Ok

Can we swap?

buske:
I have been dating this girl, since after my graduation from the university three years ago. Prior to that we've were very close friends.

Our relationship has been the type where we know very much about each other. we talk about everything. We practically know each other in and out.

She's the very soft time, in the sense that she finds it hard to say no or shout at people irrespective of what they've done. To give you a picture of what I'm talking about, with a very confusing episode...a man once collected her phone and practically walked away with it in broad daylight without any form of resistance. Another episode; The other day, after waiting for about 5 months to get the complete amount to purchase a phone, she took the whole sum and gave it to a person she hardly knows and we've been looking for him ever since.

While I'm the analytical type of person. This has its own downsides too as atimes, I tend not to know when to just let things go.

Okay..Let me give you the main gist of what transpired so you can tell me if I could have reacted or done things better or it wasn't my fault.

So yesterday, she called me and was like "emmh..baby, can you give me Rev. David's number, I want to pass it to a friend who needs spiritual counseling" (Rev
David is my bossom friend who just got out of the Seminary, They two are hardly acquainted due to obvious reasons.) "aaah... I should give you Rev. David's number??...Wait who is the person?...doesn't he/she have a church/pastor he/she can go to?" I was perplexed by the request. Since we share a lot, I was expecting at least an overview of the reason for the request. My girlfriend became defensive instead," Are you giving me the number or not? ".. At this point, my interest is hightened. So I ask her to at least give me minor details about the person or the situation at hand. It became a drag and led to a slight argument. She got angry and for the first time in many years..cut the call on me.

"aaaah....what is the problem, what is making this girl get all worked up like this?" I called and called back but she didn't pick up. I was mad and confused.
Now, like I said at the beginning, besides the fact that we talked about everything...she is also the type that can easily be defrauded. So this made me put up guard and she is ignited my interest in the case by her dodgy attitude.

So I sent her a text, giving her one last chance to pick my call and threatened to never call again if she failed to. So she called!

After dragging the issue for long and lying(something she's never done) here and there. I got to find out that it was about a guy whom I was suspecting she was having an affair with. (she never knew I was suspecting her though because I never showed it. I was looking for the perfect time to make a case)

I was mad!

After dropping the call. She texted me. Disclaiming having an affair with him, telling me that he had made her promise that it should be just between them.

See...This is a girl that tells me everything about her friends...from the friend who just had an abortion, to the one who almost had her womb removed, to the one whose parents are quarreling, to the one cheating on her boyfriend and so on. Why was this case so special that I couldn't even get a hint??.

I replied, telling her that I never believed her and told her I wasn't going to call her again and that she shouldn't bother calling me. Next thing I know, she turns it on me, accusing me of breaking up with her over the phone. She had repeated this accusation in the past. So I told her that since she's so 'eager' about us breaking up over the phone, her prayers had finally been answered today..I didn't reply any messages henceforth.

Now I'm confused, I don't know what to make out of this episode.

@op....hmm....this is hard to say.but just let her go.

It's like am the only one that is confused about the whole story.
@op,please how does her asking for Rev David number ended up being you finding out that she is cheating with a guy after so much dragging?

dukeprince50:
are u talking about Brazil match? I think Brazil match is 1pm, Nigerian match is 6pm

6pm for which country....Na 4pm for naija

Lala, pls move this to the children section. Mtcheeew

You these small boys and your endless woman problems.

Things are happening. Currently in the same shoe with op. Life is a walking shadow!

*To give you a picture of what I'm talking about, with a very confusing episode...a man once collected her phone and practically walked away with it in broad daylight without any form of resistance. Another episode; The other day, after waiting for about 5 months to get the complete amount to purchase a phone, she took the whole sum and gave it to a person she hardly knows and we've been looking for him ever since*
This part got to me...... Made the girlfriend to seem like a dumb person. How can someone collect phone and one will just be looking on without resistance? The second part......

Guy, I didn't bother reading, the headline itself tells it all. You 've done the right thing. Thumbs up. Don't come back again and do the wrong thing.

Nawa oo things dey happen sha

Guy, you are just her emotional tampon. her girlfriend that is a guy. She hooked up with a real man. Sorry, take it on the chin and work on yourself.

You seem young, don't get involved in an emotionally draining relationship. Getting heavily invested in relationships not advisable for any unaccomplished (I assume) young man. Relationships are greatly skewed to be beneficial to the woman, that's why they try to hold down an attractive man to get him in an exclusive relationship so that they can put in their overinflated mundane issues among things the guy should worry about. As a young man, it's better to get laid whenever you want without being in a relationship, leaving the emotions for the broads, while you focus on your life ambition because the more accomplished you are the more attractive you become and the bigger your pool of selection for finer and more well behaved women.

From what I read, You are a simp* - don't worry, many men once were, and a lot still remain - She dropped the call on you and you began to worry and think You really need to get busy. Let me give you an example to put things in proper perspective so you get the message. Would you worry and overthink or feel highly disrespected over the dropped call if you had many f*ck buddies that include celebs? This right here is the line between being excessively needy and childish as opposed to being mature and attractive to any woman. Operate with that abundance mentality, and focus on your life and ambitions. Buena Suerte!

Pre teen problems. I can’t relate

abeg which dstv station go show Nigeria match

facing dat kind of challenges bro, at times i even regret dating, i have catch her red handed upto 3 times and she will always have an excuse d funny part is after every thing she will still accuse me of wrong doing that is woman for u,,, but never d less i wount say u are at fault bcas u did notin wrong

But why if you don't know something, say you dunno. Someone new in Lagos cannot ask you for direction o.choi. Nigerias match is by 4pm[ quote author=dukeprince50 post=68706707]are u talking about Brazil match? I think Brazil match is 1pm, Nigerian match is 6pm[/quote]

U still don't have a case against her, atleast not crystal clear. Even in court of law, fair hearing is demanded. You just can't throw away a beautiful and relationship for such a regular matter( even I face such). Back to the main matter: u need to learn to trust and work hand in hand as a couple, your distrust in giving her the father number is alarming, even if you not giving her, let it be that its for confidential reasons, here you took it personal. My mild evaluation so don't castigate me.

Oboy, your English structure is quite poor. I can barely understand you.

dukeprince50:
are u talking about Brazil match? I think Brazil match is 1pm, Nigerian match is 6pm

You want him to watch the match highlights after it must have finished. Kickoff time is 4pm.

buske:
I have been dating this girl, since after my graduation from the university three years ago. Prior to that we've were very close friends.

Our relationship has been the type where we know very much about each other. we talk about everything. We practically know each other in and out.

She's the very soft time, in the sense that she finds it hard to say no or shout at people irrespective of what they've done. To give you a picture of what I'm talking about, with a very confusing episode...a man once collected her phone and practically walked away with it in broad daylight without any form of resistance. Another episode; The other day, after waiting for about 5 months to get the complete amount to purchase a phone, she took the whole sum and gave it to a person she hardly knows and we've been looking for him ever since.

While I'm the analytical type of person. This has its own downsides too as atimes, I tend not to know when to just let things go.

Okay..Let me give you the main gist of what transpired so you can tell me if I could have reacted or done things better or it wasn't my fault.

So yesterday, she called me and was like "emmh..baby, can you give me Rev. David's number, I want to pass it to a friend who needs spiritual counseling" (Rev
David is my bossom friend who just got out of the Seminary, They two are hardly acquainted due to obvious reasons.) "aaah... I should give you Rev. David's number??...Wait who is the person?...doesn't he/she have a church/pastor he/she can go to?" I was perplexed by the request. Since we share a lot, I was expecting at least an overview of the reason for the request. My girlfriend became defensive instead," Are you giving me the number or not? ".. At this point, my interest is hightened. So I ask her to at least give me minor details about the person or the situation at hand. It became a drag and led to a slight argument. She got angry and for the first time in many years..cut the call on me.

"aaaah....what is the problem, what is making this girl get all worked up like this?" I called and called back but she didn't pick up. I was mad and confused.
Now, like I said at the beginning, besides the fact that we talked about everything...she is also the type that can easily be defrauded. So this made me put up guard and she is ignited my interest in the case by her dodgy attitude.

So I sent her a text, giving her one last chance to pick my call and threatened to never call again if she failed to. So she called!

After dragging the issue for long and lying(something she's never done) here and there. I got to find out that it was about a guy whom I was suspecting she was having an affair with. (she never knew I was suspecting her though because I never showed it. I was looking for the perfect time to make a case)

I was mad!

After dropping the call. She texted me. Disclaiming having an affair with him, telling me that he had made her promise that it should be just between them.

See...This is a girl that tells me everything about her friends...from the friend who just had an abortion, to the one who almost had her womb removed, to the one whose parents are quarreling, to the one cheating on her boyfriend and so on. Why was this case so special that I couldn't even get a hint??.

I replied, telling her that I never believed her and told her I wasn't going to call her again and that she shouldn't bother calling me. Next thing I know, she turns it on me, accusing me of breaking up with her over the phone. She had repeated this accusation in the past. So I told her that since she's so 'eager' about us breaking up over the phone, her prayers had finally been answered today..I didn't reply any messages henceforth.

Now I'm confused, I don't know what to make out of this episode.

You must always learn to respect the opinions of ur partner in a relationship if u want to succeed in it. She has given u the reason why she needed the number from u so why press further for unnecessary answer if u are not looking for an avenue to break-up with her. To me, the girl never did any thing wrong. U'r just been jealous unnecessarily. U have been with a girl for 3yrs now and u still don't trust her, the girl sef try to stay with u this long. Pls grow up and amend ur ways with her.

Even if u don't want to be dating/sleeping with a girl/boy again doesn't mean u should break up with her. Boy/girl relationship is not only for sex but for companionship.

Note: For the fact that u are dating a girl/guy doesn't make u a lord over her/him, it is only marriage that gives u the overall privilege over ur spouse..

Op is a sissy, stop acting like a woman, I bet your attitude piss her off.

You want to know everything, you want to also make decisions for her etc.
Guess you're just too predictable for her liken.

Go get a life bro.

Abeg help me ask ooo

overall90:
It's like am the only one that is confused about the whole story.
@op,please how does her asking for Rev David number ended up being you finding out that she is cheating with a guy after so much dragging?

masterfactor:
abeg which dstv station go show Nigeria match

Showsports TV, stream with your phone using Ntel sim #1k for 12gb and never miss any world Cup football match

redcliff:


lmao! ode. @op your case is a bit dicey. as i was reading i wanted to say you did wrong by inquiring alot but on reading further and discovering the kind of person she is(not the cheating part, the very vulnerable person, i think you did not do bad by wanting to know more and the sad part is that its with someone you suspect her with. its difficult to be with a woman who is very deceivable and dont have some mind of their own because the relationship would suffer. if she is willing to change, i mean really change, then maybe you both can talk about it and give it another shot but if something of this nature or similar or anything that revolves around the kind of person you dont like and cant tolerate her to be, i think its best you move on. this kind of person would crash your marriage by "mistake" without even knowing that she is.

u deserve some accolades ......

My guy, if a lady could just dish out things she needs especially by thawarted individuals, then she has background issues... imagine your future with such: your life's investment cld b whisked away.
as for d affair, relationships arent do or die. i tell my fiancee that she is very free if she wants to quit: no hard feelings

.

giftlygifted:
The more you get old, the more you realise that even your poor parents are trying.

GIVE THEM ACCOLADES NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.






This Generation tire me
Girl to Girl..
Girl 1: I have a boyfriend now!
Girl 2: Is he cute? Girl
3: Does he have money?...


Boy to Boy...
Boy 1: I got a new girlfriend now!!
Boy 2: She get yansh?
Boy 3: You don fxck her?...
I'm tired of this generation

God bless you ��

Welcome to my world! She went back to her ex who got her pregnant,she gave birth to twins and he got married the week the twins were born. For her mind she thought she was smart abi?

OP, I believe u guys share something unique, and both of u need to let go of whatever anger u feel presently, and work things out. Two wrongs can't make a right. Best wishes

@buske, the problem caused now is more than what was in place before. She purposely did not tell you about the guy because she believed you could take offence or overreact and guess what? You did not disappoint.

While technically she did not lie, she hid something from you but you should know everyone deserves a place of keeping things to themselves and trying to force them might not be the best and when after learning the info you now show forth anger like this, I bet you it would be like passing through the eye of a needle before you can be afforded that kind of trust.

Try to live free and without heaviness of heart or burdened by what your partner is doing or is not doing. You cannot know it all. You just need to tell your partner not to 'do anything that would jeopardize our relationship' and believe they would adhere to you. That is the risk of doing the relationship business ad in all businesses, there are no total guarantees. Try not no build on the heart pressure dear.

I just hope within this few days of your 'breakup', someone has not decided that 'since I have been accused of doing what I have not done, I might as well kuku do it' and dearie, it would be your fault should you decide to apportion blame so what you have to do, do quick. Lastly, emotions for other persons apart from our partners would always come as we go on together and so it is better to learn to build a working defense for such incidents.

Wishing you well - Teemy

youngest85:
Na Godwin

you guys won't kill someone with laugh on nairaland.......lolzzzzzz

dukeprince50:
are u talking about Brazil match? I think Brazil match is 1pm, Nigerian match is 6pm

6pm In Russia right or Pakistan
Well those of us in Nigeria will watch the match by 4pm today. Besides no match has been played at 6pm. It's been 1,4 and 7pm.