PierreAbutu:

Another reason why prenuptial agreement is necessary
Anyone interested should kindly contact me for his or her PRE-NUPTIAL AGREEMENT....It's better to be safe than sorry

Pre-nuptial agreements aren't enforceable in Nigeria.

The jurisdiction of courts with regards to sharing of properties after dissolution of marriage doesn't extend to declaration of title to property.

So many ignorant comments on this thread.

funny how most of the guys I know are even the ones that are eager for d court wedding....nairalanders are unreal

do u menstruate? I mean blood dey comot from ur dirty smelling toto every 28 days?

Hotfreeze:


Pre-nuptial agreements aren't enforceable in Nigeria.

The jurisdiction of courts with regards to sharing of properties after dissolution of marriage doesn't extend to declaration of title to property.

So many ignorant comments on this thread.

Sorry, but I won't argue with a layman like you
If you are my client, I'd show you the law enforcing and making provision for P.N.A.
Till then, go and argue with lalasticala

I think there is a way around this..First if you must do Court marriage which is required by law and a recognised legal stuff globally.Then do..but to prevent you from been ripped of by a useless wife you may want to divorce.Then get a lawyer to prepare a prenuptical agreement that you and her will sign during court marriage..so that in the event of a divorce..she will only be entitled to the things she own..All the things you own will be yours and not be split with your wife.

Guys bringing 9ja girls overseas as wife are always advised to protect themselves from been ripped off in the future in the event of a divorce by ensuring the girl signs a prenuptical agreement.

PierreAbutu:


Sorry, but I won't argue with a layman like you
If you are my client, I'd show you the law enforcing and making provision for P.N.A.
Till then, go and argue with lalasticala

.

Your advice is wrong and you should not mislead others. Wait for your clients to meet you before you mislead them, Nairaland is not your office.

mikkyjagga1:
This is a very foolish topic/post , are you going into marriage with the intention to divorce later on?
Don't get married if you can't trust with all you have mutually!
Stop infecting people's mind with your negativity!

I agree with you.
Is the woman going into marriage with the intention to divorce later on too?
She shouldn't get married if she can't trust the man with all her heart.

Marriage should be an affair between the man and the woman they shouldn't have to involve the state.

You're right we should stop infecting people's mind with negativity!

cnnamoko:
what about Churches that insist on court marriage?

There are over 40 christian denominations in Nigeria

When yawa gas, it's not the church's assets that would be used to 'settle' your ex-wife, it will be your own assets/properties


Change your church, do your wedding and go back (if u want)

Hotfreeze:
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Your advice is wrong and you should not mislead others. Wait for your clients to meet you before you mislead them, Nairaland is not your office.

I'd only listen to u if you were a Judge and
No sane banker will argue with a civil engineer about civil engineering

That's the beauty of our profession
I can't spill all my legal guts here on NL, OK

As I said earlier, if u ever become my client, then I'll show you where it is in the law, and how it is enforced

NB. Nigerian matrimonial laws of today are not the same with the matrimonial laws of the 1960s....so if I want to mislead people, I won't mislead people who are not going to pay me up to N150,000 at the end of the day

Elder001:
I guess this is why men are scared to file for divorce or reluctant to file for divorce because from the way it seems now the law assumes you've wasted the woman's life.

Like only women can file for divorce because if you do you'll lose much.. smh


I won't advice any man(not even my enemy) to do registry marriage .
If a lady insists on registry marriage please she can't be trusted, kindly cancel the wedding.

Please how much are you worth to warrant you spreading fear and telling other people how to get married? Empty barrels make the most noise and don't come here claiming you have this and that without evidence because you people on nl love to claim you have unverifiable wealth. What a waste of my 2 minutes

Na wah o, op said cancel wedding like it's a ride request on taxify. If you go marry my daughter na court wedding be the first thing. If possible i fit draft agreement sef

Men that cannot eat beans alone, they want to taste rice, yam etc..

trust and love your partner and alwayz pray together no need 4 divorce. am available for any God fearing lady

How person go use him hand go police station, ask them for key, cun lock himself for jail.

If you divorce person sha and you get the means, do the needful. If na your mama dey the receiving end, you go want make popsi do the needful.

Elder001:
Flee from any woman that request for Registry Marriage.

The issue of sharing of properties cannot come in except the wife claims that as a relief in her answer to the petition for dissolution of marriage.
The law assumes that settlement of property and maintenance is an ancillary relief which a man owes his wife if he files for divorce.


For example a man file for divorce after 20years of marriage to his wife.

The law assumes he's the one filling for divorce after she has given him 20 years of her life. She may even throw in how she supported him(even if it's not financial support) and performed wifely duties to him. The law assumes the man can't leave her with an uncertain financial future (I still don't know whether this implies if the woman is rich.. didn't see anything like that though) after she spent two decades building his.

If she claims for settlement of properties in the marriage, the judge usually would look at the circumstances of the case and facts supplied to reach a decision on what to give her.
Judges have a wide discretionary power to settle matrimonial properties as it deems just to do so.

The judge has a discretion to award reliefs sought by parties in a divorce proceeding, according to the facts and circumstances of the case at hand.
If she specifically ask that she shares in the matrimonial properties and the facts and circumstances makes it justifiable that she does deserve a share, the court will order that.

The law doesn't care about who owns what or what anyone brought into the marriage.

The court can order settlement I. e share any property belonging to any of the parties on the request of the woman.

Nigerian law considers marriage as a partnership.

The law assumes when the partnership finally end, nobody leaves empty handed except the woman didn't specifically ask for anything.

Thanks bro.
Na traditional/church things on point.
No court ish, also, I go insist on prenuptial agreement.

tete7000:
People go into marriage thinking it won't last. Marriage built on foundation of sand of distrust and mutual suspicion. Na by force to marry if you already from inception thinking it is not going to work? Devil has indeed taken over the hearts of people and enslaved them with his reign of fear.

You can't preach to a devil, it's a pure waste of time. There are very cunning and clever people that'll deceive you into marrying them, you'll have no choice than to divorce them else you'll be miserable for the rest of your life with them, also ppl may fall out of love in marriage cos somethings that were perfectly hidden during courtship will start seeping/leaking out....

Wisdom is profitable to direct abeg....meanwhile

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Elder001:
Flee from any woman that request for Registry Marriage.

The issue of sharing of properties cannot come in except the wife claims that as a relief in her answer to the petition for dissolution of marriage.
The law assumes that settlement of property and maintenance is an ancillary relief which a man owes his wife if he files for divorce.


For example a man file for divorce after 20years of marriage to his wife.

The law assumes he's the one filling for divorce after she has given him 20 years of her life. She may even throw in how she supported him(even if it's not financial support) and performed wifely duties to him. The law assumes the man can't leave her with an uncertain financial future (I still don't know whether this implies if the woman is rich.. didn't see anything like that though) after she spent two decades building his.

If she claims for settlement of properties in the marriage, the judge usually would look at the circumstances of the case and facts supplied to reach a decision on what to give her.
Judges have a wide discretionary power to settle matrimonial properties as it deems just to do so.

The judge has a discretion to award reliefs sought by parties in a divorce proceeding, according to the facts and circumstances of the case at hand.
If she specifically ask that she shares in the matrimonial properties and the facts and circumstances makes it justifiable that she does deserve a share, the court will order that.

The law doesn't care about who owns what or what anyone brought into the marriage.

The court can order settlement I. e share any property belonging to any of the parties on the request of the woman.

Nigerian law considers marriage as a partnership.

The law assumes when the partnership finally end, nobody leaves empty handed except the woman didn't specifically ask for anything.

Does dt mean dt a woman does nt hv right to those things in Christian marriage? Pls clarify.

It's things like this that make me not want to have a female child. Many men these these have an evil mentality.
I for one cannot give my daughter out in marriage to a man that refuses court marriage.
Traditional/church/mosque marriage alone does not recognize the rights of a woman as a human being, that is where you see a mad man get up in the middle of the night and throw his wife's things out because of one girlfriend that gives him bedroom acrobatics and the wife who might have been loyal to him from day one is just discarded like thrash and her children forcibly taken from her.

Men that refuse court marriage cannot be trusted.
He could have evil intentions towards her, maybe he is planning to cheat endlessly and even infect her and bring his baby mama's into her matrimonial home because he knows that she will not want to file for divorce because she does not want to lose her kids.


Women help yourselves and insist on court marriage if you don't want to lose your children to an evil husband in future.

OMEGA009:
Who goes into a marriage with an option of divorce on their mind? Ever heard of the words “For Better or Worse”?

These NL children wee not kee me. If you don’t have the balls to go the whole 9 yards, go to Shoprite and buy a carton of Vaseline.

We’ve not gotten over our loss to Croatia and one broke nigguh is shouting “avoid court registry if you want to keep ya property”. Mtcheeew.

P.S: pls remember....

how much?

Some Nigerians engage in only court marriage due to high cost of white and/or traditional wedding.

bebe2:
BUT why are u pple so evil?

Why do u always think like zombies?

So u marry a woman for twenty years, she has kids for u, looked after them while u work, cooks for u , cleans for u, wash ur clothes, U have two houses , in the case of divorce u can not give her one? Are u ok?

Where do u want her to start from?

you should have told us she was doing all of that for the one house, now tell me, where the fvck does she think she's going?

Any woman that wants divorce bcoz of my property will collect the property in the after life, cuz I'll rid the world of her b4 she eliminates me!

Hmmm....I see. ...and what happens if you want to migrate?... if your non registry wife has to file papers for Permanent Residence...is it then you would rush to the registry?.... or would you order her not to file? If you are sooo afraid that your marriage would end in divorce..... and even more afraid your wife would get some of your assets... aren't you also afraid that when you're at working hard at work someone else is ta king your place at home? Marriage is not for everybody..... traditional or registry wedding.

themodernman:


You can't preach to a devil, it's a pure waste of time. There are very cunning and clever people that'll deceive you into marrying them, you'll have no choice than to divorce them else you'll be miserable for the rest of your life with them, also ppl may fall out of love in marriage cos somethings that were perfectly hidden during courtship will start seeping/leaking out....

Wisdom is profitable to direct abeg....meanwhile

https://www.nairaland.com/4552524/samsung-40-ue40f6400-smart-hub

Well for me I don't believe people change, neither do I believe people can conceal their true nature from a person who in himself/herself is clean and pure. The real problem of the world is that many of us are chameleons ourselves yet we want others to be plain with us, it can't work. If we work in clear day light, we will end up exposing the work of darkness. No one can hide his/her defects in broad daylight. Instead of focusing our energy on understanding and improving ourselves, many want others to live to suit their fancies.
Marriage is an institution established and adjudged good by God. If it fails us, it can never be because the marriage institution is bad but because we have refused to abide by the laws that established it. It is often funny to me that many really want faithfulness in premarital affairs and sex. On what ground should anyone be faithful to you in an open relationship? That many who have never been faithful to their creator want fellow humans to be faithful to them will never stop beating my imagination. The problem many face in marriage have their foundation in events that happen long before they enter the marriage itself. As long as issues of premarital sex, abortion, etc are overlooked and wish away as something trendy and in vogue, marriages of many are gone before they are ever consummated.

This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.
John 3:19‭-‬21 NIV
https://bible.com/bible/111/jhn.3.19-21.NIV

HARDDON:


That is where the average guy gets it wrong. Even most rich men that havent developed their creative mental abilities can sleep well at night because of this.


Look around you gee. all the magnificent beauties of the world were, at a point and for a moment, nothing but intangible thoughts.

Real Wealth lies with him who can convert the ideas gee. What you have acquired can develop wings over night. Not what you have up in your head

Until you convert it into cash or a tangible store of value, my men!

Elder001:

Then be ready to share your properties with her.. it's that simple

And what is wrong with that?

OP you have a poverty mindset and your thought pattern is faulty.

Only few men get married with any serious money in their pockets.
Most women I know in Nigeria are hard-working and fend for their families, with them being co-breadwinners and some even being sole breadwinners.
A prenup may not be a bad idea, as it will also make women focused on their careers and getting their own assets.
It sets the tone of the marriage right from the beginning.
It makes the women more focused on building their own lives.
Their men will have to contribute equally of course regarding child care issues, as the women also have to make sure they are making their own money too in the marriage.
Its only gold diggers who a prenup may not benefit, as many unmarried men out there have no gold to be dug in the first place.
Anyway, my conclusion is that in marriage, don't let your game slip as a woman.
You have the world in your hands. Don't because of marriage and children refuse to strive and work hard as your mates out there. Don't have more children than you can comfortably care for even without the help of their father. Go for family planning after you have the no of children you can personally afford.
You need to build yourself, and strive to be better in order to build your future and retirement. Don't leave your future in the hands of any man. Don't say he wants me to stay back at home to look after the children. No excuses please. If you have to drop the children in school in the morning, he has to go and pick them in the afternoon. Dont be scared to leave the children alone with their fathers, as they also need the bonding time while you also go out to hustle for yourself. Your mates doing it don't have 2 heads.

Sincerely Court marriage is not my thing. Since I know I'm going nowhere. I have to trust my man enough. And I don't need to be so interested in my husband's properties. I jst need to make myself financially stable.

So you evil people think it’s okay to divorce a woman who you probably insisted she stay home and raise your kids and leave her with nothing after you ruined her chances of building a career?

It will never be well with anyone who thinks this way. In Jesus name.
God does not like wickedness so he won’t reward your work. you won’t be successful if you plan to take away someone else’s success because of a supposed role she should play in the family and then turn around to punish her for doing the thing she was told she’s supposed to do.

Umu ekwensu (devil’s children).

Church marriage is recognised by law and I don't think that there is any extra right provided by court marriage that is not inherent in church marriage. They are both under common law...received English law. Lawyers please come in here and clarify this issue.

Seahawk:
So you evil people think it’s okay to divorce a woman who you probably insisted she stay home and raise your kids and leave her with nothing after you ruined her chances of building a career?

It will never be well with anyone who thinks this way. In Jesus name.
God does not like wickedness so he won’t reward your work. you won’t be successful if you plan to take away someone else’s success because of a supposed role she should play in the family and then turn around to punish her for doing the thing she was told she’s supposed to do.

Umu ekwensu (devil’s children).

That's d problem. No woman should agree to such thing.

100 perfect true. Only evil men refuse court marriage because they want to enslave their wives.

valdovas:
It's things like this that make me not want to have a female child. Many men these these have an evil mentality.
I for one cannot give my daughter out in marriage to a man that refuses court marriage.
Traditional/church/mosque marriage alone does not recognize the rights of a woman as a human being, that is where you see a mad man get up in the middle of the night and throw his wife's things out because of one girlfriend that gives him bedroom acrobatics and the wife who might have been loyal to him from day one is just discarded like thrash and her children forcibly taken from her.

Men that refuse court marriage cannot be trusted.
He could have evil intentions towards her, maybe he is planning to cheat endlessly and even infect her and bring his baby mama's into her matrimonial home because he knows that she will not want to file for divorce because she does not want to lose her kids.


Women help yourselves and insist on court marriage if you don't want to lose your children to an evil husband in future.