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Another Perspective: How Most Men Approach Getting to Know Women (And What Their True Intentions Are)

This post stems from some constructive criticism I’ve received from a few of the women in my life that have come across this being that it is too one-sided, not taking into account the woman’s perspective on relationships. And I completely agree with them. A long time ago, I decided that I would consciously not let my ego get in the way of receiving good quality feedback, to keep an open mind; which admittedly isn’t always the easiest thing to do. So please, while reading this post, I urge you to do the same. Try not to get defensive, try not to get offended, just read with an open-mind and allow for some time to digest the information; to do some self-reflection on the subject.

I will start by saying that the vast majority of guys I talk to about women, or even observe talking to women, come off as creeps or at the very least have an obvious agenda. Ironically, the vast majority of these men are not creeps; they are genuinely good people that just don’t know how to approach having a meaningful
conversation with someone of the opposite sex, even though in reality that is all they are longing for. If you disagree, thinking that most men always do have an agenda, that all they want is to have sex with you, think about things from this perspective. Have you ever had sex with someone when there was no emotional
connection what so ever? I will admit that I have, and it was the most unsatisfying experience of my life. Sex without emotion is simply an action, like walking down the street to pick up the mail when you aren’t expecting to get anything but junk mail; there isn’t much joy in doing mindless chores…

Anyway, back to the subject at hand, how most guys give girls the wrong impression, even when their heart is in the right place (whether they realize it or not).

What men should STOP doing when it comes to women:

1. Thinking sex is the “end all be all”

2. Going out with the intent of “needing to get laid”

3. Thinking about sex (or anything else) while striking up a conversation

4. Bragging about how much money you make, what you have, or anything else most women do not care about


What men should START doing more of when it comes to women:

1. Thinking about what you want in a girl and in a relationship

2. Listening to what women are saying and responding to it

3. Focusing more on how you two relate, if things are clicking or not, etc

4. Engaging in conversation and exuding confidence and clarity in your responses without being arrogant or cocky

5. Thinking about things from the other person’s perspective

The inability to see things from someone else’s perspective isn’t just an issue for guys seeking out love and companionship, its something that people struggle with in general; in other words, being accepting and open-minded when someone has a different opinion, regardless of the subject at hand. If you start living your life with an open-mind, without getting defensive when things don’t go your way, you would be surprised by how much you can learn from people of different backgrounds and life experiences. Some of the most riveting conversations I have had with people stem from a disagreement or difference of opinion.