will get ten times harder.

I do wish you all the best. I know it's hard right now but just take it one day at a time and it won't be that difficult.

You didn't care bout her buh yuh d!ck was erect enough to get her pregnant n u want us to pity for u, carry yuh cross man n if u can't do the necessary knacking to enlarge her coast before she gives birth,kindly call some phuck boys on dix forum to assist you... I always say that the use of condom x d beginning of wisdom....

The mistake is made. Now accept your responsibility as a father to the child she is carrying not because your family hate her or you're not ready for marriage but for the seek your child in her womb.

lovelyeyez:


Thanks for your comment. And yes, I would admit things have been very rough between us because I was not happy with the fact that she played me... Or I couldn't resist her.. But now, she's asking me to come have sex with her to ease her delivery based on doctors prescription. That's what I don't know to what to do

From what I gathered from your initial post, she's five months gone, so delivery isn't any time soon. My advice is to make sure that you help pay for her ante-natal visits. Do NOT sleep with her since you have no interest in continuing the relationship. She's pregnant and her emotions are all over the place. Don't worsen the situation by sleeping with her and giving her false hopes of you guys being a family. It seems you are dependent on your family, so they need to do their part financially, and also the girl's parents.

912:


Yeah that's going to be the main issue because you need you family's support before anything you plan yo do can work. You have to try and get them to support you. That's going to be the most difficult part but it is the most important because the burden would be unbearable if they don't support you. So I will advice that you talk to them individually and prinanely about what you intend to do and why. Make each of them understand that the child isn't a bustard. The child is yours and you want to do what you can. Also make them understand that you do not and will not consider taking the girl as you wife. All you plan to do is to make sure your child doesn't suffer for the selfishness of the mother.

Also, considering the fact that the child may not be yours, you can let them know that you intend to do a paternity test once the child is born but you would like to support right now just in case the baby is yours.

Try convincing them separately and start with the ones you know have soft hearts and can as well influence others in the family. Once you get one or two to see things your way then it gets really easier from there. But make sure you don't do anything without consulting them first. Or else they will never support you and whatever you are planning will get ten times harder.

I do wish you all the best. I know it's hard right now but just take it one day at a time and it won't be that difficult.

Thanks man. I appreciate

Daisy17:


From what I gathered from your initial post, she's five months gone, so delivery isn't any time soon. My advice is to make sure that you help pay for her ante-natal visits. Do NOT sleep with her since you have no interest in continuing the relationship. She's pregnant and her emotions are all over the place. Don't worsen the situation by sleeping with her and giving her false hopes of you guys being a family. It seems you are dependent on your family, so they need to do their part financially, and also the girl's parents.

Thanks for your comment. I appreciate

Mr 912 you sir are a wise man...........................#respect



oga lovelyeyez (seriously?...............of all names you could have chosen na lovelyeyes you see pick ) listen to and heed his advice................


he has said it all

lovelyeyez:
Hello all,
Please I need ur advise. A lady in school told me she was pregnant after we met previous weeks back. I never wanted to have a baby out of wedlock, though I carelessly made love to her because she promised she wouldn't get pregnant and would be able to take care of herself. She's about 5months gone and my family doesn't want her or the baby because I have told them I really don't have intentions of getting married at this stage cos I m still a fresh graduate awaiting youth service. Though I later realized that she really wanted to keep me forever with her by getting pregnant, we have had tough times and we haven't been talking. Just today, she called and said the doctor advised her to have more sex because her vagina was too tight to ease her during child labour. I am currently in Abuja while she is in Abia state. She is asking me to come and help her out. I m very much confused because my family doesn't want anything with this girl and I really don't love her to marry her.

Can u kindly compare & contrast the two bold statement?

lovelyeyez:

I opened this thread because I don't know what she might be up to. I have already made a mistake by sleeping with her. I accept all the blames for that but this Lady is desperate to have me and I know it. But still, I don't love her.. My family doesn't want anything of such, and we are not even sure if the pregnancy is mine as she claims because we weren't dating..

Bro stop repeating the bold statement, it only shows how f00lish & heartless u are...After impregnating her u are screaming u dont love her?
Why did u sleep with her since u dont love her in the first place?
Some mistakes come with consequences & u must face it.
Stop using your family as excuse...u slept with her & not your family....d least u can do now is to give dat girl all d support u can till she put to bed.

CaptJeffry:
Since you carelessly slept with your girlfriend and she carelessly got pregnant, I suggest you should carelessly accept the responsibilities that follow and also urge your family to carelessly accept the condition so that all of you will be carelessly happy.
I just wanna make a common sense and I hope I just did.

Sense no go kee u.



@OP, Congratulation in advance.

Rubbiish:

Bro stop repeating the bold statement, it only shows how f00lish & heartless u are...After impregnating her u are screaming u dont love her?
Why did u sleep with her since u dont love her in the first place?
Some mistakes come with consequences & u must face it.
Stop using your family as excuse...u slept with her & not your family....d least u can do now is to give dat girl all d support u can till she put to bed.

All the support including sex?? I accept all the blames

You really dont need an epistle on this,
You got her pregnant, she's having "your baby"
Wether you like it or not, you ill become a "Daddy".

Just buckle up man, you are responsible for the innocent baby coming into this world.
And you gotta go fend for it.

I had say, you tackle your issues head on, regardless your family wants her or not.
[/b]You dont have to marry her, but you are responsible for what your semen brought to life!![b]

About the Tight punny, man tell her to get a Love Machine..





An epistle after all

lovelyeyez:


All the support including sex?? I accept all the blames

Yes...She is already pregnant. Whether u sleep with her or not won't cause another pregnancy. If what d doctor told her is true....then do it if u can...Anything u can do to make her not to think abt suicide, do it.
She is already going through alot, pls do not compound her problems.
Call her as often as u can, encourage her, remember the baby is yours, put your sister in her shoes. After she must have put to bed, she will be little bit strong. Then u can raise the issue of not marrying her & paternity test. Supporting her now does not mean u will marry her...Is just to see her through this trying time. If u truly know u slept with her without protection, tell your family this, at least there must be one member of your family that will stand by u. after her delivery u can go your way. It wont be as difficult as it will be now for her...She is already going through alot...your call means alot to her now...

its ur cross, learn to carry it. . .ask the kadywhat she trully want. . .from their npboth of you can decide. . .make sure its both of you decisions incase of tomorrow. .but if you ask me, its already 5 months, let her keep it and start life with her. . shemay be the best n only woman for you