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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by thedondada(m): 6:59pm On Jun 10, 2018
Boss13:


You are very very stupid. Let me give you some history lessons. Right up to 30s, white women were not allowed to work. They were house wives or even trophy wives. The workplace in the West was predominantly men. Later, during the civil right match and in order not to create too many distortions and to water down the black movement, congress signed the equal right bill to allow reduce wage disparity between men and women in the workplace. The next thing white women came up again with domestic violence issues. Now it is sexual harassment. The question is why is the white woman fighting their men - they lack culture or custom. They do not understand their role as women. They are confused.

If you like continue to be influenced by people without culture, identity or custom and lose your own identity. It is not a demand for a woman to respect the husband, it is an African tradition and even found in the Bible, that you people revered so much.

If you look at every successful home or marriage, you would see where both parties understood their role. There was no power struggle. The woman understands her husband, respects the husband and in turn the man shows love to the wife, provides for the family and protect the family. On the other hand, look at broken homes, most of the time, the women are the instigators. They want to be the man in the home. They disrespect their husband. They don’t know their role in their home. Ironically, these women are incapable of acting the same way at the workplace. It’s quite unfortunate that many african women want to be equals with their husband. You cannot have two captains in a ship. You are definitely going to have a shipwreck.

This marriage ish scares me. Really. I dont want a mugu wife. I want a partner not a help. I have no issues sharing chores in the house after all I do my own chores now particularly if she works. For the romance it would be cool for both of us to clear the dishes nude ( in my dreams).

That being said Nigerian women want the freedom.of singularity with the title of Mrs it cannot work. You either decide to be submissive or stay single.

Or marry a wimp.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 7:02pm On Jun 10, 2018
Please do not waste your time on nigerian women . Most of them survive by having many boyfriends which gives them money or by selling their body for money please try to find a girl form another country it is much better and less stressful .Why don't you try ghanaian , kenya, zimbabwe south africa, ethiopia another african country because their women are understanding and they do not give so much problems. I have dated other african girl and they are much better, understand you can also trust them

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Osashalom: 7:05pm On Jun 10, 2018
MrBrownJay1:


so he is lucky he got rid of her then, isnt it?! or do you think that because he brought her from the village, she is a good woman and she should remain with him forever?!
Is like you have not taken your drugs today!!
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Just2endowed2(m): 7:11pm On Jun 10, 2018
Fear Nigerian woman. The problem is I love with all my life and I could fell victim. In all, walking away is an option
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by thedondada(m): 7:15pm On Jun 10, 2018
Just2endowed2:
Fear Nigerian woman. The problem is I love with all my life and I could fell victim. In all, walking away is an option

Better to walk than be unhappy and possi it commit murder.
I remember one of my guys saying he would kill his girlfriend that she annoys him. And I told him that means you love her and you are afraid of losing her to someone else.

Better grow up.

He broke up with the girl not long after cos the girl sef no dey gree

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by alcuin(m): 7:43pm On Jun 10, 2018
Boss13:


You have spoken well Brother. I met an Asian colleague who told me she is married to an African. She is from Thailand. This lady commutes by train for over an hour, comes back home and still cook for the husband. She complained with a smile,laughed said she is a proper wife. She was complaining about commuting to work and not the husband. She had to be with the husband because he is schooling and that automatically means she is footing the bills at home. Apparently, it seems she enjoys being a wife and that’s the Asian culture. Also, the Indians are known for this. My other Indian colleague said she wants to learn Salsa but the husband is not interested so she cannot proceed unless the husband gives her permission.

Back to our African sisters - very quick to copy bad things. The west have not culture so you can permit them to act wayward. However, when someone ditches their culture and copy people without culture, is that person not mad! This is what our African women are doing now. There is a total break down of family values in America and this is as a result of the State determining what happens in the family. Other communities in America are thriving. The Chinese are thriving, the Indians are thriving, same with the Pakistanis, because they maintain their customs and culture. Nigerians and Africans are busy trying to throw away their identity and seek commendation from the white man.


You deserve a million likes for this. You just said the whole truth.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Just2endowed2(m): 9:11pm On Jun 10, 2018
thedondada:


Better to walk than be unhappy and possi it commit murder.
I remember one of my guys saying he would kill his girlfriend that she annoys him. And I told him that means you love her and you are afraid of losing her to someone else.

Better grow up.

He broke up with the girl not long after cos the girl sef no dey gree

Not worth taking a life.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by karika2018: 9:34pm On Jun 10, 2018
@ ednut1....

my brother forget about that.....whether the girl is staying abroad or at home.......the united states and western european countries give the legal power to women..........

whether you are a good man or not has nothing to do with it.......when you know you have the power to get your mans wealth ..what do you do......

if you come to europe......and america you will see successful men....but inside they are very weak........


please go to youtube and watch MGTOW (men going their own separate ways)................


also read about different american state laws regarding alimony .......



marriage in the west is a risk and mistake...............

In america.....correcting your wife is trouble............she knows that she can divorce you and claim all your wealth.......

all my friends who are married here in america......none is happy.......


it is a big risk......

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 9:35pm On Jun 10, 2018
babeosisi:
The lesson whether in Nigeria or America is this

Women please keep away from underachieving men with violent tendencies.
They are a ticking time bomb
A man without his "nma nwoke" has low esteem,anything can set him off

Gold digger spotted. Must you igbo women attach love with finance all the time? Kai this is really a curse. Tufiakwa

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by karika2018: 9:44pm On Jun 10, 2018
Boss13:


You have spoken well Brother. I met an Asian colleague who told me she is married to an African. She is from Thailand. This lady commutes by train for over an hour, comes back home and still cook for the husband. She complained with a smile,laughed said she is a proper wife. She was complaining about commuting to work and not the husband. She had to be with the husband because he is schooling and that automatically means she is footing the bills at home. Apparently, it seems she enjoys being a wife and that’s the Asian culture. Also, the Indians are known for this. My other Indian colleague said she wants to learn Salsa but the husband is not interested so she cannot proceed unless the husband gives her permission.

Back to our African sisters - very quick to copy bad things. The west have not culture so you can permit them to act wayward. However, when someone ditches their culture and copy people without culture, is that person not mad! This is what our African women are doing now. There is a total break down of family values in America and this is as a result of the State determining what happens in the family. Other communities in America are thriving. The Chinese are thriving, the Indians are thriving, same with the Pakistanis, because they maintain their customs and culture. Nigerians and Africans are busy trying to throw away their identity and seek commendation from the white man.




very true man...............


you nailed....it.....

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by karika2018: 9:55pm On Jun 10, 2018
@thedondada


do you live in the united states?......if you are properly documented and you are single please do not make that mistake of getting married.........the risk is just too much.........

people say if your wife is back in nigeria.....she would cheat....but atleast she would not render you useless and take all you have achieved away because of the the advantage she has over you abroad......


my friend that i did a best man for is in hell fire right now........divorce will be his biggest undoing in america......

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 9:57pm On Jun 10, 2018
sassysure:
The problem is that our men carry naija mentality go obodo oyibo.
In nigeria, it's very common to see a wife that goes to work at the same time with husband ( let's forget children for now),once they are back from work, husband will retire and leave the super human to cook, clean and wash.
Some will boil water too and set for his bath. After this, if she is unlucky to have married a beast in the bedroom that's how he will arrange her body in the name of love making.
That is the qualification of good wife. Once u protest, the exposure has corrupted your mind.
I wonder why they don't marry Nigerians born there.
Cos they know they can't meet up as nobody is ready to worship anybody.
Go to nigeria and see how men abuse their wives. More than 50% of the ever smiling ladies u see in churches are living in marital abuse.
The system is so patriarchal.
and yet when he decides to marry a second wife,you will ask hime 'what do you see in that woman that is not in me?' or 'what does the woman have that i dont have?' or 'what can she do that i can not do?'
u girls dont know aht you want
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Humanistme: 10:00pm On Jun 10, 2018
Pipedreams:


Gold digger spotted. Must you igbo women attach love with finance all the time? Kai this is really a curse. Tufiakwa

underachieving inferior man spotted.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 10:33pm On Jun 10, 2018
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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 10:34pm On Jun 10, 2018
Humanistme:


underachieving inferior man spotted.

Nkapi. Shut ur smelly pie hole you fake ass scumbag. You're no better than the ladies who stand at Pekas every Friday night.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Rickywowoz: 10:34pm On Jun 10, 2018
Chubhie:

I've been hearing kepu kepu about Zimbabwean ladies.
They are cool. Being black and African, they understand the black culture better, the whole cooking and cleaning ush. and also not as greedy and materialistic as their Nigerian counterparts.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Rickywowoz: 10:36pm On Jun 10, 2018
Chubhie:

Her mother wanted to beat/flog her and she asked her to try it and she calls 911. The mum became weak at how she suddenly lost power and control.

She remembered the power she used to wield over her daughter in Africa with nostalgia.

You can ground them, take away their video games, no cinema etc. But if you lay hands on your kid, your own don finish.

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Moorish: 10:39pm On Jun 10, 2018
TheKingIsHere:


This is a great idea.
Instead of loosing all ur hard earned money, send the wiitch straight to hell, the come back after servicing years in jail to enjoy ur money.
I did laugh out loud at this
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jun 10, 2018
Aleora:
No wonder oyinbo men no dey like work,they rather baby sit,honestly I think now I understand,dont know why a man will work hard for his money only to loose it to one stupid,greedy Nigerian babe...I think most guys always see the signs but rather ignore..how can a man of 45 marry a lady of 23 and you expect her to stay with you when she get oversees...
A friend told me that his dad wants to remarry,I asked how old is the girl,he said 25 ,I then asked how old is your dad,he said 55 ,I laughed and was like is he planning to take her overseas when they marry?he said yes...I told him your dad is on his own,the babe is only loyal because she is looking for every opportunity to leave the country. Which Nigerian babe will marry an old man? I saidbetter advice your dad...my dear if I tell u guys what happned last month between them overseas u will be amused..
Tell us, what happened?
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 10:43pm On Jun 10, 2018
Espada10:
For guys in this situation


Rather than shooting your randy and wicked Nigerian wife with a gun......why not buy a gallon of acid and pour it on her (target her face)..she will still be alive(hopefully ) but trust me she will wish that you killed her and will regret the day she met you for real(all the days of her life).

Shoting , stabbing and poisoning someone is the easy way out and you will still end up in prison.

Why not end up in jail with the sweat memory of her scared ugly face



JUST SAYING
Smh, your just simply heartless. Just saying!
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Moorish: 10:48pm On Jun 10, 2018
thebosstrevor:
if you want to live long as a man in the west never marry another hustler called Nigerian women.

Nigerian women abroad can never be trusted basically even Nigerian women back home,our value system basically has changed with time

Wives betraying husband once abroad.

After they complain about Nigerian men mentality or African men mentality of having a family.anything African is inferior to the so called Nigerian women abroad.

i have never seen Asians behaving like that,they come with the sense of family,husband and wife,submissive wife and supporting husband,the family life is always intact.

African women are quick to say African men mentality because of STATE WELFARE,forgetting that a child without a father will become burden to the society.

you will hear them say tell our Nigerian men, leave your African men mentality in Africa before coming abroad.very sad in my opinion.it shows inferiority complex.

What about the women,they bring their African mentality to america and cause havoc because they think the law will support them.what a betrayal.

In my opinion,Nigerian women are just for sex not marriage,i have researched why our men die young and are hypertensive and i came to the conclusion our women are the cause.

AVOID NIGERIAN WOMEN WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH

THEY ARE DESTINY DESTROYERS

PLS FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER AFRICAN LADY TO MARRY,THEY KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF US ESPECIALLY THE HARD-WORKING NIGERIAN MEN.

Bro everything you speak of is the truth

But I will disagree with you slightly

All the african women are equally disloyal bro

I lived in England for close to a decade

I know what I saw oh !
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by eyinjuege: 10:51pm On Jun 10, 2018
Stevenson1:


Thank you my friend. you just said the perfect truth. I could remember one time a man posted online about his babe destroying his new Audi car screen because he dumped her. The nigga was busy laughing and video-taping the babe. He later joked that he does not know that his dick is damned good for a lady to break his new car screen. The idiot forgot that, the said lady committed a violent act. We men overlooks a lot of things and it will seriously hunt us back either this our generation or next. Just check the rate of cheating married women know and judge for yourself. I remember when the females were crying on us about this cheating thing but we were forming alpha males. Now, they don't even feel guilty or remorse anymore no matter the kind of crime they committed. We need to retract our step before we all fall off the cliff. Just conduct DNA test now and close your eyes with shame. In America now, you cheat on your wife, you leave the house for her. She still cheats on you, you will be the one to leave your house also for her. I just don't understand again.

You know the problem?
It's because you refused to condemn evil. A case of when good men do nothing. When women were shouting about cheating husbands, you formed alpha male instead of speaking against it. They learnt fast from you. Give a woman a seed, you will get a forest from her. Give her your sperm, you get a baby. The student has now become the master.
When reasonable people were shouting say no to domestic violence, some people justified it by saying the victims deserved it. Now, the women have picked up the baton, you will continue to hear of cases of violent stabbings of husbands by their wives.
The truth is let us be fair in our dealings with other people, and life would be much easier.
You can imagine the kind of men we have here, still justifying the killings of these women, some have even adviced pouring acid. Don't worry, the women are learning well, and taking notes. Some already have their notepads and notebooks and jotting down stuff.

Gbemishile1:

and yet when he decides to marry a second wife,you will ask hime 'what do you see in that woman that is not in me?' or 'what does the woman have that i dont have?' or 'what can she do that i can not do?'
u girls dont know aht you want

And yet, when she decides to keep a lover outside, you will wonder what she is looking for outside.
Instead of you to start listening to what the women are saying, you guys are still bringing up old school counter arguments. That ship has long sailed.
You guys keep wondering what women want, and yet when they keep saying it, you choose selective deafness and don't even hear what they are saying. You should know times have changed now.
Men need to listen more. It's not enough to hold on to some customs that hold no water in the current times we are in.
How do we move the marriage institution forward as apparently the old school teachings have failed woefully?

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Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Aleora(f): 10:58pm On Jun 10, 2018
mhizenugu:
Tell us, what happened?
my friend called and as amebo that I am I asked ,how is dad and wife doing? ,he said it is a long story, I said make it short,the babe was already pregnant before my friends dad took her abroad,my people na one day my friend dad went to work came back and couldnt find the babe and the baby,where she go dem dey no no...I hope dey find her though,this happned last month ooo...
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Moorish: 10:59pm On Jun 10, 2018
ibkonekt:
Go mgtow
I did do that but I went back to the slavery plantation because I desire to sire a son and raise a family
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Yankee101: 10:59pm On Jun 10, 2018
Pipedreams:


Bro thank you for this lecture. Abeg If u dey naija I fit buy u 3beers next weekend? U too gbaski

Lol.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Moorish: 11:01pm On Jun 10, 2018
bigpicture001:
..........eveey naija gal is selfish nd almost all are lazy to work but good at spending, from even relationship, they see guyz are a way out of financial misery....
This is true of all women of all races
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by alcuin(m): 11:03pm On Jun 10, 2018
eyinjuege:


You know the problem?
It's because you refused to condemn evil. A case of when good men do nothing. When women were shouting about cheating husbands, you formed alpha male instead of speaking against it. They learnt fast from you. Give a woman a seed, you will get a forest from her. Give her your sperm, you get a baby. The student has now become the master.
When reasonable people were shouting say no to domestic violence, some people justified it by saying the victims deserved it. Now, the women have picked up the baton, you will continue to hear of cases of violent stabbings of husbands by their wives.
The truth is let us be fair in our dealings with other people, and life would be much easier.
You can imagine the kind of men we have here, still justifying the killings of these women, some have even adviced pouring acid. Don't worry, the women are learning well, and taking notes. Some already have their notepads and notebooks and jotting down stuff.



And yet, when she decides to keep a lover outside, you will wonder what she is looking for outside.
Instead of you to start listening to what the women are saying, you guys are still bringing up old school counter arguments. That ship has long sailed.
You guys keep wondering what women want, and yet when they keep saying it, you choose selective deafness and don't even hear what they are saying. You should know times have changed now.
Men need to listen more. It's not enough to hold on to some customs that hold no water in the current times we are in.
How do we move the marriage institution forward as apparently the old school teachings have failed woefully?

Just shut up.

Are the Asians facing same problems? No. Simply because they hold to their customs and avoid the "western nonsense". Yes, we are African men and have no apologies thinking as Africans.
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Moorish: 11:04pm On Jun 10, 2018
babeosisi:


I don't wish to sound insensitive but 10 women killed in a space of 10 years with millions of Nigerian families in the USA is hardly of any statistical significance.
This is being over flogged bikonu
What reasons will they give for the tens of thousands of women that are maimed in various ways including acid pouring in Nigeria and the thousands bludgeoned to death in the same time period by their husbands right there in Nigeria?
You are absolutely and completely wrong

An elder from Ethiopia I met once visiting Canada told me

STAY IN AFRICA ! BUT IF YOU MUST COME HERE FORGET MARRIAGE

I was skeptical

Then I checked their divorce rates and called that man a G
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 11:09pm On Jun 10, 2018
DonFreshmoney:


So how do you want the Naija guy in Yankee to marry? If he can't marry a westernize person or bring a woman abroad.. be like say too muh masturbation dey disturb your brain
I dey use your yansh jerk off...mumu
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by Nobody: 11:11pm On Jun 10, 2018
Pataricatering:
when u get married ehn or if you are married now - try this experiment - let your wife eat every meal for the two of you ! Since you are really one flesh - every time your wife is eating for both of you - you will feel full ( despite not eating ) because you and your wife are one flesh ! Try it for two months and see how fat and fresh you will be ! By the end of the two months you will know whether or not you and your wife are one “ flesh “ or two separate individuals joined together in marriage !
So they are not one flesh then?
Re: Why Nigerian Husbands Kill Wives In US –investigation by ItsMeAboki(m): 11:13pm On Jun 10, 2018
OP should substitute Nigerian for Biafran in his Headline

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