MrBrownJay1:
as much as it is wrong, i can certainly understand why many do it.

some foolish African man living in the west will look down on all the open minded westernized African woman that lives in the west. so because he wants a proper African woman who will cook, clean and serve as his slave (while being quiet), this man will now go back to Africa to seek for that useless woman. since so many women are desperate in Africa to leave, many will either pretend to be that type of woman OR he will probably find such useless woman at the deepest part of the bush somewhere in a village in Africa. when he finds that babe, and marry her, he will feel like the happiest man on earth. sadly, by the time he brings her back to the west, the babe will adapts to her environment, and start acting like the exact same African babes in the west who are westernized... simply because if you want a babe to act like she was back in the village, then KEEP HER IN THE DAMN VILLAGE!

I like your conclusion but how you arrived there get k leg

Okay o, no extended family to settle issue. I know my mom settled her brother's own similar wife issue in U.K

MrBrownJay1:
as much as it is wrong, i can certainly understand why many do it.

some foolish African man living in the west will look down on all the open minded westernized African woman that lives in the west. so because he wants a proper African woman who will cook, clean and serve as his slave (while being quiet), this man will now go back to Africa to seek for that useless woman. since so many women are desperate in Africa to leave, many will either pretend to be that type of woman OR he will probably find such useless woman at the deepest part of the bush somewhere in a village in Africa. when he finds that babe, and marry her, he will feel like the happiest man on earth. sadly, by the time he brings her back to the west, the babe will adapts to her environment, and start acting like the exact same African babes in the west who are westernized... simply because if you want a babe to act like she was back in the village, then KEEP HER IN THE DAMN VILLAGE!

Two bottles for you.

Moral of the story, if you don't want to eff up your life, don't wed a Westernized woman of any race and NEVER move your African wife/family into a Western country...you are guaranteed to regret it....hypergamy floats

Many Nigerian men can attestify to this. The system is not favourable to men that side. it's unfair man!!! I'm not supporting Domestic violence or Murder but men deserves attention and equal judgement in Western Countries too. like WTF... just read yesterday how court awarded a man 10million dollars for imprisoning him on false rape charges for 25 years as he was later found innocent and released. My question now is, what about the lady who claimed the man raped her, where is she now? wasted 25years out of a man's life. some women are lovely but when you see the wicked ones, please, please and please no hard man on the case just run for your life.

MrBrownJay1:


because some men believe that when they marry a woman, she belongs to them and should have sex with them by fire or by force.... whenever that man desires for it.

Ok..

But again, why do ladies marry such men ?

MrBrownJay1:


are you claiming that its impossible for a man to rape his wife?!

If they have become one flesh...how is it possible to rape her...can a man rape himself?

MrBrownJay1:
as much as it is wrong, i can certainly understand why many do it.

some foolish African man living in the west will look down on all the open minded westernized African woman that lives in the west. so because he wants a proper African woman who will cook, clean and serve as his slave (while being quiet), this man will now go back to Africa to seek for that useless woman. since so many women are desperate in Africa to leave, many will either pretend to be that type of woman OR he will probably find such useless woman at the deepest part of the bush somewhere in a village in Africa. when he finds that babe, and marry her, he will feel like the happiest man on earth. sadly, by the time he brings her back to the west, the babe will adapts to her environment, and start acting like the exact same African babes in the west who are westernized... simply because if you want a babe to act like she was back in the village, then KEEP HER IN THE DAMN VILLAGE!

Your just contradicted yourself

You initially made this statement some foolish African man living in the west will look down on all the open minded westernized African woman that lives in the west. so because he wants a proper African woman who will cook, clean and serve as his slave (while being quiet), this man will now go back to Africa to seek for that useless woman

Then you ended your post by saying this when he finds that babe, and marry her, he will feel like the happiest man on earth. sadly, by the time he brings her back to the west, the babe will adapts to her environment, and start acting like the exact same African babes in the west who are westernized

You basically said westernized african babes are ideal and are not ideal in thesame post

Franzinni:
If women never do you strong thing you go dey say yeah men are wicked.

Wicked is not enough to describe most women i swear ... The man that shot his nurse wife .... Who heard his story ..he might just have a good reason for smoking her

Old boy if you see wetin de happen hear you go know say na baby mama sure pass.

The problem is that our men carry naija mentality go obodo oyibo.
In nigeria, it's very common to see a wife that goes to work at the same time with husband ( let's forget children for now),once they are back from work, husband will retire and leave the super human to cook, clean and wash.
Some will boil water too and set for his bath. After this, if she is unlucky to have married a beast in the bedroom that's how he will arrange her body in the name of love making.
That is the qualification of good wife. Once u protest, the exposure has corrupted your mind.
I wonder why they don't marry Nigerians born there.
Cos they know they can't meet up as nobody is ready to worship anybody.
Go to nigeria and see how men abuse their wives. More than 50% of the ever smiling ladies u see in churches are living in marital abuse.
The system is so patriarchal.

MrBrownJay1:
as much as it is wrong, i can certainly understand why many do it.

some foolish African man living in the west will look down on all the open minded westernized African woman that lives in the west. so because he wants a proper African woman who will cook, clean and serve as his slave (while being quiet), this man will now go back to Africa to seek for that useless woman. since so many women are desperate in Africa to leave, many will either pretend to be that type of woman OR he will probably find such useless woman at the deepest part of the bush somewhere in a village in Africa. when he finds that babe, and marry her, he will feel like the happiest man on earth. sadly, by the time he brings her back to the west, the babe will adapts to her environment, and start acting like the exact same African babes in the west who are westernized... simply because if you want a babe to act like she was back in the village, then KEEP HER IN THE DAMN VILLAGE!

this sums it up. add to this the fact that most of these guys are barely educated hustlers; their wives immediately move to another orbit once they get nursing jobs. they are mixing with confident, competent, capable women fully in control of their lives day in day out.

everyone who goes to work in the west has to change his mindset and attitude.

post=68340249:
This won't be our portion IJN

if your wife says amen

Moorish:

Your just contradicted yourself

You initially made this statement some foolish African man living in the west will look down on all the open minded westernized African woman that lives in the west. so because he wants a proper African woman who will cook, clean and serve as his slave (while being quiet), this man will now go back to Africa to seek for that useless woman

Then you ended your post by saying this when he finds that babe, and marry her, he will feel like the happiest man on earth. sadly, by the time he brings her back to the west, the babe will adapts to her environment, and start acting like the exact same African babes in the west who are westernized

You basically said westernized african babes are ideal and are not ideal in thesame post

i guess you didnt understand what i wrote.... there is NOTHING wrong with either westernized babes nor village girl (to each their own), the problem is that a village babe will always turn into a westernized babe when they land in the west... and thats exactly what such man dont want.

That's why marrying a white is always the smart choice...

Gen 6:6 The LORD regretted that he had made human beings on the earth, and his heart was deeply troubled. ... Women have always been a source of grief to humanity even to their maker. Adam was peaceful until Eve came wanting to rob God of his own Apple. Daughters of Jezebel

Free service notice...
1. Don't take any Nigerian lady to the United States.
2. Naija men don suffer for naija women hand.
3. You train them, take them to school, take student loans for them and run credit card debts but they end up running away
4. They sometimes set naija men up by lying you hit them. 
5. The court here respects children, women, old people and men come last.
6. She'll take your house, car(s) and alimony/child support (till kids become 18)
7. Naija women here instigate new comer naija women on how to clean you out. Especially the naija community in Texas. These women sleep around and leave you in debt
8. If you must bring a woman let her have as much money as yourself (or more). Ensure her assets are within US jurisdiction not in naija so that if she goes to court, worse case everybody go hold im money. Simple

Marry African girls like Kenyans. They will worship you. Naija women never, ever appreciate anything. A man does not mind taking care of his wife and all the bills for 10 years. But if a naija woman pays the bills for just 6months you don become lazy man.

There are exceptions. But because they are rare I no fit advice you to try am. Even if she claim say she born again no trust am. That's just her word.

Save yourself from had I known abeg. 

If you fit marry white lady. She go clean you if una separate but she go contribute equally. So no lele.

The naija women here just dey dey wait for who to advice on how to clean their man....especially all these nurses.

GogobiriLalas:
If they have become one flesh...how is it possible to rape her...can a man rape himself?

What is the meaning of this.
Thousands,no,millions rape their wives daily.
Fear factor and tradition shut them up.
Men believe that once u are married to them u have no right over your body. I blame the bible for this stupid ideology.
A woman's body and mechanism is so differently wired than men. No matter how a woman love sex and has a high libido, nature has made it that sometimes she will not be ready for action or too tired as lovemaking is an art to women. But most of our guys don't respect such time. If u insist u don't want, u will be forced. Some do beat their wives to submission.

lifestyle1:


Ok..

But again, why do ladies marry such men ?

it isnt written on their forehead that they are future rapist, they just believe that when married, their wife is THEIR possession that they can do what they please with....and sadly, since many women want to keep the "Mrs" status at all cost, they bow to these demons.

GogobiriLalas:
If they have become one flesh...how is it possible to rape her...can a man rape himself?

if a woman does NOT desire to have sex with her husband (for whatever reason), whether married or not, she is entitled to that. the holy book that teaches you that they become one flesh certainly doesnt teach you to forcefully have sex with your wife, does it?!

oyb:


this sums it up. add to this the fact that most of these guys are barely educated hustlers; their wives immediately move to another orbit once they get nursing jobs. they are mixing with confident, competent, capable women fully in control of their lives day in day out.

everyone who goes to work in the west has to change his mindset and attitude.

well said... sadly many of them think they can control babes in the west like they would in the village.

Nigerian women, those ones na woman?

The Nigerian woman whether in Nigeria or abroad is a very dangerous being. The only difference is that the man in Nigeria still has the patriarchal system on his side and can still use it to control their wives or in the worst case send them away to their parents.

In America, the laws are very lenient towards women. And these invasive species know it and use it against the very man who brought them into the country. Sending a man to jail is only a phone call away.

lifestyle1:
I pray I don't marry a wrong wife in Jesus name.

Amen..

and if u believe the words u just typed life may go pleasantly well with you .... some times life gives you what you ask for

All this happens to the men who is not accompanied by their ancestors to wherever they go.

Even my foreign wife dares not take a pin out of me without my consent or else she will be dancing to a no beats while I watch powerlessly.

It is good to know your root

sassysure:
The problem is that our men carry naija mentality go obodo oyibo.
In nigeria, it's very common to see a wife that goes to work at the same time with husband ( let's forget children for now),once they are back from work, husband will retire and leave the super human to cook, clean and wash.
Some will boil water too and set for his bath. After this, if she is unlucky to have married a beast in the bedroom that's how he will arrange her body in the name of love making.
That is the qualification of good wife. Once u protest, the exposure has corrupted your mind.
I wonder why they don't marry Nigerians born there.
Cos they know they can't meet up as nobody is ready to worship anybody.
Go to nigeria and see how men abuse their wives. More than 50% of the ever smiling ladies u see in churches are living in marital abuse.
The system is so patriarchal.

Its not the fault of the men at all. If not for the archaic way mothers of old used to worship them, they won't demand such now. By the way, they'll remind women of these days that women of old do lots of farm work & still come back home to cook, clean etc.

I so hate the partiality in the way women are meant to be super-humans just so they can be called a Mrs.

MrBrownJay1:


are you claiming that its impossible for a man to rape his wife?!

It is men like you who destroy the marriage institution. How can a man rape his wife? A woman is supposed to satisfy her husband sexually and vice versa according to the holy books. If you can't satisfy your husband sexually or you are liable to claim rape, then you have no excuse if the man looks elsewhere.

FDOzioma:
That's why marrying a white is always the smart choice...

As long as you guys get a lawyer and sign a prenup agreement...

Stevenson1:
Many Nigerian men can attestify to this. The system is not favourable to men that side. it's unfair man!!! I'm not supporting Domestic violence or Murder but men deserves attention and equal judgement in Western Countries too. like WTF... just read yesterday how court awarded a man 10million dollars for imprisoning him on false rape charges for 25 years as he was later found innocent and released. My question now is, what about the lady who claimed the man raped her, where is she now? wasted 25years out of a man's life. some women are lovely but when you see the wicked ones, please, please and please no hard man on the case just run for your life.

the woman should be jailed for 25yrs so she will know how it is

dreality:
It is men like you who destroy the marriage institution. How can a man rape his wife? A woman is supposed to satisfy her husband sexually and vice versa according to the holy books. If you can't satisfy your husband sexually or you are liable to claim rape, then you have no excuse if the man looks elsewhere.

so if you come back from work and you are dead beat, but your wife wants sex, you MUST mount her? same if she wants sex every night of the week, abi? and if you dont want it, she should forcibly have sex against your will with you?

a woman should indeed satisfy her husband WHENEVER SHE DESIRES IT TOO. if she doesnt then that man should learn to be patient. the institution of marriage is all about RESPECT, i suggest you learn about it!

dreality:


It is men like you who destroy the marriage institution. How can a man rape his wife? A woman is supposed to satisfy her husband sexually and vice versa according to the holy books. If you can't satisfy your husband sexually or you are liable to claim rape, then you have no excuse if the man looks elsewhere.

In UK law, a man who has sex with his wife against her will is liable to be charged to court for rape. Rape, in law, means penetrative sex with a woman who hasn't given her express consent. The law doesn't differentiate if such a woman is a wife or not. Sadly, the implication of your comment means that a lot of rapes happen in Nigeria amongst married couples.

Love your wives with everything but with some restrictions. Don't reveal all your life achievements to her. Rather, make your child(ren) trustees and next of kin to your investments . The moment you reveal your plans to help people to her, that's the end of it because she won't let you render that help. A man can divulge every secret to his wife in his happy moments, including secrets he has vowed not to reveal meanwhile, it's only what she wants you to know about her that you'd know, no matter how religious or nice she may be. They can keep the deepest secrets to themselves . Guys, love your wives to the moon or even Jupiter and back but be wise in entrusting all you have to her.

CaptJeffry:
This issue is too faced. I will elaborate later.

Even though a lot of Nigerian wives are bad and desperadoes, some Nigerian men don't wanna be useful with themselves hoping to bring a Nigerian wife that will work her ass off for him.

This is why they bring the ladies to become nurses and work round the clock while they enjoy themselves in Nigerian owned bars, travel to Naija, brag and carry young ladies around.

I've seen these scenarios a lot. What happens is that these ladies get tired of feeding the men and catering for their families alone. So they sue for divorce at any little provocation which often comes from news of their husbands' infidelity especially when they travel to Nigeria.

Right on point. Goes both ways.