Parenting is not easy and is something you don't learn in a day or even over years. You keep learning but sometimes your actions are taken notice of by your children. For many, it's an obvious preference for a certain child. This is easily observed by the other children. As offspring, it is our duty to see the failings of our parents and ensure we do not duplicate the same actions when we have kids of our own.

For me, it's the singular act of comparing other people's children with yours. Citing other kids achievement as a yardstick for your children's is a big no no. This is one of the worst things a parent can do to his/her child. Fingers are not equal and that is why most children will never compare their parents with other people's parents. We tend to love them unconditionally. This irritating behavior can create an atmosphere of disdain around the house

If you are a parent, please take note of this. Your kids will develop an unnatural hatred for you in the long run. My patience is my greatest virtue but I'm not sure exactly how long I can hold on.

What are those things your parents did (or do) that you would never repeat to your children?

Not being approachable

stinginess!!!

None of my kids would go to school outside Lagos especially university, so i can visit them in school every other day and see how they are doing. I said that because i live in Lagos.

Na only twice my people come visit me for university in another state, I free like bird, na street OT man use survive, if them dey come check me frequently it would have really made sense.

fuckerstard:
None of my kids would go to school outside Lagos especially university, so i can visit them in school every other day and see how they are doing. I said that because i live in Lagos.

Na only twice my people come visit me for university in another state, I free like bird, na street OT man use survive, if them dey come check me frequently it would have really made sense.

Part of the point of going to the university is to learn about life, make mistakes and learn from them, and more importantly, learn to be independent. I understand your point of view but what if you're well of enough to send them to the best universities abroad? I wish my parents could have. It's one of the things on my bucket list.

I can't even say sef.

I would be visiting them at least once every semester until they graduate.

fuckerstard:
None of my kids would go to school outside Lagos especially university, so i can visit them in school every other day and see how they are doing. I said that because i live in Lagos.

Na only twice my people come visit me for university in another state, I free like bird, na street OT man use survive, if them dey come check me frequently it would have really made sense.

They never visited me.

Earthbound:

Part of the point of going to the university is to learn about life, make mistakes and learn from them, and more importantly, learn to be independent. I understand you're point of view but what if you're well of enough to send them to the best universities abroad? I wish my parents could have. It's one of the things on my bucket list.

Yes they would live on campus and enjoy their freedom, but with the state of this nation it would be unwise to let persin pikin learn the hardway.

Who no like better thing, if i send them abroad I won't be too worried cos life still easy a bit over there for students. I would always find my way to go and visit them still.

Not having heart to heart talk and time for ur children.No matter my work schedule,i will always creat time for my kids.So we can relate well,that is the only way u can understand what they are passing through especially at their puberty stage.I remember the first time i saw my menstrual flow i became traumatized thinking i was gonna die,thank God for my school mother.

Can't think of anything right now but I want to raise my kids to be assertive. I want to raise my kids to have a mind of their own, speak their minds, stand up for themselves, and understand that respect isn't by age.

A

Strict attitude.. Not connecting with your children.. Always right attitude.. Thinking you know what's best for the Kids.

Anger

R

Kung fu beating from Dad and Nagging/weakening Complaints from Mom

Over flogging my kids....ewo!!! That man can flog for africa. Every little thing wetin go comot from him mouth na "spare the rod spoil the child". Chai! That man use cane reset my body wella......but i take style stubborn sha.

gudnex22:
stinginess!!!

Same

fuckerstard:
None of my kids would go to school outside Lagos especially university, so i can visit them in school every other day and see how they are doing. I said that because i live in Lagos.

Na only twice my people come visit me for university in another state, I free like bird, na street OT man use survive, if them dey come check me frequently it would have really made sense.

My folks never visited once. I understand. My father did his best financially. I will visit my kids often in school

Beating the child

Insulting for every small thing

Comparing them to everyone

ReneeNuttall:
Not having heart to heart talk and time for ur children.No matter my work schedule,i will always creat time for my kids.So we can relate well,that is the only way u can understand what they are passing through especially at their puberty stage.I remember the first time i saw my menstrual flow i became traumatized thinking i was gonna die,thank God for my school mother.

Lol!

Na wa o.
Thinking my kids don't have any useful advice for me just because they have not "experienced life".I would always listen to them and pick wisdom no matter how little

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I will emulate the way my mum raised me up but my dad, nooooooooooooooooooo. Don't ask me....

fuckerstard:
None of my kids would go to school outside Lagos especially university, so i can visit them in school every other day and see how they are doing. I said that because i live in Lagos.

I hated this in my year one, my dad would just come unannounced, not that I go out of school o. I won't do that to my children, it made me feel like I was still a baby that needed monitoring every time.

Having time to play with my children,



My parents dnt hv time for such

Not knowing my friends.

They never want to hear you have a female friend not to talk of her visiting. That didn't stop me/us from having female friends even tho it took us a while, but we just never bring them home.

Getting to know my kids friends would be one of my utmost concerns. You can't go wrong there.
You get to know who your kids are rolling with and a hint of what they'll be learning from their friends.

Was the only girl. I was not treated like a girl. I have girl's dress on Xmas and Easter.

I never appreciated the upbringing until I got married.

I am closer to my son. We are best of friends.
My parent are the strict type which makes me an indoor person

Entitlement mentality.

Mama feels that giving birth to you is her license into blackmailing you to do anything she wants

my father is a polygamist, I will never emulate that. over my death body!